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John Wick of Dogs
Mar 4, 2017

A real hellraiser


"I just want to feel less alone right now, how do I cope?" Sounds suspiciously like "I've decided to cheat, how do I internally justify this?"

Please note I'm not saying this because it's a woman, I'm saying this because it's an r/relationship post.

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Lone Goat
Apr 16, 2003

When life gives you lemons, suplex those lemons.




DACK FAYDEN posted:

galaxy brain meme: responding to maskenfreheit's rereg and calling him maskenfreiheit style

actually dying laughing at this 100% accurate callout

Congratulations to ArbitraryC for being right for the first time ever and yet still managing to be completely wrong.

value-brand cereal
May 2, 2008

Lone Goat posted:

Congratulations to ArbitraryC for being right for the first time ever and yet still managing to be completely wrong.

Please! Outing peoples alt account is the exact same as doxxing. Now caganer maskinfrigt will send Lowtax another email about this.

zakharov
Nov 30, 2002

:kimchi: Tater Love :kimchi:

Laurenz posted:

I hate it when people do that. It's not bad to "kink-shame" if your kink/fetish is hosed up.

You're both getting mad at something that hasn't happened.

Caganer
Feb 15, 2018
My “enemy” (21/F) cared for me (21/F) after being drugged and protected me from a creep


quote:

I live in a midsized town where everyone knows everyone. I’m going to college about a half hour away, but I still hang around town most days because I have friends there and I live at home still. This one girl, Mary, decided to stick around too. I don’t get along with Mary, at all. We would fight all the time. I felt she was too standoffish and rude, she felt I was a complete phony and immoral. Mary was a lot more public with her feelings, whereas I tried to hide things to keep in everyone’s good graces which ended up just letting things get bottled up. We’d always clash over things in class- I’d get upset about how open she was about something I thought shouldn’t be talked about, she’d be upset with me for saying I didn’t agree, and we’d just fight. Anyways, we got kind of nasty in high school and have never truly been friendly with one another. It’s just really stupid and it’s always been best for us to keep away from each other. I know I was awful, but I know she was just as bad. We did equally stupid and awful things, but anyways.

On Saturday night, Mary threw a party at her place and our mutual friends told me to come. They didn’t tell me it was Mary’s party until we pulled up and I could see it was clearly Mary’s house. I stayed anyways, and say really little of her. I had some drinks, hung out, and then I started to feel really weird. Like, I just got really dizzy and I started to feel so exhausted like I couldn’t stand up. This guy I went to high school with asked if I was okay, I said I wasn’t, and he took me to Mary’s room. I passed out at some point, and I swear I don’t remember anything else. All I remember is when I first woke up, I felt really sick and Mary was right next to me. I was tucked into her bed, and my hair was braided. I started to throw up, and Mary just got my hair out of my face, rubbed my back, and put me back in bed. I didn’t want to argue because I felt like I knew exactly what happened and I didn’t want to seem ungrateful for her taking care of me. I fell asleep for a little while, and I kept waking up to throw up and be given water by Mary.

She was the nicest I’ve ever seen her. She didn’t say a word, just pulled my hair out of my face and passed me a glass of water. I was too tired to even hold the cup, so she’d do it for me. In the middle of the day on Sunday, Mary drove me home in complete silence and I didn’t even know what to say, so I just thanked her and went back to my house. My parents took me to the hospital and police station, and I’m just trying to recover at home as best I can. I still haven’t said anything else to Mary, and I feel like the worst person alive. One of my friends came to see me today, and told me that Mary had seen the guy that’d taken me to her room, and basically tore him off of me because he was trying to do some creepy poo poo. She’s this tiny little 5 foot tall girl that could get blown away if you blew hard enough in her direction, and she hit, bit, kicked, scratched, and did anything she could to get this skyscraper former QB off me. She did that all for me, and all I could say was “Thanks.”

