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Demon Of The Fall: May 1, 2004; Nap Ghost

if I was allergic to milk or meat or whatever, I'd prob kill myself

# ? Jan 22, 2018 20:27

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Meme Poker Party: Sep 1, 2006; by Azathoth

Demon Of The Fall posted:

if I was allergic to milk or meat or whatever, I'd prob kill myself

As child I was always fond of dairy products. Then seemingly all of sudden when I was growing up my body tried to develop lactose intolerance, but I would not permit it. I stubbornly refused to stop drinking milk or consuming dairy products. My digestive system fought back with frequent gastrointestinal disturbances for a period of two or three years, but I did not relent. It was not pleasant, but eventually it gave up and decided to resume production of whatever the hell it is our bodies need to process lactose. That was probably was 15 years ago or more, and I've not had any problem with dairy since.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 20:36

DACK FAYDEN: Feb 25, 2013; Bear Witness

Baronjutter posted:

Also we're not spending any extra money, I don't know how someone is spending 1,200 a month on groceries because they're celiac.

In fairness, she says that she also goes organic and free-range and all that, as long as she's going gluten-free anyway she might as well go big kind of a deal.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 20:42

VanSandman: Feb 16, 2011; SWAP.AVI EXCHANGER

Chomp8645 posted:

As child I was always fond of dairy products. Then seemingly all of sudden when I was growing up my body tried to develop lactose intolerance, but I would not permit it. I stubbornly refused to stop drinking milk or consuming dairy products. My digestive system fought back with frequent gastrointestinal disturbances for a period of two or three years, but I did not relent. It was not pleasant, but eventually it gave up and decided to resume production of whatever the hell it is our bodies need to process lactose. That was probably was 15 years ago or more, and I've not had any problem with dairy since.

One man�s fight against his own increasingly rancid farts: The Chomp8645 Story, tonight on Dateline.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 20:43

LadyPictureShow: Nov 18, 2005; Success!

Beachcomber posted:

I'm always confusing the two. I think it's because the fake one has "fibers", and Fibromyalgia is a fairly new disease, in terms of hearing about it.

I think I mix them up because my brain wants to correlate �fibers� and �fibro� (and the fact that a few of my extended family members that have always been prone to malingering have recently been claiming �fibromyalgia� as their self-diagnosis).

E: if people are still on GF chat, the only thing I think is a little weird is the consistency of gluten-free pizza crust. It�s almost like you�re eating pizza toppings on a weird cracker. And one time my dad came to visit, didn�t understand why I kept two partial bags of flour separate in my pantry and thought he was being helpful by combining the two :downs:

LadyPictureShow fucked around with this message at 20:51 on Jan 22, 2018

# ? Jan 22, 2018 20:44

Zulily Zoetrope: Jun 1, 2011; Muldoon

Baronjutter posted:

Unless you're celiac or just trying to lose weight going "gluten free" is 100% useless. Initially there was some research pointing towards gluten maybe causing IBS symptoms for some people, but the very doctor who did the study that launched the gluten-free craze ended up rescinding his theory after he did some more in depth studies that showed eliminating gluten had no effect on non-celiacs with IBS. What he did find though is that gluten is simply one of many sources of short chain carbs that some people's guts have problems dealing with, which resulted in the FODMAP diet, which is now an actually tested and effective way of helping some people with digestive problems. The idea is to follow the diet strictly for a month or so and then slowly reintroduce things and see how you feel.

It's really helped me and hasn't been at all a problem to follow (and I lost about 40 pounds). My main things are gluten, garlic, onion, and dairy (but seem ok with harder cheeses and baking that has dairy in it). I tried some good properly made sourdough breads but that didn't work out either. There's so much decent gluten-free poo poo these days it's really not a problem. Also we're not spending any extra money, I don't know how someone is spending 1,200 a month on groceries because they're celiac. I've got a couple legit celiac friends and very little about their lives have changed, but I guess it depends on where you live. I've found avoiding garlic and onion a lot harder than gluten, and even then I need to eat really garlicy poo poo straight for a few days for it to gently caress me up.

But there's plenty of reasons to avoid gluten even if you aren't celiac. Maybe they're doing a FODMAP thing, maybe they're just trying to lose weight by cutting it out, maybe a doctor told them they're borderline and to try eliminating it for a month and see how they feel.

