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Theophany posted:It's not.
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Theophany posted:It's not. OK but lets pretend you aren't broke you can get decent takeout for $7-$14 a night and not deal with cooking or cleanup and it will taste just as good as stuff you make at home if not better. It's a scale thing, I cook most nights of the week because take out for two is twice as expensive as take out for one and the marginal cost for cooking for two is like nothing once you have dealt with cooking and cleaning and shopping and all that. Like say I wanted a sandwich when I was single, sure I could buy a head of lettuce, an onion both of which are going to be thrown out before I finish them, then ham and cheese I have to buy enough for like a bunch of sandwiches just to make one, then the fancy mustard, etc, etc or I can just pay $9 for a sandwich and be done with it for like a couple of bucks more than making my own and none of the hassle.
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 23:02 |
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My husband is talking to younger girls.quote:This may be entirely the wrong sub but maybe hear me out and I can post it elsewhere I necessary.
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Patrick Spens posted:Stop talking about cooking you assholes. How do you touch someone inappropriately that you are in a serious relationship with? I thought by 8 months you pretty much had blanket sexual consent and generally don't need to ask permission for each individual action anymore.
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 23:07 |
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Patrick Spens posted:Stop talking about cooking you assholes.
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 23:09 |
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girl pants posted:fair enough, I guess I've contributed to enough useless derails in my time that I can't really complain. I read this whole story to see if she would say 'usually I make plans and wanted him to do it this time" or "I do xyz with him that he likes but knows i'm not into" but instead she just comes across as passive aggressive and unpleasant.
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La Brea Carpet posted:My husband is talking to younger girls. Call the cops, get his rear end sent to jail.
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Three Olives posted:How do you touch someone inappropriately that you are in a serious relationship with? I thought by 8 months you pretty much had blanket sexual consent and generally don't need to ask permission for each individual action anymore. Is this a serious question? I mean, I know you're you, but come on dude.
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Dr. S.O. Feelgood posted:Is this a serious question? I mean, I know you're you, but come on dude. are you expressing this in the context of the story or just racing wild hypotheticals in your head that are completely unrelated
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 23:21 |
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ArbitraryC posted:I read this whole story to see if she would say 'usually I make plans and wanted him to do it this time" or "I do xyz with him that he likes but knows i'm not into" but instead she just comes across as passive aggressive and unpleasant. I agree with you that she sounds like a raging bitch but it's like the second line of the post: quote:ETA: I normally plan pretty much everything, but dinner and a movie is something he is perfectly capable of planning and AGREED to plan himself.
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girl pants posted:I agree with you that she sounds like a raging bitch but it's like the second line of the post: Fair enough I probably just forgot about that by the time I got through all her complaints. tbh that makes her complaint sound more fair and it probably more boils down to a difference in how they wanna plan out dates. Like he makes more thorough plans with his friends because he doesn't see them all the time and they have more time constraints, whereas when he's hanging out with her dinner and a movie can be largely determined on the fly, but I can still understand how she'd be upset he fell through with datenight and took the first chance to just bail.
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 23:32 |
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Planning out a date every once in a while is like the minimum bar of showing your partner that you give enough of a poo poo about them to spend 5 minutes of your day contributing to your relationship. I'd be pissed too.
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 23:35 |
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Dr. S.O. Feelgood posted:Is this a serious question? I mean, I know you're you, but come on dude. I dunno, I knew my partner wanted to have sex on Saturday because I woke up with his hands down my pants, I didn't feel violated that he was molesting me while I was still half-asleep.
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 23:35 |
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My [27F] MIL [60F] walked in on my husband [32M] and I during a private moment, posted about it on Facebook.quote:I'm not sure where to begin so I'll start with relevant background about my MIL. She's a nice person and we get along well but she's very open about pretty much everything, while I'm more reserved and shy, especially when it comes to personal matters. She finds it funny to talk about things I would consider inappropriate in mixed company and often "reminds" people she has "no filter." It's never her intention to hurt or embarrass anyone but if someone objects to her language or the subject of conversation she will act like they're being too sensitive and continue on.
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 23:36 |
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I mean, I would say all of that depends on your relationship and the setting. I give zero fucks if my partner grabs my dick, in private, in public whatever, just don't do it in front of family; she's a bit more reserved, around home is fine, I can pinch her butte in public if I do it slyly, but otherwise it's "keep that poo poo at home".