I don’t know what to do. How do I repay her without coming off as fake or obligated? What do I say to her? How do I express the gratitude I feel in a way that doesn’t feel like appeasement? This is just so weird to me, I used to feel this bone-deep rage whenever her name was just mentioned and now all I want to do is cry and hug her. I feel so weird, like I owe it to her to be her friend? I don’t know. I’m so confused. Advice is welcome from all angles, please.

TL;DR: My “enemy” defended me from being abused and cared for me after being drugged.

dog nougat
Apr 8, 2009

Caganer posted:

My “enemy” (21/F) cared for me (21/F) after being drugged and protected me from a creep

Mary sounds rad af.

:unsmith:

Caganer
Feb 15, 2018
My [18F] LDR boyfriend [20M] got doxxed on 4chan, thinks it's me, completely ignores me

quote:

Like two days ago me and my LDR BF (We've been going out for 4 years) got into some silly arguement over girls sending him "romantic" gifts, but thats another story so he blocked me.

I thought he would calm down tomorrow so I just went to bed and thought everything was gonna be OK tomorrow.

Wrong.

Someone, I'm assuming on 4chan, has doxxed my BF during the night and leaked important information like his name, his Skype and house address, what state he lives in, and added some fake information like saying they had a scat/sissification/pee fetishes. Which I know isn't true, he's just a chubby chaser. I don't know what board this was posted on. It was posted pretty closely at the time I went to bed.

He posted a pic of the dox on Twitter cursing me out and probably blocked me there too, because whenever I try and talk to him he just ignores me and goes back to talking about E3 and the dox. I've tried telling him it wasn't me because I don't browse 4chan, in fact I don't go on any other imageboards besides really small ones like Uboachan and lolcow.farm...and they both don't have an orange colorscheme? Plus he knows I take privacy very seriously, I go overboard with it sometimes. I NEVER tell people my Skype or any other thingy and I make sure he does the same.

But he just keeps calling me immature, a whore, etc and that our relationship is over. Ouch, way to dump me without even telling me in private, JUST TELL THE WHOLE ENTIRE INTERNET.

I'm scared, I'm really scared, I don't know what Anonymous posters did with that information, I don't want people coming to his house or ordering illegal stuff and sending it there to get him arrested or something. I don't know why he thinks it's me. C-Can you call the police over this stuff?! He didn't even post a full screencap of the site, just the one post, so I can't tell which board it was but he won't even tell me...

If it wasn't me, maybe it was one of his friends? He has some really...mean "friends" who always argue with him and stuff. Or maybe it was one of the girls who sent him something? I really don't know...but he really thinks its me. It's not. I'm so scared.

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

Laurenz posted:

I hate it when people do that. It's not bad to "kink-shame" if your kink/fetish is hosed up.

those guys are all pedophiles and dogfuckers

John Wick of Dogs
Mar 4, 2017

A real hellraiser


Caganer posted:

My [18F] LDR boyfriend [20M] got doxxed on 4chan, thinks it's me, completely ignores me

He probably has multiple LDR's, does in fact have those fetishes but only manifests it with a different LDR, and that's the one who doxxed him. I mean you were already having an argument where he apparently received "anonymous" gifts from other women?

Theophany
Jul 22, 2014

SUCCHIAMI IL MIO CAZZO DA DIETRO, RANA RAGAZZO



2022 FIA Formula 1 WDC

zakharov posted:

You're both getting mad at something that hasn't happened.

Have you read like 80% of the posts in this thread?

Bored
Jul 26, 2007

Dude, ix-nay on the oice-vay.

Caganer posted:

My [18F] LDR boyfriend [20M] got doxxed on 4chan, thinks it's me, completely ignores me

If it wasn't me....

She doesn't know?

Nazzadan
Jun 22, 2016



Refreshed recent and got this hot steaming plate of yikes
I [20/f] have a problem with black girls having sex with white guys, how should I get over this?

quote:

I'm a white girl and it's always made me sick when I see a black girl with a white guy. I've been taught to never be with a guy that's been with a black girl before because I've been told they're gross after being with them. I don't know what to do. I tried watching black girl/white guy porn and it literally are me feels I know. I feel like I could never have sex with a guy after he's had sex with a black girl. I feel like it does something to them.

