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His budget is overitemized. Or he should budget more for her and if he doesn't she should leave him.
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LadyPictureShow posted:My [23F] boyfriend [30M] has a relationship "budget." I can't seem to get over it. Just take half in the divorce 10 years from now.
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Apr 2, 2018 22:58
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LadyPictureShow posted:My [23F] boyfriend [30M] has a relationship "budget." I can't seem to get over it. Congrats on dating a living spreadsheet.
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Apr 2, 2018 23:01
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JaneError posted:Should I [27F] tell my Mum I hate fudge? How do I tell her? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TzYnlHZeSjw
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Apr 2, 2018 23:04
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Play posted:I get the strong feeling that there is a LOT more going on here. When presented from this dude's utterly clueless and near-autistic perspective, it almost seems like the wife is just as crazy as the mom and they have this kind of mutual grudge thing going on. quote:My mother stormed off and sent me a long text about how she is just trying to be friends with my wife but she hopes I see how it is not possible.
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Apr 2, 2018 23:06
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Peaceful Anarchy posted:Mother's been purposely antagonizing to break them up, it's buried among all the other stuff but he writes it right there no, the mom is super demanding and hovering and has no boundaries with her doormat son like from the get go mom is all "i'm going to be scrubbed up and in the delivery room when this kid comes" which, no, that is never going to happen and it's completely delusional she's not doing this deliberately, she's doing this because she is the center of the universe and the wife needs to get on board with tha
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Apr 2, 2018 23:24
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Boiled Water posted:It is 100% certain he subscribes to that penny pinching subreddit. He kinda comes off like one of those people that takes like fifty ketchup packets from a fast food place because ketchup doesn’t fit into his budget. boner confessor posted:no, the mom is super demanding and hovering and has no boundaries with her doormat son I feel like we’ve seen other stories of ‘MIL is former doula/L&D nurse/any ol’ nurse and goes nuclear when the guy’s wife tells her to gently caress off with her ‘expert’ opinion’ LadyPictureShow fucked around with this message at 23:27 on Apr 2, 2018 |
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Apr 2, 2018 23:24
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boner confessor posted:no, the mom is super demanding and hovering and has no boundaries with her doormat son
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Apr 2, 2018 23:42
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LadyPictureShow posted:I feel like we’ve seen other stories of ‘MIL is former doula/L&D nurse/any ol’ nurse and goes nuclear when the guy’s wife tells her to gently caress off with her ‘expert’ opinion’ There was one where the MIL was mad that her son's wife wanted her own mother in the delivery room instead of her.
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Apr 2, 2018 23:53
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Rubellavator posted:There was one where the MIL was mad that her son's wife wanted her own mother in the delivery room instead of her. No, that was just me, the last time this came up.
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Apr 3, 2018 00:13
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loquacius posted:How exactly can she acknowledge that extreme obesity could leave her confined to a bed, and also think it's good and safe and not unhealthy at all A fat enough brain can easily contain the most voluminous contradictions.
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Apr 3, 2018 00:19
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dudeness posted:I mean Canon is a religious term so yeah. I'm pretty sure the actual word is canonical. Unsurprisingly nerds managed to gently caress that up. A Wizard of Goatse posted:All that stuff really depends on how much he actually makes, which she never really makes clear for probably the obvious reasons, but this: Yeah that's bad. Not good news if a guy can't even tell when his gf just wants a bit of sympathy instead of some lecture about how stupid she is and how if she was smart like him she would've done it this other way. Also if you read it closely you can see that she's actually spent more on the relationship than he has and asks her to split literally every expense. That's so unattractive and it really doesn't matter how much money you have. Just a willingness to sacrifice a bit of cash for someone you love goes a long way. Now she knows exactly what she's worth to him, and that is $75 per month.
