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Patrick Spens
Jul 21, 2006

"Every quarterback says they've got guts, But how many have actually seen 'em?"
Pillbug

Leon Einstein posted:

You read that story and blame him? Are you Anne's alt?

Please don't try to chase Anne off again, it's nice having women who aren't Pick post.

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Biscuit Hider
Boyfriend[24] saved cam girl nude lingerie photo onto his phone whilst he already has mine. Whyyy? Why am I upset about this stupid thingy whyyy

quote:

Thanks for advices in advance and sorry for being upset for such a pathetic reason

I was giving my boyfriend a bj Then I thought that he took a picture of me during it, so I asked him to prove to me that he did not. So he showed me his camera roll and then I asked to show me the deleted folder.

There was no picture of me, but there was

A) image of a very sexdollish looking blonde woman with huge ball breasts, that I really don't care about at all

B) this woman with naked breasts, wearing lingerie. She looked mostly like me but her lips, teeth and nose are more feminine, more beautiful than mine (I'm very insecure about my nose I'm trying to overcome it). I didn't say anything about it because he was trying to cover that photo with his thumb

The thing is I've taken some lovely images of myself in beautiful lingerie (after I found his preferences through his Instagram followings) and he has these pictures. He also has naked photographes of me. I know that lingerie is kind of a fetish of his , but I'm just very upset that he is still in need of saving images of a cam girl onto his phone. Also I tried to find this image on the internet and seems to me that he actually paid that camgirl to get that photo. He previously told me that he watches cam girls but never pays for anything.

I'm fine with porn. Saving an image of a certain model that looks mostly like me but her face seems to be 'socially' prettier is unfortunately making me very sad. It hits my insecurity and just seems to be more personal than porn. Especially, knowing that he has images of me.

Should I address this or should I let it go because "all men do it, men are visuals, he will do it anyways etc." ?

Tldr boyfriend saves naked cam girl images, whilst he already has mine, is it fair for me to be upset?

UPDATE:

I came to his place to talk and he was very drunk.
So I decided to talk tomorrow with him Unfortunately I snooped on his other Instagram account And turns out he messaged another cam girl from that same brand :) I haven't talked to him yet, but I feel very disgusted by his actions, on the verge of breaking up:) if u have any advice I'd love to hear it. Thank you strangers

This sounds like a healthy relationship

Leon Einstein
Feb 6, 2012
I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.
Is liking women in lingerie a fetish now?

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

lol if u have to look at porn while ur currently getting a blowie

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

fruit on the bottom posted:

Boyfriend[24] saved cam girl nude lingerie photo onto his phone whilst he already has mine. Whyyy? Why am I upset about this stupid thingy whyyy


This sounds like a healthy relationship

Paying for porn is loving weird and that alone should make you :sever:.

cumshitter
Sep 27, 2005

by Fluffdaddy
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/8ii81l/one_year_after_marriage_my_27m_wife_27f_has/

Redditor posted:

You've mentioned beer, wine and liquor. Could she be drinking more than you realize? Do you think it's possible she has an alcohol problem?

OP posted:

I don't know how much she drinks because there's so many cans and bottles I don't remember when they're all from. If 20 more beer cans appeared right now it wouldn't look noticeably any different. At night she has maybe a couple drinks. Not every night but most nights. I usually have one or two.

The wine specifically was from her taking a silly selfie for her groupchat, she wasn't sitting in the bathroom drinking.

Nah, it's good. No drinking problem here. If beer cans rained down from the ceiling I wouldn't notice a difference, at least.

Bunni-kat
May 25, 2010

Service Desk B-b-bunny...
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Admiral Ray posted:

Paying for porn is loving weird and that alone should make you :sever:.

The great thing about cam girls is there’s usually other people paying.

Doggles
Apr 22, 2007

Barudak posted:

If you see her as a long term patner you either ask her for a cut of the profts or renegotiate your contract so shes not your sole supplier.

