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YeahTubaMike: Mar 24, 2005; *hic* Gotta finish thish . . .; Doctor Rope

elise the great posted:

I wear thong underwear because I don�t have enough rear end to keep full cheek coverage in place. If I�m gonna have a wedgie all day anyway I�d rather limit the amount of fabric involved.

how is this physically possible :psyduck:

elise the great posted:

I’m so glad I chose a profession that doesn’t require me to wear fuckin’ mascara

i've never worn makeup in a professional setting in my life, and i hope i never have to because i have no idea how to put it on

# ? Jun 1, 2018 19:55

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# ? Jun 4, 2024 01:13

Blade Runner: Aug 14, 2015

I wear makeup all the time because how else will I keep up with the other pretty boys in the Village

NYC is a battleground

# ? Jun 1, 2018 19:57

Captain Yossarian: Feb 24, 2011; All new" Rings of Fire"

Pick posted:

Tech is different, we're talking about people industries full of human beings.

I work for a bonding company pick, and I promise you no one cares what underwear people wear here, and this is the whitest, most clean cut company you can imagine.

Edit: this is the dumbest loving derail I'm sorry for contributing lol

# ? Jun 1, 2018 19:57

Blade Runner: Aug 14, 2015

After Pick's dream job as a retard masturbator fell through, she had to get a gig as a school marm

# ? Jun 1, 2018 19:59

Leon Einstein: Feb 6, 2012; I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.

Pick just likes to feel superior with her high waisted full coverage bladder protection panties.

:barf:

# ? Jun 1, 2018 19:59

FUCK SNEEP: Apr 21, 2007

Pick posted:

Tech is different, we're talking about people industries full of human beings.

You really like to generalize and put down groups of people, don't you?

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:03

Captain Yossarian: Feb 24, 2011; All new" Rings of Fire"

gently caress SNEEP posted:

You really like to generalize and put down groups of people, don't you?

Look at this post. Of course she does it's her gimmick

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:05

Yawgmoth: Sep 10, 2003; This post is cursed!

elise the great posted:

So one narrow definition of professional dress is important in fields that value that specific definition of professional dress, while other fields of equal respectability have different definitions of professional dress. Oh my god I�m so glad I chose a profession that doesn�t require me to wear fuckin� mascara

You are now required to wear nothing but mascara.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:11

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Blade Runner posted:

After Pick's dream job as a retard masturbator fell through, she had to get a gig as a school marm

Not sure if this is a fact or a joke. Leaning towards fact.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:12

value-brand cereal: May 2, 2008

loquacius posted:

Pick's whole dress-code meltdown did kind of answer my question w/r/t what the boss lady was checking the underwear for. We simply cannot abide sluts in the workplace

That's not a meltdown. YOSPOS had a meltdown spanning many pages over how expensive your shoes should be just the other day. If you're not wearing 400-600 USD shoes, you're a filthy hobo chump.

It's been a while since I read Talented Mr. Ripley, but I do recall him being less creepy than this lady.

Me [~30 F] with my coworkers [varying ages, M/F], work at a not-for-profit and one person (20-ish F) who is Swimfan, Talented Mr. Ripley and more rolled into one sad package.Non-Romantic

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3pu4vo/me_30_f_with_my_coworkers_varying_ages_mf_work_at/

quote:

Hi r/relationships!

This is SUPER LONG. So, maybe avoid it unless you want to get as much context as possible.

I never thought it would come to this, but I need some hivemind help.

I work at a medium sized not-for-profit agency that helps families and kids who are new to the country. I have been working with the company for over 2 years, but I grew up around everyone who works there, as I have family who basically helped start the org.

We generally all get along, work way too hard for our clients and never really take vacations. Everyone has a big heart.

Unfortunately, my near decade's experience in the not-for-profit sector have shown me that we get really great people... and others who are drat near the worst. I have worked with people who are pathological liars, narcissists and sadists. I've experienced violence in the workplace, and more. So even though there's more creative freedom and an ability to have closer, more enriching bonds with the work we do and clients, HR is non-existent and many times big problems are left to fester.

Now, in the last 2 years, things have been "okay", but I've already had someone try to undermine my position and literally steal my job. This person was, by all accounts, a real big rear end in a top hat, and was obviously unsuccessful. Because I know not to trust shady people, I kept a detailed log of what they did, sent numerous emails to my boss with the info and made it clear that I would leave if this poo poo escalated.

Instead of fixing the problem, my lovely boss (who really is lovely, just not good at decisions or being stern with assholes), basically threw me under the bus. She made us visit a mediator without giving the mediator any context, and the guy basically harassed me the entire time, and I couldn't leave or argue because the mediator kept insinuating that she'd tell my boss.

The dude didn't work with our org. He literally saw my project, knew my boss, invited himself to things I was involved in and tried to tank them. Like, he went to meetings with community partners and lied saying he repped our organization and that we hated the facilities the partners used, we didn't want to work with them... etc, to make it seem like I was ineffective at my job.

