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On one hand, it's tempting to temporarily warm up to Carla, get an on-record public apology, then leave her to rot in her own self-loathing. On the other hand, a guy who would rape the drunk friend of his gf and also gently caress her sister (!) was likely abusive to her as well so some compassion might lead to a deeper healing process for both women. I'd let her burn, though.
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:I don't think it's fair to expect her to automatically side against her spouse in that situation Yeah but going around to all their friends and defaming her character was probably above and beyond just "siding with her spouse."
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Apr 5, 2018 15:56
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Patrick Spens posted:The story Carla believed was that the OP tried and failed to seduce the husband. Yep, and it should be stressed that physical force is not necessary for something to constitute sexual assault, not on the part of the person doing the assaulting, nor does the person being assaulted have to resist with it.
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Apr 5, 2018 15:58
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Patrick Spens posted:The story Carla believed was that the OP tried and failed to seduce the husband. Doesn't that reek of guilt, though? If one of my girlfriend's friends was in a way-over-the-line drunk state and tried to seduce me, I'd brush it off as 'go home x, you're drunk' and think nothing of it. If it was a persistent occurrence, then maybe I'd raise it with my girlfriend cautiously as like a 'hey, you know x? Well maybe she's not quite as good a friend as she makes out...' But going straight to the defence translates more along the lines of 'yo, your friend is going to come by and say all this poo poo about me so here's my side of the story before she can get to you.'
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Apr 5, 2018 15:58
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I cannot imagine how much it would break someone's brain to hear your friend say your husband is a rapist.
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Apr 5, 2018 15:59
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Theophany posted:Then again, maybe I'm an rear end in a top hat for backing the dude up on this. But only because I can relate, having endured the heartache of owning old, unreliable and expensive-to-fix cars. Given the age posted and the frequent hospitalizations sounds like CF that is getting towards the end. She's either going to get a lung transplant in the next few years or........... 
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Apr 5, 2018 15:59
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Paul Zuvella posted:I cannot imagine how much it would break someone's brain to hear your friend say your husband is a rapist. this, basically. her reaction after seeing her husband banging her sister heavily implies that she really was completely in the dark about how awful he was, so it seems pretty cruel to blame her for believing her husband, someone she is conditioned to trust, in a relationship that is meant to be open and trustworthy. it was probably a little over the line to tell everyone her friend's a home wrecker but given this thread's attitude of "cheaters can get hosed" (and Reddit is even more extreme) it seems kinda funny to judge her for that imo not saying the friendship is repairable though! sometimes things just get hosed up for good
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Apr 5, 2018 16:04
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If my friend told me my fiance raped them and my fiance said he didn't I would believe him because if you don't trust your partner you shouldn't be with them. I sure as gently caress wouldn't turn around and slander my friend though. Jesus.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:08
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Clark Nova posted:Extract a public apology from Carla, then ghost and block her rear end much more thoroughly this time around. Yes this. I mean you’re owed the apology but it’s hard to believe your friendship could ever be mended.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:15
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From /r/legaladvice Tricked into eating something I don’t eat at work. Is this illegal/a toxic work environment? Spaced out to make it easier to read. quote:This is in Alabama. I’m really really upset over all of this so I’m sorry if it doesn’t make sense. This happened last week and it was only brought to my attention today what exactly I ate and I’m a mess. My coworkers all cook a lot and bring in food for everyone. They all know I have food restrictions because I usually don’t partake (which pisses most of them off because it’s “rude”). One girl brought in a pie and was very proud of herself, saying I could eat it. Rather standard stuff... but if you read the comments... Poster 1 posted:Wait, are you the person who was upset about the unwelcome work baby shower, because baby showers are not consistent with your Jewish faith? OP posted:How the gently caress do you know this. That happened last week and I went home crying and went to HR. Wtf Poster 2 posted:Please take this thread to an attorney immediately. You have what appears to be a real hostile workplace claim.  Time to read that thread...Threw an employee a baby shower now being threatened with “hostile work enviroment”. What do I do? (AL) The now deleted, but recovered OP #2 (Different OP than first OP) reads... quote:So I’m in Alabama.   The rear end in a top hat from the current post made a post herself prior and didn't give all of the details (of course) and tried to make herself look like she was in the right! Bonus: OP posted:I’ve asked them to intervene multiple times on the religious harassment. The only time they did was when I was reprimanded by my manager for wearing religious clothing (headscarf). Kuros fucked around with this message at 16:40 on Apr 5, 2018 |