:vince:

Is it wrong for me [22/F] to expect my parents [45/50] to help me with my expenses after college graduation?

quote:

I primarily just need help with my living arrangements until I can get a stable, high-paying enough job.

I am set to graduate this weekend with a BA in Psychology with a biology minor. I don't have a job in my field, but I did just get a promotion at the job I'm at, so I'll be making almost $4 above my state's minimum wage. My parents are saying that I need to move back home until I can go back to school for a better/higher degree or find a job in my actual field. Being that I have literally no internships/co-op/work experience in my major, I know that it will take a while to find something, and it's very likely that it's going to pay me less than what I'm making now.

They're telling me that now that I graduated, I should have a job paying me enough to be able to cover all my expenses. Which isn't anything outlandish, but I need to get to that point first.

There's the possibility of me living at home and still commuting to my job, but it's an hour away and I'm an inexperienced driver (less than 6 months) with an older car (2009).

TD;LR: I don't have a good paying job yet, but I need help paying for my expenses until I can get one. Should I be asking my parents for help?

So, what exactly did this girl do the entire time she was at college?

Doc Hawkins
Jun 15, 2010

Dashing? But I'm not even moving!


Blade Runner posted:

I think he has a lot more resentment than he let on and that can pretty easily manifest in him not being willing to denigrate pretty harsh and almost nonsensical accusations. You also have to remember that, like, the dude was pretty much going through a loving emotional breakdown; he's in love with a girl, something absolutely awful happens, and then he basically doesn't see her for over a year and then is informed(At least, he believes)that she's cheated on him with a completely random person she just met. It's ultimately proven that this didn't happen, but someone having a stupid amount of resentment about that that leaves them open to influence from people like the red pillers isn't really nonsensical; and even then, he outright shuts down the harsher things pretty quickly. He's not an absolute saint at that point of the situation, but I absolutely don't find it unbelievable that there'd be some resentment that could lead him towards those idiots, even if he's repulsed enough to ultimately rebuff them.

That is one theory, but it's not how it came across to me.

quote:

Also I realize most of you people have a hateboner for cops but wanting to gently caress hot people regardless of job isn't even all that trashy

I couldn't resist getting a dig in, but what makes it trashy is the context. I'd feel the same way if it was an orderly at the asylum the friend was involuntarily checked in to, or a paramedic that carted her away after she fell off the guy's roof. Or if the genders were switched.

You really don't see the problem? Maybe I'm being too :lofty:

Gumbel2Gumbel
Apr 28, 2010

Doc Hawkins posted:

That is one theory, but it's not how it came across to me.


I couldn't resist getting a dig in, but what makes it trashy is the context. I'd feel the same way if it was an orderly at the asylum the friend was involuntarily checked in to, or a paramedic that carted her away after she fell off the guy's roof. Or if the genders were switched.

You really don't see the problem? Maybe I'm being too :lofty:

Guys cannot turn off that part of their brain stem so good luck getting anyone to agree with you here.

Clark Nova
Jul 18, 2004

fruit on the bottom posted:

What are the rules on sending buttplugs in the mail?

IIRC one of Ted Cruz’s early career highlights was defending a statewide dildo ban while a state’s attorney, so :shrug:

IMO he should’ve enforced his dildo ban by exiling himself or committing seppuku.

Leon Einstein
Feb 6, 2012
I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.
4 bucks above minimum wage is like 12 bucks an hour, isn't it? This woman is in for a rude awakening when she realizes how much life actually costs.

Car payment, car insurance, health insurance, cell phone, rent, gas/electric, food, etc.

I don't understand the people that hate on people receiving assistance, yet have no problems with the government subsidizing the poo poo out of gigantic corporations.

flick my Mr. Bean
Nov 18, 2014

quote:

I am set to graduate this weekend with a BA in Psychology with a biology minor. I don't have a job in my field

lmao I remember when I was a psych major and looked up my university's "jobs in this field" thing and the first one was retail manager.

