- Streak
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I think the part where she learns she can't be a paranoid jerk and blame it on BPD will be in 4 or 5 years
If my experience with a BPD girlfriend taught me anything it's that they will never ever not use it as an excuse for paranoid and lovely behavior.
Bitter? Me? Yeah you're god drat right I'm bitter.
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boyfriend[26] loves anal, I [F/26] hate it, learn to love it or outsource?
/r/relationships: hate it, learn to love it, or outsource?
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Jan 25, 2018 00:59
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- Haifisch
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Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!
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I [41 M] found out my daughter [18 F] draws cartoon erotica online for money. She wants to make a career of it. I am very very uncomfortable with it.
quote:It's worth mentioning before I start that I'm the only real adult figure my daughter has. She has never met her mother and she had no living grandparents, so I'm the only person there for her in this regard. She had no brothers or sisters, cousins, or aunts/uncles. It's just the two of us.
My daughter is an excellent artist. I've always appreciated the fact that she's had a positive outlet her entire life and something to be so passionate about from a young age-- I think she's drawn at least three hours a day since she was eight. It's all she ever talks about, and her eyes just light up when she talks about it, even now. I've always tried to be supportive as possible, art camps, always being willing to look at what she draws, drawing with her when she was still small enough that I wasn't embarrassed of the scribbles I was making next to hers, that type of thing. I'd long been expecting the "Dad, I want to go to art school" talk, and I had long made it clear that I was open to fund an endeavor to that effect as long as she was realistic about it and continued to put the effort she always had with it.
My daughter has an account on Tumblr and a few other art sites, and I am subscribed to it (she's well aware of this), and I regularly see her art. She draws a wide variety of stuff, from very stylized pictures of popular cartoons and anime to realistic life portraits of historical figures, among other stuff. She has amassed a more than respectable following, especially in the last several years, and I'm proud of how much she's accomplished. There's constant improvement and she's never really wavered while doing stuff, all while maintaining excellent grades and test scores.
MY problem is with the title, though. I'd spoken to her about college all through summer and fall, expressing that I was willing to cover the cost of any public university or help considerably with a private college. She told me she was going to apply to a bunch of ones that appealed to her (both public/private), and then base her decision on what accepted her. She sent over twelve applications, and with her portfolio was accepted I think to all but three or four so far (which haven't been rejected, but just haven't come in yet), including the three (two public, one private) that she had been especially excited about. We celebrated, and she told me she needed time to think about it and wait for the rest to come in. We made a hard deadline for late next month as a point to choose where she'll go, but this weekend she came to me wanting to confess something. I sat on the couch, and she comes in with her laptop, rolls of cash, and a printed bank account statement and I'm initially laughing. My daughter and I have a habit of pranking each other very often and I assume that that is what this is, although I quickly get the feeling that isn't what this is.
She shows me an alternate tumblr she made that is littered with inappropriate fetish type pictures, all in her style. None of it that I saw looked illegal, but it's all very weird stuff, very sexualized. Like men turning into women, women turning into dragons... etc. Not the weirdest stuff there. Lots of sexual stuff with popular characters as well. I notice that has more views and watches than her regular one. She explains to me how she has been doing this in addition to her regular art, and how she has made over 19000 dollars in the last two years by just doing this in her spare time through expensive private commissions and a Patreon. She is really embarrassed the entire time, but explains that she wants to try and take a year to see if she can make this into a viable career path for her, as she has become more apprehensive about getting into art school. She says she'd be able to make way more money with it if she could put all her time into it with school now done and working this on her normal art. I just sort of sit there in silence, only really opening my mouth to explain that I'm not mad or ashamed, just confused and very surprised, also sometimes asking if she's kidding in a polite way. That conversation ended awkwardly, and I felt terrible not being able to give her a firm answer on how I felt about all of it. I just told her I needed some time to take it in.
I am honestly at a complete loss. On one hand:
* I am super uncomfortable about the idea that she's been doing this since she was 15 or 16, although I can't do much about it now. I'm a super sex-positive person and all that, but this is a much different thing, or at least it feels like it.
* My biggest concern is that I don't think this is a good career idea. Is it something someone can really rely on? There seems to be no security, (in fairness I acknowledge that's all of art, but this seems different), and more than anything, it seems like something that it wouldn't take long of doing as a career to get sick of. And then where would she be?