I want to get over this but I can't seem to. Can you give my some advice? It's literally messing with me. I'm not jealous or anything, I just feel like it makes them marked or something. Or maybe they wouldn't be into white girls if they've been with black girls.

Tl;dr: black women and white guys


At least she's...trying to get over it?

Caganer
Feb 15, 2018

Nazzadan posted:

Refreshed recent and got this hot steaming plate of yikes
I [20/f] have a problem with black girls having sex with white guys, how should I get over this?


At least she's...trying to get over it?

by gross she probably means "wants sex other than in the missionary position with the lights off while she lies completely still"

Bunni-kat
May 25, 2010

Service Desk B-b-bunny...
How can-ca-caaaaan I
help-p-p-p you?

Nazzadan posted:

Refreshed recent and got this hot steaming plate of yikes
I [20/f] have a problem with black girls having sex with white guys, how should I get over this?


At least she's...trying to get over it?

Literally "get therapy." That feels pathological at that point.

John Wick of Dogs
Mar 4, 2017

A real hellraiser


Nazzadan posted:

Refreshed recent and got this hot steaming plate of yikes
I [20/f] have a problem with black girls having sex with white guys, how should I get over this?


At least she's...trying to get over it?

She in fact can't sleep with white guys who have been with black girls, because, reportedly, they never go back

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

Caganer posted:

by gross she probably means "wants sex other than in the missionary position with the lights off while she lies completely still"

i think it's pretty transparently 'help Reddit I was raised by the Klan' without much more philosophy behind it

Al Borland Corp. posted:

She in fact can't sleep with white guys who have been with black girls, because, reportedly, they never go back

ahahaha

dudeness
Mar 5, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
Fallen Rib
Porn cures racism.

Meme Poker Party
Sep 1, 2006

by Azathoth
Tl;dr: black women and white guys

Rubellavator
Aug 16, 2007

Watching interracial porn is probably the last thing I'd recommend to her for dealing with that

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Nazzadan posted:

Refreshed recent and got this hot steaming plate of yikes
I [20/f] have a problem with black girls having sex with white guys, how should I get over this?


At least she's...trying to get over it?

Just sleep with some black women do i have to do everything around here yeesh!

Meme Poker Party
Sep 1, 2006

by Azathoth
How does she feel about black guys with white girls????

Rubellavator
Aug 16, 2007

Seriously, Interracial porn is basically sexy racism

Nazzadan
Jun 22, 2016



Rubellavator posted:

Watching interracial porn is probably the last thing I'd recommend to her for dealing with that

"The thought of this grosses me out. Lemme just...watch it in high def with multiple angles..."

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Rubellavator posted:

Watching interracial porn is probably the last thing I'd recommend to her for dealing with that

I think most of the really gross race-fetish poo poo with intensely racist undertones is usually the other way around (meaning white girls and black dudes), whereas there's plenty of "mainstream" porn that just happens to star a black woman and one of the same five white guys that are in every porn

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

dudeness posted:

Porn cures racism.

porn is also pretty racist, there's a whole genre around treating black men like sex crazed animals

Meme Poker Party
Sep 1, 2006

by Azathoth
I recommend she has a threesome with a white guy and a black girl.

Nazzadan
Jun 22, 2016



There's a recent efukt video that his hilariously and grossly racist about a neo-nazi woman cucking her neo-nazi husband who is falling out of the lifestyle and after loving the black dude they go out to burn a church together. It was quite the experience.

And now for some horrid Reddit-fueled content
I [45M] have fallen for a fellow Redditor [30F] in less than 3 months; and we are both (happily) married.

quote:

I never thought I would be posting here. And I honestly am not sure (maybe I should be?) which way this advice is going to break, but here goes.

There is this lady. Yep, she's on Reddit. And, yep, she posts and puts herself out there. Online, she has an open-book extroverted personality. And she likes to express her exhibitionist side, so posts of her can be found sprinkled throughout some gone wild subreddits.

No, I will not reveal who this is, so please don't bother to ask.

