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Aquaintence married a korean man. Turns out the wife of a Korean first born son gets the privilege of taking over making all the goddamn side dishes Koreans make for everything until her son marries and she gets to dump those responsibilities onto the new daughter in law. Now shes up 5am everyday doing 2-3 hours of food prep work because a spine is impossible.
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Do Americans just get a lot of practice rebelling in puberty / genetically lack filial piety or something? I like my in laws fine but I can’t imagine any reaction but telling them to gently caress off in a situation like that.
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loquacius posted:Man I would advise people not to get a PhD even if they were planning on using it
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andrew smash posted:Do Americans just get a lot of practice rebelling in puberty / genetically lack filial piety or something? I like my in laws fine but I can’t imagine any reaction but telling them to gently caress off in a situation like that. We just dont have consistent cultural practices regarding it and how it should be done so its hard to feel like society expects it of you and, in general, our dominant culture of white people have basically none. Also such burdens fall on women almost unilaterally so most men never find out about it
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A PhD basically advertises that you either don’t value yourself or you value yourself waaaayyyy too much.
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I’m so glad I’m just marrying into a moderately observant Jewish family after being raised in an environment of “atheists who think Christmas is awesome”. My in laws and I have talked about this multiple times and they know I’m not going to magically believe in god or anything, but that I enjoy and respect their traditions and want my future kids to have the best of all worlds and make up their minds later 
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Christmas owns gently caress the haters
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andrew smash posted:Do Americans just get a lot of practice rebelling in puberty / genetically lack filial piety or something? I like my in laws fine but I can’t imagine any reaction but telling them to gently caress off in a situation like that. yeah american cultural myths and narratives involve a lot of leaving your home to find your fortune aka your parents are not expected to be part of your life narrative necessarily that and a lot of the idea of "teen culture" in the west is an american cultural innovation so we commodified the aspect of sticking it to the man / your parents in a way that doesn't really exist elsewhere in the world
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Pick posted:Christmas owns gently caress the haters My mother in law specifically asked to come to my parents tree decorating event this year, because she loves Christmas like whoa while still keeping her kitchen kosher.
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Barudak posted:I worked at a place where the CEO had a meltdown infront of the entire company about how they didnt believe in work/life balance because work is life and I was gone about three weeks later Yeah, Tesla is hosed up.
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Bamabalacha posted:My mother in law specifically asked to come to my parents tree decorating event this year, because she loves Christmas like whoa while still keeping her kitchen kosher. This is a big thing in lots of Muslim countries too. When I went to North Cyprus I saw public Christmas tree displays right across the street from mosques.
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Just lol if your family is so lame as to stay in the same country for more than a generation at a time.Bamabalacha posted:My mother in law specifically asked to come to my parents tree decorating event this year, because she loves Christmas like whoa while still keeping her kitchen kosher. Include her by giving her a little Jewish themed tree ornament (star of David or a miniature multi-candle things) for her to put on the tree and she'll love you forever. Outrail fucked around with this message at 00:43 on Mar 8, 2018 |
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This is a really hot Jewtake here but I hate the phrase "Happy Holidays" because everyone always uses it as a Magic Inclusiveness Bullet and it's really not. The always, like, decorate something with like tinsel and holly and pine trees and mistletoe and nutcrackers and candy canes and Santa Claus and elves and sleighs and reindeer and nativity scenes and Baby Jesus and adult Jesus and Jesus dying on the cross, but it's ok, we didn't actually SAY Christmas so this covers everyone, everyone is included by this because we said "holidays," why are you complaining, you malcontent, shut up and get out of the way Don't piss up my leg and tell me it's raining, if you mean Merry Christmas just save me the headache and say Merry Christmas  A single pity dreidel in the corner may or may not make me feel any better
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Unironically, the religiously neutral American variant of Christmas is probably the best thing anybody living on this helacious continent has done since somebody added spicy peppers to their food.
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andrew smash posted:Do Americans just get a lot of practice rebelling in puberty / genetically lack filial piety or something? I like my in laws fine but I can’t imagine any reaction but telling them to gently caress off in a situation like that. Some cultures have totally different value systems, nothing genetic of course. But when it comes to totally not giving a poo poo about family america is probably #1 while a lot of asian cultures are the polar opposite but it doesn't stop idiots from blindly marrying in without discussing their partner's expectations. Do they expect you to become a slave to your new in-laws and have them move in with you? Do they have any insane and dangerous demands regarding any potential children's early childhood nutrition? Do they still have undue influence over your partner's career goals and lifestyle? How often will there be family visits and who will be paying? Will you be expected to "tithe" a portion of your income to send back to their parents, regardless of their need?
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loquacius posted:This is a really hot Jewtake here but I hate the phrase "Happy Holidays" what do you say to people as a greeting between dec 26 and new years tho
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boner confessor posted:what do you say to people as a greeting between dec 26 and new years tho Eyyy Im walkin over heeyeah!
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Outrail posted:Just lol if your family is so lame as to stay in the same country for more than a generation at a time. Lol, my disabled little brother actually did this. Everyone had a blast at the party, we ate a boatload of cookies in the shape of menorahs and Christmas trees and the moms got super hammered on martinis and talked about their favorite places to travel in Italy.
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loquacius posted:This is a really hot Jewtake here but I hate the phrase "Happy Holidays" When I was growing up in Massachusetts in the 70s it was understood to mean Christmas, New Year's, and Hanukah. Nowadays Fox News just uses it to help keep people outraged all year.