DACK FAYDEN
Feb 25, 2013

Bear Witness

fruit on the bottom posted:

Boyfriend[24] saved cam girl nude lingerie photo onto his phone whilst he already has mine. Whyyy? Why am I upset about this stupid thingy whyyy
break up with her, camgirl loving man, she used "whilst"

Blade Runner
Aug 14, 2015

Doc Hawkins posted:

That is one theory, but it's not how it came across to me.


I couldn't resist getting a dig in, but what makes it trashy is the context. I'd feel the same way if it was an orderly at the asylum the friend was involuntarily checked in to, or a paramedic that carted her away after she fell off the guy's roof. Or if the genders were switched.

You really don't see the problem? Maybe I'm being too :lofty:

I donno, I don't see "Dude was p. hot tho." to really be out of line with the tone of the story overall; the tone of the story was a little light, given the situation, but it's a generally funny kind of story.

I see it as equivalent to the tone of a dumb 80s/90s college movie, with frat bros going to see a friend who got hit with a football in the dick in the hospital and talking about how hot they found the nurse.

You can probably also say that that is trashy, but I am 24 and we may have different views of trashiness

Meme Emulator
Oct 4, 2000

Blade Runner posted:

I donno, I don't see "Dude was p. hot tho." to really be out of line with the tone of the story overall; the tone of the story was a little light, given the situation, but it's a generally funny kind of story.

I see it as equivalent to the tone of a dumb 80s/90s college movie, with frat bros going to see a friend who got hit with a football in the dick in the hospital and talking about how hot they found the nurse.

You can probably also say that that is trashy, but I am 24 and we may have different views of trashiness

The equivalent would be the frat bros going to see thier friend Chief at the insane asylum and talking about how hot Nurse Ratched is

datajugend
Jan 15, 2010

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Leon Einstein posted:

4 bucks above minimum wage is like 12 bucks an hour, isn't it? This woman is in for a rude awakening when she realizes how much life actually costs.

Car payment, car insurance, health insurance, cell phone, rent, gas/electric, food, etc.

I don't understand the people that hate on people receiving assistance, yet have no problems with the government subsidizing the poo poo out of gigantic corporations.

nothing wrong about getting or asking for a little help from parents, but expecting them to pay your bills even when you already have a job is a bit eehh.

and if she is afraid to drive because she is an inexperienced driver people should tell her about the bus, or you know she could drive some and get the experience

DoombatINC
Apr 20, 2003

Here's the thing, I'm a feminist.





Meme Emulator posted:

The equivalent would be the frat bros going to see thier friend Chief at the insane asylum and talking about how hot Nurse Ratched is

They don't call her Ratchet-rear end Ratched for nothin'

People all throwin' water fountains through the windows to get into that place

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender

Leon Einstein posted:

4 bucks above minimum wage is like 12 bucks an hour, isn't it? This woman is in for a rude awakening when she realizes how much life actually costs.

Car payment, car insurance, health insurance, cell phone, rent, gas/electric, food, etc.
She spends a lot of the comments arguing about why she doesn't already have roommates to bring rent costs down.

Other highlights:
-Her car+insurance is in her parent's name & they've already threatened to take it back once(after OP got the car towed for some unsaid reason), but she's making the payments. She also cites this as a reason she can't move back home, since her parents 'don't want' her to make an hour commute with this car.
-OP notes that basically all her friends get money assistance from their parents, and that the ones that don't have 'significantly different living situations then with me and my parents'. She doesn't connect the dots that this means she needs to adjust her living situation to be more like the people that aren't getting grants from the Bank of Mom and Dad.
-The difference between OP's income and expenses is ~$400. OP states she 'owes a lot of money' on top of normal bills, but won't specify what for.

datajugend posted:

and if she is afraid to drive because she is an inexperienced driver people should tell her about the bus, or you know she could drive some and get the experience
Also her parents and boyfriend (supposedly) both claim public transit is too dangerous.

quote:

I have no problem with taking the bus or biking but home is out in the suburbs, a few miles away from the nearest bus stop. Additionally, every time I mention "bus" or "walking" or "uber", they lecture me on how my safety is the most important thing and I need to put myself in better situations/environments. Even my boyfriend tells me how unsafe it is.

