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- Pick
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Human touch reeeeeeeeeeee
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Feb 23, 2018 19:46
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- wizardofloneliness
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I can see someone getting kind of irritated if their coworkers are constantly giggling and squealing or whatever he says, but lol at this dude being so confused about their behavior and asking if it's normal.
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Feb 23, 2018 19:50
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- Pick
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Is it normal... to love...
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Feb 23, 2018 19:51
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- Clark Nova
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This office has a mandatory mutual contempt policy and our scowling guidelines are strictly enforced.
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Feb 23, 2018 19:54
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- Pick
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I legit hate listening to people be friendly and giggly for more than about one minute but idk how you get to age 50 while being a loving stupid misanthrope who can't understand you are the one who's the problem tbh
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Feb 23, 2018 19:55
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- Pvt.Scott
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What God wants, God gets, God help us all
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[Non-romantic] Two of my [50/M] female coworkers [24/F] [25/F] have *the strangest* friendship
I’ve seen this porno. They gently caress.
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Feb 23, 2018 20:09
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- Clark Nova
- Jul 18, 2004
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Pranks!
My [19M] twin put a fake scorpion in mum's [41F] drink. Mom cut her foot on glass because of it and dad [43M] kicked my twin [19M] out.
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My brother phoned me crying to please get dad to reconsider. My brother is staying with his girlfriend, but what he did last night really pissed off my parents. That's why I am posting this and would like to know what to do.
Mum just got home with my little brother [9M] and sister [11F] from soccer practice last night. They were really energetic running to dad showing him something they got at practice. My brother, dad and sister went outside to play some more soccer while mum made dinner. Dad normally makes it, but they wanted to play with dad because he just got home from a business trip.
We all heard a scream coming from the kitchen and glass shatter. Dad was in there way before I got down there talking to mum. Mum had dropped the glass she was drinking out of and cut her feet on them. The cut on mum's foot was pretty bad. My dad told me to take the kids up to their rooms until they got back. My mum and dad needed to go to the hospital emergency room to get stitches for the cut. It goes all the way from her big toe the sole of her foot.
My dad called me and twin downstairs when he got home. He yelled at us that he know's it wasn't one of the little ones because they were with him. He threw the fake scorpion at us and told us to fess up. He didn't want to hear anything else other than admission of guilt. He told us to shut us to shut the gently caress up if it was anything else. He yelled we're loving adults living here for free and eating for free. This is not how we treat our mum. When my brother fessed up, my dad went up to his room. He started shoving all of his clothes in a suitcase. He told my brother to get out. He forced my brother to leave. Dad was yelling that you did this to a 90 pound women and your mum.
The little ones (dad calls them that) were not there. They were in mum's room talking to her. Dad is not normally like this. If anything he is the fun parent who would let us do things mum would say are too dangerous. Mum has a legitimate extreme fear of Spiders, scorpions and snakes.
My twin called me crying to get dad to forgive him. I'm not sure what to do.
tl;dr: dad kicked twin out for pulling a prank on mom which lead to her getting hurt.
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Feb 23, 2018 20:36
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- Pick
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It’s Katie’s scorpion! 🦂
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Feb 23, 2018 20:43
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- Bunni-kat
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Service Desk B-b-bunny...
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Pranks!
My [19M] twin put a fake scorpion in mum's [41F] drink. Mom cut her foot on glass because of it and dad [43M] kicked my twin [19M] out.
Give the dad time to cool down, and then pretend to be your twin and apologize deeply and sincerely, and promise you learned your lesson.
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Feb 23, 2018 20:51
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- Khorne
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Pranks!
My [19M] twin put a fake scorpion in mum's [41F] drink. Mom cut her foot on glass because of it and dad [43M] kicked my twin [19M] out.
I'm very confused.
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Feb 23, 2018 20:52
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- Barudak
- May 7, 2007
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Is the mom deathly afraid of scorpions or do they live in an area where a scorpion could reasonably be in your kitchen?