However, at the same time, this is sending me flashbacks from when I tried convincing my old conservative parents (who had me much much older than when I had my daughter, and who were very old fashioned and didn't understand technology) that I wanted to go into computers. They didn't approve at all, and it hurt me so much to see the way they always trash-talked and belittled my career, even after it proved itself more than financially (and personally) satisfying. I don't want to repeat the same mistake, but at the same time, I don't want her to make a mistake, either. But she made NINETEEN THOUSAND DOLLARS! At 18, in two years! If that's what she can do in her spare time, after school + relaxing + non-work art stuff, of which she does a lot, that's really amazing! I can definitely see her logic how she could stretch 9k a year into a livable income if she did it full time, but at the same time, I have trouble seeing it. I would support her and love her no matter what she goes with (unlike my parents), but I want to give her the right advice if I can.
The entire thing is one of the most difficult conundrums I've faced as a parent. If anyone has any experience with this sort of thing, I'd appreciate it.
tl;dr: My daughter revealed to me she draws cartoon erotica for money on the Internet for money. She told me she is seriously thinking about not going to college or postponing it to try and make a career out of this. I'm concerned and kinda icked out, but not educated enough to really make a good decision on whether I think I should discourage this or not. Please help this dumbass, jeez.
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- Anne Whateley
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quote:realistic life portraits of historical figures
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Jan 25, 2018 01:45
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- The Lone Badger
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If the kid walks up to her in front of everyone and gives her valentine's flowers then he will have instantly out-badassed every one of his classmates.
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I [41 M] found out my daughter [18 F] draws cartoon erotica online for money. She wants to make a career of it. I am very very uncomfortable with it.
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Jan 25, 2018 01:57
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- Bonster
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That kid being groomed by an older woman?
quote:I [18m] broke up with my girlfriend [23f] of 2 years today, but she threatened to ruin my life if I don't stay with her and claims to be pregnant with my child.Breakups
submitted 4 hours ago * by throwawayghana
I'm located in Canada.
Hi Reddit. I asked for help about my girlfriend yesterday and I received a lot of advice. You guys gave me the courage to do the right thing which was to break up with her because of her predatory and manipulative behaviour. But it didn't end the way I expected; I'm sitting in my room crying and contemplating if my only option is to stay with my girlfriend.
Shortly after making that post, my GF saw it and said she wanted to have a serious discussion about our relationship. She came over to my dorm and we talked. She asked me why I made my post, and I said I wanted different opinions on what she did to me.
My girlfriend was mad, she told me we were perfect for each other, that the people on Reddit couldn't and would never understand our unique relationship, and how I left out crucial details. I broke up with her. I told her we couldn't be together because of what she did to me at the beginning of our relationship, and that my trust was forever shattered.
Immediately she started crying and pleading with me to stay with her, she said that she needed me in her life. She started apologizing for what she did and promised that it stopped after the first month. I almost gave into her begging but I held my ground. Once my girlfriend realized I wasn't changing my decision she started getting aggressive.
My girlfriend threatened to ruin my life, get me kicked out of my university, fired from work, and destroy my reputation with my friends and family if I didn't stay with her. She had a list typed up with all my insecurities and secrets that I've never told anyone except her. She showed me the video I sent to her 2 weeks ago of me masturbating, and implied that she would send all of these things to my boss, professor and everyone else I knew.
She asked me to visualize what my life would be like if everyone I knew was disgusted by me, or that my boss and professor knew how I jerked off. I cried when I heard all of this. I didn't know how to respond. My girlfriend came over, gave me a kiss, and said:
“If you stay with me I promise none of this will happen to you.”
At this point I felt powerless against her. It was like I had no control over anything and I was an observer looking into the conversation my girlfriend was having with me. I still told her that I didn't want to stay with her.
She told me she was pregnant with my child. I didn't believe her and called her out on it. Then she reminded me of the time she wanted me to cum inside her 6 weeks ago. I wasn't wearing a condom, and I thought she was taking the pill, but she revealed to me that she wasn't.
This is such a hosed up situation and I just want to stay in my room and forget about my life. My girlfriend is giving me 3 days to come up with an answer and if it's not the one she wants she’ll ruin my life.
I don't have a single clue how to handle this, what am I supposed to do here? I don't want people to see that video of me jerking off or know about my deepest secrets. I'm scared to death that she's not lying when she said she was pregnant. I don't want to raise a child and I can't afford to. It was loving stupid of me to have unprotected sex AND cum inside of her, but I wanted to make her happy so I followed through with her request.