Are you taking any supplements? I've been down the exact same FODMAP road that you're describing and ended up avoiding garlic and onion, and cutting out dairy and gluten when I was cooking for myself. Then a friend introduced me to her fiber supplement and blew the whole thing wide open. Now I take a shot of psyllium husks every morning, and I can eat horrible onion-only meals without getting the dire shits. It's worth a shot if you haven't tried it.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 20:50

Ocean Book: Sep 27, 2010; - hi

If your having bad poop and your first step isn't to eat more fiber you are an idiot. I'm glad you finally got there but cmon man.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 20:55

Ham Sandwiches: Jul 7, 2000

Ok it's not strictly a relationships post, but it's on reddit and the person is asking for advice like some of the other crossovers, so here you go

I need more opinions. I started a company and made an ad. My friend whos made a successful company for a completely different industry says its garbage. Lmk what you think.

And here's the ad

https://i.redd.it/i82oqn81xmb01.jpg

I was lolling pretty hard hope you enjoy it as much as I did

# ? Jan 22, 2018 20:59

Kuros: Sep 13, 2010; Oh look, the consequences of my prior actions are finally catching up to me.

It came from /r/Legaladvice. Guess the ages!

Ex boyfriend(23) threatening to leak my(14f) nudes again.

quote:

When I was 14 I was dating a 21 year old man online. We broke up and he made an account on a chatting website pretending to be me. He gave out my skype, kik and several of gaming accounts, he also linked people to a gallery featuring the pictures I sent him. I told my parents and they went to the police, they were able to remove my pictures from imgur, and after a day or so my ex just dissappeared and that was the last I've heard of him for two years. Today he messaged me saying if I don't send him more nude pictures he'll leak them again, and post them to every social media site. I don't know how he found me again. I don't think he knows my real name, and he doesn't know my adress or my families names. As of right now I don't know if he's posted my pictures again. What do I do? I have his name and address, but the police didn't really do anything last time. Please help me, I made a terrible mistake sending those pictures and it keeps coming back to haunt me . I'm from washington and he's from Connecticut.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 20:59

LadyPictureShow: Nov 18, 2005; Success!

Ham Sandwiches posted:

Ok it's not strictly a relationships post, but it's on reddit and the person is asking for advice like some of the other crossovers, so here you go

I need more opinions. I started a company and made an ad. My friend whos made a successful company for a completely different industry says its garbage. Lmk what you think.

And here's the ad

https://i.redd.it/i82oqn81xmb01.jpg

I was lolling pretty hard hope you enjoy it as much as I did

Listen to your friend.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:01

Paul Zuvella: Dec 7, 2011

Kuros posted:

It came from /r/Legaladvice. Guess the ages!

Ex boyfriend(23) threatening to leak my(14f) nudes again.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:03

Zulily Zoetrope: Jun 1, 2011; Muldoon

I mean, that was the first step I took, but it didn't really work until I started taking straight supplements. It's entirely possible that I'm just a lovely nutrinalist, but as far as I'm concerned, fiber supplements are a magic IBS cure.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:05

Anony Mouse: Jan 30, 2005; A name means nothing on the battlefield. After a week, no one has a name.; Lipstick Apathy

My [22F] boyfriend [23M] hates my clothes.

quote:

Together for 3 years. So when I first met my boyfriend, I wasn't really into fashion and I generally just wore jeans, T-shirts, sweaters (not that they looked bad, but they weren't really "me.") I started reading the FFA sub (used throwaway bc he knows my real username) several years ago and got way more into fashion.

Now this means that physically, I look really different than I did when I met my bf. My hair used to natural and collarbone length, now it's very short (pixie I guess)? My body doesn't look any different but I definitely dress it differently. I like to wear colorful bow-ties with suspenders (I call it "Six Flag Old Man style" haha) and I also have a fuzzy bucket hat that I sometimes pair with it. Generally if something is deliberately "unflattering" and stands out, I want to wear it. I know it looks weird, that's the point, but it's me and it's what I feel good in. My style is basically over-the-top colorful little old British man haha...i wear lots boxy menswear in vibrant colors with deliberately weird hats and accessories and Dad sneakers.

Anyway, my bf doesn't say anything about my clothes unless I ask him, but recently when we were going on a date night I wore this outfit that was like a vintage 90s print vest, bright trousers, and button down shirt with Dad sneakers (I posted a pic on another sub where I asked this question but I can't link here). I asked him what he thought of the outfit. And he said "Honestly, I'm not really a fan of it."

Now, I know I asked him, but if he loves me, how can he "not be a fan" of something that makes me happy? I probed a little deeper and asked him how he felt about my other clothes and he admitted that he loved me regardless of how I dressed/looked, but he preferred my hair longer and preferred my old way of dressing.

Obviously we didn't go to dinner that night. He still wanted to, but I just wanted to sit in bed. I didn't even want to look at him.