I don't often browse gone wild subs. I'm a happily married middle-aged man, after all. But I do take a gander every so often when I'm bored and need to kill a few minutes. It's something I've aged out of, quite frankly. That doesn't mean that I don't envy you youngsters these days and your ability to just go browse consensual amateur nudes whenever you feel like it. I would of been an absolute mess had all this been around when I was a teenager. But I digress.

So I'm just browsing around one day in the recent past. No big deal: just lazily clicking through posts to see what's there. And I saw her post. And I stopped. I stopped cold. And that was it for any further browsing around that day (or since). Because then I found myself looking through her post history. And the more I saw, the more I liked (I'm not just talking the nudes; come on guys -- need advice here!). She seemed, frankly, incredible to me in a way that I didn't even know existed. Something just clicked; something foundational.

So what did I do? I sent her a private message, of course, a couple of hours later! This from the guy who rarely browses gone wild subreddits anyway and who NEVER writes someone on there (never even thinks to). But I just decided to just fire off a message to her. Why? I don't know. I just felt compelled to, I guess. I felt like reaching out and speaking some words to her. And, guys? Please do not now go inundate all the ladies in gone wild subs with your PMs because of this. My intention here is NOT to turn all of you into little Jim Careys ("So you're telling me there's a chance!").

And I'll be damned if my message wasn't the exact message that she needed to hear at the exact moment she needed to hear it. I wasn't expecting that. I wasn't expecting to ever hear from her at all. I had no expectation for such a response. But she immediately wrote me back. She was very complimentary of what I wrote, and absolutely wanted to chat a bit before moving on. Because, you know, I wrote something that deserved more than just the typical snarky sexual banter that passes for conversation on gone wild posts. I spoke to her and she responded to my words. They reached her, I suppose you could say.

That less than three months ago.

We haven't stopped talking since.

We haven't even slowed down.

And here's the cliche: this girl has single-handedly jump started a full on mid-life crisis within me that I didn't think was possible. I love my wife. We don't even have 'issues'. This isn't about my wife at all. I knew drat well about mid-life crises and honestly thought I got off lucky without it ever being an issue for me.

And she has always maintained that she feels the same way about her husband. She loves him. No real issues. Now he does know that she posts. They have that kind of relationship. In other words, I honestly am buying the happily married stance on her part. But he doesn't know about this, about what's been transpiring between us.

And I do get it. If I'm out browsing a gone wild subreddit, how good can my marriage be, right? Well, I'm an adult, and I honestly am not looking out there regularly nor even out of disrespect for my wife. I wasn't lusting after these posts. It was just something novel and interesting to do occasionally and meant nothing anyway.

Until, like a bolt of lightning, it totally did.

Something something about getting burned when you play with fire, I suppose.

So now I (we) are headed toward something neither of us expected. And it's gonna be obvious, probably, for everyone reading.

My question is: which 'meant to be' wins? The one that has seen a lifetime of togetherness - a family and identity built around it? Or the one that can come in and relatively instantly challenge the first for the throne? I never would have thought there was even a discussion to this discussion. And suddenly...I don't think I really know anymore.

Do I owe myself the pursuit of happiness to the detriment of the feelings of others around me? It sounds so selfish (and lacks the empathy that comes with maturity) and so I'm inclined to just say "Hell no! Grow up!" But what even is this one short shot at life about if it isn't the opportunity to carve out a path of happiness for yourself? We only get one go at all this. That's weighing heavily on me at the moment (again, mid-life crisis mode).

We haven't met IRL yet. We aren't even physically close enough to any time soon either. The logistics of the situation is keeping both of us honest for the moment. And, yeah, I realize that many eyes are rolling right now about all of this. And added to it all, it's even kind of hard for me to really even internally label it an emotional affair (which I would consider more egregious than a physical one), since it's all online at this point and maybe somewhat illusive because of that. Maybe I'm just kidding myself there. Of course this is a full on emotional affair, right!?

We're both married. We both have kids. Mine are older (as am I). Hers are younger (as is she). This, if pursued, would certainly wreak the predictable havoc there. Now, of course, her thoughts have to be considered too. I'm not even trying to imply that she is ready to leave her husband. It's just something in the distance at the moment for both of us that seems to be creeping ever closer more and more quickly.

