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Serephina posted:I think what a lot of people are missing is that the sister is going through a bad mental state herself due to the double parental deaths. It's not like it's otherwise possible to be surprised by a close relative being a hoarder. That poor cat, but it's less about being a bad person and more about not being able to cope. What?! No! How can you just hand wave the cat death?! That’s terrible! After one parental death I doubled down on caring for my pet. Even when I was so depressed (and/or so drunk) I didn’t care about anything else I still found the power to at least brush my teeth, feed my guinea pig and make sure she had fresh water.
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RatHat posted:For 4 months? And then lying about it? Try three years, even. This is the kind of gently caress up where the injured party should do absolutely nothing to repair the relationship. Squeeze her sister for every bit of reparation and totally block contact. Rapprochement, if possible, is years down the line and must come from the sister and not from the OP. Preferably with absolute contrition.
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 12:57 |
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I'm pretty sure I was abducted as a child and i'm listed in the America national database as missing (Advice too please)quote:I'm a different ethnicity from my family, i'm Asian in a South American (not giving exact country for reasons) family. Was pushed between relatives as a kid, general massive shitshow. Lots of street wondering as a kid with my "siblings" while my family pushed drugs and god knows what else. A few field trips with uncle and other siblings into the forest to camps where they were cooking drugs, we would make mud huts while the adults worked. What I thought was casual poo poo. I'm doing okay now, living on my own, learned Engish young in school and perfected it when I got older, still don't know Chinese.
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 13:42 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:M [27 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of 4 years, he made fun of the face I make when I orgasm, don't feel like having sex with him anymore. I'm like 90% sure that nobody looks good while cumming... or opening a jar.
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Palpek posted:please help lol This thread in three words.
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 14:32 |
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I was 22 years old when I learned that not every family has a poop knife. self.confessionquote:My family poops big. Maybe it's genetic, maybe it's our diet, but everyone births giant logs of crap. If anyone has laid a mega-poop, you know that sometimes it won't flush. It lays across the hole in the bottom of the bowl and the vortex of draining water merely gives it a spin as it mocks you.
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 14:42 |
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Old but good.
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Palpek posted:I'm pretty sure I was abducted as a child and i'm listed in the America national database as missing (Advice too please)
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We're leading up to a news story here. Someone has been behaving inappropriately towards me (15F) and I'm too embarrassed to tell my parents quote:There's this youth teacher at my church who has been been sending me very weird things. He keeps asking when he can take me out to dinner or the movies and he sends random stuff like "hey beautiful." I don't know, it's just weird and makes me feel uncomfortable. I want him to stop but I'm too scared to ask him to because I don't like when people dislike me and I feel awkward being so straightforward. Also, my parents and I don't have that kind of relationship. I don't talk to them about anything sexual, well I don't really talk to them at all even though we live in the same house, but when I do it's just about chores or school. The only person I've told is my best friend and she told me to tell them. But everytime I try, I just cringe and decide not to do it.
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 15:47 |
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Shes already ignored the advice of a living human being so Ill wait for the long form article about her life tragically cut short later.
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 15:50 |
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If she can't go to the parents, go to your counselor at school or go to a person above the youth teacher like the pastor of you trust them.
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It's sad that she casually goes 'oh my relationship with my parents isn't the kind of relationship where I can tell them about being molested because they mostly just ignore me'. Like, gee, I wonder why she's such a people-pleaser? I hope she can tell another trusted adult.
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Well he hasn't touched her yet. But if there isn't intervention there a good chance he'll try.
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PetraCore posted:It's sad that she casually goes 'oh my relationship with my parents isn't the kind of relationship where I can tell them about being molested because they mostly just ignore me'. Like, gee, I wonder why she's such a people-pleaser? To be fair it might actually be a warranted fear on her part as a lot of these church communities probably would blame her for being victimized.
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La Brea Carpet posted:M [27 F] with my boyfriend [26 M] of 4 years, he made fun of the face I make when I orgasm, don't feel like having sex with him anymore. She should have sex with her boyfriend and drop him off a steep cliff when he's about to cum while making her wonderful o-face the whole time.
