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Rent has been rising in German cities for a while now. A room in Berlin or Hamburg will cost you around 500 student or not.
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new phone who dis posted:There are other options for the brother like staying home and doing a JC for a year if he's feeling anxious that I would totally be behind, too. Yeah but that's not what the bro or family wants. The issue isn't him going to school, it's that he wants to build his independence off his sister's, and she does not want that. He is taking for granted that she would immediately do so for him as well, making it more awkward. new phone who dis posted:Teach the man to fish before he ends up living in your mom's basement smelling like one. If the teacher is willing. Not everyone wants to teach, not everyone is suited to it, and not everyone should be forced to 'for the greater good'. Forcing that can actually hurt everyone in the end and leave everybody starving and fishless and also angry. That's my point.
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StrangersInTheNight posted:If the teacher is willing. Not everyone wants to teach, not everyone is suited to it, and not everyone should be forced to 'for the greater good'. Forcing that can actually hurt everyone in the end and leave everybody starving and fishless and also angry. That's my point.
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My [22M] girlfriend [24F] of 6 years refuses to have a sexual relationship with mequote:Hello everyone,
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putrid aidsman posted:Should I [22/F] resign from new job because of insensitive question from boss [30s/M How many potatoes does it take to kill an Irishman? 0
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [22M] girlfriend [24F] of 6 years refuses to have a sexual relationship with me Break up with her, god drat After six years she's not ever gonna gently caress you, and you shouldn't feel guilty over wanting sex
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [22M] girlfriend [24F] of 6 years refuses to have a sexual relationship with me
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [22M] girlfriend [24F] of 6 years refuses to have a sexual relationship with me "Dear Internet, what do I do about this womanchild who I have been dating since I was a naive teenager but whom I have clearly outgrown? Please don't say I should break up with her and move on to someone else, that's out of the question. Soooo do I just resolve to never ever get laid for my entire life or" I skimmed through this and was like "where does this person live that they're running into so many people who are racist against the Irish for some reason" then I checked again, and was like, oh, England, ok makes sense anyway lol that the boss is Racist Marie Antoinette
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Remember when there was the guy who required threesomes and everyone was telling the woman "you knew the deal!!! you signed up for this!!!" Mostly though I just wanted to point out this quote:This is what they teach you in health class, right? Respect a girl's body and don't pressure her. quote:Now, this is obviously ridiculous, and she knows it. Anne Whateley fucked around with this message at 15:22 on Mar 13, 2018 |
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Edit: ^^^ No Anne, I remember like 2 people saying "you signed up for this." Everyone else was like "maybe she thought she'd be able to, but changed her mind, and it was FIVE YEARS so maybe he changed his!"Yawgmoth posted:If you have a child you should be suited to it or at least loving make an attempt at it, not foist the responsibility on others. That's the point. His point was that the sister shouldn't be the one doing it. The sister doesn't have a child. She's not foisting responsibility on to anyone, she's trying to avoid it being foisted on to her. Your comment comes across as antagonistic and completely unaware of the conversation going on.
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Anne Whateley posted:Remember when there was the guy who required threesomes and everyone was telling the woman "you knew the deal!!! you signed up for this!!!" Imagine being so into your gimmick of defending the woman all the time, always, that you give your unilateral support to the person who thinks it's normal to not have sex for six loving years and then starts crying and trying to make her boyfriend feel like poo poo because he asks if they can gently caress after going out for more than half a loving decade
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If she's afraid of getting pregnant even if she is using birth control, and has no religious hangups, abortion exists! It's this amazing ancient technology where you don't have to carry and give birth to a child if you don't want to!
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [22M] girlfriend [24F] of 6 years refuses to have a sexual relationship with me Girlfriend gay, so what?
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Blade Runner posted:Imagine being so into your gimmick of defending the woman all the time, always, that you give your unilateral support to the person who thinks it's normal to not have sex for six loving years and then starts crying and trying to make her boyfriend feel like poo poo because he asks if they can gently caress after going out for more than half a loving decade It's very interesting that you think crying is deliberate and manipulative though.