Now obviously he's allowed to have preferences- but I'm not a stranger, I'm his girlfriend. It feels borderline controlling to tell me he's "not a fan" of my style. Because what am I supposed to do? I'm obviously going to keep dressing this way so I have to think about in the back of my mind that he doesn't like it. awesome.

I don't even want to look at him now. He should have just told me he liked it. And more than that, he should have actually liked it because if he likes me, he should like anything that makes me happy.

I told my mom about the situation and she says that she agrees with him, she also isn't a fan of my style, that I can still dress this way if I want but that I can't expect everyone to like it. And that's fine, my mom doesn't have to like it. But a SO should definitely like it, or at least pretend to.

Am I overreacting?

TLDR: Boyfriend being controlling about my clothes, not sure if I am overreacting

aaaaAAHHHHHH

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:05

Rubellavator: Aug 16, 2007

It's not the worst idea but loving hire an ad agency so at least your business contact info isn't in fine print

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:07

new phone who dis: May 24, 2007; by VideoGames; Morbid Hound

When you dress like a clown, be careful the soul of the clown does not overcome you.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:08

small ghost: Jan 30, 2013

Anony Mouse posted:

My [22F] boyfriend [23M] hates my clothes.

aaaaAAHHHHHH

Ahahah I was all prepared for him to be some douchy controlling guy who didn't like that his gf was dressing more attractively or w/e but this is so much better.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:09

blarzgh: Apr 14, 2009; SNITCHIN' RANDY; Grimey Drawer

Anony Mouse posted:

My [22F] boyfriend [23M] hates my clothes.

It feels borderline controlling to tell me he's "not a fan" of my style.

This is where it was always headed.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:10

Haifisch: Nov 13, 2010; Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!; Taco Defender

My (29F) brother (32M) prefers his computer life over his wife and children.

quote:

My siblings and I have finally come to the end of our ropes.

TLDR: Throwaway account. My brother (32M) ignores his wife (32F) and Children (2M & 5month F) to the detriment of his marriage, relationships with his kids and their financials. He spends all his time streaming on twitch.

Long Version:

My older brother (32M), lets call him K, has always been a bit neglectful and selfish. Ignoring the world around him and the consequences of his actions, in favor of his various hobbies - warhammer, warmachine, twitch, w/e collectible takes his fancy.

His wife B (32F) was his high school sweetheart and they have been together for 15 years approximately. They have two kids, a two year old and a 5 month old. I am his younger sister (29F) and we have a younger brother (25M). My spouse (35M) and my younger brothers spouse (25F) all get along.

For a long time my husband and I have been noticing K's increasing disinterest in his family, which can at times become quite nasty as he does not like being made to feel guilty. K regularly and knowingly continues to put his family in great debt (they have to live with my parents). B tries her best to keep the bills paid, but with K lying to her, or manipulating conversations, he keeps them pretty steady in debt.

K has a part time job at a medical facility, he refuses to go full time or switch jobs. He hates his job, calls in sick when he is not (to play computer), and will not apply elsewhere. He was supposed to be supporting his family. B has had to go back to work in order to keep a steady income coming in. K is now using paternity leave (we're in Canada) to take care of the new baby and his young son. Which he barely does, should my mom or I be at their house (I have 3 kids) he will tell us he is going to stream and tell us to watch his kids. B is terrified that after his paternity leave lets up, he will refuse to go back to work.

Over the past two months K has opted to stream instead of: partaking in christmas, his birthday, his anniversary or any other family activity. The only time he will make an appearance is if my husband is there and B puts her foot down (which will result in his being an rear end to her for weeks).

My younger brothers wife has had enough. We are both looking for advice as to how to approach K in a manner that won't result in his walking away, or being nasty to his wife.

B is miserable, divorce is not an option. As a family we have to do something, we love our brother, but what he has become is unacceptable. We all believe he is depressed, which he refuses to receive treatment for.

How do I help my brother and get through to him?

*UPDATE* My (29F) brother (32M) prefers his computer life over his wife and children

quote:

TL;DR My brother now has an online girlfriend. B is helping his court her - sure looks like cheating to me.

Thanks for all of your comments. While I don't agree that the whole answer is simply to divorce, I appreciate the time everyone took to comment.

The gist of the comments received was the K isn't going to change and I should get B to go to counselling to help her with her self-esteem and give her some outside input.

Of course, now K is having an online "role playing relationship" with some lady on Grand Theft Auto RP. B is helping him court her. She is presenting it as she is okay with this.

Listen, I've known B since high school, I've known her longer then my brother. I do not believe that she is okay with this. This seems terribly hurtful and damaging and I believe she's only helping because she is so desperate for some attention from him.