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Apr 5, 2018 16:29
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girl pants posted:If my friend told me my fiance raped them and my fiance said he didn't I would believe him because if you don't trust your partner you shouldn't be with them. I sure as gently caress wouldn't turn around and slander my friend though. Jesus. Yeah, she definitely shouldn't have made up lies about how the OP was threatening her.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:29
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Kuros posted:From /r/legaladvice https://www.ceddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/8825e8/threw_an_employee_a_baby_shower_now_being/ Is a link to the manager's comments from the baby shower OP. It's uh...enlightnening.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:37
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Kuros posted:From /r/legaladvice I'm not following how they're connected?  Also what did they put in a pie that she can't eat - pork lard in the crust? Edit: wait are they 2 diff people? one saying all she did was throw a shower and the other saying they dropped off food she can't eat etc?
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Apr 5, 2018 16:37
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“a lightning bolt won’t come from heaven and kill you” Definitely pork.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:40
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Caganer posted:I'm not following how they're connected? I added in some more clarification. OP #1 is an employee under OP #2. OP #2 is harassing OP #1 due to her faith. There was lard in the crust when OP #1 was told it was butter.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:41
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Its almost assuredly pork related because people in Alabama arent going to know enough about Judaism to pull off something more complex.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:41
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If you are Orthodox enough of a Jew to wear a headscarf you probably shouldn't live in Alabama
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Apr 5, 2018 16:44
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Barudak posted:Its almost assuredly pork related because people in Alabama arent going to know enough about Judaism to pull off something more complex. gently caress Alabama
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Apr 5, 2018 16:46
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Barudak posted:Its almost assuredly pork related because people in Alabama arent going to know enough about Judaism to pull off something more complex. Guessing the quiche mentioned had ham in it. Also, baby showers are super taboo in certain sects of Judaism.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:47
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La Brea Carpet posted:https://www.ceddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/8825e8/threw_an_employee_a_baby_shower_now_being/ Yikes. 
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Apr 5, 2018 16:47
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Like haha, Ive owned you because the cloth that Ive draped over this pie is actually a poly fabric blend is just not going to ever occur to a person from Bama. Nor that a babyshower would be a huge nono. Nor that you shouldnt just do things against a persons will because thats how you got made.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:48
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My (31f) boyfriend (29m) has a breeding fetish and has been looking at r/impregpersonals for local-ish ads to get women pregnant. I’m 9 weeks pregnant and feeling lost.quote:When we started dating our sex life was pretty steamy. He started whispering things related to impregnating me and I found it really hot. I moved in with him too soon after 6 months and became pregnant a month later.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:50
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La Brea Carpet posted:https://www.ceddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/8825e8/threw_an_employee_a_baby_shower_now_being/ quote:That’s so stupid. There’s no reason people should get in trouble for being nice. Normal people say thank you when someone throws a party for them, or brings in breakfast, or brings pizza. They don’t throw a little fit and go to HR.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:50
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punched my v-card at camp posted:My (31f) boyfriend (29m) has a breeding fetish and has been looking at r/impregpersonals for local-ish ads to get women pregnant. I’m 9 weeks pregnant and feeling lost. Abort, a lot of things here
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Apr 5, 2018 16:51
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Pick posted:Abort, a lot of things here Depending on the state and how far along she is, that may not be possible
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Apr 5, 2018 16:53