Doggles
Apr 22, 2007

I (24m) was responsible for my GF's (23f) $3000 sunglasses being stolen. I can't afford to replace them so what can I co?

quote:

Backstory is my GF went to Milan over spring break and decided to splurge and bought $3000 Lugano sunglasses. They were by far her prized possession.

A couple of days ago we were out to watch Avengers and she had brought them in my car. I forgot to hit the lock button when we went into the movie and when we came out the car had been completely ram-sacked.

I tried to report to my insurance but they basically said since they weren't part of the car, they could not be covered. Basically my girlfriend is beside herself and is furious with me.

I can't possibly afford to replace them or pay her back and in all likelihood you couldn't get them here or over the internet because they came from a very special Milan boutique.

She is basically not speaking to me and I want to make it up to her, so since I can't afford to replace or repay her, what can I do in this specific situation? I feel bad and want to do the right thing.

tl;dr: I was responsible for my girlfriends $3000 sunglasses getting stolen. I can't afford to replace or pay her back so what can I do?

Admiral Ray
May 17, 2014

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Doggles posted:

I (24m) was responsible for my GF's (23f) $3000 sunglasses being stolen. I can't afford to replace them so what can I co?

Your gf is a pretty major idiot for not surgically grafting those to her face after being stupid enough to buy them in the first place.

:sever:

ps get renters insurance it covers poo poo like this.

Clark Nova
Jul 18, 2004

Buy her some $15 aliexpress replacements then break up with her.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Meme Emulator posted:

The equivalent would be the frat bros going to see thier friend Chief at the insane asylum and talking about how hot Nurse Ratched is

IIRC there was at least a paragraph of the book devoted to talking about how big Nurse Ratched's tits were

I remember this because I was in high school when I read it

Ham Sandwiches
Jul 7, 2000

Admiral Ray posted:

Your gf is a pretty major idiot for not surgically grafting those to her face after being stupid enough to buy them in the first place.

:sever:

ps get renters insurance it covers poo poo like this.

Renters insurance does not cover items left in your unlocked car and belonging to another person!!

I think the problem here is that the dude likes leaving his car in parking lots unlocked, which is a great idea, given the sheer amount of desperate people around these days

Also a $3000 pair of glasses should probably be treated like an expensive rear end laptop and put in the trunk or something

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Ham Sandwiches posted:

Also a $3000 pair of glasses should probably be treated like an expensive rear end laptop and put in the trunk or something

A $3000 pair of glasses should be treated like a priceless Faberge egg and not bought

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Shes freaking out about a 3000 dollar pair of sunglasses? This is why you dont date poors

Ham Sandwiches
Jul 7, 2000

loquacius posted:

A $3000 pair of glasses should be treated like a priceless Faberge egg and not bought

Like, as a cynical adult, sure

I am willing to accept that a 23 year old on a big overseas trip which is still novel to them might want to have some super fancy thing to remind them of the trip and also as some exotic item to parade around to friends and all that jazz

but yeah then treat it like it's precious not hurrr I forgot to lock the loving car in a big parking lot where thieves pick through cars looking for poo poo to steal

coolskull
Nov 11, 2007

like i'm gonna keep something that expensive on my face, that's the first place a thief would look

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

Clark Nova posted:

Buy her some $15 aliexpress replacements then break up with her.

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender
She's an idiot, but if she's the type of idiot who drops $3000 on sunglasses without blinking an eye, I'm sure she can find some other overpriced sunglasses to replace them, even if they're not from a "very special Milan boutique"(read: store that rips off idiot tourists).