I'm very confused.
It says she has a known extreme fear
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Feb 23, 2018 21:02
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- Galaxy Brain
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by Lowtax
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Is the mom deathly afraid of scorpions or do they live in an area where a scorpion could reasonably be in your kitchen?
I'm very confused.
The answer you seek is cleverly hidden in the post you didn't read.
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Feb 23, 2018 21:03
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- Cough Drop The Beat
- Jan 22, 2012
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by Lowtax
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[Non-romantic] Two of my [50/M] female coworkers [24/F] [25/F] have *the strangest* friendship
Beep boop, what are friends? My cold robotic existence does not allow me to experience emotions.
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Feb 23, 2018 21:17
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- tactlessbastard
- Feb 4, 2001
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Godspeed, post
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Dilbert, I need you to wear this disapproving frown. It's office policy.
I apparently look absolutely inapproachably furious all the time at work and I'm all sorry that's just my face
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Feb 23, 2018 21:33
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- Galaxy Brain
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I apparently look absolutely inapproachably furious all the time at work and I'm all sorry that's just my face
Resting Bastard Face
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Feb 23, 2018 21:34
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- tactlessbastard
- Feb 4, 2001
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Godspeed, post
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I'm actually quite polite!
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Feb 23, 2018 21:39
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- Galaxy Brain
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I'm actually quite polite!
Sure sure, I bet you Keep to Yourself too.
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Feb 23, 2018 21:45
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- Bored
- Jul 26, 2007
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Dude, ix-nay on the oice-vay.
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Our newborn is three weeks old and my (24/F) Fiance (27/M) admitted he won't stop cheating on me
...well that's a new one.
This sounds similar to my supervisor at my old job. I was shocked that she would tolerate her boyfriend habitually cheating on her because she had her poo poo together on every other front. We weren't familiar enough for me to say,"Why have you stayed with him for so many years when you are so awesome!?"
I imagine the kids might have had something to do with it. I think her boyfriend at least had enough of a sense of shame to feel a little bit guilty, but that might have been because she finally kicked him out.
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Feb 23, 2018 21:45
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- AnoHito
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I'm actually quite polite!
Yet you lack tact entirely
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Feb 23, 2018 21:50
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- flick my Mr. Bean
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Just realized my [34/f] husband [35/m] is a like a social chameleon?
What I particularly like about this story is how one of her concerns is he can barely see someone yet remember details about their life that people would usually forget. God forbid he remembers someone's birthday.
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Feb 23, 2018 22:35
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- Galaxy Brain
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What I particularly like about this story is how one of her concerns is he can barely see someone yet remember details about their life that people would usually forget. God forbid he remembers someone's birthday.
Annoying that the comments are all "welp he's just naturally good at that! accept him for who he is!" and not "psst, hey, he got good at something because he worked hard at it, and you can too."
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Feb 23, 2018 22:45
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- Pick
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*Pick on top of the mountain* psst... social skills are skills. like all other skills, they are learned things.
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Feb 23, 2018 22:57
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- Bubblyblubber
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*Pick on top of the mountain* psst... social skills are skills. like all other skills, they are learned things.
