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La Brea Carpet
Nov 22, 2007

I have no mouth and I must post

girl pants posted:

My (29m) fiance of 2 years (30f) read a book and suddenly wants to be a "Surrendered Wife"


Lifehack: offload all the emotional labor of decision-making onto your spouse under the guise of being a good Christian wife or whatever!

Seriously though this one is weird enough that it makes me think she's having some kind of mental problems.

She's been in a crafting group with stealth Mormons and/or fundies and will soon become a sister wife. :sever:

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Meme Poker Party
Sep 1, 2006

by Azathoth
Uh obviously he should just say "as the man of the house I ORDER you to be a strong and independent person".


Problem solved!!!

Barudak
May 7, 2007

La Brea Carpet posted:

Remeber the Army failson who couldn't get his teeth fixed so he could go back to work?

Update I (24F) feel like my SO (25M) has been holding me back.

Just break up, its really easy. There are people who dump multiple people theyre dating at the same time in the same day

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

girl pants posted:

My (29m) fiance of 2 years (30f) read a book and suddenly wants to be a "Surrendered Wife"


Lifehack: offload all the emotional labor of decision-making onto your spouse under the guise of being a good Christian wife or whatever!

Seriously though this one is weird enough that it makes me think she's having some kind of mental problems.

just roll with it and ask her frequently what she thinks, feels, and what she wants to do until enough time has passed with nothing changing really that she forgets she "surrendered" or whatever

"yeah sure hon, i'll make all the decisions from now on. anyway, what do you want for dinner tonight?"

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Palpek posted:

I [26F] found lolicon (again) and hentai rape porn on my husband's [29M] phone.


Thanks Reddit.

"I'm worried about my husband's weird porn habits, are they alarming?"

Reddit: "Don't worry the modern porn industry is all about rape, underage and vulnerable women, and simulating horrific acts."

Vargatron
Apr 19, 2008

MRAZZLE DAZZLE


Look back in my day women didn't shave in porn and we liked it! Now if they don't shave it's a fetish!

:qq:What has man wrought???:qq:

girl pants
Sep 21, 2006
I feel a great disturbance in my pants

La Brea Carpet posted:

She's been in a crafting group with stealth Mormons and/or fundies and will soon become a sister wife. :sever:

The word "crafting" is a fairly strong indicator that I have nothing to talk about with somebody.

Vargatron
Apr 19, 2008

MRAZZLE DAZZLE


Are you making like swords and poo poo? If so that sounds like an awesome fundie group to be in.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

How is any group that subscribes to that book not full of guys going: As man of the house I order you to get an unfulfilling job while I dont work and sleep with a variety of women, accidentally knocking several of them up and once our finances become dire and on the brink of ruin you will kill youself so i can collect on your life insurance and wipe the debt clean.

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Vargatron posted:

Are you making like swords and poo poo? If so that sounds like an awesome fundie group to be in.

This Christian Fundamental Blacksmithing group is a lot more about making swords and knives than bible study.

girl pants
Sep 21, 2006
I feel a great disturbance in my pants

Barudak posted:

How is any group that subscribes to that book not full of guys going: As man of the house I order you to get an unfulfilling job while I dont work and sleep with a variety of women, accidentally knocking several of them up and once our finances become dire and on the brink of ruin you will kill youself so i can collect on your life insurance and wipe the debt clean.

Are you familiar with red pillers?

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Jul 20, 2017

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Barudak posted:

How is any group that subscribes to that book not full of guys going: As man of the house I order you to get an unfulfilling job while I dont work and sleep with a variety of women, accidentally knocking several of them up and once our finances become dire and on the brink of ruin you will kill youself so i can collect on your life insurance and wipe the debt clean.
They are.

La Brea Carpet
Nov 22, 2007

I have no mouth and I must post

Barudak posted:

How is any group that subscribes to that book not full of guys going: As man of the house I order you to get an unfulfilling job while I dont work and sleep with a variety of women, accidentally knocking several of them up and once our finances become dire and on the brink of ruin you will kill youself so i can collect on your life insurance and wipe the debt clean.

Uh have you not watched the sister wives show on TLC?

This is pretty much the plot synopsis minus the suicide, plus some catfishing.

Brother Entropy
Dec 27, 2009

Vargatron posted:

Are you making like swords and poo poo? If so that sounds like an awesome fundie group to be in.

sounds cool until the feds raid the compound and all you have to fight the black choppers off with is a claymore you can barely lift

PetraCore
Jul 20, 2017

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Barudak
May 7, 2007


And they say noone can afford to retire anymore in America

girl pants
Sep 21, 2006
I feel a great disturbance in my pants
Boyfriend of 1 year (24m) constantly makes fun of me (20f) for enjoying 'mainstream' movies, tv shows, fantasy books and collecting figurine and so on, I've started finding it hard to enjoy these things without feeling very immature and silly, advice?

quote:

u/badtastes1995

I've loved comic books and fantasy novels, movies, cartoons, anime since I was quite young. It started with Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter and Star Wars and having 2 brothers who collected lots of comics and toys really made me love those things too.