Do I have to stay with my girlfriend? Will I have to accept the fact that my life is ruined. Could I even recover from this if she goes through with her plan?
TL;DR: broke up with my girlfriend today, she threatened to ruin my life by getting me fired from my job, kicked out of my university, and ruin my reputation with my family and friends if I don't that stay with her. She also claims to be pregnant and I think she's not lying.
Not going well.
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- loquacius
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That kid being groomed by an older woman?
Not going well.
How crazy do you have to be, I wonder, to think blackmail is a valid basis for a romantic relationship
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I [41 M] found out my daughter [18 F] draws cartoon erotica online for money. She wants to make a career of it. I am very very uncomfortable with it.
She should just go to college and then do this in her spare time for extra money. I'm with the dad in that this probably isn't a great idea for a full-time job, at least now. $19k in two years just from part-time stuff sounds pretty good for a teenager, but I assume she doesn't really have any bills or expenses of her own right now. I know the demand for weird cartoon porn is insatiable, but I wouldn't be too confident about turning that into a sustainable career that you can live off of.
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Jan 25, 2018 02:09
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- Ugly In The Morning
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If my experience with a BPD girlfriend taught me anything it's that they will never ever not use it as an excuse for paranoid and lovely behavior.
Bitter? Me? Yeah you're god drat right I'm bitter.
I used to spend hours every week dealing with suicide threats and insanity. I pretty much had Wednesday night blocked out for the suicide threats, since that was like clockwork. BPD SO’s are a great way to torch your life.
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Jan 25, 2018 02:10
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- Draxion
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The title is a lot better than the post but it's still pretty good
[LDR] I [23M] am infatuated with a [19F] BPD-affected amphetamine addict I met online 2 months ago.
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u/a_guy_with_a_planMar 29, 2017, 4:36 PM
I met her on Twitter. At first I just wanted to talk to someone who shared the same issues I do (depression, anxiety). She was very kind and after a couple of days I found nudes of her that she posted herself on Twitter a couple of weeks before. I found both her personality and body attractive and romantic interest became clear. Then I found out the following facts (some by reading through her public tweets, some by her telling me):
she has a boyfriend, though they are in an "open relationship" and he's about to move due to university and she says they don't even gently caress anymore; she says she is willing to drop him and engage in a closed relationship with me;
she takes not one, not two, but three mood stabilizers/antidepressants on top of clonazepam (Klonopin, a sedative/sleeping med) and lisdexamphetamine (stimulant) for some kind of never ending drowsiness;
she abuses her stimulant medication. She binges on it, stays awake for up to 30 hours then sleeps for an equal amount with the help of clonazepam. In the end, she has no more pills by the middle of the month and returns to ~30h of sleep/6h awake cycle.
We have a lot in common, we are very easy talking and passionate, we started planning on living together! I suggested we marry (on paper) so she can use my health insurance plan to seek better healthcare and work on her issues. We both like BDSM and are compatible. We share nudes and there's a lot of sexting and dirty talking. She says she loves me. I've sent her several gifts already.
I have this infatuation and a will to take care of her and see she getting better. I believe I can help her but I'm also romantically attracted to her.
Is she just taking advantage of me? Can I believe her when she tells she loves me? Should I invest myself emotionally into this? Should I invest myself financially, since we plan to see each other soon and she has little to no money for plane/bus tickets?
tl;dr: virgin dude with no past relationships is infatuated with a sweet 19 year-old borderline girl who is addicted to stimulant and has several mental issues
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She should just go to college and then do this in her spare time for extra money. I'm with the dad in that this probably isn't a great idea for a full-time job, at least now. $19k in two years just from part-time stuff sounds pretty good for a teenager, but I assume she doesn't really have any bills or expenses of her own right now. I know the demand for weird cartoon porn is insatiable, but I wouldn't be too confident about turning that into a sustainable career that you can live off of.
How long before the erotic furry drawn art community turns into the erotic furry VR art community and she's out of work?
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Jan 25, 2018 02:16
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- new phone who dis
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The title is a lot better than the post but it's still pretty good
[LDR] I [23M] am infatuated with a [19F] BPD-affected amphetamine addict I met online 2 months ago.
Have fun making the worst mistake of your life. See you in 5 years when there's a kid and the state involved!
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Jan 25, 2018 02:18
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That kid being groomed by an older woman?
Not going well.
Im going to blackmail you with evidence of my ongoing sexual relationship with a minor.