Leon Einstein
Feb 6, 2012
I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.
My wife bought a pair of $800 shoes before she met me, and I thought that was ridiculous. 3k for sunglasses is pure insanity. Then again, I have a bad habit of losing sunglasses.

I'm trying to think of the biggest splurge I've made in my life, and I can't think of anything coming even close to those numbers.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost
Taxidermy

Ham Sandwiches
Jul 7, 2000

Haifisch posted:

She's an idiot, but if she's the type of idiot who drops $3000 on sunglasses without blinking an eye, I'm sure she can find some other overpriced sunglasses to replace them, even if they're not from a "very special Milan boutique"(read: store that rips off idiot tourists).

Lol the sour grapes on this

designer poo poo like glasses can cost $3000, especially in italy if bought in expensive boutiques

it was a rare trip and the person wanted an extravagant item to remember the trip, which is reframed as "drops $3000 without blinking an eye"

yeah she went down to lens crafters and lit $2000 on fire while saying ELVIS BITCH then bought $3000 glasses because fuckit;

dudeness
Mar 5, 2010

:minnie: Cat Army :minnie:
Fallen Rib
It only cost me $10 to never have to deal with the sun, well $20 total if you count platinum.

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender
Also if you're being really picky, you shouldn't be leaving sunglasses in the car in the first place, especially during summer. Heat can damage the lenses and frames, and the inside of a car gets really loving hot.

Nobody ever thinks about that because the damages are usually $20 tops, and 99% of the time it's fine, but if you buy $3000 sunglasses maybe you should think about that.

Ham Sandwiches
Jul 7, 2000

Haifisch posted:

Also if you're being really picky, you shouldn't be leaving sunglasses in the car in the first place, especially during summer. Heat can damage the lenses and frames, and the inside of a car gets really loving hot.

Nobody ever thinks about that because the damages are usually $20 tops, and 99% of the time it's fine, but if you buy $3000 sunglasses maybe you should think about that.

I'm not picking on you here but I'm really confused by these posts

My understanding is that sometimes people watch movies at night, after dinner, when the light is fading, so they no longer need their sunglasses, and it's no longer hot in the car either :psyboom:

new phone who dis
May 24, 2007

by VideoGames
Morbid Hound
Everyone breaks or loses their sunglasses eventually, which is why spending 3k on a pair is particularly stupid. At least buy a hand bag or purse or something for that price, you moron.

LimburgLimbo
Feb 10, 2008

Ham Sandwiches posted:

Lol the sour grapes on this

designer poo poo like glasses can cost $3000, especially in italy if bought in expensive boutiques

it was a rare trip and the person wanted an extravagant item to remember the trip, which is reframed as "drops $3000 without blinking an eye"

yeah she went down to lens crafters and lit $2000 on fire while saying ELVIS BITCH then bought $3000 glasses because fuckit;

It's like you're a loving high-spec dumb hot take making machine or something, gently caress.

Well if you didn't buy $3000 sunglasses it wouldn't have to be a rare trip.

There's no defending buying stupidly overpriced sunglasses unless you've got enough money that you entirely don't care about losing them. It's the stupidest bougie basic bitch bullshit I can imagine.

Haifisch
Nov 13, 2010

Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!



Taco Defender

LimburgLimbo posted:

It's like you're a loving high-spec dumb hot take making machine or something, gently caress.
I see you're new to Ham Sandwiches.

Content:

My [23F] boyfriend [25M] Is mad that I won’t give his unemployed mother money

quote:

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years. About a year and a half ago, we moved to a big, expensive city after I graduated college and got a well-paying job.

My job pays double what his job pays, so he can’t afford the bills that we have currently have and other expenses such as going to dinner (we split everything) and owes me about $2,000.

His mother who lives in another state has been unemployed for about two years. She has depleted all of her savings and even her 401(k) and is on the brink of losing her home.