Over the years, we've all amassed our own collections of figures, books, dvds and so on and I have a room specifically dedicated to my 'geek love'. I've been dating my boyfriend for one year and from a few months in, he expressed disdain when I was freaking out over the new Avengers film last year and Jurassic World.

For a whole year, he's constantly been behind me every time I 'geek out' over something I love, when I buy a new comic he'd frown and tell me my money could be better spent on a more intellectual book. When I would buy a new collectible figure, he'd say I could spend that money on something much more worthwhile than a childish toy.

He watches Agents of Shield, Arrow and Flash with me and always has to drop a comment about how cheesy and silly it is. He doesn't even like the shows, he just watches it with me to let me know how much crap he thinks it is.

He literally got angry because I didn't enjoy and appreciate movies like Mad Max and The Danish Girl. I didn't enjoy the Revenant or The Hateful Eight anywhere as much as he did and while I did enjoy watching those movies, they didn't blow me away, the new Star Wars on the other hand I've seen 4 times and each time he's told me that I have lovely tastes and only like popular stuff and if it wasn't for my brothers I'd have better interests.

I didn't realize how much of a problem this was until recently I was at Target with one of my friends, helping her look for something and there was a bunch of Star Wars merchandise and I just didn't feel excited, I started feeling lovely and thought if I even pick one of those things up, he'd just make me feel like a silly child.

I don't know how I can describe it better than I've started feeling like an immature child every time I think about some of the comic book/scifi movies and collectibles I've always loved. The new Suicide Squad trailer is supposed to come out tomorrow and I just don't even feel excited. It's like his voice is in my head and I'm hearing it tell me I need to enjoy more mature things and stop looking at this 'kid crap.'

I don't know what to do, advice anyone?

tl;dr boyfriend makes me feel like crap for enjoying comic books, fantasy movies, collecting figurines and I just don't feel as passionate anymore about them

~*when a goon dates a redditor*~

La Brea Carpet
Nov 22, 2007

I have no mouth and I must post

girl pants posted:

Boyfriend of 1 year (24m) constantly makes fun of me (20f) for enjoying 'mainstream' movies, tv shows, fantasy books and collecting figurine and so on, I've started finding it hard to enjoy these things without feeling very immature and silly, advice?


~*when a goon dates a redditor*~

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tlwda9S58Lg

Jeffrey of YOSPOS
Dec 22, 2005

GET LOSE, YOU CAN'T COMPARE WITH MY POWERS

girl pants posted:

Boyfriend of 1 year (24m) constantly makes fun of me (20f) for enjoying 'mainstream' movies, tv shows, fantasy books and collecting figurine and so on, I've started finding it hard to enjoy these things without feeling very immature and silly, advice?


~*when a goon dates a redditor*~
this is kinda disappointing as far as a reaction from when life-consuming obsession meets life-consuming disdain

hawowanlawow
Jul 27, 2009

girl pants posted:

Boyfriend of 1 year (24m) constantly makes fun of me (20f) for enjoying 'mainstream' movies, tv shows, fantasy books and collecting figurine and so on, I've started finding it hard to enjoy these things without feeling very immature and silly, advice?


~*when a goon dates a redditor*~

good for her

Meme Poker Party
Sep 1, 2006

by Azathoth
Like the wrong popular brands? That's a breakup!

- Human beings, 2018

Barudak
May 7, 2007

His taste is terrible too. Like if he was all “lets get cozy on the couch and watch Come and See” maybe theyd have a point but he just likes slightly different mass market stuff. This is like tearing your lives apart over the artwork on your trapper keepers

wizardofloneliness
Dec 30, 2008

The Danish Girl was quite bad, so she’s totally right to think he’s rear end in a top hat for getting on her case about not liking it.

hawowanlawow
Jul 27, 2009

people saw the hateful eight? looked bad

and I don't know if I could call a movie as hosed up as come and see "good"

hawowanlawow fucked around with this message at 23:50 on Jan 19, 2018

tactlessbastard
Feb 4, 2001

Godspeed, post
Fun Shoe
She has lovely taste and he's a pretentious git

quote:

~*when a goon dates a redditor*~

Oh, you already covered it.

