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Gumbel2Gumbel posted:The border collie was also a lovely dog. The dad is lovely. The girlfriend is also dumb. Everyone in this story is loving awful. The dad is dumb as poo poo for having an untrained border collie in the loving suburbs without anywhere near adequate stimulation that the breed needs to not be spastic crazy horses, but OP aggressively commanded his poorly trained pitbull to defend him and was proud that he almost murdered another dog. Girlfriend's dad is your typical minor run-of-the-mill idiot, OP is a loving moron rear end in a top hat borderline animal abuse cheerleader. You cannot compare.
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The official The Onion article of r/relationships https://www.theonion.com/love-me-love-my-violent-alcoholic-rages-1819583970
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girl pants posted:I [28 M] asked my wife [22 M/F] to read a book on negotiation & she told me to read Twilight. like others have said, this guy obviously didn't learn from the book bc she gave him a chance to close in and make a deal and he turned it down just read the twilight dude pretend it's teaching you grand new things about being a sensitive partner say you wanna name the next baby Renesmee she'll either step up or go nuts. either one's a resolution. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 19:05 on Apr 1, 2018 |
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StrangersInTheNight posted:since depression is a disease of connection, you're often looking for a reason to stay that isn't something that may feel hollow. you're looking for signs of real connection and so half-hearted connections (like well-meaning advice that doesn't hear your pain and just fobs your emotions off) can make you feel even lonelier and can push you further into the abyss This is from a million pages ago, but this is spot on. You, gentlegoon, Get It.
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Agrikk posted:This is from a million pages ago, but this is spot on. You, gentlegoon, Get It. I didn’t kill myself because I didn’t want to make my friends and family sad, so YMMV. Then again, that was my decision because nobody knew I was suicidal.
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Pvt.Scott posted:I didn’t kill myself because I didn’t want to make my friends and family sad, so YMMV. Then again, that was my decision because nobody knew I was suicidal. Depressed or not no one should ever be telling another person how to feel or why they should live. If you listen to a person and they talk about how much they value their family then go ahead and encourage that positivity, but even then it should be in a positive voice of "these people care for you and you care for them, find a way to make things better so you can all be better and happier together" not shaming or guilting a person for their thoughts with "If you kill yourself you'll make all these other people sad and that makes you a bad person". Also, preferably, it'll be contextualized to what the suicidal/depressed person is telling you, not generic platitudes. In other words StrangersInTheNight posted:loving BE there and LISTEN and don't give them lovely advice, that's how you help a depressed person. you don't have to try and fix them (please don't), you just have to try and be Present with them. That's all you have to do. it's amazing how few people get that.
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I really like poo poo pit owner's rationale of 'what if I got hurt, pay me $800.00'. The whole batch of them is stupid. If all it costs the girl is a vet bill, she should consider herself blessed and run.
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Actually depressed people tend to push you away so good loving luck with those standards Wow it’s like depressed people want impossible things from other people and passive aggressively attack them when those things don’t happen (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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depressed people can act in isolating destructive ways, but they also aren't a homogenous blob. I strongly agree with your previously stated thesis that depressed people need to take responsibility and initiative in breaking harmful cycles themselves and take ownership of those cycles, but I don't agree with the idea that a person is only "actually depressed" if they are unhelpable. What sort of criteria is that anyway? In general it seems like you are invested in having boxes you can slot people into so you can say they are both terrible and irredeemable. Off the top of my head I've seen you do it with men and with depressed people.
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Inescapable Duck posted:4E is loving great you grognard piece of poo poo, I bet you think Pathfinder is a good game is it not enough to have reprehensible politics, that you also must have unforgivable taste as well?
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Pick posted:Actually depressed people tend to push you away so good loving luck with those standards 
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:disagree, depressed people actually are a homogenous blob, we don't know where it came from or what it wants but its various humanoid pseudopoda seem to be chiefly occupied with sustaining the central mass through a steady supply of lovely fast food and Friends reruns. I recommend not getting between it and its goal, like with a mopey cosmic horror bear I'm a depressed person, but in my self-imposed exile from humanity I usually eat fruit, play The Witcher series, and watch Arrowverse shows while exercising, so...
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Pick: "Ugh depressed people should just get over it and stop annoying me with their baggage  "Also Pick: *Has literally never stopped dumping her Hugh related baggage onto SA for years, to the point that nearly everyone on the site knows the truck story by osmosis*
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Ocean Book posted:In general it seems like you are invested in having boxes you can slot people into so you can say they are both terrible and irredeemable. Off the top of my head I've seen you do it with men and with depressed people. Also anyone who is a sexual deviant, as defined by Pick.