So how did I get here? What do I do? Am I to remain faithful no matter what? Or do I allow myself the luxury of pursuing a kind of happiness that I (we) didn't even know we needed not long ago?

I have a feeling that I'll get nothing but vitriol. But I'm hoping for some reasoned (and seasoned) responses that might lend credence to the 'shades of gray' aspect of this that I'm seeing at the moment. I can reason my way to the end all on my own if I'm just to consider this in black and white terms.

tldr: I've fallen for a wonderful lady here on reddit. We both have families. What should I do?


This comment sums it up best

quote:

This is really gross. I'm honestly just wrinkling my nose up in disgust the more I read. You sound remarkably immature for a 45 year old man. I mean, you're about to ruin your wife and kids' lives because you 'reached' a total stranger on an internet sub for naked pictures?

"This isn't about my wife at all." Except it absolutely loving is. Don't let yourself off the hook by pretending you're doing some harmless thing that is separate from her and doesn't affect her. You are consciously disregarding your wife every time you talk to this woman.

I've had pedicures last longer than you've been even TALKING to this woman. You haven't even met! You are receiving a carefully curated version of her.

Get your loving life together, dude.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS
Dec 22, 2005

GET LOSE, YOU CAN'T COMPARE WITH MY POWERS
*thinly veiled post about what kinds of porn I like and how many people of color are generally present*

John Wick of Dogs
Mar 4, 2017

A real hellraiser


loquacius posted:

I think most of the really gross race-fetish poo poo with intensely racist undertones is usually the other way around (meaning white girls and black dudes), whereas there's plenty of "mainstream" porn that just happens to star a black woman and one of the same five white guys that are in every porn

Oh you'd be wrong. It was a while back but there was the story of the black woman who found her white fiance was watching some really racist humiliation porn (like tons of it) and then tried to call her his slave and force her head down. She bit his dick, threw his engagement ring in the garbage and got the gently caress out, and all the white people she thought were her friends were trying to defend him and guilt get into giving him another chance.

Caganer
Feb 15, 2018
whenever someone pads the preamble to a lovely thing with a bunch of "evidence" that is not actually provable (i don't really go on these subs often etc) it usually means not only are they a scumbag, but they're a manipulative one who will reframe everything to minimize their agency.

i could respect if he's just like "I messaged a hot college girl and she's DTF. I feel an emotional connection, I'm going for it" but the incessant backpeddling is infuriating. Everyone does lovely stuff sometimes, but you need to own your badness.

Caganer
Feb 15, 2018
I mean come the gently caress on... "I never thought I would be posting here.""

Why not just write "dear penthouse"

Kuros
Sep 13, 2010

Oh look, the consequences of my prior actions are finally catching up to me.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

*thinly veiled post about what kinds of porn I like and how many people of color are generally present*

I prefer two to seventy-three green people in my porn.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

“Own Your Badness” was he name of the third Gruber brother’s self-help seminar.

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

Nazzadan posted:

My question is: which 'meant to be' wins? The one that has seen a lifetime of togetherness - a family and identity built around it? Or the one that can come in and relatively instantly challenge the first for the throne? I never would have thought there was even a discussion to this discussion. And suddenly...I don't think I really know anymore.

Do I owe myself the pursuit of happiness to the detriment of the feelings of others around me? It sounds so selfish (and lacks the empathy that comes with maturity) and so I'm inclined to just say "Hell no! Grow up!" But what even is this one short shot at life about if it isn't the opportunity to carve out a path of happiness for yourself? We only get one go at all this. That's weighing heavily on me at the moment (again, mid-life crisis mode).

lmao

"look, i've spent decades building a home and family life, but what if that isn't as worthy of my attention as a whimsical fantasy i just came up with that allows me to antagonize my own insecurities?"

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Nazzadan posted:

There's a recent efukt video that his hilariously and grossly racist about a neo-nazi woman cucking her neo-nazi husband who is falling out of the lifestyle and after loving the black dude they go out to burn a church together. It was quite the experience.

