girl pants posted:

I GISed "wall words" because of this thread and oh my god I'm so angry

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submitted 10 months ago by handmadelemonade

Made a throwaway, since I don't like personal things on my account. I apologize if this is all over the place I am just very emotionally spent.

Dan and I have been together for 3 years. We've had a few bumps here and there, but overall a great relationship. We get along really well, always laugh/have fun, and I love him very much. I told him i loved him after 1 year together, he didn't say it back. Ouch..but whatever. A year passed, still nothing. We don't live together or anything like that. And whenever I ask him about moving in together he says "TBD."

It has sucked not hearing that he loves me, and generally feeling like he just isn't head over heels for me. I asked him yesterday, "Are you falling in love with me? Not are you in love with me, but is that the direction your feelings are going in."

The TLDR version of his answer is that his feelings are growing, but not even in the 'falling in love' realm yet. He says his feelings grow daily, but he's not in that realm. I was really bummed out by that answer. we don't talk about whether or not he loves me that much, maybe every few months I break down over it. Especially because it doesn't feel like our relationship is moving forward.

He asked me to sleepover on Friday, I didn't have contact lens case with me and for those of you who wear contacts. Sleeping in contacts is a bitch, I told him I would love too but tonight wasn't the best night. I asked him if going forward I could leave a lens case, a toothbrush, and a change of underwear for impromptu sleepovers. And he was welcome to do the same at my place. He basically told me no, because that is too much like moving in together.

I am feeling just sad and drained. I think it is pretty normal for most in a long term relationship to want their partner to be head over heels in love with them. I don't know what to do or where to go from here.

tl;dr: BF doesn't love me, relationship feels like it is an impasse.

Pick posted:

For me it’s the weird wine kitsch. It screams “I will be an alcoholic forever”

Pick posted:

For me it’s the weird wine kitsch. It screams “I will be an alcoholic forever”

Baronjutter posted:

I've seen a LOT of wine and cat related wall words to let everyone know you're a sad alcoholic cat lady. I don't know what's worse, the banal "live laugh love" sort or the "I can't function without coffee and wine and only have a cat for company lol!!" poo poo. It's like terrible bumper stickers, but on your walls.

Demon Of The Fall posted:

lol at not being allowed to keep even a toothbrush at a boyfriends place after three loving years together

girl pants posted:

I've [23F] with my boyfriend [24 M] for almost 10 years and his obsession worries me.


"My boyfriend keeps spending all his money on anime pedo figurines so I decided to fight back by starting my own collection of plastic crap"

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I (35 F) got divorced last year after nearly 11 years of marriage, started online dating, met what I thought was a great man (44 M). Looking back, I should have realized he was moving it along too quickly. In the first conversation we ever had, he swore he would never get married again, but was definitely looking for a long-term relationship (I was fine with that). We fell in love and spent every night together for a month or more.

Then he had to move out of state for work. We planned that I would move there to be with him in a few months. Within two weeks of making that plan, he MARRIED another woman! Pretty sure he had just met her. Bonus points for fun: she looks like me and has the same hobbies and skill set. Or do I look like her...?

He had me put him on my car insurance. I was so excited about our future together that I sent him a little bit of money to put down on our rental house. At that point he was already married to her. I found out about the marriage through Facebook. He didn't even tell me. Then he claimed he'd done nothing wrong.

So clearly the guy is delusional and a scumbag. How do I avoid this type of thing in the future? How do you tell the good ones from the bad ones? Obviously giving it more time. I'm just so new to dating that I guess I don't get it?

tl;dr: Got totally burned by a complete jerk. I loved him and he married someone behind my back. How do I not get fooled again in the future?

PetraCore posted:

Wine mom culture is hoarding hundreds of lovely wizard figurines in your too-big house and nothing can convince me otherwise.

Clark Nova posted:

The best part is when she told him to stop, and he did, then when he sulked and moped like a scolded puppy she told him to go back to it.

No, the best part is her saying she doesn’t trust him around kids and somehow still needing to ask if she should break up with him.

La Brea Carpet posted:

Speaking of wine moms:

Me [35 F] with my ex-boyfriend [44 M] of 3.5 months. He married someone and didn't end it with me
submitted an hour ago by youhadmeatmerlot7


You know she owns at least one "bottle sized" wine glass.

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I have known my SO for about 2 and a half years, but we only made it official early this year. I love him a lot, we have a lot of fun together, I never get tired of being with him. We make each other laugh and seem to be completely on the same level, except for on this particular issue.

He is currently living with his mom, dad and brother. The brother, Terrence lives in the upstairs part of the home, on his own as he recently split up from his girlfriend of 11 years, who just moved out. My SO, Charlie, lives in the ground level of the home with his parents, and has done pretty much his whole life.

Charlie and Terrence both own half of the house, and the parents own the other half. They recently have taken out massive loans in order to do so. The thing is, Charlie has asked if I want to move in to the home too, not just in order to help with his loan repayments but also because we had both discussed it before as something we wanted to do. Its probAbly not going to happen, it's just been talked about a lot the past couple of weeks. I'd be happy to live there, it is something I want to do. The only issue is I don't see him EVER moving out and he wants to basically live with his parents forever. We've talked about having kids in the future, and I stated that I absolutely would not want to be living with anyone but him if we do eventually try for kids. He agreed. But now he's backing out on that and trying to tell me how good it'll be to have other people (his parents) around to help and that is NOT something I want. I like to learn how to do things by myself and hate when other people take over because they know best. I love his parents, they are lovely people who have been very kind and welcoming. But Charlie keeps bringing the kids issue up with me, saying he'd renovate to make his space more private, but I just don't believe it.