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

girl pants posted:

Boyfriend of 1 year (24m) constantly makes fun of me (20f) for enjoying 'mainstream' movies, tv shows, fantasy books and collecting figurine and so on, I've started finding it hard to enjoy these things without feeling very immature and silly, advice?


~*when a goon dates a redditor*~

Embrace your bf for snapping you out of seeing star wars 4 loving times, good god.

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

hawowanlawow posted:

people saw the hateful eight? looked bad

it was ok at best, it was all about tarantino's love of deep cut midcentury cinema

lol if someone holds up that film or really any tarantino as an example of high art tho (exception made for jackie brown, his best film)

Jeffrey of YOSPOS
Dec 22, 2005

GET LOSE, YOU CAN'T COMPARE WITH MY POWERS
I think after the 4th viewing of star wars then even, I dunno, true romance starts looking avant-garde.

flick my Mr. Bean
Nov 18, 2014

girl pants posted:



Best friend(M24) confessed to liking me two days before my(F24) wedding.

Today my best friend completely out of the blue sends me a message saying he’ll regret it for the rest of his life if he doesn’t tell me this


I love you. I love you so much I'm willing to ruin our friendship and one of the most exciting days of your life because I don't want to keep this to myself.

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender
Me [21F] with my parents [both 48 M/F] problem is about six months old. I took a semester off college to work a construction job. I absolutely love it. I have no plans on going back to school and my parents are livid.

quote:

Background: I've always been an honor roll student with plans on going to medical school. I graduated high school my junior year and went to community college, got strait A's and transferred and did really well in "normal" and my lowest grade was organic chemistry with a B. I was seriously starting to look into medical schools and prepping for MCATs when my dad's friend asked for my help to install a light fixture in my parent's living room. It was so much freaking fun and I learned so much from that experience.

He's a general contractor and basically said that if I wanted to work over the summer he would hire me. I think he thought I would just be like an office manager but I did everything I could to learn everything about the jobs we did. I learned how to mix and pour concrete, frame, electrical wiring and more digging than you can possibly imagine. I've absolutely loved every minute of it and when time came to go back to school, I just wasn't ready so I stayed on.

My parents are livid with me. They say basically that they saved up all this money for me to go to school and I'm throwing it away. My mom is the most furious because she thinks that I'm going to be subject to all sorts of harassment and cat calling. While actually the opposite is true, depending on the job, I'm surrounded by 10-30 guys who are as protective as older brothers. Hanging out with them, telling dirty jokes and listening to "guy gossip" is one of the things I enjoy the most about the job.

My dad is a little bit more rational and he would like me to just finish my last year of college and then seriously consider if this is the life I want to live. He thinks that since I'm in such a challenging undergrad, that taking all this time off is really going to hurt my continuation of skills. Almost daily, I get emails from him saying "if you go talk to Prof DXXXX," you can still get into anatomy."

I realize my parents are thinking they are looking out for me but I'm just so happy doing what I'm doing right now. How do I handle this?

tl;dr: I'm taking off school to work a construction job that I love. My parents are angry and want me to go back to school.
When people hear "the trades are a legitimate career path" without a "ps they will destroy your body and you'll probably need a degree anyway if you ever want to shift into management" attached.

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Haifisch posted:

Me [21F] with my parents [both 48 M/F] problem is about six months old. I took a semester off college to work a construction job. I absolutely love it. I have no plans on going back to school and my parents are livid.

When people hear "the trades are a legitimate career path" without a "ps they will destroy your body and you'll probably need a degree anyway if you ever want to shift into management" attached.

Get the degree and work construction anyway.

Also instead of construction go learn to weld.

DragQueenofAngmar
Dec 29, 2009

You shall not pass!
I'd rather be dead at 55 having been outside and moving around most of my life than live forever in a cubicle :shrug:

Farmer Crack-Ass
Jan 2, 2001

this is me posting irl

Haifisch posted:

Me [21F] with my parents [both 48 M/F] problem is about six months old. I took a semester off college to work a construction job. I absolutely love it. I have no plans on going back to school and my parents are livid.

When people hear "the trades are a legitimate career path" without a "ps they will destroy your body and you'll probably need a degree anyway if you ever want to shift into management" attached.

Yeah but if she's gonna do the pivot to management later on she's probably better off just hitting community college and then finishing her bachelor's at the local state college. I don't think a construction company's gonna give a poo poo where you got your degree from. Save that money and use it for other useful things.