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Anne Whateley posted:Remember when there was the guy who required threesomes and everyone was telling the woman "you knew the deal!!! you signed up for this!!!" Once you're 24 years old and have been dating someone for six years, if you still don't want to have sex because it's scary and what if I get pregnant and start crying if your SO asks a question about it, I think it's officially a problem that needs to be addressed he needs to move on, and she needs a lot of therapy, and they can both have a normal life apart from each other Anne Whateley posted:I don't think it's normal, she doesn't think it's normal. I just said he should respect her, so step #1 could just look taking her feelings seriously, like "wow that's a lot to be afraid of, I'm sorry you're scared, what would make you feel better," etc., instead of having the attitude of "this is some absurd bullshit she's making up." it has been six years He's been patient enough
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [22M] girlfriend [24F] of 6 years refuses to have a sexual relationship with me I can guarantee that she's sleeping with every one else
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Anne Whateley posted:I don't think it's normal, she doesn't think it's normal. I just said he should respect her, so step #1 could just look like taking her feelings seriously, like "wow that's a lot to be afraid of, I'm sorry you're scared, what would make you feel better," etc., instead of having the attitude of "this is some absurd bullshit she's making up." Because guaranteed that contempt is coming through. Holy projection, batman
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loquacius posted:Once you're 24 years old and have been dating someone for six years, if you still don't want to have sex because it's scary and what if I get pregnant and start crying if your SO asks a question about it, I think it's officially a problem that needs to be addressed
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Anne Whateley posted:I don't think it's normal, she doesn't think it's normal. I just said he should respect her, so step #1 could just look like taking her feelings seriously, like "wow that's a lot to be afraid of, I'm sorry you're scared, what would make you feel better," etc., instead of having the attitude of "this is some absurd bullshit she's making up." Because guaranteed that contempt is coming through. No way in hell they haven’t had that conversation in SIX. YEARS.
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If he had any respect for himself hed walk away and never come back.
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Ride The Gravitron posted:I can guarantee that she's sleeping with every one else doubtful
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But Rocks Hurt Head posted:Holy projection, batman This might blow some minds, guys, but my first boyfriend was raised Catholic and still didn't believe in PIV outside of marriage. I agreed with that 0% but I respected it 100% for the years we were together. So my projection is perhaps not what you assume!!
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Anne Whateley posted:I don't think it's normal, she doesn't think it's normal. I just said he should respect her, so step #1 could just look like taking her feelings seriously, like "wow that's a lot to be afraid of, I'm sorry you're scared, what would make you feel better," etc., instead of having the attitude of "this is some absurd bullshit she's making up." Because guaranteed that contempt is coming through. Perhaps you mistook "years" to be "months" After six years, yes, this is some absurd bullshit and while she might have some actual mental illness, holy loving Christ is it crazy for you to say "well he should just approach it rationally" As though the only rational option wasn't to break up five years ago The crying is obviously deliberate and manipulative because everything about her entire approach to this is deliberative and manipulative. She asks leading questions, bluntly implies that they'll just never have sex, and then starts crying when he seems uncomfortable with that. I get that your gimmick is that the woman is always right, but come the gently caress on.
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Barudak posted:If he had any respect for himself hed walk away and never come back. If they break up, that dude is 100% going to marry the first girl he sleeps with.
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [22M] girlfriend [24F] of 6 years refuses to have a sexual relationship with me id just like to point out that this op's account name was "virginitykills" which made me laugh
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Anne Whateley posted:Yes? Sure? I disagreed with none of that. "Respect" doesn't mean "I do exactly what the other person says forever and never ask questions," it just means stuff like believing them about their feelings and acting like you're on the same team if you're dating. it has been six years with no movement on this whatsoever, how does that not suggest to you that he's been patient and supportive, and has reached the end of his rope after completing high school and college without experiencing sexual intimacy If she hasn't tried to work on her issues yet she's never going to.