So is basic life management and proper use of paragraphs, and yet we as a species get saddled with these winners:
My [31M] bf [31F] lacks BASIC LIFE SKILLS
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u/dontwanttobeyourmom
u/RunRaggid
Which is unfortunate because otherwise he is an absolutely wonderful person. Kind hearted, creative, INTELLIGENT, and the most genuine person Ive ever met. Yet he is so bad at navigating through adulthood that at times I find myself worrying about our safety. Were both 31 and have lived (supposedly) on our own in the past. In the two yrs that I have lived with him I have witnessed(and been personally affected) by him going through multiple jobs, consistently leaving the burners on after cooking and just leaving, ruining his car(s) bc he ignores engine trouble.Getting his ENTIRE bank account wiped out without notice by mystery debt collectors, or for ignoring to file taxes for 8 yrs. Using the refrigerator and leaving the door wide open. Never locking a single door. Leaving the front door to the house wide open overnight. Turning on faucets and leaving them running. Leaving food out on countertops or tables or backpacks or the fridge for weeks/months/possibly years until they liquify. Leaving a tank of gas in his trunk for MONTHS ignoring my nags to take it out until it finally cracked and spilled gas all over his car.I dont allow him to touch my laundry anymore after the 20th time that he came back with several items less than he took. Having things spill all over the floor and never wiping them up. He is incapable of planning anything at all and seeing it through or making it to ontime. Earlier this week we had tickets to a concert he had been looking forward to for MONTHS but bc he couldnt manage time to drive or prepare and didnt confirm the start time we missed the whole show. My patience finally reached a boiling point two days after the show when he left for work and left his morning 'business' in the toilet without flushing it. This has become the pesky little new habit of his, and its almost insane that EVEN this I have to come around the corner and take care of for him. I feel like I am dating a high-functioning toddler. His brain almost works so fast its often several hundred steps ahead of what he is currently doing and cant seem to stay focused on anything for more than 4 sec. When I address that I dont want to spend all of my free time cleaning up his messes and reminding him about his appointments and making sure he checked his engine oil before work he either defaults to two reactions. Defensive about being treated like a child, or flat out denial that he does any lf the aforementioned things. I may sound like a super nagging insatiable gf but understand that this is a DAILY affair. And Im just about at my wits end. Im starting to resent him and I feel like Ive just settled for dissapointment in my relationship, but we cant seem to work through any of these issues. He comes fron that generation when kids were over-diagnosed for this dissorder and that dissorder and was given EXTREMELY high doses of Ridilin that really hosed him up for a while until he had to quit taking them cold turkey. I feel like he uses the 'Im bad at life because I have ADD' excuse more like a crut h and not as a problem that needs to be addressed and approved upon. I cant picture myself ever feeling safe and secure living alone with him. Has anyone been in a similar situation that can offer a solution? Whenever I calm down and just try to talk to him, simply asking 'ok. So you have problems with attention. What can we do help that' Im never given a straight answer. Rather its a ' ive never felt so judged, or inadequate, whoah is me. I have add' response that never gets us anywhere... :\
tl;dr: Does anyone else deal with this? Is there hope at this age??
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Feb 23, 2018 23:02
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- Leon Einstein
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I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.
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So is basic life management and proper use of paragraphs, and yet we as a species get saddled with these winners:
My [31M] bf [31F] lacks BASIC LIFE SKILLS
Leon Einstein fucked around with this message at 23:21 on Feb 23, 2018
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Feb 23, 2018 23:18
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- Pick
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So is basic life management and proper use of paragraphs, and yet we as a species get saddled with these winners:
My [31M] bf [31F] lacks BASIC LIFE SKILLS
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Feb 23, 2018 23:28
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- I Was The Fury
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Always stop to smell the flowers, just in case they're weeds
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So is basic life management and proper use of paragraphs, and yet we as a species get saddled with these winners:
My [31M] bf [31F] lacks BASIC LIFE SKILLS
What's his username
I love how she started off by saying he's intelligent only to totally contradict that idea with dozens of examples. I think that some people just assume that everybody is intelligent by default. I was always told that smart people do smart things. "Forgetting" to file taxes for 8 years isn't just a quirky thing that doesn't matter.
My brother has spent my entire life telling me that nearly everyone we collectively know is "one of the smartest people their age, no kidding"
This includes cousins that have dropped out of high school, cousins that have several failed businesses, an uncle who thought going down a mountain road in neutral the entire time was a good idea, and several of his friends who, to be fair, I have not met. He also thinks I'm a smart person, which at this point feels like an insult coming from him. For reference this is the same brother who told me that the only four categories of job that actually exist are "scientist, artist, writer, and customer service"
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Feb 23, 2018 23:37
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- Bunni-kat
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Service Desk B-b-bunny...
