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small bird pudding posted:Not your lawyer, this is not legal advice, etc., but the main thing that would give me pause if I were signing this myself and actually read it first is that they only carve out claims that are the sole responsibility of the hotel's negligence or willful misconduct, so if you and the hotel are both negligent it's theoretically all on you. Worse, if it is partly the hotel's fault and partly my guest's fault it's all on me too. Bloody Cat Farm posted:I think insuring your event, which should only be a couple hundred dollars, would take care of any issues that may arise. Pretty sure insurance doesn't usually cover if you're found liable but not certain. Krysmphoenix posted:I mean, it seems common sense that the hotel isn't responsible for someone getting drunk and hurting themselves. The phrasing at the end there seems pretty clear that if the hotel does something wrong, they have to own to it. "Don't sue us for your mistakes" is one thing, insure us for ours is is something else. I like the venue and I'm going to see if I can get this struck. I'm not *super* worried but it's a nasty clause that wasn't present in my brother's contract. Mortabis fucked around with this message at 17:57 on Feb 23, 2018 |
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:I think insuring your event, which should only be a couple hundred dollars, would take care of any issues that may arise. My venue mandated that I got event insurance. Think it was like $200 or so? Maybe a little less.
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Mortabis posted:Worse, if it is partly the hotel's fault and partly my guest's fault it's all on me too. True, I was including your guests as part of you in terms of whose fault it could be. Was your brother's wedding at the same venue?
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Feb 23, 2018 18:01
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No, his was at a vineyard near Purcellville, Virginia. edit: update, the hotel removed the clause completely after I emailed so problem solved. Mortabis fucked around with this message at 19:12 on Feb 23, 2018 |
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Feb 23, 2018 18:26
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For those of you who did not have a DJ or band how do you feel things went without them? Did you rent a microphone in order to announce things? What did you do that worked or didn’t work? Still wondering if I should get a DJ or not.
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Feb 23, 2018 19:26
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:For those of you who did not have a DJ or band how do you feel things went without them? Did you rent a microphone in order to announce things? What did you do that worked or didn’t work? We did not have a DJ and it was great. We rented some equipment from guitar center for cheap and just plugged a microphone into it. My wife and I had a lot of fun putting together playlists for the wedding. We put a specific person in charge of the ipod during the wedding and didn't have any problems there. We put together specific playlists for the different parts of the reception and that made it easy for the girl in charge of the ipod to switch to the appropriate music when it was time. We're glad we did it this way because it was fun picking out music together and we got to have exactly the songs we wanted. It cost us like $150 total.
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Orthodox Rabbit posted:We did not have a DJ and it was great. We rented some equipment from guitar center for cheap and just plugged a microphone into it. My wife and I had a lot of fun putting together playlists for the wedding. We put a specific person in charge of the ipod during the wedding and didn't have any problems there. drat that’s way more reasonably priced than I had assumed renting the equipment would be. Also, good call on different playlists. I hadn’t thought of that.
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Feb 23, 2018 20:13
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Orthodox Rabbit posted:We did not have a DJ and it was great. We rented some equipment from guitar center for cheap and just plugged a microphone into it. My wife and I had a lot of fun putting together playlists for the wedding. We put a specific person in charge of the ipod during the wedding and didn't have any problems there. This is almost word for word what we did, except a friend of ours who is into music brought his laptop with an automated DJ program so that it transitioned between songs that were pre-set in a playlist. He also offered to rent the speakers/mic for us and set the up as his wedding gift to us, which was awesome so I have no idea what it cost.
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Feb 24, 2018 03:12
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Please tell me more about organising playlists! I know our first dance song and I know a few others I definitely want, but some tips on how best to actually organise things so the music goes smoothly would be much appreciated.
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Bollock Monkey posted:Please tell me more about organising playlists! I know our first dance song and I know a few others I definitely want, but some tips on how best to actually organise things so the music goes smoothly would be much appreciated. We broke ours out into: -Cocktail hour mingling music -Reception dinner eating music -Regular (old people) dancing music -Fun younger people dancing music as our larger playlists And then we had other songs in there for first dance, wedding party arrival, cake cutting, etc. Even if there was only one song for each of those instances, we put it in its own labeled playlist. So we could tell the girl in charge of the ipod, "hey we're doing the cake cutting soon, put on the Cake Cutting Playlist." We also cleared out every other song EXCEPT the wedding songs/playlists off the ipod so there was less chance of wrong music selection by our person in charge.
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Feb 28, 2018 22:28
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I high recommend picking up a bunch of glowsticks if you've got fun dancing music for later in the evening. We broke them out once we switched to that music. The sudden appearance of glowsticks completely revitalized everyone who had left the dance floor and got everyone out on it again.