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Apr 3, 2018 00:28
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Play posted:I'm pretty sure the actual word is canonical. Unsurprisingly nerds managed to gently caress that up. wikipedia posted:The English word "canon" comes from the Greek κανών, meaning "rule" or "measuring stick". Christians became the first to use the term in reference to scripture, but Eugene Ulrich regards the idea as Jewish.[2][3]
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Apr 3, 2018 00:43
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DACK FAYDEN posted:canonical literally just means "belonging to the canon" I know, meaning that when people say "that's canon" they should be saying "that's canonical" because canon is a noun
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Apr 3, 2018 00:44
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Play posted:I know, meaning that when people say "that's canon" they should be saying "that's canonical" because canon is a noun next tell us the one about 'literally'
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Apr 3, 2018 00:48
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Play posted:I know, meaning that when people say "that's canon" they should be saying "that's canonical" because canon is a noun they're referring to Nick Canon, funky godson of Pachelbel Canon, one of Europe's most respected cannoneer.
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Apr 3, 2018 00:51
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PHIZ KALIFA posted:they're referring to Nick Canon, funky godson of Pachelbel Canon, one of Europe's most respected cannoneer. makes sense Brother Entropy posted:next tell us the one about 'literally' nerds gettin upset itt
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Apr 3, 2018 00:54
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Me [25F] with my reader(s) [? probably F] of about 2 years, someone is writing fanfic of my crack ship and asked my opinion of itquote:This is sort of an odd one, my apologies in advance. canon drama
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Apr 3, 2018 00:58
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quote:crack ship 
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Apr 3, 2018 01:18
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I [27/f] just got blocked by a friend [25/m] for an April Fool's joke, should I bother apologizing?  I know this person IRL, they posted this on their facebook as well
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Apr 3, 2018 01:24
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13Pandora13 posted:
tell them someone on the internet thinks they're a dumbass
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Apr 3, 2018 01:26
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Brother Entropy posted:tell them someone on the internet thinks they're a dumbass someones
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Apr 3, 2018 01:30
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Brother Entropy posted:tell them someone on the internet thinks they're a dumbass Would you believe me if I said they're not the kind of person who would take such a thing well, and strongly prefer an echo chamber of "no, it was he who was overreacting!"
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Apr 3, 2018 01:35
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crack ship
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Apr 3, 2018 01:36
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13Pandora13 posted:Would you believe me if I said they're not the kind of person who would take such a thing well, and strongly prefer an echo chamber of "no, it was he who was overreacting!" well duh, that's why i want you to tell them that!!
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Apr 3, 2018 01:39
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Play posted:Me [25F] with my reader(s) [? probably F] of about 2 years, someone is writing fanfic of my crack ship and asked my opinion of it Fanfic of your work can be flattering--just as long as you don't read it. Learn from this, and go outside.
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Apr 3, 2018 01:56
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Khazar-khum posted:Fanfic of your work can be flattering--just as long as you don't read it. Learn from this, and go outside. actually this a fanfic of a fanfic and there's no conceivable way that should make a person proud
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Apr 3, 2018 02:00
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Play posted:actually this a fanfic of a fanfic and there's no conceivable way that should make a person proud No but it could make them insanely wealthy
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Apr 3, 2018 02:01
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Play posted:Me [25F] with my reader(s) [? probably F] of about 2 years, someone is writing fanfic of my crack ship and asked my opinion of it jfc it's a casual hobby just lie and say you enjoyed it
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Apr 3, 2018 02:01
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13Pandora13 posted:Would you believe me if I said they're not the kind of person who would take such a thing well, and strongly prefer an echo chamber of "no, it was he who was overreacting!" Well then after you tell them, just say 'April Fools'! No I don't care its the 2nd.