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You can repeat it all you want, but that's not actually my gimmick. She seems legit scared. That doesn't mean he has to stay with her if he doesn't want, but no, crying is usually because you are a human who's sad, not because you're evil and manipulative.
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Anne Whateley posted:Which part is projection, because I literally quoted the part where he said it was absurd and didn't believe it. your boyfriend was a dweeb
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [22M] girlfriend [24F] of 6 years refuses to have a sexual relationship with me Let's go to the OP's comments quote:I thought about that but she wouldn’t be okay with it. She gets irritated if I do as much as text a girl. lol quote:Thank you for the clarification and the advice. I’ve asked her about it, and she says that she’s never masturbated before. I asked her if she ever feels horny or anything like it, and she said yes, but that she just “ignores it and goes to sleep”. She has also told me that she has self control over such things, whereas I do not. quote:You’re probably right. There have been times that I’ve found myself researching ways to artificially suppress libido, which just speaks to how ridiculous I’ve been quote:Interestingly, she once said just that. “If there was a way there could be a 0% chance of getting pregnant, I’d do it” quote:I guess one detail I can also add is that we don’t live together. Her parents won’t allow her to move out until she’s married. Not that this changes much, just thought it was useful to mention Oh there's the lede
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La Brea Carpet posted:My [22M] girlfriend [24F] of 6 years refuses to have a sexual relationship with me lmao if you've been in a relationship for 6 years and not had sex or been truly physically intimate at least once, you should definitely leave. especially as he was in this relationship exactly during the years when most people become sexually active and begin to have actual adult relationships.
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Anne Whateley posted:You can repeat it all you want, but that's not actually my gimmick. She seems legit scared. That doesn't mean he has to stay with her if he doesn't want, but no, crying is usually because you are a human who's sad, not because you're evil and manipulative. If after six years of having discussions on this you're still breaking down and crying over it it's officially no longer your SO's responsibility to deal with your hangups I don't think she's intentionally being manipulative, but I do think she's resisting the idea of personal growth as hard as she possibly can e: Like, in that threesome discussion you were talking about, I had to keep typing "a threesome is not what they had" in italics at Ham Sandwiches over and over, and I feel like I have to do the same thing with "six years" at you here
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I'm sorry, but I refuse to involve any form of intimacy or affection in my romantic relationships If you are unwilling to deal with that then you are disrespecting me
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But Rocks Hurt Head posted:Oh there's the lede This is why I'll never understand why the idea of monastic life has gone out of style. Some people just need to live in the woods and pollinate pea plants to their heart's content.
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Whorelord posted:your boyfriend was a dweeb anyway here's what I'm saying: - she's probably legit scared rather than legit evil - IF he wants to stay with her and hope to progress, he should take her feelings seriously That's it, that's pretty much all. I did not say he's required to be locked with her in a sexless marriage for the next 70 years.
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You'd think it was the definition of respect that he spent six years in a sexless relationship and is still willing to tread on eggshells and attempt to help her overcome her issues rather than just leaving. He said the reasons were absurd biologically, and that she recognises them as such as a biology student. There's literally nothing wrong with calling fear of getting an STD from a virgin absurd, not only because he could easily get tested also.
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The pregnancy thing is 100% a justification covering up some deeper issues, otherwise she'd at least be down for hand stuff, and her parents unquestionably did a loving number on her, but that's for her to figure out with a therapist while he's spending his 20s getting laid as God intended
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Folks she isn't allowed to move out of the house until she's married. At 24 years old.
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loquacius posted:If after six years of having discussions on this you're still breaking down and crying over it it's officially no longer your SO's responsibility to deal with your hangups quote:She has also told me that she has self control over such things, whereas I do not. lol she's hosed up in the head
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You can't get pregnant from mutual masturbation or oral, but they haven't done that either.
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