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 16:54 |
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It's kind of funny/sad how many mugshots you find when you GIS "youth pastor"
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Serephina posted:I think what a lot of people are missing is that the sister is going through a bad mental state herself due to the double parental deaths. It's not like it's otherwise possible to be surprised by a close relative being a hoarder. That poor cat, but it's less about being a bad person and more about not being able to cope. You don't have to be a bad person to irreparably harm the people you love. Her being unable to cope is an explanation but not an excuse.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:She should have sex with her boyfriend and drop him off a steep cliff when he's about to cum while making her wonderful o-face the whole time. I thought this was a little harsh but I'm ok with it anyway because the idea of convincing someone to have sex with you right next to a steep cliff for ironic-murder purposes holds a certain dark humor to me
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loquacius posted:I thought this was a little harsh but I'm ok with it anyway because the idea of convincing someone to have sex with you right next to a steep cliff for ironic-murder purposes holds a certain dark humor to me Turns out the song Dead Man’s Curve is actually a double entendre
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My (26/F) boyfriend (27/m) gets out of control when he drinks. How should I handle this?quote:I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years. Even when we met, I remember a mutual friend warning me that he drinks like 'a kid on his first night out ever.' I noticed this early enough on; we were dating and he came to a party to meet my friends. I had sent him day drinking with a friend for her birthday while I was at work; I rushed home, got changed, and brought him to this party without really noticing that he was already drunk. At the party I noticed his eyes were almost glazing over and warned him to watch the cocktails being passed around; I knew from prior experience how strong they were! He continued drinking them and I had to take him to the balcony, tried to sober him... no luck. I ended up taking him home, mortified he was so drunk, and locked him out of my bedroom (I had a spare room). He pounded on the door, cried, said he was terrified of loosing me... I gave in, and it's been downhill since there. I mean, maybe he can change his ways if he really tries-- [26/f] Think I am being gaslighted by boyfriend [27/M]. Is there any way I can try to recitfy this without ending things? quote:I've posted here a few times before, trying to make sense of the silly silly disagreements that end up in big arguments with my boyfriend, and have been slowly chipping away at me. Through so much desperate research (because i'm scared to discuss any concerns with him lest they start another argument) i've come to the conclusion that I think i'm being gaslighted. [26/F] My boyfriend [27] of 1.5 years said we're 'moving too fast'; what does he mean?! quote:My relationship hasn't been easy as of late. Boyfriend [M/27] pulling away from me [F/26] after some stressful events. What can I do to help this? quote:My boyfriend and I have been dating since May last year. Until January, he lived in NYC and I lived in Boston, then I moved to NYC with work and he was a large factor of it. For the beginning of the relationship, he was infatuated with me. We also worked in the same office, so frequently stayed at each others apartments, would meet for lunch and coffee during the day, and would hang out most evenings. He treated me so well and was frequently so sweet, attentive and caring. We did have some stresses and arguments, but would resolve them. Then in July, I had a really bad episode of anxiety. I started to feel very lonely in NYC, lost a family member back home in Ireland, and we both had a medical stress that potentially wasn't covered by our insurance (all sorted now), and he was hating work (has subsequently changed jobs and is stressed but excited again in work). This lead to a lot of arguing between us, mostly because he admittedly 'pulled away from me'. I admittedly was really hard on him during the time, having a lot of tears and breakdowns as I was feeling so so anxious and down, and I probably demanded too much support from him. I'm ashamed now, but I was frequently pulling him into discussions about the state of our relationship which he truly hated. I have sought help and the episode is behind me, but he has said that 'we need to pull our relationship far far back.' This breaks my heart. I am utterly in love with him, but feel like he's lost a little love for me. He's still here after us having many hard looks at whether we should stay together, which I can only take as a good thing? I know it's going to take work to rebuild our relationship, but I do know that thankfully I am back to being the girl that he fell for. I'm just wondering if anybody has any advice on anything else I can do here? He blows quite hot and cold with me at the moment, and I think he knows that he has me wrapped around his finger, as he is getting away with being quite selfish (making last minute plan changes, being a bit unreasonable about some things, and knows that I will bite my lip on these things). I [F26] just had a blowup with my boyfriend [m27] this morning. Want to make better (it's his birthday) but feel like I'm being taken advantage of... advise? quote:We've been dating 1.5 years, and had a very rocky patch over the summer, however we've really been doing well for a month or so now. It's my boyfriend's birthday today, so I really went to the full effort over the weekend (although I normally like to make a lot of effort for him anyway). We had a wonderful weekend, booked a trip away, went for nice meals and walks, and last night had wine on his roof. Then we went to mine and I gave him his presents, which he was delighted with (I've planned them for well over a month.) We got up early for spin class this