And now for some horrid Reddit-fueled content
I [45M] have fallen for a fellow Redditor [30F] in less than 3 months; and we are both (happily) married.


This comment sums it up best

Hope this fucker gets scammed out of all his money and his wife divorces him.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS
Dec 22, 2005

GET LOSE, YOU CAN'T COMPARE WITH MY POWERS
life in general is pretty unfortunately low on whimsy and sometimes when you strike a rich vein you gotta start prospecting

dudeness
Mar 5, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
Fallen Rib

boner confessor posted:

porn is also pretty racist, there's a whole genre around treating black men like sex crazed animals

I know, I was being facetious, I swear I'm not racist just unfunny.

Nazzadan posted:

I [45M] have fallen for a fellow Redditor [30F] in less than 3 months; and we are both (happily) married.

quote:

So what did I do? I sent her a private message, of course, a couple of hours later! This from the guy who rarely browses gone wild subreddits anyway and who NEVER writes someone on there (never even thinks to). But I just decided to just fire off a message to her. Why? I don't know. I just felt compelled to, I guess. I felt like reaching out and speaking some words to her. And, guys? Please do not now go inundate all the ladies in gone wild subs with your PMs because of this. My intention here is NOT to turn all of you into little Jim Careys ("So you're telling me there's a chance!").

Lol, I sent her a message, I have no idea why! This certainly isn't the exact outcome I was hoping for!

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

life in general is pretty unfortunately low on whimsy and sometimes when you strike a rich vein you gotta start prospecting

you pretty much have to get your whimsy out before you settle down with a big pile of Responsibilities, or you have to wait until you're old enough to be whimsical again, or at least restrict your whimsy intake to a level that wont detonate your family when you decide to swap out your identity like a teen pondering whether to go from punk to emo

Doggles
Apr 22, 2007

I [M23] Want to Date my Fiance (Together 2 years, Engaged 6 Months)[22]'s Sister [26]

quote:

I've always had a thing for older girls, but when i met my fiance that all changed. We had the most beautiful memories, traveling south america together, living in france for six months and are now settled in London, having just brought our first house. I earn good money in finance, while my fiance works as a chef.

My world got flipped upside down two months ago when I met my fiance's sister at a family dinner. Her working in finance too, we instantly clicked and began talking in detail about a recent company merger and were making predictions about how it would affect the industry. So I felt an instant connection, laughing my head off. During dinner we touched accidently a few times but i moved further away to stop it happening again. My fiance was delighted to see us getting on so well, given she is so close to her sister. All was well and good until here.

Well not everything, my fiance's relationship with me had a rough patch for a couple weeks, while she had a painkiller addiction. But she went to rehab and hasn't taken any since (that I know of?)...

Last weekend. As my fiance's mum's 60th birthday celebration we (my fiance's parents, sister, brother, brother's gf, my fiance and I) celebrated by going to a spa hotel for the weekend. Us lads played golf during the day while the girls got pappered. But during the evening we relaxed in the pool and spa.

An awkward situation arose while we were in the steam room, as my fiance left to go back to swimming, it was just me and her sister. She was leaning on my shoulder, we made eye contact for a few seconds, her hand brushes my thigh then we made out. I walked out as soon as this happened, knowing i had done something bad. Nothing has been said since and nobody but her and I know as far as I can tell... Though her brother saw me crying later that evening. He asked what was up and I got nervous and accidently said a friend had died, luckily he didn't press.

I know what I did was lovely, but I didn't do it lightly and I think I might love this girl. We've days talking while I've visited her family and we message most days. Until the kissing, it felt okay... Now I'm confused.

TLDR: made out with fiance's sister who I want to date. [1] Is there any way I can date her? [2] How do I end things with my fiance without causing her pain? [3] Any advice?

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Jeza
Feb 13, 2011

The cries of the dead are terrible indeed; you should try not to hear them.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

*thinly veiled post about what kinds of porn I like and how many people of color are generally present*

as with everything in life, the blacker the better

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