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Eh, on the second read of the post I threw you a bone
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Jon Irenicus posted:My [25 M] girlfriend [25 F] gets philosophical and talks a lot after sex. Does this happen to other people and how do I gently tell her I enjoy a few minutes of silent cuddling? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F3VGtfHpECs
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 06:32 |
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andrew smash posted:Eh, on the second read of the post I threw you a bone
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 06:37 |
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I had typos in my pm to youMillow (no dat here,), phones work better than psychedlics Please don't feel like no one cares. Safe travels.
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 07:02 |
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My close friend (34f) froze me out (31f) when I told her her husband assaulted with me. She caught him cheating and she wants my forgivenessquote:About a year ago, I was at a party. My very close friend, Carla, and her husband, Jake, were also there. Carla and I drank too much so Jake drove us home. Carla fell asleep in the car. When we got to my apartment, Jake walked me to my door, but then he tried to kiss me and pushed his way into my home. Inside, he assaulted me. He clearly thought I was black out drunk because he said several times that it was a very good thing I wouldn't remember any of it the next day. I honestly cannot imagine being the type of person who actively considers the pros and cons of welcoming such dumb drama back into my life after removing it, to the point of having to consult the Internet about it.
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Then again, maybe I'm an rear end in a top hat for backing the dude up on this. But only because I can relate, having endured the heartache of owning old, unreliable and expensive-to-fix cars. I [24M] am contemplating my relationship with my chronically ill girlfriend [23F] quote:I just really need someone objective to talk this over with. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 months now and I really, truly do love her. However, in this span of time she's been in and out of the hospital many, many times due to complications arising from a genetic condition she has. I thought that I was strong enough to stay by her side and support her through anything but the multiple health scares have really made me begin to doubt my ability to handle it. Literally the only issue I have with our relationship is how often she's ill and how often I deal with the emotional stress of seeing her in pain. She is an amazing person and I think about how lucky I am to be with her everyday, I just wish that I was strong enough to be the unshakeable rock she needs me to be. Even just thinking about ending it with her makes me feel like a complete garbage person. She deserves someone way better than me but she thinks that I'm the only one for her. I don't know what I'm really trying to ask or what I'll even get out of posting here... Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.
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Theophany posted:My close friend (34f) froze me out (31f) when I told her her husband assaulted with me. She caught him cheating and she wants my forgiveness By "assault", I'm going to assume she meant "attempted or actual rape". If your friend doesn't believe you over that and does everything they can to hurt you even more, then they are never worth your time ever again.
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 10:13 |
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Gorilla Salad posted:By "assault", I'm going to assume she meant "attempted or actual rape". The 'good thing you won't remember this' line is grounds for murder alone. I don't understand how the 'friend' can be in a serious relationship with that kind of deep-seated psychopathy and not pick up on it even a little.
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 10:23 |
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Endorph posted:
It doesn't make much difference to the OP's situation of course, but I'm curious whether this is one of those instances where "TERF" means "any transphobic woman" or whether it's the actual classical definition meaning "die-hard second-wave SCUMM manifesto person who thinks trans women are a sinister infiltration of femininity by the insidious male gender" mostly because I'm interested to know whether any of the latter still exist in 2018 outside of the Internet
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Theophany posted:My close friend (34f) froze me out (31f) when I told her her husband assaulted with me. She caught him cheating and she wants my forgiveness Carla can go to Hell.
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Theophany posted:My close friend (34f) froze me out (31f) when I told her her husband assaulted with me. She caught him cheating and she wants my forgiveness I think getting redemption by being believed and being able to forgive may help with her moving past the ptsd of being sexually assaulted, but that doesn’t necessarily translate into being friends again. But I don’t think it’s a terrible thing to consider.
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hanales posted:I think getting redemption by being believed and being able to forgive may help with her moving past the ptsd of being sexually assaulted, but that doesn’t necessarily translate into being friends again. But I don’t think it’s a terrible thing to consider. She wouldn't have needed redemption if her 'friend' wasn't a tremendously stupid and vicious little oval office.
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 12:24 |
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At least she can get Carla to apologise to all the friends she lied to. Wouldn't even consider any rapprochement until that happens.