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the only four categories of job that actually exist are "scientist, artist, writer, and customer service"
A writer is an artist who uses words as their medium. I suppose you could boil everything down to those if you really tried, squinted, tilted your head, and drank a bunch.
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Feb 23, 2018 23:39
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- Peaceful Anarchy
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sXe
I am the math man.
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Every job is customer service if you think about it. If someone's paying you then you have a customer who you're serving, if not then it's not a job.
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Feb 23, 2018 23:50
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- I Was The Fury
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Always stop to smell the flowers, just in case they're weeds
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Every job is customer service if you think about it. If someone's paying you then you have a customer who you're serving, if not then it's not a job.
Thanks you for putting more thought into my brother's drunken rambling than he did.
Every job is also scientist if you think about it because a scientists job is to learn new things and people learn something new every day
"[30/F posted: straight single woman, scientist with a PhD, fawning shamelessly over artists"]
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[30/F] straight single woman, scientist with a PhD, fawning shamelessly over artists
u/sciartlover
So, I feel like I'm sitting in a therapists office typing this out. I have been attracted to artist types (musicians, writers, poets, painters, dancers, actors, filmmakers...) since I was a teenager. I was an overachiever for my entire life and while I have dated my fair share of overachievers, there is something about artists that I can't help but be drawn to over and over again. I have certainly dated some artists too, and though it has not worked out for other reasons (jobs, moving, differences over relationship styles, view on marriage etc.), I continue to be romantically attracted to them in a way that I cannot be attracted to my scientist, or even social scientist peers.
I just finished a PhD in immunology and I have started my job as a postdoc in a large city with lots of culture. I am beginning to think about what I want in my next long term relationship (I am really getting into that time in my life when I do want a life partner), and it seems that I keep coming back to the traits of sensitivity, creativity and organized unpredictability that I seemed to have admired in my old boyfriends. At the same time, I realize that for professional artists and professional scientists, lifestyles may be quite different depending on what they do. I am in and out of town often for research and conferences, and I am aware anyone else maybe operating on a completely different schedule, and this makes dating in general, quite challenging.
Anyway, just wondering, anything from anecdotes to personal views, would the average professional artist (define that as you will) want to date someone like me? I don't let my job define me, and I have a committed interest in the arts (I paint and do Irish dancing), and I really want to experience a mutually-enriching and fulfilling serious relationship with an artist, but I often worry that there is not much I can offer in the relationship (beyond my amazing self, emotional support, strong interest in the arts) that make for common interests and shared experiences.
tl;dr: Would people in artistic professions want a serious relationship with someone like me, who is an overachiever since high school and is currently working as a research chemist? If so, how would one sustain such a relationship?
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Feb 23, 2018 23:53
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- Earwicker
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If someone's paying you then you have a customer who you're serving, if not then it's not a job.
government jobs exist, and taxpayers aren't customers.
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- I Was The Fury
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government jobs exist, and taxpayers aren't customers.
Con artists are still artists
So how many times have we seen some goon pine over his cute coworker?
"I [23f posted: really like a coworker [23m] but can't tell if he's just friendly"]
I started at a new job in june, 300 miles from home. This job is basically like winning the research assistant lottery---very good working enivronment, prestigious institution, many grants, etc. And on my very first day, during a group orientation, a cute guy approached me afterwards because he saw my nametag and realized we were co-workers (he had started in the department a week before me since I was moving.
So it's been a few months now, and we are pretty friendly. While some of that is because we do work on the same study, our predecessors did not interact a whole lot. A lot of the things we choose to do together are because we want to work on them together, not because we actually have to. We will often stay late to work on little projects we've come up with to improve the study, or to take an appointment with a participant who can't come in during working hours, etc. We eat lunch together almost every day, Usually with a couple of other coworkers, and sometimes just us. Sometimes we get dinner, too, just us.