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The only way I got out of depression was finding a psychiatrist who was willing to keep throwing different medication at me until something worked. Also, I would recommend that your pills doctor and your talk therapy person be different people. Getting the right pills helped me realise that the fact I felt worse after every talk therapy session was maybe not my fault.
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Pick shitposts; so what. More content! My [18F] mom [43F] has been cheating on my dad and actively involving me for years. I am at my wit's end. quote:My mom has been cheating on my dad for like their whole marriage and I've known since I was 8. My dad is not abusive or even a bad person or anything and he always is there for us. my mom is just immature and bored. Mom sucks; so what
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Pick posted:Actually depressed people tend to push you away so good loving luck with those standards
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Bogus Adventure posted:Pick shitposts; so what. EDIT: Like she's tried to tell her dad so just like. Stop doing stuff with mom.
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I feel like that's the biggest thing. Tell mom no.
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Bogus Adventure posted:Pick shitposts; so what. They have an open relationship.  and post everything on Facebook.
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Pick posted:Actually depressed people tend to push you away so good loving luck with those standards Did your mother force you to ritually torture an Eeyore plushie after she was done forcing you to mutilate the Quasimodo toy or something?
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Bogus Adventure posted:My [18F] mom [43F] has been cheating on my dad and actively involving me for years. I am at my wit's end. This girls dad told her in the politest way possible he doesnt care and that he pulls in constant strange and shes sitting here befuddled. Your parents just dont want you around while they gently caress an ever widening gyre of humanity, so do them a favore and get a life. Barudak fucked around with this message at 02:50 on Apr 2, 2018 |
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That girl has parents with a beach apartment, she should stfu and find a college near that apartment, change the locks so her mom can't gently caress on her bed and just ride it out. On the beach. Away from her family, who clearly do not give a gently caress who each other is loving and are probably confused as to why she cares. Oh no, I spent my 16th birthday on the beach with my boyfriend, oh the humanity.
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Me [19, F] with my boyfriend [32, m] of 2 years. Why did he get so mad at me? My boyfriend and I met via an online game 1.5 years ago. I was 18 and he was 30. We lived in different parts of the United States so after the initial 3 months of talking, he flew to my state and met me. He knew I was a virgin and so we did not have sex with each other until almost a year into our relationship because he did not want to pressure me. I also come from a conservative family where sex was not talked about much so having sex was a big deal to me. He is my first kiss, my first love, my first romantic everything in a lot of ways. Anyways, the first year, he flew out to see me every 3 months, and it was nice. I hid him from my parents/family since they would never be okay with me dating someone outside my religion/race. My friends knew about him, but it was just weird for all of us to hang out because (A) he is older and (B) he is of a different race and all my friends are dating someone within the same race. My boyfriend is also not very traditionally attractive and looks old (it took me a while to find him physically attractive after we initially met). Situation: This year, I have been making the effort to visit him and his family since I am exercising my independence as I get older. I am also trying to transfer from my community college to a really good state school where he lives currently. If I get into this university, I will be 1 hour away from him (versus 2000 miles). On my most recent trip, I was with him (he moved back with his parents since he was living abroad for a long time, and is helping them run their family business), and we were laying in his room talking and joking and laughing. He was touching my hair and face jokingly (kind of like poking) and was playfully wrestling with me. I thought everything was going fine until I touched his face playfully and within a few seconds, he completely went from 0 to 100. He snapped. He pushed my whole body off of him and yelled at me to "Get the gently caress off him." I did and I was so confused and I was like "what happened?" He started yelling at me saying that he couldn't believe I hit him like that and that I slapped him. Honestly, Reddit, I don't remember slapping him or hitting him or anything. We were playfully touching each other and joking around and there wasn't any malicious bone in my body. I would never think to use my hands on him. I have never done that before in my life with anyone. I kept asking what he was talking about and I became upset when I saw he was so upset at me because I didn't know what I had done. He got off the bed and I made the mistake of grabbing his hand and saying, "BOYFRIEND, please I am sorry, I didn't mean to do anything bad. Please don't go." He immediately grabbed the back of my head (hair) and whispered, "Shut the gently caress up or I will not hesitate to punch the poo poo out of your face." Now, no one, no one has EVER said anything like that to me. I froze and became quiet. He left the room and I fell to the floor shaking and sobbing as quietly as I could so his parents wouldn't hear me (their room was on the other side of the house). I had my stuffed animal that I brought with me on the trip in the room and I just grabbed that and sat holding him in the corner crying to myself. I missed my parents and my family so much in that moment and I felt so lovely for being here on this trip to see my boyfriend and they knew nothing about this. My boyfriend left the room and the house to do whatever and I spend the night in the room by myself. I finally ended up going to bed in the guest room (since his parents did not want us sleeping in the same room) and sleeping there. I woke up in the middle of the night to find that boyfriend had crawled into my bed and was touching me. I was so scared to say anything although I didn't want him to be touching me after that incident, but I didn't say anything so he proceeded to have sex with me. I felt so unloved and sad during this, but he didn't say anything to me and neither did I. It's now the next day and he is at work and I am the house by myself. I don't leave to go home for another 2 days. I don't know what to say or do. I love him so much, and he has been so good to me all this time but then again, last night was something that made me feel really bad. He didn't hit me or anything, so I guess it's not abusive, but I don't know why I feel so bad. I miss my family and I can't wait to be home in my own bed. Thanks for listening. td;lr: Boyfriend got upset because he said I hit him (I didn't mean to) and he threatened me and left me by myself to cry. I am stuck in another state for another 2-3 days and I don't know how to handle myself. I don't know why he got so mad at me. What can I do to make sure this doesn't happen again?