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Apr 3, 2018 02:43
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My partner (34m) gets so angry with me that he screams and throws things, how do I (28f) handle these outbursts in a mature way? My boyfriend is a good guy with a kind heart, he is a feminist, loves animals, is basically my dream guy. We have a ton in common and typically get along well. Most of the time I would say he’s my best friend. Except there’s one thing that’s really difficult for me in our relationship. When he gets angry, it’s like he becomes an entirely different person. He is rude, sarcastic, irrational and just vicious. The kind man that I love is gone. It’s like a Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde type thing. And the problem is . . . he gets angry fairly often. Usually over something that I didn’t know would piss him off or didn’t think anything of, like asking a question. Conflict resolution is difficult because he talks over me, yells/screams at me until I stop talking, and responds to anything I say with, “If I’m so horrible, why are you with me?” etc. (For example, if I say, “It really scares me when you yell at me,” he’ll say “Why are you with me, then?”) Or he suggests that we break up. It makes me feel like he is not actually committed to the relationship if any little everyday conflict is gonna make him threaten to break it off. It’s also difficult for me at times because I was in an emotionally abusive relationship when I was younger and experienced verbal abuse as a child that makes me very sensitive to aggression and yelling (which he is very aware of) and his behavior sometimes triggers me to have panic attacks. It confuses me deeply because most of the time he is a genuinely likeable and nice person. When he is not in that angry mood, he typically acknowledges that his behavior sucked and apologizes. He is currently doing a self-directed anger management course and when he is in normal mode, he praises me for my kindness and patience toward him while he is trying to grow. But even with the course, about once a week he totally loses it on me, yells, uses sarcasm and contempt, gets really aggressive toward me, twists my words and talks me around in circles until I just don't know which way is up, basically does anything he can to derail what I’m saying. When all I’m doing is trying to resolve whatever conflict is happening so we can get back to being happy. It’s emotionally exhausting always being the one trying to work things out while he just wants to fight me to the death. I don’t understand why he does not seem to respect me. He says often that I am his best friend, he wants to marry me, stuff like that. But I don’t get why he acts those ways if he genuinely loves me and wants to get married, because I feel like a couple that can’t even successfully handle tiny everyday conflicts is not ready for the difficulties of marriage. He got angry when I told him that and we were not able to discuss it. I know everyone is gonna rush to tell me to break it off, but I am more looking for advice on how to handle these kinds of issues. I do not have experience with anger issues and it seems like many things that I do exacerbate the problem without me having awareness of what I'm doing. Also, he flat out refuses to go to therapy or couples counseling so that is not on the table. Thanks in advance for any advice and thanks for reading ☺ *tl;dr - partner of 2 years is a lovely guy with severe anger issues, I am at a loss for how to handle them *
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Apr 3, 2018 02:43
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Is it really that easy? You simply *tell* someone that you're an appreciative feminist friend and ideal partner, so that when you actually are the exactly opposite of that it doesn't count? Wow, so simple. Ps breaking up is NOT an option 
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Apr 3, 2018 02:49
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Hes a feminist, so he only beats women
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Apr 3, 2018 02:59
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HIJK posted:jfc it's a casual hobby just lie and say you enjoyed it I promise you that it is not a casual hobby for this person
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Apr 3, 2018 03:01
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Barudak posted:Hes a feminist, so he only beats women it's like being a dietary humanitarian
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Apr 3, 2018 03:03
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I [26 F] found my boyfriend [39 M] unconscious the other day. Now he doesn't remember most of our relationship of 3 months.quote:Oh boy, where do I start? I foresee a long and healthy relationship!
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Apr 3, 2018 03:09
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50 First Doses
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Apr 3, 2018 03:12
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LadyPictureShow posted:I [26 F] found my boyfriend [39 M] unconscious the other day. Now he doesn't remember most of our relationship of 3 months. He has wet brain syndrome. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Korsakoff%27s_syndrome
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Apr 3, 2018 03:14
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I guess maybe he could have passed out doing nitros, but I doubt it? She actually seems pretty honest about his situation but might be putting too much of a "drug haze" sheen on it when it's obviously alcohol.
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Pick posted:Actually depressed people tend to push you away so good loving luck with those standards The Pick prob train is really picking (haha) up speed as she unravels.
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