Here's the "I think he likes me" list: -the obvious one is that he clearly likes to spend time with me even when he doesn't need to. He'll send me jokey emails from his office next to mine or have me over to watch a music video, etc. Usually just me.
-this is an intangible one, but I feel like we've just had great chemistry from that orientation day. I remember being in the train with him afterwards thinking "dang, we just click"
-he does text me out of hours about random stuff not related to work several times per week
the other day when we were out to dinner, he started asking me personal stuff. Nothing uncomfortable, but the "what do you want to do with your life" stuff...it's not like this never comes up, but the only other research assistant to do that so far has been my office mate. It felt nice.
The "maybe not tho" list: - The obvious one is maybe he is just a friendly guy. They exist.
-his body language is hard to read. Most of the guys I dated in the past were at least a little touchy when flirting, but he's definitely not like that, I'm sure partly because we are at work a lot of the time, but even so...it makes it hard for me to get a good read on his level of interest.
So the big question is, is it worth pursuing? And if yes, what kinds of things could I say/do to get a better idea of how he's feeling? Trying not to make this too awkward since we do work together.
Tl;dr Pls help me figure out if this boy I work with might like me.
Thanks!
And the update:
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Hey! This didn't get a ton of attention or anything but I'm updating anyways.
/r/relationships/comments/54tq2d/i_23f_really_like_a_coworker_23m_but_cant_tell_if/
Original post above! Tl;dr my cute coworker and me, wasn't sure if he liked me and if it was appropriate to ask him.
So over time I still liked him but had moved out of the intense crush phase. It didn't seem like he was interested. It made me a little sad, but wasn't devastating or anything. Still would have been over the moon if he had just spontaneously asked me out, but it wasn't as much on my mind anymore.
So we were hanging out and talking about another coworker/friend, who just started officially dating a guy she had been casually seeing. (Not trash talk, just like "wonder how it's going!") I had already told him about my past relationship, and he had alluded to dating people in the past but very much in passing and with an air of not wanting to elaborate, so I hadn't asked. But we are fairly close friends now, so I figured I'd ask him directly since I felt sure he would just tell me if he didn't want to talk about it.
To my surprise, he's actually dating a "friend" from college he's told me about in the past (i actually met him once at a lecture we went to after work)! The only reason I say I'm surprised was that for some reason I thought my coworker had said that this friend had a girlfriend. But it turned out I had just gotten confused about which friend he was talking about. But the second he said it, everything made much more sense. He and the friend (actually boyfriend!) went to lunch every now and then during the workday since we all work near each other...I thought it was sweet that they had such a tight friendship but it's even cuter now that I know they just have a really close relationship!
I'll admit there was a part of me that was a tiny bit sad when he first told me, but I'm being totally honest when I say that that only lasted for a moment. I'm queer as well, so we had a really good heart to heart (he had pinged my "gaydar" as being queer, but wasn't sure if he was bi or whatnot), and honestly I feel like we're closer now than ever now, but with none of those butterflies in my stomach from earlier, just really honest friendship.
Also, we have another gay coworker and friend who is very flamboyant and we are planning on trolling him by telling him he no longer has the gayest study in this lab (we're scientists). His face will be amazing.
Tl;dr he's gay and in a really cute relationship, and we are bros
EDITED: fixed some typos/minor grammatical errors for clarity.
Also, I truly did not expect this level of response! My original post had a couple of comments, but I wanted to share this anyway, since it's interesting that this is one of those times when I had a sudden paradigm shift, and also an example of a situation not ending in a "good" way (ie, oh he likes me and we're dating!), but in a way that's actually somehow better (great bonding moment with a friend). I'm touched so many of you have responded to this with your stories and support. Thanks!
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