I am flabbergasted. This seems like cheating.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:11

Demon Of The Fall: May 1, 2004; Nap Ghost

Anony Mouse posted:

My [22F] boyfriend [23M] hates my clothes.

aaaaAAHHHHHH

lol. waaaaaah my bf is upset I dress as a literal clown to go out to romantic dinners together

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:12

Palpek: Dec 27, 2008; Do you feel it, Zach?
My coffee warned me about it.

Anony Mouse posted:

My [22F] boyfriend [23M] hates my clothes.

aaaaAAHHHHHH

I too found a fashion forum and took away from it that I can throw whatever on my body, the more unflattering the better.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:13

datajugend: Jan 15, 2010; Cat Army

Kuros posted:

It came from /r/Legaladvice. Guess the ages!

Ex boyfriend(23) threatening to leak my(14f) nudes again.

i hope people are telling her that the nudes he has of her are child porn and to alert the police about said child porn

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:14

girl pants: Sep 21, 2006; I feel a great disturbance in my pants

Anony Mouse posted:

My [22F] boyfriend [23M] hates my clothes.

aaaaAAHHHHHH

stop loving dressing like that.

i mean yeah it's your body, do what you want, but seriously: stop loving dressing like that.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:14

new phone who dis: May 24, 2007; by VideoGames; Morbid Hound

"How did you guys meet?"

"An extramarital affair on a Grand Theft Auto RP server."

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:15

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

way more into fashion

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:16

new phone who dis: May 24, 2007; by VideoGames; Morbid Hound

That's like telling people you're a foodie and then eating garbage out of the dumpster.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:16

Sotar: Dec 1, 2009

new phone who dis posted:

That's like telling people you're a foodie and then eating garbage out of the dumpster.

What if it was the dumpster behind a fancy restaurant?

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:18

girl pants: Sep 21, 2006; I feel a great disturbance in my pants

Anony Mouse posted:

My [22F] boyfriend [23M] hates my clothes.

aaaaAAHHHHHH

STOP

DRESSING

LIKE

THAT

edit: the comments are :discourse:

quote:

[�]myclothesmybody [score hidden] 1 hour ago
He'll "love" me anyway but the point remains that he still has an opinion about my clothes and it's a negative one...isn't that the SLIGHTEST bit misogynistic/controlling? And to bring up my hair too when he knows I find shorter hair empowering.

quote:

[�]myclothesmybody [score hidden] 1 hour ago
I was hoping (and this wasn't why I started dressing that way) that his preferred aesthetic would change along with society. "Unflattering" clothes are definitely a popular choice right now for young women tired of having our bodies patrolled by the patriarchy (sorry to use the P word, but, oh well.) He always seemed progressive to me. I thought he would find this style sexy- not that his opinions were even on my mind when I chose to dress this way- but he should find ANYTHING that makes me happy/confident to be sexy. Sexy is not about how you look, it's about how you feel. I'm disappointed he apparently doesn't feel that way.

quote:

[�]myclothesmybody [score hidden] 1 hour ago
The fact that you take his preferences into account alone means I feel really sorry for you. I Hope you get therapy. Dress for you. He should matter 0%.

"feminism is so important to me that I had a total meltdown when my boyfriend didn't like my clothes!"

girl pants fucked around with this message at 21:26 on Jan 22, 2018

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:20

tactlessbastard: Feb 4, 2001; Godspeed, post; Fun Shoe

girl pants posted:

STOP

DRESSING

LIKE

THAT

Dress like that if you must but it ain't abuse if people say you look like a maroon

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:22

MLKQUOTEMACHINE: Oct 22, 2012; Some motherfuckers are always trying to ice-skate uphill

Are the comments calling them out.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:24

Ham Sandwiches: Jul 7, 2000

My favorite is that he's controlling because he doesn't like it, and since he's her BF / SO then he has to like stuff she does simply because they're dating and it makes her happy

quote:

Now obviously he's allowed to have preferences- but I'm not a stranger, I'm his girlfriend. It feels borderline controlling to tell me he's "not a fan" of my style. Because what am I supposed to do? I'm obviously going to keep dressing this way so I have to think about in the back of my mind that he doesn't like it. awesome.

From the comments:

quote:

Reddit: Why does he HAVE to like it? That seems very selfish of you, he didn�t even express that he didn�t like it until you asked.