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:is it not enough to have reprehensible politics, that you also must have unforgivable taste as well? oh no, someone likes different nerd games to you 4E owns btw
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Ocean Book posted:depressed people can act in isolating destructive ways, but they also aren't a homogenous blob. I strongly agree with your previously stated thesis that depressed people need to take responsibility and initiative in breaking harmful cycles themselves and take ownership of those cycles, but I don't agree with the idea that a person is only "actually depressed" if they are unhelpable. What sort of criteria is that anyway? i like boxes and destroying boxes, like a mario. when i use my head (brain) on a box it goes "bwip" and i bash it until it dies and a mushroom (livelihood) comes out. video games are dangerous for children and have made me the monster i am today.
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Batterypowered7 posted:Did your mother force you to ritually torture an Eeyore plushie after she was done forcing you to mutilate the Quasimodo toy or something? kintsugi child
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and no but nice work on the both the quasimodo toy callback and also a reference to my mother's hatred of "winnie the pooh" and although i have no doubt she would have no truck with that mess of a donkey, i think she could at least respect his upfront despair (from a distance), as opposed to oblivious "social parasite" winnie, whose presence in the community is a sickness
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Pick posted:kintsugi child lol Write the book, people will buy it. Especially if it tells them they don't need to get therapy.
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SirSamVimes posted:oh no, someone likes different nerd games to you 4E is tons of fun for combat. It doesn't feel as flexible for roleplaying/social stuff as 3.X or 5E. Skill challenges loving ruled, though, and should be adopted by more systems.
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Pick posted:and no but nice work on the both the quasimodo toy callback and also a reference to my mother's hatred of "winnie the pooh" and although i have no doubt she would have no truck with that mess of a donkey, i think she could at least respect his upfront despair (from a distance), as opposed to oblivious "social parasite" winnie, whose presence in the community is a sickness who the gently caress hates winnie the pooh Bogus Adventure posted:4E is tons of fun for combat. It doesn't feel as flexible for roleplaying/social stuff as 3.X or 5E. Skill challenges loving ruled, though, and should be adopted by more systems. 3.x is literally worse than 4e for roleplaying and social stuff in every possible way
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My(32M), gf(29F), is lying to me about reading the books I recommended her.quote:u/HowdoIreddittellme Definitely confront her. This can only go well.
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Inescapable Duck posted:who the gently caress hates winnie the pooh literally my mom refers to him as a "social parasite" and he was Forbidden in our house he takes the Honey of his Friends but he does not have a Job
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i saw your edit and I understand entirely but i am still Burned and Owned by many times of trying to help people when they were depressed who treated me like crappo, who then when i was suicidally anorexic, did nothing or immediately cut me loose so it's like, life is hard
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girl pants posted:My(32M), gf(29F), is lying to me about reading the books I recommended her. She thought it was a bodice ripper but it turned out to be some stuffy nonfiction and gave up on reading it.
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Inescapable Duck posted:who the gently caress hates winnie the pooh How so? Pick posted:literally my mom refers to him as a "social parasite" and he was Forbidden in our house He has a job. He's Christopher Robin's personal carebear.
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Me [32F] with my husband [28M] of almost 6 years (together almost 10) - He doesn't like the books I read and fights with me about them...quote:u/LiftingMomma I hope the book series is Animorphs
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Bogus Adventure posted:He has a job. He's Christopher Robin's personal carebear. ... augh!
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