He is upset and angry that I don’t give her money. Instead of paying for our bills, he sends her money every month, which I have absolutely no problem with. But I am just beginning my life and working really hard for the money that I’m making and don’t feel that it’s fair that I have to blindly give away my money to his mother just because I have saved up a sizable amount. Am I wrong?

Sorry if the format is wrong, typing this on my cell phone.

[TLDR] my boyfriend is mad that I don’t give his unemployed mother money

quote:

When I asked him why he was mad at me he said (copied and pasted from his text):

Do you not understand? Really? Okay sure, it’s not your “responsibility” to care about what’s going on with my mom or offer to help, etc. and yeah, we aren’t married. But does that supersede the feeling of wanting to help someone in need? Especially if that someone is close to me and I’m hurting as a result of it? Yes I understand you want to build you life and that’s all well and good, but you have many more years to do it and already have quite the head start. Your life is not in a precarious position. Also, yes you worked hard for what you have - no doubt. You also have family that will do anything for you and you know that. That’s dangerously close to that middle of PA trump supporter logic and I won’t abide by that. Especially when this isn’t just a philosophical conversation, we’re taking about my mother and the utter hopelessness of the situation. The fact of the matter is that I didn’t want you to help - you do enough for me as is. And I get that. I just thought you would offer and I was hurt that you haven’t and seem to get flustered when I tell you that that is high on my priority list right now. It make me feel like you aren’t hearing me, or comprehending the severity of the situation, or empathizing with what I’m going dealing with right now. I don’t wanna make this a pity party about my life because all things considered I’m still a lucky guy, but still.

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Doggles
Apr 22, 2007

Search term: sunglasses

My [24 F] boyfriend [32 M] of 2 years took a pair of my sunglasses without asking after I accidentally broke 2 pairs of his.

quote:

Just a little background before I get into it: I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. He's wonderful, and we have a fantastic relationship with lots of love. We rarely fight but when we do, it's usually resolved very quickly.

So other day we went over to our friends' house to watch a playoff game (go Pens!) and I guess my boyfriend dropped his sunglasses on the floor at some point. I ended up accidentally stepping on them and they broke. He wasn't too upset, and seemed to shrug it off as an accident.

A couple days later, we get in his car to run an errand. As soon as my butt hits the passenger seat, I feel something crack. Whoops. So I jump up and he grabs a newly mangled pair of sunglasses off the seat. He was pretty mad about this being the second pair I broke in three days (and I don't blame him), but I told him it was an accident both times. He apologized for getting angry, and I apologized for not looking before I sat down. I then offered to buy new sunglasses, but he declined. I thought the issue was resolved, but I guess I was wrong.

This morning, my boyfriend left to go out of town for a bachelor party/guys' weekend. We went through our normal morning routine together, and while I was getting dressed for work he packed all of his stuff in the car. He went to leave shortly before me, and pulled me into his arms for a goodbye cuddle. While we're lying on the couch canoodling, he mentions that he's taking my sunglasses with him. Ummmm.

I said no, I also have a long drive this weekend and I don't have a back-up pair. He sort of shrugged and said that I broke his, they're already in the car, and he needs them more. I was pissed, but didn't want to fight before a weekend apart and shrugged it off to kiss him goodbye.

So now I'm sitting here steaming because I don't have a pair of sunglasses for the day until I can go buy a pair after work. I don't even mind buying them. I broke 2 pairs, so it makes sense for me to replace at least one. But I can't help but feel angry. I didn't mean to break his sunglasses, but I feel like this is his way of punishing me.

Am I justified in feeling disrespected for this? I don't even know how to communicate my frustration to him, or if I should, because it seems like such a petty problem.

tl;dr: I accidentally broke two pairs of my boyfriend's sunglasses, which ultimately led to a fight. We both apologized to each other, I offered to replace them (he declined), and we seemingly moved on. Today, he took my only pair of sunglasses with him on a trip without asking me first. He told me it was because I broke his. Am I justified in being angry over this? How do I bring it up without starting a fight?