morning, as I'm taking him out for dinner somewhere he's been dying to try tonight. So plan was to get our workout over with. This spin class involved games on a leaderboard, where you compete against the rest of the class- really motivating! Only after game 1, he realized he wasn't on it. I explained sometimes the technology glitches; it's happened to me before. AT the end of class he stormed out. Walking home, I tried to cheer him up as he was fully sulking and saying that that was a waste of time without the board to motivate him; I rubbed his arm and said something comforting that I can't remember. His response 'stop treating me like a baby'. This is where I don't know if I was wrong; I snapped 'maybe if you stopped acting like a baby! It's only a game!' He proceeded to walk the rest of the way home staring at his phone and lingering behind me. We got ready for work without saying a word; I was expecting him to apologise and was scared of either crying or snapping, he was clearly furious. When he went to leave I asked him to stay and talk to me for one minute, but he refused and stormed out. I sent him a text apologizing and asking him to let me know if he'd like me to cancel dinner, and wishing him a happy birthday and apologizing for starting it on a bad note; he has ignored it. [26/F] Ugly duckling finally getting some confidence, but my boyfriend has lost interest in me. Tips/advice? (Just an imgur link to photos of herself) F(26) my boyfriend (27) has lost interest in sex. Help? (Deleted by an r bot for stupid reasons) All within the last four months. Just loving at this point, drat.
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Skutter posted:My (26/F) boyfriend (27/m) gets out of control when he drinks. How should I handle this? For fucks sake just break up already. I don't want to read all of that but I'm assuming she is at least part of the problem if she gets all her advice from reddit.
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girl pants posted:It's kind of funny/sad how many mugshots you find when you GIS "youth pastor" Khorne fucked around with this message at 18:24 on Feb 13, 2018 |
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Chaosfirev posted:For fucks sake just break up already. I don't want to read all of that but I'm assuming she is at least part of the problem if she gets all her advice from reddit. Reddit can at least parrot at anyone and everyone so she may be asking advice of reddit but she certainly isn’t taking it.
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I've seen enough episodes of Hoarders to know that death of a close family member is often a pretty big trigger to become a hoarder and collapse into a pile of your own filth and trash. It's super sad, sister is suffering from some mental illness here. That said, I hope the brother fixes the house up and gets every penny of the cleanup and renovations out of her half. I'm curious how her new house is, if that will become a hoarder nightmare or it was only the parent's old house and memories/items attached that set her off.
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Baronjutter posted:I've seen enough episodes of Hoarders to know that death of a close family member is often a pretty big trigger to become a hoarder and collapse into a pile of your own filth and trash. It's super sad, sister is suffering from some mental illness here. That said, I hope the brother fixes the house up and gets every penny of the cleanup and renovations out of her half. I'm curious how her new house is, if that will become a hoarder nightmare or it was only the parent's old house and memories/items attached that set her off. yeah i can understand why people would want to punish her severely but on the other hand both her parents died and she moved directly into their house full of all of their sentimental things, so Chaosfirev posted:For fucks sake just break up already. I don't want to read all of that but I'm assuming she is at least part of the problem if she gets all her advice from reddit. quote:He can go weeks dry, but when he goes out he knows no moderation and is notorious for it. He will often fall asleep at bars, but can also be a bit of an a-hole in front of people; mutual friends look at me like I'm an idiot when I'm carrying him out of bars, or get annoyed when he gets us thrown out. This past weekend we were away skiing as a group; he cannot remember either of our nights at the local bar, but both times I had to take him home. Frequently he'll wet himself and I have to change him. On top of this, while drunk he can be quite unkind to me. This Saturday, I was sober enough to watch him picking sore spots with me in order to deliberately upset me; after I had left all of our friends to bring him back because he'd been thrown out. He also shoved me a bit on the ice, but I can say I've never been sort of scared for my safety. The next morning he couldn't remember a thing and was back to being so nice. boyfriend a violent drunk, so what. surely if we both work together on a sobriety plan he won't be tempted to drink and turn into an assho- quote:I am a very moderate person; we're both Irish, we love a drink! It's a key part of our social life and I wouldn't have it any other way. During January, he went dry and this bothered me as I love having a few with him. But key word being a few. He's said before that I'm a good influence, that he needs to learn moderation better, so I try to be supportive when he says things like this. If I tried to sit him down to talk about this I think he'd tell me to f off, that he doesn't care what me or anybody else thinks. that's the very next paragraph. stop enabling your alcoholic boyfriend! boner confessor fucked around with this message at 18:32 on Feb 13, 2018 |
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She chose to move in there and chose to not level with her sibling about what was going on there. Contrary to popular belief even people with some light mental health issues are responsible for their choices. She was able to purchase and renovate another home for herself during this time so it isn't like she was incapable of functioning.