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OP: He should like anything that makes me happy and causes no harm to anyone. Even if it's not his aesthetic. Maybe I shouldn't have asked, but I only asked because he kept staring at my outfit with this odd face like he wanted me to ask. I thought maybe I had a stain or something.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:26

girl pants: Sep 21, 2006; I feel a great disturbance in my pants

Martha Stewart Undying posted:

Are the comments calling them out.

buddy the comments are so good

at one point she tells one of the commenters to get therapy

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:27

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

Martha Stewart Undying posted:

Are the comments calling them out.

it's a giant shitshow, basically every single person is attacking them, but the OP keeps doubling down, calling her boyfriend sexist, saying he should have learned to like her clothes, saying that she feels sorry for a commenter who cares about her own boyfriend's opinion, etc. She said she had a degree in gender studies but it might have been a joke?

I don't like to call things fake, but the comments really feel like it's a troll. It's just so over-the-top and infuriating that it feels like someone angry about the women's march playing a joke.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:27

girl pants: Sep 21, 2006; I feel a great disturbance in my pants

Smirking_Serpent posted:

it's a giant shitshow, basically every single person is attacking them, but the OP keeps doubling down, calling her boyfriend sexist, saying he should have learned to like her clothes, saying that she feels sorry for a commenter who cares about her own boyfriend's opinion, etc. She said she had a degree in gender studies but it might have been a joke?

I don't like to call things fake, but the comments really feel like it's a troll. It's just so over-the-top and infuriating that it feels like someone angry about the women's march playing a joke.

I dunno, to me her comments read exactly like they were written by someone who has done nothing but read leftbook for months:

quote:

[�]myclothesmybody [score hidden] 1 hour ago
He doesn't have to like EVERYTHING I like...but can he not see how HIGHLY political fashion is to women and how any comment on our bodies/presentaiton is HIGHLY charged and coded??

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:29

Clark Nova: Jul 18, 2004

Boyfriend should tell her that she is obliged to like that he doesn�t like her fashion sense, and for her to feel otherwise is being controlling :smug:

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:29

new phone who dis: May 24, 2007; by VideoGames; Morbid Hound

I'm not sure how many anti-women's march people there are who have such a robust grasp on fashion, though.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:29

Ham Sandwiches: Jul 7, 2000

Smirking_Serpent posted:

I don't like to call things fake, but the comments really feel like it's a troll. It's just so over-the-top and infuriating that it feels like someone angry about the women's march playing a joke.

By definition people that act that way are clueless that it's a problem and act surprised / confused when confronted. Like, when called out for racism a while back on these very forums, the #1 go to was to accuse the other person of being the real racist.

I don't understand why people find it hard to believe that yes, people that act super goofy and believe they are justified in acting that way do in fact see it completely differently and have built up justifications / reasons why it's ok, so when confronted tend to get defensive and explain themselves, and it's not all elaborate roleplay / strawmen to make some fictitious side look bad

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:31

DragQueenofAngmar: Dec 29, 2009; You shall not pass!

the comments are pretty funny

quote:

He said "he loved me regardless of how I dressed/looked" - what else do you want from him?

Just dress the way you want and stop worrying about what he says. He basically said you can do whatever you want with your looks and he'll love you anyway.

Stop getting mad at the guy for a super petty reason.

quote:

He'll "love" me anyway but the point remains that he still has an opinion about my clothes and it's a negative one...isn't that the SLIGHTEST bit misogynistic/controlling? And to bring up my hair too when he knows I find shorter hair empowering.

quote:

It would be controlling of him if he told you you needed to change your style. He didn't even mention it until you asked for his honest opinion.

It's up to you now how you want to deal with it. There are certain clothes in my wardrobe that my boyfriend doesn't like. Instead of getting pissed about it, I take his preference into account and don't wear them on our fancy date nights. He's entitled to his preferences, just as you're entitled to yours. Discuss it with him and find a way to compromise.

quote:

The fact that you take his preferences into account alone means I feel really sorry for you. I Hope you get therapy. Dress for you. He should matter 0%.

quote:

Why does he HAVE to like it? That seems very selfish of you, he didn�t even express that he didn�t like it until you asked.

quote:

He should like anything that makes me happy and causes no harm to anyone. Even if it's not his aesthetic. Maybe I shouldn't have asked, but I only asked because he kept staring at my outfit with this odd face like he wanted me to ask. I thought maybe I had a stain or something.

its a troll tho yall

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:32

Rubellavator: Aug 16, 2007

Need someone to find that picture she posted of her outfit. If she is a troll she's committed.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:34

zakharov: Nov 30, 2002; Tater Love

It's very, very important to you that he like your clothes.

He doesn't like your clothes.

Solution: definitely don't break up.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:35

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# ? May 25, 2024 02:33

Meme Emulator: Oct 4, 2000

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

its a troll tho yall

Le Reddit Thread is too stressful and annoying when you try to determine if anything is a troll or not. Just believe its all true.

# ? Jan 22, 2018 21:38

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