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

I'd rather be dead at 55 having been outside and moving around most of my life than live forever in a cubicle :shrug:

you'll spend twenty years before you die laid up on the couch with crippling back pain and an opiate addiction first

there really aren't a lot of old construction workers. roofing is the second most dangerous job in america

Farmer Crack-rear end posted:

Yeah but if she's gonna do the pivot to management later on she's probably better off just hitting community college and then finishing her bachelor's at the local state college. I don't think a construction company's gonna give a poo poo where you got your degree from.

she should finish college, take a gap year being a construction drone, and then pivot into construction management as a masters or drop college entirely, become an electrician, and climb the ranks at IBEW

like it's good to find your passion in handiwork but leave the framing and drywalling to dudes who can't crush organic chemistry

boner confessor fucked around with this message at 00:14 on Jan 20, 2018

flick my Mr. Bean
Nov 18, 2014

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

I'd rather be dead at 55 having been outside and moving around most of my life than live forever in a cubicle :shrug:

I agree but you won't be dead at 55. You'll continue living somehow despite the constant blinding pain when you move or breathe or think.

Either way, she should finish school. She'll regret not graduating when she eventually hurts her knee or back and needs to go from being Earl Sinclair to being Bradley P. Richfield.

flick my Mr. Bean fucked around with this message at 00:24 on Jan 20, 2018

Cough Drop The Beat
Jan 22, 2012

by Lowtax

La Brea Carpet posted:

My husband sold a bunch of my beer


IS this really about the beer :thunk:

What kind of person hoards beer to the point of their cellar overflowing with it??? I buy local craft beer here and there and I love drinking it, but uh, I didn't know people existed who collected and stockpiled beer or something??? I guess maybe if they're obsessed with brewing beer then okay but they just buy it? I am so confused.

Cough Drop The Beat fucked around with this message at 00:28 on Jan 20, 2018

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

La Brea Carpet posted:

My husband sold a bunch of my beer


IS this really about the beer :thunk:

The only option left is to kill him and use his body to brew the ultimate craft beer: The Black Widow.

Antivehicular
Dec 30, 2011


I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

Brother Entropy posted:

there's like three other doctors who in the audience too, which seems like a little much even for this moronic context

Turns out it's a huge social faux pas to invite any of the Doctors Who to your wedding without inviting all of them, like inviting someone without their spouse

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

I'd rather be dead at 55 having been outside and moving around most of my life than live forever in a cubicle :shrug:
Some handy stories from the comments section:

quote:

Please listen to this person OP. My parents were labourers and had to stop working 50. Mum has arthritis her joints from all of the hard work and is on a lot of medications. We’re just lucky we live in a country with great healthcare.

I just wish that I could have gone back in time and told them not to do such a labour intensive job.

quote:

Worked construction in college and shortly after, but got my degree too. At one point I had a scary encounter on a job that involved application of a lot of wood preservative that made me temporarily lose feeling in my hands and decided I'd pursue other work (eventually leading to a career path I can sustain into my 70s-80s if I'm still around). I have close friends who chose not to continue school who are now in their 40s, 50s, 60s and they are progressively physically impaired: bad hips, backs, knees, blinding headaches, neurological damage, and arthritis all around. The ones that are good with people run their own crews, but the ones who have more "independent" temperaments work through their pains with the help of industrial quantities of over the shelf medications, alcohol, and illegal painkillers/mood enhancers. Construction work also is very economy dependent and folks around here had a very difficult time in 2007, 2008, 2009 finding good work. OP: Get that degree and keep learning. Who knows, maybe you'll figure out a respirator that people actually want to wear on job sites, make your fortune, buy your Honda jet, learn to fly it, then take your parents to the Cote d'Azure for short, weekend visits.

quote:

Yes, this is a great point. My boyfriend and I both work in a similar field. I'm less than five years in and I've already noticed the start of what will be physical problems down the road (things like sun damage, back pain, and injuries that never quite get a chance to heal all the way). My bf is only in his 30s and his body is pretty much wrecked. He's told me before he thinks he can only handle another five or ten years doing this, so he's looking at retirement or semi-retirement before he's 50. Most people in construction don't have that option, so you're looking at a lot of decades of physical pain and hard labor when you're well past your prime. It's easy to ignore that when you're in your teens or early twenties. It's a lot harder to ignore that when you're thirty or forty or fifty and wondering how you'll keep going.

I went to school and got my degrees. I love my job, but now that I'm a few years into it I'm glad I have a backup plan. All it would take is one fall, one clumsy lift, or one work site accident caused by me or someone else, and I'd be unable to do this job anymore.

If you wanna do hard manual labor, go for it, but don't be naive about how hard it fucks up your body.

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Farmer Crack-Ass
Jan 2, 2001

this is me posting irl
I re-read and okay yeah she's already close enough she should just get that last year done and have her bachelors'. Our society is fuckin' insane about wanting four year degrees for jobs that absolutely should not need one.

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