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 12:42 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:Suing her mom, whose house she lives in, isn't gonna be a trivial drain on her resources no matter what Sometimes you have to destroy the village to save it.
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blugu64 posted:Sometimes you have to destroy the village to save it. Settle down, Arthas StrangersInTheNight posted:I am p. sure Caganer has been in a relationship where the woman abused him/her and didn't get believed bc that's the only reason I can imagine this level of 'sometimes it's the woman who is the abuser, guys!' for every dang post. I don't care if Caganer went ten rounds with Ike Turner, that doesn't make his stance that emotional cheating doesn't exist and that it's abusive for one person to not want their partner to have other intimate relationships true.
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 13:35 |
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Jeza posted:At least she can get Carla to apologise to all the friends she lied to. Wouldn't even consider any rapprochement until that happens. Other than the woman clearly being a nice person by even entertaining the idea of reconciliation, I honestly don't know what she would get out of a friendship where you know your friend doesn't trust you, even over something as serious as "assault" EDIT: Reading the Reddit thread, she said she had to move because she felt unsafe. gently caress Carla. Durzel fucked around with this message at 13:51 on Apr 5, 2018 |
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I mean, I probably wouldn't forgive them, but she can certainly get a lot of mileage by making Carla fess up to all her old friends about what really happened. But I do think it's funny that this thread gets angry over people who don't believe their SO's at face value and with zero evidence, yet when that happens as in this case, people are mad at this woman for believing her SO over her friend.
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 13:59 |
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Jeza posted:I mean, I probably wouldn't forgive them, but she can certainly get a lot of mileage by making Carla fess up to all her old friends about what really happened. But I do think it's funny that this thread gets angry over people who don't believe their SO's at face value and with zero evidence, yet when that happens as in this case, people are mad at this woman for believing her SO over her friend. life is not a perfect information game, and as such, sometimes you make the wrong choice for an understandable reason, and your understandable reason doesn't change the wrongness of your choice, and then poo poo breaks, irrevocably
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:life is not a perfect information game, and as such, sometimes you make the wrong choice for an understandable reason, and your understandable reason doesn't change the wrongness of your choice, and then poo poo breaks, irrevocably
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 14:12 |
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Jeza posted:But I do think it's funny that this thread gets angry over people who don't believe their SO's at face value and with zero evidence, yet when that happens as in this case, people are mad at this woman for believing her SO over her friend. There's a slight difference when it comes to sexual assault and rape.
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 14:12 |
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:life is not a perfect information game, and as such, sometimes you make the wrong choice for an understandable reason, and your understandable reason doesn't change the wrongness of your choice, and then poo poo breaks, irrevocably
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Bored posted:These people are exhausting. I hope they stay together so that nobody else has to deal with their dramatic asses. Does she, to your knowledge, have a serial number on the lower right area of her eye
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:life is not a perfect information game, and as such, sometimes you make the wrong choice for an understandable reason, and your understandable reason doesn't change the wrongness of your choice, and then poo poo breaks, irrevocably I'm biased against people who are wrong. Gorilla Salad posted:There's a slight difference when it comes to sexual assault and rape. Isn't that exactly what he accused her of doing here? That she "dragged him" inside her apartment?
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 14:22 |
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When a woman says a man raped her and the guy retorts, nah, she dragged me inside and assaulted me, there's really only one party you should believe.
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:life is not a perfect information game, and as such, sometimes you make the wrong choice for an understandable reason, and your understandable reason doesn't change the wrongness of your choice, and then poo poo breaks, irrevocably Yes
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Gorilla Salad posted:When a woman says a man raped her and the guy retorts, nah, she dragged me inside and assaulted me, there's really only one party you should believe. Maybe he's a five foot man-weasel hybrid and she's the the women's national power-lifting champion of Estonia?
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 14:45 |
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Theophany posted:My close friend (34f) froze me out (31f) when I told her her husband assaulted with me. She caught him cheating and she wants my forgiveness If it's been a relatively short while (less than a year) she could probably go to the cops still.