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Abort, wash, rinse, repeat. Everyone's happy.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:53
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Yeah speaking as a non-practicing Westernized Jew my first reaction was "oh, stop being such a snowflake and accept the goddamn party", then I saw the detail about the headscarf This lady is not just trying to be special or unique. She's an ultra-Orthodox Jew. Like, her husband probably wears a black hat around everywhere and has payos. She takes this poo poo seriously. This is a big loving deal.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:54
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punched my v-card at camp posted:My (31f) boyfriend (29m) has a breeding fetish and has been looking at r/impregpersonals for local-ish ads to get women pregnant. I’m 9 weeks pregnant and feeling lost. Good job you decided to bring a child into this world.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:55
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La Brea Carpet posted:Depending on the state and how far along she is, that may not be possible You can always get a flight somewhere else. It’s definitely worth the expense if that’s your situation. Hell, fly to Poland and take the abortion cruise.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:55
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I love the quote because you know that: 1. Everything in the food probably has pork in it somewhere. 2. She is clearly harassing the person due to her religious differences.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:55
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Im glad someone disrupted the dead beat dad market.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:56
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La Brea Carpet posted:Also, baby showers are super taboo in certain sects of Judaism. I grew up and currently live in an area with a pretty significant Jewish population. Like, going to all of the events of friends (bar mitzvahs, weddings, funerals). I had absolutely no idea this was a thing.
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loquacius posted:Yeah speaking as a non-practicing Westernized Jew my first reaction was "oh, stop being such a snowflake and accept the goddamn party", then I saw the detail about the headscarf I'm fascinated by what would bring them to the utopia and exemplification of Christian tolerance that is Alabama. Or why they stay there when I presume that kind of mentality is pretty pervasive.
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Apr 5, 2018 16:57
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Imho any 19 year old looking for a dead beat baby daddy on the Internet should probably be at the dipshit farm
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Apr 5, 2018 16:57
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Pick posted:Imho any 19 year old looking for a dead beat baby daddy on the Internet should probably be at the dipshit farm You mean they should join the live studio audience of the Maury Povich show.
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Yeah the party concern is silly - there's no religious prohibition of baby showers, it's just superstitious folks calling them bad luck. It'd be like asking your coworker to walk under a ladder. That's... pretty different from dosing her with pork. I feel bad for the lady who feels genuine distress from these things though. The lady at work is obviously wrong but certainly there's a part of me that would hope that I could talk one of *my* friends out of their fundamentalist beliefs, as well.
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A friend of mine dies have a ~55 year old older brother who gets off by serially impregnating occasionally underage black women (he’s white) and goes on screeds where they should be grateful he’s putting “babies in monkeys” and I truly, truly hope he gets murdered asap. My friend also hates him and my big fear is she’ll ruin her life flipping her poo poo and killing him but frankly I’ll donate a lot toward her legal fees if she does.
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Apr 5, 2018 17:00
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loquacius posted:If you are Orthodox enough of a Jew to wear a headscarf you probably shouldn't live in Alabama there I fixed everything
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loquacius posted:Yeah speaking as a non-practicing Westernized Jew my first reaction was "oh, stop being such a snowflake and accept the goddamn party", then I saw the detail about the headscarf yeah also, even if it's "just a party" it sounds like they've been dropping off lard laced pies and calling her rude for not wanting to join them for a bacon cheeseburger at the company picnic. and they apparently "reprimanded" her for the covering thing? like, i'm not even jewish and while i didn't know about the shower thing i wouldn't get pissy my coworker won't try my bacon wrapped shrimp. she'll be able to afford all the manosclitivitz(sp?) she wants when her lawsuit clears because this poo poo sounds egregious
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Sperm banks nowadays don't want your donation unless you're at the very least a college graduate with normal physical dimensions and a clean bill of mental health, because nobody wants their baby to be made of junk jizz. I feel like reddit's seeking impregnation subreddit is the exact loving inverse.
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