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therobit posted:She chose to move in there and chose to not level with her sibling about what was going on there. Contrary to popular belief even people with some light mental health issues are responsible for their choices. She was able to purchase and renovate another home for herself during this time so it isn't like she was incapable of functioning. filling the house of your dead parents with filth and abandoning your cat there to die is not 'light mental health issues'
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boner confessor posted:filling the house of your dead parents with filth and abandoning your cat there to die is not 'light mental health issues' Obviously not bad enough that it prevented her from finding a way out and leaving someone else with the tab. She's trash.
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 18:42 |
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i think that modern science acknowledges mental illness especially if it's tied to an acute event such as grief as being more than a "disabled/not disabled" binary but i'm not a fancy doctor so i could be wrong here op brother certainly has a stake to write off his sister since he's the one cleaning up the mess but it's a bit weird for goons to rush towards the "she's obviously a poo poo person, murder her" when her behavior is consistent with someone undergoing a pretty severe mental shock, such as the death of parents
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 18:44 |
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It's sister and sister, not brother
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 18:52 |
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That other house she has that she supposedly renovated could be non existent
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Skutter posted:My (26/F) boyfriend (27/m) gets out of control when he drinks. How should I handle this? No, no, she should stay with him. She's the engine that keeps this trainwreck moving.
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 18:58 |
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Dear Internet, my boyfriend is an embarrassing and sometimes dangerous alcoholic, thanks in no small part to my enabling, and both of us are obviously miserable in our relationship. How do we right this ship and persevere?
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 19:00 |
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I dont normally recommend taking such a young relationship to the next level by holding hands and driving off a cliff, but I think theyre ready for it.
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chitoryu12 posted:Surprisingly, a search for "chest" didn't immediately bring up something about boobs. Still about 15 pages back but holy gently caress lady just get a weave.
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Al Borland Corp. posted:That other house she has that she supposedly renovated could be non existent I think the OP should have mercy on her sister, she's struggling. Make sure she has the other place to go to, quietly but firmly get her moved, get the house restored and sold (of course taking it out of her share), and make sure your sister is getting treatment for her major depression. Holding this against her isn't going to help OP. On the long winded drinker with the alcoholic Bf, her story had me wondering how pissed actual Irish get when alcoholics from Boston or NYC blame their problems on 'being Irish' but then, it turns out they're the real thing! tactlessbastard fucked around with this message at 19:22 on Feb 13, 2018 |
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Irish-American culture and actual alcoholics are an incredibly toxic combination
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 19:24 |
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:She should have sex with her boyfriend and drop him off a steep cliff when he's about to cum while making her wonderful o-face the whole time. Or maybe just don't flip out like a crazy person lmao
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# ? Feb 13, 2018 19:27 |
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Imagine being such an insecure loser you get upset enough about that to post on the internet about it
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tactlessbastard posted:I think the OP should have mercy on her sister, she's struggling. Make sure she has the other place to go to, quietly but firmly get her moved, get the house restored and sold (of course taking it out of her share), and make sure your sister is getting treatment for her major depression. Holding this against her isn't going to help OP. Finding out that a cat died alone and unloved of cold and potential starvation when her sister shrugs and says it was given to a friend is not going to help either. That isn't poo poo you can just get out of your brain.
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