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We started our playlist during dinner, just background stuff. When we heard a certain song, we knew the next one would be the first dance, so that was our cue to get ready. We did our first dance, and after that it was three dance songs and one slow song for the rest of the playlist. We had a really long classical piece for the cake cutting about 20 minutes after the first dance. I had a song for the bouquet throw but completely forgot to do it. Our total length was about three and a half hours on the ipod. We had the playlist backed up on my phone in case anything happened to the ipod. Once our playlist ran out, it was pretty late into the night, so most of the people left were close friends and family. People plugged in their phones and played whatever they wanted. I'm so glad we went this route. All we did was plug it in, push play, and we were set. The best part is that it was free.
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Feb 28, 2018 23:12
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I can’t understand why I can’t get any caterers to get back to me  what was the response time for caterers for the rest of you?
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:I can’t understand why I can’t get any caterers to get back to me Basically within a day. Are you filling out forms on people's websites? Leaving messages?
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Nephzinho posted:Basically within a day. Are you filling out forms on people's websites? Leaving messages? Forms on websites and emails. One caterer I was talking to (one of two that replied) stopped replying as well. It’s pretty odd.
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Mar 1, 2018 18:07
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Call them.
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I’ll give that a shot. Thank you.
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Mar 1, 2018 18:20
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I just called one of them. He seemed annoyed with my persistence but told me he’d send me an email with wedding info. Hopefully he does!
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Orthodox Rabbit posted:We broke ours out into: Once again, we did exactly the same thing. That way we didn’t have to time out exactly when things were happening ahead of time because you never know when something will run late or be a bit early. Separate playlists even for single songs is pretty foolproof.
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:I just called one of them. He seemed annoyed with my persistence but told me he’d send me an email with wedding info. Hopefully he does! This is baffling to me after having caterers/rentals/etc hounding me for a decision.
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Mar 1, 2018 23:03
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Nephzinho posted:This is baffling to me after having caterers/rentals/etc hounding me for a decision. I’m wondering if it’s either because it’s a small wedding, or if it’s because it’s in Vermont? Maybe both??
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Mar 1, 2018 23:58
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Yeah, caterers falling all over themselves to try to win a contract was the best part of wedding planning. Why yes, I will take another free 11 course tasting menu for two, thank you!
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Well we’re going to sample some caterers in April! Thank you for the advice on calling. It seems to have worked! Also, I ordered my wedding dress yesterday (!) and they measured me wearing 3.5” heels. I didn’t realize that the shoes I wanted were 4.5”. Do you think if I get them it’s going to look weird, or should I opt for 3.5” heels?
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Those dresses usually get done in multiple fittings, don't they? I assume the tailor will hem it to the right length after it arrives.
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Mortabis posted:Those dresses usually get done in multiple fittings, don't they? I assume the tailor will hem it to the right length after it arrives. I called and was able to get them to call the dressmaker to add another inch. They measured to the shorter heels and it would have been too short when it came in. So relieved...
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Koivunen posted:JFC that's like $125 per plate. That's super unreasonable unless there's some michelin star chef preparing it for you. There really is always pizza. I’ve bartended weddings where pizza was the main course, along with salad and it was loving *amazing. * Everyone loved the food. The couples used some local pizza places that did catering and were not your average pizza place poo poo at all. There’s also a timing thing to consider— weddings don’t have to be at night before dinner. We had ours at 7 at night and invited people for desserts, drinks and dancing and people gorged themselves on a ton of different kinds of sweets and drank like fish as well as danced their asses off. We asked guests to send us a list of their favorite dance songs so everyone could hear ‘ their’ song. We are doing a vow renewal in two more years and we will do the same things then, too. It’s the quality of time spent with friends that everyone remembers and cares about, not the money you spent.
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We did breakfast for dinner with an omelette bar. It was loving amazing and everyone loved it.
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We're having the hotel do the catering because we're prioritizing simplicity of planning over everything else. It's also doing all the decorating and everything. With all the stuff they're doing for us there's not that much left for us to do. It's amazing.
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Mortabis posted:We're having the hotel do the catering because we're prioritizing simplicity of planning over everything else. It's also doing all the decorating and everything. With all the stuff they're doing for us there's not that much left for us to do. It's amazing. Our venue (resort in Tahoe) gave us their recommended DJ/photog/florist/etc and catered it themselves, including all the decoration. They bundled the cost of everything together on one invoice and we only had to worry about tipping the other vendors. It was fantastic.
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Well, we confirmed our date for our Copenhagen city hall wedding and bought our plane tickets. Of course, now the photographer we spoke with before who said to let him know once we confirmed the date has gone MIA. We have time and it's the middle of the day on a Wednesday, but I want to get this poo poo locked down. Ugh.