Dude should be calling a lawyer, news crew, and publicist now
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Jan 25, 2018 02:22
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Apparently btw my wife's younger sister has started claiming she wants to be in an open relationship because people were not meant to be monogamous and all LTRs end in cheating
I'm pretty sure the issue is just that she's 23 and has never had a serious boyfriend and reads the Internet
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Jan 25, 2018 02:29
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The title is a lot better than the post but it's still pretty good
[LDR] I [23M] am infatuated with a [19F] BPD-affected amphetamine addict I met online 2 months ago.
Combining an SSRI or SNRI antidepressant with a strong stimulant like meth or cocaine can be fatal. Supposed to be a pretty bad way to go too.
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Jan 25, 2018 02:35
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Forget bpd, waifu are the new hip.
After 7 abysmal breakups, years of depression & heartache, I[M/35] finally got my newfound hope in 2D pixelated characters. Feeling torn apart right now.
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Okay, this might seem funny and absurd to majority of you, but I do appreciate it if I can get some advice on how do I go about with this issue(hence the throwaway). And pardon me for my bad English, I'm not a native English speaker, so here we go.
7 FAILED BREAKUPS
I've had a grand total of 7 breakups in the span of 10 years, year 2008 being the 1st year ever I got to taste what it's like to be in a relationship. But it didn't last long and it did certainly hurt because it was my first love. The pattern keeps repeating and here I am right now, a decade and 7 failed relationships later. For the majority of them(5 of them), we couldn't make it out because each one of them complained on how I became a little bit boring over the course of time, on how mundane the relationship was, and on how the spark kinda petered out. You get the idea - I was a boring person.
As for the other final 2 relationships, before I got into them, I did take their 'feedback', took a break and try my hardest to improve my life, my skills yada yada so that I can bring more to the table and not to repeat the same mistake ever again. Well, both of those are in LDR if you must know, and while everything was dandy and sweet, history repeats yet again all because of what seemed to be "lacking of other experiences" from their part(both of my exes mentioned the same exact thing).
Okay, here's where this all sounds pretty depressing for you, but hopeful and sweet for me. After I broke up for the 7th times in about 2016 December, I just decided to call it quits and stopped trying. Stop exercising, stopped cycling and abandoned my group of cyclists friends, quit playing piano, stopped trying out and learning on how to cook(mainly because it reminds me of my 6th ex that would always teach me how to cook) and decided to just call it quits. I just can't keep on going like this, especially the depressing fact that every single one of my exes got in a relationship right now and some of them even got married.
So, after the whole mess I started binge playing games, and I got addicted to a game(called Harvest Moon) and it kinda took it off from there and I never look back. What makes this game entertaining and enticing is that it has some dating element to it. My character can try to court female characters, and it dawned upon me that it all seemed so simple and straightforward. I realized that I don't have to put in a lot of effort into something, and yet it's very simple compared to my failed relationships in real life. You as a player can proceed to get married with your choices of female characters provided that you consistently court them and it makes me feel good about it.
And I know these sound so wrong, which is why I decided to consult my therapist/counsellor. He told me that all of these were really unfortunate but it is fine because it was my way of coping with my failure in past relationships. However, he did mention that I need to relinquish it altogether if I wanna find a real, genuine relationship in REAL life.
Guys, I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm a mess, I just can't relinquish my relationships and as absurd as it sounds, I kinda developed some sort of attraction towards my 2D virtual gf. Everything was so simple in game, but I know it's not real and I afraid that if I were to open myself out there, I might fail yet again. I'm just too tired. What should I do?
tl;dr: After tonnes of breakup over the span of 10 years, I got attracted to my in-game gfs thanks to all the simplicity and consistency of it. Consulted my therapist and he insisted me to relinquish my game and get back to real life. Don't know what to do at this point.
No one teach this person about anime.
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Jan 25, 2018 02:39
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- wizardofloneliness
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Combining an SSRI or SNRI antidepressant with a strong stimulant like meth or cocaine can be fatal. Supposed to be a pretty bad way to go too.
According to him, the only stimulant she's taking is just Vyvanse, which is a pretty common prescription for ADHD. Of course, she's also going through the whole month's supply in two weeks so I wouldn't be too surprised if she moves on to something a little more potent soon. That said, this guy should absolutely marry her.