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Haifisch posted:My [27F] MIL [60F] walked in on my husband [32M] and I during a private moment, posted about it on Facebook. I just had a horrible realization that this is exactly what my mom would do if she walked in on me and my girlfriend
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Andy Dufresne posted:Planning out a date every once in a while is like the minimum bar of showing your partner that you give enough of a poo poo about them to spend 5 minutes of your day contributing to your relationship. I'd be pissed too. I dunno if I'd wanna drag my SO on a date they clearly didn't want to go to tho, like maybe if they have different tastes in movies they could have done something other than that.
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Haifisch posted:My [27F] MIL [60F] walked in on my husband [32M] and I during a private moment, posted about it on Facebook. Oh no, people might figure out that they, a married couple, have sex!
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ArbitraryC posted:I dunno if I'd wanna drag my SO on a date they clearly didn't want to go to tho, like maybe if they have different tastes in movies they could have done something other than that. Sure, I can see the case where boyfriend wasn't into any of the movies she wanted to see. If that's the case though it's on him to come up with a substitute date idea and actually plan it. This story tickled my fancy because I see stuff like this as the ultimate cause of relationship death. Not enough to be a big deal in a single instance but over time it's like, why am I even dating this person.
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 23:42 |
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Haifisch posted:My [27F] MIL [60F] walked in on my husband [32M] and I during a private moment, posted about it on Facebook. I as expecting to see a weird rant about them being inappropriate but it mostly just seems like a harmless joke to me. It contains no details. "Oh no people will know I have sex".
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 23:42 |
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I would be extremely angry if my mom posted something like that on facebook. But my mom isn't great with posting appropriate things on facebook to start with, so every time I see her post something about me I start getting angry preemptively.
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Andy Dufresne posted:Sure, I can see the case where boyfriend wasn't into any of the movies she wanted to see. If that's the case though it's on him to come up with a substitute date idea and actually plan it. right but we do sorta see a one sided take, who knows if she's one of those walking talking stereotypes of everything the other person tries to plan she has a reason against and a movie she wanted to see but he didn't want to was the only thing she accepted. I dunno she just kinda comes across as generally unpleasant in the post but it could be because she's venting about a long running issue.
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girl pants posted:I would be extremely angry if my mom posted something like that on facebook. But my mom isn't great with posting appropriate things on facebook to start with, so every time I see her post something about me I start getting angry preemptively. yeah I mean my gf would be absolutely mortified if anyone posted something like that and while some of my friends/family might be more candid than that they should still respect her boundaries. It's kind of weird that the husband didn't seem aware of how distasteful his wife would find it.
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Haifisch posted:My [27F] MIL [60F] walked in on my husband [32M] and I during a private moment, posted about it on Facebook. I'm all about parents/in-laws/other family making fun of your sex life in hilariously embarrassing ways, but uh, that kind of poo poo is good and cool between family members or in their/your home, not on Facebook, which is extremely inappropriate. No one needs to see that in public. She has every reason to be pissed off about her private life showing up on public social media. I would be too. How does that crap?
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# ? Jan 15, 2018 23:48 |
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The gently caress is up with people whose parents just stroll in to their houses? Call/text to let people know you’re coming and then knock and wait. It’s someone else’s home for christ sake.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:I'm all about parents/in-laws/other family making fun of your sex life in hilariously embarrassing ways, but uh, that kind of poo poo is good and cool between family members or in their/your home, not on Facebook, which is extremely inappropriate. No one needs to see that in public. She has every reason to be pissed off about her private life showing up on public social media. I would be too. How does that crap? She didn't say "Oh, I walked in on my DIL deepthroating my son, she has great ball technique!", she implied that she walked in on them at an inopportune moment which may or may not have been sex. Which is a thing that almost all couples do and is pretty much assumed by everyone. The wife needs to get over it, no one is assuming they don't have sex.
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cowofwar posted:The gently caress is up with people whose parents just stroll in to their houses? Call/text to let people know you’re coming and then knock and wait. It’s someone else’s home for christ sake. this is a thing lovely parents do to make their children feel constantly on guard and unsafe!
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Harrow posted:I just had a horrible realization that this is exactly what my mom would do if she walked in on me and my girlfriend Be sure to lock and bolt the door next time you're getting frisky.