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Mar 22, 2018 22:06
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Can you still have dancing and an open bar at a brunch wedding? I have to get married on a Sunday and everyone I’ve invited has told me they’ll be bored without an endless supply of booze and dancing music, so I am here to provide.
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Shnooks posted:Can you still have dancing and an open bar at a brunch wedding? I have to get married on a Sunday and everyone I’ve invited has told me they’ll be bored without an endless supply of booze and dancing music, so I am here to provide. You can do whatever you’d like at your wedding, including open bar and dancing. A mimosa station would be fun!
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:You can do whatever you’d like at your wedding, including open bar and dancing. A mimosa station would be fun! Yeah, that's what I was thinking! It's in January so all the tea, coffee, and alcohol you can put in there, and mimosas of course. And lots of snacks. Technically we're having a Jewish wedding and you're supposed to party hard, though my Rabbi seemed relieved when she learned we were incredibly chill.
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So, it begins: time to start looking into engagement ringses!  My lady is rather specific about what she likes, so there are a few questions here: 1. Is it still best bang-for-buck to buy a stone (from wherever those come from for a fair price) and then take that to a jeweler and have it put into a custom ring? 2. Do jewelers expect you to know wtf you want precisely? Because right now I have a Pinterest board filled with "rings she likes" and I'm trying to figure out how to translate that into instructions. In my head I'm hoping it's like tattoo artists, where I can bring in pictures and say "do something like this" - but tell me how I should go about this for best results, please and thank you. 3. Can someone post some super dope men's wedding bands? I have no idea what I want I just want to start thinking about it. 4. Is there a better thread for this?
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black.lion posted:So, it begins: time to start looking into engagement ringses! 1. yeah but if she isn't "real diamond or die" then get a "not diamond" or a moissanite or somesuch because diamonds are awful. 4. nope this is the right place
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Diamonds are fine, nothing wrong with diamonds, but if you can get away with a synthetic one that's good because they're cheaper and they have more consistently good cut. Getting a separate stone can be cheaper or it might not be. Some jewelers might be able to help you but the chain jewelry shops probably can't, and everyone will want to sell you what they have in stock. Anything particularly custom is going to add cost. Keep in mind if you wear something for 30 years the fashion of it is going to be out of date very soon so it doesn't matter.
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Thanks for the responses y'all! I want to get her a diamond just because, I don't know, this is the one part of "tradition" my stupid lizard brain really wants to adhere to. She's lovely and amazing and she deserves a real diamond to smack all her friends with who already have real diamonds. I'll do my best to get one that didn't originate with slavery or murder, but I mean I shop on amazon so my consumer ethics are pretty trash already. Mortabis posted:Getting a separate stone can be cheaper or it might not be. Where would I start, if I wanted to shop stones first and worry about metal around it second? How could I determine what a "reasonable" or "good" price is? I'm lost completely (obviously) but I'm drat determined to get a good deal, because that will be even MORE of a gift for her (she absolutely loves sales and coupons and the like, its almost a problem... but not yet so I'm encouraging and playing into it until it's pathological) Mortabis posted:Some jewelers might be able to help you but the chain jewelry shops probably can't, and everyone will want to sell you what they have in stock. Anything particularly custom is going to add cost. Keep in mind if you wear something for 30 years the fashion of it is going to be out of date very soon so it doesn't matter. I know custom will cost more, I'm not super attached to the idea if I can find something in her taste that a jeweler has in stock, but her tastes (in all aspects of life) are very narrow so my main concern is that she is happy; cost and convenience are secondary. She's not really a fashion-trend follower, she wants what she wants and I'm fairly confident that will never change (and I have no idea what current wedding ring trends are but if her tastes align with them, it's coincidence). So I guess my main question is, where do I go to just browse/buy a diamond at a non-inflated jewelry shop price? Alternatively, if I want to shop rings in stock already, do I check out local small jewelers and chat them up or...? The root of these posts is "How do I get what I/my bb wants without getting fleeced?"
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My fiancé got me a gorgeous moissanite engagement ring through brilliant earth. They also have vintage rings and ethically sourced diamond rings.
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Bloody Cat Farm posted:My fiancé got me a gorgeous moissanite engagement ring through brilliant earth. They also have vintage rings and ethically sourced diamond rings. Dope I will check them out for sure, thanks so much! PS I liked your name better before, this one makes me sad e: Can I assume that all the rings on Brilliant Earth are ethically-sourced diamonds? It seems like it but I just want to double-check before I start to feel good about not buying murderslave diamonds black.lion fucked around with this message at 21:37 on Mar 28, 2018 |
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black.lion posted:Dope I will check them out for sure, thanks so much! Haha the name preceded me. It was time for a change. As far as the diamonds, yes they all are.
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