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Theophany posted:Then again, maybe I'm an rear end in a top hat for backing the dude up on this. But only because I can relate, having endured the heartache of owning old, unreliable and expensive-to-fix cars. I knew a friend of a friend who died very young. She found out she had cancer in HS so the BF stayed with her thinking she had 6mo or so and wanted to be nice. She went into remission, went off to college (not in the same state as him), they broke up, cancer came back, she died. Apparently this made him a really bad person in a lot of her high school friend's minds? (I guess their logic was he "broke her heart" by giving her a reason to live then leaving? I dunno, I kept my mouth shut at the funeral and stuffed my face with edible arrangements rather than chime in) Anyways, OP is super young and it's valid to be like "this is not someone I was planning on marrying and all this health poo poo is the icing on the cake". (Though maybe don't tell your girlfriend her broken body is the reason you're leaving, or she'll forever whine about you on internet forums)
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 14:51 |
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Jeza posted:I mean, I probably wouldn't forgive them, but she can certainly get a lot of mileage by making Carla fess up to all her old friends about what really happened. But I do think it's funny that this thread gets angry over people who don't believe their SO's at face value and with zero evidence, yet when that happens as in this case, people are mad at this woman for believing her SO over her friend. Hot take: This scenario has no easy solution, but Carla's husband should get rekt.
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Jeza posted:I mean, I probably wouldn't forgive them, but she can certainly get a lot of mileage by making Carla fess up to all her old friends about what really happened. But I do think it's funny that this thread gets angry over people who don't believe their SO's at face value and with zero evidence, yet when that happens as in this case, people are mad at this woman for believing her SO over her friend. Yeah I had that same thought lol. More than once we've seen "I told my SO Crazy Thing happened with no evidence and they didn't believe me!!!!" and every time the whole thread basically declares SO to be Hitler.
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Gorilla Salad posted:When a woman says a man raped her and the guy retorts, nah, she dragged me inside and assaulted me, there's really only one party you should believe. That was my first thought. I mean, unless that woman is a loving female bodybuilder or something, at the very least your husband just cheated on you, even according to his lovely excuse for a story. At the most he's a rapist. Either way, he should have been gone.
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 15:25 |
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the villain and liar in that story is the husband. he is a loving monster and in addition to raping his wife's friend he destroyed their friendship by using his wife's desire to believe she had not married a monster. the two women's relationship might not be fixable, but not because they did something wrong. the wife was presented with a horrible choice and if the husband had kept that part of himself hidden from her successfully I don't think it's fair to expect her to automatically side against her spouse in that situation
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:the villain and liar in that story is the husband. he is a loving monster and in addition to raping his wife's friend he destroyed their friendship by using his wife's desire to believe she had not married a monster. the two women's relationship might not be fixable, but not because they did something wrong. the wife was presented with a horrible choice and if the husband had kept that part of himself hidden from her successfully I don't think it's fair to expect her to automatically side against her spouse in that situation Sorry, but I don't buy it. You're either wilfully ignorant or genuinely stupid if you buy your boyfriend's 'but the drunk girl overpowered me' bullshit. Like, he didn't even flatly deny it or say it was a fabrication, he made up some bullshit story about a drunk girl dragging him into her apartment. Both Carla and fuckboy are garbage humans who should die in a goddamn fire. No excuses.
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 15:38 |
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The Internet Law Tribunal has decreed that you must, regardless of evidence presented, believe your SO in all circumstances involving SO/friend disputes. EXCEPTION: If the SO is the one lying, then you should not believe them. So say we all.
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 15:40 |
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Uhh, aren't you supposed to use the gavel or something to make it official?
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# ? Apr 5, 2018 15:43 |
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Theophany posted:Uhh, aren't you supposed to use the gavel or something to make it official? Its not hammer time yet, be patient.
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Theophany posted:Uhh, aren't you supposed to use the gavel or something to make it official? I firmly pressed the document with an ink stamp reading "#killallmen".
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e: snip, I'm tired and conflated 3 posts lol
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Theophany posted:Sorry, but I don't buy it. You're either wilfully ignorant or genuinely stupid if you buy your boyfriend's 'but the drunk girl overpowered me' bullshit. Like, he didn't even flatly deny it or say it was a fabrication, he made up some bullshit story about a drunk girl dragging him into her apartment. The story Carla believed was that the OP tried and failed to seduce the husband.
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Extract a public apology from Carla, then ghost and block her rear end much more thoroughly this time around.
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