Me [25f] with my boyfriend of 2 years [24m] and I are having a bad argument over sunglasses.

quote:

So, My boyfriend and I are amazing. We love each other, we're compatible, he's recently been helping me through A LOT of poo poo, and I've always deemed him to make really good, thought out decisions... until now!!

My boyfriend, we'll call him Jim, recently won something at his work where he can buy either an Ipad up to 500 dollars, or really expensive Sunglasses.... and they'll reimburse him for the money.

What would YOU choose?? A free, NEW Ipad air... or loving sunglasses?! I obviously expected him to be like BOOM Ipad yes. but he's like "I think I might take the sunglasses..." and I'm like "WHAT". I don't get it. We've had arguments about this. Yes I KNOW it's HIS decision and HE won it through HIS work... but I can't get over how loving stupid of a choice it is.

You can get expensive sunglasses anytime... he'd have bought some anyways without this chance... but he's getting an Ipad just handed to him and he'd rather 200 dollars sunglasses than a 500 dollar Ipad! It's completely ridiculous!

If he already has an Ipad then FINE, take the Sunglasses! (Even though I'd take the Ipad, SELL IT, and use some of that money to buy Sunglasses AND have money left over) but nope he wants the sunglasses. Mind you, he has a phone that he uses for web browsing and such and a really REALLY lovely OLD laptop with TONS of virus's; you can't watch netflix or stream shows without a million popups, this Ipad can do wonders for him, but I feel he's just so superficial that he wants the sunglasses to look loving cool.

I just don't know what to say. Am I overacting?? Ultimately it IS his decision and I'm not going to break up with him if he does choose the sunglasses because I'm not crazy, but I will be super mega disappointed in his decision making.

So again, am I being a huge bitch?? Or is he making the wrong dumb choice?? and I'd be lying if I said that yeah... I TOTALLY WASN'T LOOKING FORWARD TO PLAYING WITH IT TOO -_-

EDIT: I see I am getting a lot of negative reactions and judgy replies which I deserve. But I am just trying to be frank here, here comes a sad sob story. I grew up EXTREMELY poor. I worked hard to get where I am today.... which is still poor however. I am very frugal with my money, so when someone just hands you a free Ipad, you take it! Especially since you already have nice sunglasses. So I'm sorry if everyone thinks I am a terrible terrible person, I'm not screaming at him and ripping my hair out. I just want to know if he's making a dumb choice considering everything I just said, but I see everyone is just going to jump on the you're a bitch train so, I guess I know the answer.

TLDR: Boyfriend and I are having a fight about whether he should take free sunglasses or a free Ipad. He wants the sunglasses but I think that's a really stupid choice, even though yes it IS his to make. but it's stupid.

My [26F] boyfriend [25M] saved a pair of women's underwear he found in his apartment building laundry room. I found them today hidden in his sunglasses case. Acceptable?

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Stayed at his place last night with my daughter [3F]. He said he lost his sunglasses, and I saw the case sitting on his shelf. When I opened the case, there was a thong folded up inside. Not mine. I immediately addressed it. He said he was embarrassed, attempted to scold me for going through his things (shut that down real quick), and went on to explain how he found it a couple of weeks ago while doing laundry in his building. He saw them, took them, and obviously hid them away.

We were separated earlier this year, so he assured me that they didn't belong to a woman he was with then and that nobody ever came into his apartment. Maybe I believe that. My question ... is this okay? Normal? Acceptable?

He found them, picked them up, I guess smelled them to make sure they were "clean" (?), and decided to keep them. Hidden. If this is a fetish thing, I guess it beats infidelity. But is this appropriate behavior for someone in a relationship? Also what do men do with women's underwear?

Tl;dr: he found and kept a stranger's underwear and hid in his room. Should I be okay with this?

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