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boner confessor posted:what do you say to people as a greeting between dec 26 and new years tho Happy new year Alternatively happy December 27-30 by the Gregorian calendar
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loquacius posted:This is a really hot Jewtake here but I hate the phrase "Happy Holidays" I can't speak for everyone, but I don't use it as shorthand for Christmas. I just use it to avoid spending 2 minutes listing off Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and whatever holiday/s the person on the receiving end might observe.
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Are you disrespecting Kwanzaa? Because I had to do Kwanzaa against my will so you have to suffer too.
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TerminalSaint posted:I can't speak for everyone, but I don't use it as shorthand for Christmas. I just use it to avoid spending 2 minutes listing off Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and whatever holiday/s the person on the receiving end might observe. I use happy holidays when I don’t know the religion of the person I’m trying to be polite to, otherwise I get specific.
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Danaru posted:My mom (50F) said she was embarrassed by my (17F) aspirations and things have been weird since. This is insane even by economic standards because a skilled meteorology graduate is much more employable and has better job security than a dime-a-dozen law graduate. A meteorologist works more sane hours too!
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"Happy Holidays!" is great as a jew that celebrates Christmas. Just kidding, it's great because my facebook relatives are war on Christmas people and I can't stand it.
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It really depends on how one sided things are with parents that have all these expectations on their kids. My wife is super close with her family, but they are proportionally very helpful and generous. I like that we live near them because they've done a lot for us over the years and never lorded it over us.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:This is insane even by economic standards because a skilled meteorology graduate is much more employable and has better job security than a dime-a-dozen law graduate. A meteorologist works more sane hours too! You're putting the onus of sanity on the mother. Which is ironically insane.
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mllaneza posted:When I was growing up in Massachusetts in the 70s it was understood to mean Christmas, New Year's, and Hanukah. Nowadays Fox News just uses it to help keep people outraged all year. TerminalSaint posted:I can't speak for everyone, but I don't use it as shorthand for Christmas. I just use it to avoid spending 2 minutes listing off Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and whatever holiday/s the person on the receiving end might observe. Yeah this is what it's supposed to be, but it's always surrounded by signifiers for Christmas and nothing else If you have pictures of a Christmas tree, a menorah, a New Year's ball, and a turkey or whatever, then sure, but it sees a lot of use as a fig-leaf over Christmas poo poo Don't blow smoke up my rear end, either mean Happy Holidays or just say Merry Christmas Barudak posted:Eyyy Im walkin over heeyeah! that's New York not Boston boner confessor posted:what do you say to people as a greeting between dec 26 and new years tho "Happy New Year" works fine for that time-frame or y'know "hi"
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TerminalSaint posted:I can't speak for everyone, but I don't use it as shorthand for Christmas. I just use it to avoid spending 2 minutes listing off Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and whatever holiday/s the person on the receiving end might observe. Same here, because in all honesty - it doesn't loving matter. People are gonna be pedantic twats that get upset or offended at the slightest little thing and I love annoying them. It's such a stupid, insignificant thing for anyone to get mad about and it's hilarious watching people freak out about it.
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BOOTY-ADE posted:Same here, because in all honesty - it doesn't loving matter. People are gonna be pedantic twats that get upset or offended at the slightest little thing and I love annoying them. It's such a stupid, insignificant thing for anyone to get mad about and it's hilarious watching people freak out about it. I'm just mad because of the dishonesty, it feels condescending Like, I'm used to people saying "happy <thing you don't celebrate>", I'm Jewish. I just feel my intelligence is insulted by this one. Outrail posted:a miniature multi-candle things c'mon man
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loquacius posted:I'm just mad because of the dishonesty, it feels condescending You know what I mean and it was quicker than googling it. I don't know of a single Jewish person in my town and the jewish summer camp I worked at was over a decade ago. Why would I remember the name for a fancy candle stick? E: Actually, in town I know of one catholic and no practicing Christians. Noone gives a gently caress about religion unless there's presents and there's no presents under the candlestickthat I know of. Outrail fucked around with this message at 03:21 on Mar 8, 2018 |
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boner confessor posted:1998 in pc gaming: Jesus that was a good year. I didn’t realize all those were the same year.
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Christmas is great. poo poo, I'm a Muslim and I go to my family Christmas and participate. I'm lucky to live in the US where it is possible to do an almost entirely secular Christmas. Also, I love this thread because it enables me to avoid reading the actual Reddit sub to find good reading material for the bathroom at work. Usually I'm too far behind to comment on things in a relevant fashion though 
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My [29M] girlfriend [27F] is a middle school teacher. I think she may be involved in some bullying. What can I do?quote:I can't go to anyone in real life with this issue because I'm scared of word spreading before I know exactly what to do. Teacher GF is now enamored with being one of the cool kids and will act monstrously to remain one.
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BOOTY-ADE posted:Same here, because in all honesty - it doesn't loving matter. People are gonna be pedantic twats that get upset or offended at the slightest little thing and I love annoying them. It's such a stupid, insignificant thing for anyone to get mad about and it's hilarious watching people freak out about it.
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [29M] girlfriend [27F] is a middle school teacher. I think she may be involved in some bullying. What can I do? Cut off a chunk of her hair while she's sleeping. Ask her if she likes her new haircut. It's basically suicide by cop/breakup by angry girlfriend but yeah she dumb not to see she's being a bitch.
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My [29M] girlfriend [28F] of 3 years is obsessed with becoming an Instagram Travel Inspo model, it's wearing me outquote:My GF has always liked travel (vacations twice a year, regular touristy stuff, etc.) but recently she's nosedived into the idea of becoming a professional Instagram travel "Influencer." She's now even considering buying hundreds of dollars in ads to promote her online brand and has offhandedly mentioned quitting her job to spend more time insta-blogging/taking pics.
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