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Jan 25, 2018 02:45
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holy poo poo, harvest moon 1
that is the saddest kind of fictional character to fall in love with, that poor man
I wonder which waifu he chose, I vaguely remember picking the barmaid when I played this as a teenager
we frown on jokes around here, buddy 
I never actually got married in any harvest moon game. I usually make a ton of money then quit before the end of the second year. Ignoring all social aspects. I'm somehow more asocial in the game than in real life.
lol the difference between reddit and SA
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Jan 25, 2018 03:05
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Can't believe this idiot hasn't even upgraded to superior Stardew Valley waifus.
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Top reddit comment:
1 is obviously not a joke, because jokes are illegal on that subreddit.
*15 layer comment chain that's just Queen lyrics*
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Welcome to the bitter bpd club I married one.. then unmarried one.
I’m now starting to wonder if my ex had BPD in addition to depression or bipolar disorder. It would definitely explain how it all ended.
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Jan 25, 2018 03:55
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- Haifisch
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Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!
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My [28/M] fiancée [31/F] and I met through an affair. How to handle discussing this with people?
quote:It’s not as bad as it sounds. Or maybe it is.
On my end: I was previously married at 21 to my high school sweetheart. It was great for a bit, but shortly there after, things deteriorated. She changed her mind about getting an education; she changed her mind about having children and we simply stopped having sex. She became very cold, distant and could be needlessly cruel. Fighting, therapy and endless discussions resulted in her admitting she was asexual, loved me as a friend, and I could either accept it or not, she was never going to have sex again. Then she would come to me, ask to return to therapy, hint that we may rekindle things in the bedroom only to have her proverbially slam the door shut. During that time, I got an education (B.A./Master), was the only one of us who worked and cared for our apartment. I needed help so I sought out a support group. Our mediator ‘paired’ us up – basically we had a buddy system. That’s where I was paired up with April (I was the only guy in the support group, hence why my buddy wasn’t a dude).
April had been in the group longer and like me, married her high school sweetheart. He had ‘come out’ and, like me, their lives were a “my way/highway” proposition. Neither of us had sex in years, it was pretty shite. We were both in the process of separating – she had filed for divorce and I hadn’t formally separated from the wife. We broke every rule of the support group and met outside of the meetings for “Coffee” which was a thinly veiled booty call. We were seeing each other on the regular – my wife was gone spending my money on a personal quest to find herself somewhere in the Rockies. When she returned I “stunned” her with divorce papers (she later claimed she had NO IDEA I was thinking of divorce and asked for spousal support).
For me, it had been 5 ½ years of crap marriage. April and I hooked-up for a couple of months but stopped seeing each other altogether during my divorce (which became really nasty). Months went by and I made first contact. Over the last year, our relationship followed this course: Coffee -> lunches -> hookups -> dating -> moved in -> engaged on Saturday. Our parents are happy – my parents really like April and her family has adopted me as one of their own. We have a really happy relationship, and neither of us sweat the small stuff. The last 14 months have been the happiest since I was 16, and this year has been up/down in some respects.
Our biggest (and really only) problem is our friends. We’ve always tried to hide when exactly we met (and where) but people have been figuring out that it was before me and the ex ended things. A few have gotten very upset (knowing how awful our marriage was) and a few have cut me out. One recently sent me a letter stating that they can’t be friends with me after knowing I was so deceitful.
April and I were always very cautious about telling people how we met. I’m not sure how to handle this, both as a couple, and with friends. In my own defense, I had endured years of a cold, dead, marriage and a little human warmth really helped me. Was it wrong to have an affair? Yes, but I don’t feel bad per se.
I’m not sure what I’m asking honestly, but I really want to know how I should handle this with friends, distant relatives, etc. Should I accept some people won’t like it/me afterwards? Should I respond to the letter?
tl;dr met future wife in a support group for failing marriages. I had not had sex in years and broke the group rules and had fling with future wife. We rekindled later and are engaged. Lots of people unhappy about what I (we) did and I don't know how to handle/respond
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I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time
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My [28/M] fiancée [31/F] and I met through an affair. How to handle discussing this with people?
Seriously who gives a poo poo? If they don't like it gently caress 'em. I'm petty conservative about infidelity but you have to both be trying to save (or even keep a good) marriage.
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Jan 25, 2018 05:13
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Seriously who gives a poo poo? If they don't like it gently caress 'em. I'm petty conservative about infidelity but you have to both be trying to save (or even keep a good) marriage.
Same here. There's cheating on someone who's in love with you and betraying them, and then there's moving on when things are hopeless.
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