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ArbitraryC posted:I dunno if I'd wanna drag my SO on a date they clearly didn't want to go to tho, like maybe if they have different tastes in movies they could have done something other than that. You keep aggressively missing the point here, so I'm gonna use small words. She is not mad about the movie. She is mad because he is not putting work into their relationship.
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tactlessbastard posted:I hope that was something he chose for himself because that would be a hilariously irresponsible thing for a teacher to assign. I had a genetics class where heritability of blood types was a major point of study, as it's textbook simple and also includes an example of incomplete dominance (blood type AB). The prof admitted that it was always a worrying topic to cover because of the risk of someone realising that their dad couldn't be their dad.
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Patrick Spens posted:You keep aggressively missing the point here, so I'm gonna use small words. She is not mad about the movie. She is mad because he is not putting work into their relationship. Looks like you are aggressively missing basic english quote:but I can still understand how she'd be upset he fell through with datenight and took the first chance to just bail. I get what she's mad about and even explicitly outlined it, he put no effort in and bounced first chance he had. I'm just saying she comes across kind of insufferable too in her own post and we only have one side of the encounter.
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RoboRodent posted:I had a genetics class where heritability of blood types was a major point of study, as it's textbook simple and also includes an example of incomplete dominance (blood type AB). The prof admitted that it was always a worrying topic to cover because of the risk of someone realising that their dad couldn't be their dad. At the point where your old enough to be learning about that level of biology you'd think you sorta have a right to know.
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Haifisch posted:Holy poo poo, the "I just want to beat his rear end" page. That's a rabbit hole all right. All I'm going to say is, no forgiveness without repentance.
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Patrick Spens posted:Crazy roommate (21M) is making my (21F) life hell, can he legally kick me out if my name is on the lease? + a few other qs (NS, Canada) OP also posted:Thanks for your input, it's good to know I don't have to start looking for a new place yet. I am concerned about what happens when the 6 months of prepaid rent are up and I'm on the hook for the full monthly payment because there's no way I can afford it even if I'm working full-time. Since my roommate has repeatedly verbally agreed to "cover all of it" in relation to the rent shouldn't he pay the remainder of the lease too, or at least the cancellation fee for breaking the lease? OP also posted:This is all really good advice and thanks for taking the time to answer. I agree the alcohol is a problem and I've been trying to cut back but it's hard. Believe it or not things were alright before this, I had some lovely roommates, but I was working and in school. I don't know what it is about this living arrangement in particular that makes everything so much more difficult because on paper it should be a good opportunity at least. Instead I owe my ex thousands of dollars. I was talking to my mom and she told me to try to get him to pay off my car...
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Don't give your keys to people you don't trust not to just barge into your house without knocking.
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I missed that the roommate/ex-boyfriend is also unemployed and not in school. What the gently caress do these guys do all day? Aside from WoW, I mean. What is he going to do when the money runs out, which will probably be pretty soon if he keeps up his spending habits. I think these two should get back together, honestly. They sound like a really good match for each other.
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quote:I was talking to my mom and she told me to try to get him to pay off my car... I may have detected the root problem here.
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Baronjutter posted:Don't give your keys to people you don't trust not to just barge into your house without knocking. I told my dad that he had to start texting me before he was going to come over because it was disruptive to get surprise visits all the time. A few days later I heard the back door opening when he hadn't told me he was coming round and prepared to get really angry with him, only to find two complete strangers in my house preparing to rob me. After that, my dad realised his surprise visits had become not just disruptive but actually terrifying to me so silver lining I guess.
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Baronjutter posted:Don't give your keys to people you don't trust not to just barge into your house without knocking.
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Haifisch posted:The reddit comments are full of people going "in my family, it's totally normal to waltz into family member's houses without knocking or calling ahead", which a)doesn't help OP's issue, and b)sounds miserable if you value your privacy at all. every single post on relationships will have at least one redditor who will defend whatever manic craziness is in the post that one where the girlfriend wants to mutually inspect each others poop with their bf? i looked up the thread and not only are there are dozens of posts with people saying its totes normal to just casually walk in to brush your teeth while your partner is actively making GBS threads, there is a poster who describes how their relationship with their boyfriend began when they were both in a group chat dedicated to sharing pictures of your own poo poo, and discussing the various consistencies/difficulties expelling said poo poo reddit weird man
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