I'm not even sure if I should stay in this relationship since this is a pretty big deal to me. I don't want to get stuck. I am originally from the US and he is Australian so I will have to move back to the U.S. if the relationship ends, I actually miss my home a lot and would love to move back there to be with my family, but he doesn't want to. I'm with him because I love him but this is making my head hurt. I had a friend from home who got 'stuck' because his wife divorced him, they had 2 kids, he's desperate to go home but can't leave because his kids live and grew up here. I don't want that to happen to me.

I have so many things I want to do, go back to college, get a degree, start a career, things I should have done earlier but was too busy travelling and procrastinating. He talks about kids like he wants them in the next few years but honestly I'm so not ready, also I don't want to have kids while I'm stuck in my very dead end job. I want to be able to provide and be a good mom. How can I tell him I'm not ready? He told me flat out earlier that he would break up with me right now if I said I didn't want kids. I do, maybe, it's just I have so much stuff I want to do first and I definitely want it to be just us living together if we do.

Tl:dr; SO wants me to have kids and live in his family home.

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[–]agjios 37 points 1 year ago
Hell no. Don't even consider it. Don't go pay his loan for him. Don't consider marriage. Stop having sex, don't get pregnant from him, and break it off. Let him morgan his parent's house to live with them, and go do it with someone that wants to. You have to go live your life, like you want.

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[–]iscrewsaladfingers[S] 1 point 1 year ago
Sorry for the late reply. Unfortunately I did end up getting pregnant and he made me get an abortion. I broke up with him not long after that. Thanks for your comment, I wish the last month had never happened.

girl pants posted:

My (24f) SO (28m) wants to live with his parents forever.

Pick posted:

What happens when you marry an en and a nabler? You get an ENABLER. #wisdom

Palpek posted:

I'll admit I found the Funko Pop of Laura Palmer's body in a plastic bag amusing.

La Brea Carpet posted:

boner confessor posted:

i went to a wedding like this a few months ago and it was horrible, easily the worst wedding i've ever been too

boner confessor posted:

i went to a wedding like this a few months ago and it was horrible, easily the worst wedding i've ever been too

boner confessor posted:

i went to a wedding like this a few months ago and it was horrible, easily the worst wedding i've ever been too

boner confessor posted:

i went to a wedding like this a few months ago and it was horrible, easily the worst wedding i've ever been to

Clark Nova posted:

Lol if you don’t think the vast majority of that poo poo is going straight to the landfill. My only exposure to funkopop (autocorrect: funk poop) are the people in this thread destroying their relationships over plastic garbage, and I have more respect for the disowned junkie than any of them. That motherfucker is getting high at least.

PetraCore posted:

Is a general 'geek fandom' wedding better or worse than a 50 Shades of Grey themed wedding? Does it get worse if it's specifically SuperWhoLock?

Barudak posted:

How many people had to be cut from the wedding party to get under the stages maximum weight capacity?

Barudak posted:

On the power rankings it goes destination>theme>pop culture theme>religion with less than 1,000 practioners>kink theme>polyamorous wedding

Barudak posted:

On the power rankings it goes destination>theme>pop culture theme>religion with less than 1,000 practioners>kink theme>polyamorous wedding

boner confessor posted:

it was a tiny wedding, the bride was my wife's friend from years ago and neither one of us had talked to the bride or groom since 2011 or so. i think we were a third string invite because they didn't have a deep bench for wedding guest attendees

it started at 8pm on a sunday night (???) and the bride told my wife later that this was because it was the absolute cheapest time slot to book the wedding. like, steep discounts

you could tell the on-site caterers etc. all wanted to go home, they had had a long day. we were sat next to the groom's elderly family, grandmas and great aunts and stuff, and they spent the whole time complaining about how they didn't understand the wedding's theme because it was just a big melange of vacant pop culture references with no unifying statement beyond "here's a bunch of entertainment stuff we liked"

the officiant roasted the groom slightly during the ceremony for finally getting off his rear end and proposing. he smiled, but in a way you could tell that it kind of cut him

it was just awful all around. i went to three weddings last year, and i've been to probably two dozen overall, and easily this was the worst and most painful. the food was good tho and the venue was nice

PetraCore posted:

Is a general 'geek fandom' wedding better or worse than a 50 Shades of Grey themed wedding? Does it get worse if it's specifically SuperWhoLock?

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I think an elvis wedding sounds really fun and even if I don't plan on having one myself, I'd think positively of a couple who planned on one. You don't plan an elvis wedding without feeling joy in your heart, and that's what's important, child torturers not withstanding.

girl pants posted:

If you guys want to see the worst loving weddings just head on down to offbeat bride. They've been on the fplus twice. I hate geeks so much.

edit: this one even has funkopop! http://offbeatbride.com/geek-adventure-wedding/