Now, this wrecked me for a few months, and I really don't like or trust any of the people who essentially let it happen.. I was already battling health stuff, I was tired all the time, and now I was getting pretty much bullied and it was co-signed by my boss. I told them I would quit and that I will sue, even if it meant suing people who were family to me.

My mentor / coworker saw how distressed I was, took the guy aside and made some very clear personal threats and poof the guy disappeared.

Fast forward to today.

We have a new employee who basically is a mini receptionist. She doesn't have clients, work with people's cases or deal with the hard stuff. She answers the phone and passes on referrals to the actual caseworkers.

Three very bad things about her: 1) She is a pathological liar 2) She is trying to steal my job 3) I just found out she's been sexually harassing a (male, gay) coworker

I recently went on vacation (well needed, very helpful) and while I was gone she went to every single employee in the building and said that I was quitting to do other stuff and she's officially my replacement.

So, I get back from vacation and these coworkers (who, once again, are like my family, we've known each other since I was a small child, they raised me) all come up to me, concerned because I didn't come to them to share my big news about leaving. I am obviously confused and say, no, I'm not, I'm just back from vacation.

All of them say "Whew, that's good, I knew it wasn't true! Carla said you were quitting and she was replacing you."

I am obviously angry and annoyed but I take note of it and get ready to go to my boss. Then I realize, no, wait. I can't. I don't want to get the gaslight special again. gently caress.

For this to happen a second time is perplexing and exhausting, but I need to find a way to cope.

So, I go to my coworker who is a mentor of sorts, and he's like "Oh god. She's out of her mind. She keeps sending me creepy sex texts. I keep deleting them because they just embarrass me to think about." As he's talking, HE GETS A TEXT. It's creepy, it's romantic in nature and it acknowledges that he's told her to stop multiple times but she "just can't help it."

He's very, very, very gay. He's obviously tried to be nice and tell her that it's impossible and to stop. She knows this. So now I'm just seeing red.

I explain that I'll support him either way, but I'd suggest he keep any further texts or correspondence she sends, keep telling her to stop, and go to the police and / or our boss and the rest of the administrative people. He doesn't want to, and I support him, but he decides to save the texts just in case.

Then, it gets even creepier: he loses someone important to him. She finds out somehow and sends him even creepier messages.

He decides that he's going to report her to the boss and tells her that he's had enough and that she's crossed the line talking about someone who he cares about who is dead.

He goes into work the next day to tell the boss, and there's Carla, crying in the boss' arms. Someone in her family suddenly kills themselves overnight.

As you can probably guess by now, no, no one died. Another coworker saw this family member on Facebook, alive, chillin'. Updating statuses and whatnot.

I have only spoken to people who have approached me about this creepy woman, and there is now a sizeable chunk of the office that just wants her gone. She has apparently been cornering clients pretending to be their caseworkers and telling them not to tell anyone she "helped" them.

I work with kids programs, and apparently she interrupted a kid's after school program to tell them she was the boss now and gave out her personal number. I know this because a terrified volunteer told me.

She's just escalating and I know she's unwell, but because I know she wants to create problems, I don't want to help it escalate. But there's an rear end-beating floating out there at this point. Approaching the kids is just off the charts no.

None of us can fire her (other than our boss) and everyone knows our boss is useless in that respect (she thinks everyone is sooOOOOoooo wonderful and that we are all zen and says namaste randomly to people... if I didn't know her I'd hate it, but she's basically a hard-working Yoda to everyone).

Also, now that I and multiple people know that she lies about everything (I mean, she's lied about so much more, like training, education, her personal life... etc, it was obvious before but I am busy and didn't care for the attention seeking so I ignored it), we are avoiding her like the plague, but it just seems to embolden her. And when I suggest banding together and going to the boss, everyone chickens out and acts like it "...wouldn't be taking the high road." (according to one co-worker). We all lobbied for an HR policy to be instated and she suddenly "had" to miss the meeting, presumably because everyone there had legit complaints about her.

So now we're getting some HR policies and people instated, soon. But what until then?

I love the actual work that I do, and I am loving good at it. I make a living doing this work, and I really, really, don't want to quit. I've been there for 2 years and this is the only organization in the area where I can do my type of work with awesome funding, and quite frankly, my work family here is wonderful.

It's just this person. And my boss.

I'm feeling conflicted because I need my boss to adult-up and do something about this person.

So, uh, what would you do? I don't want to avoid parts of the office, I don't want this woman to affect my working life in any way anymore. I also don't want to engage in fisticuffs with an obviously unwell person. She's giving me migraines and making the office uncomfortable for everyone.

Halp.

tl;dr: Pathological liar person, taking advantage of the good graces of my workplace, sexually harassing my coworker (and friend), trying to steal my job, and lying to clients. No HR available yet. What would you do?!

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:14

Brother Entropy: Dec 27, 2009

therobit posted:

Not sure if this is a fact or a joke. Leaning towards fact.

it's a hugh joke

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:14

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

gently caress SNEEP posted:

You really like to generalize and put down groups of people, don't you?

it is extremely amazing how this still bears fruit, im kind of committed now

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:20

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

Brother Entropy posted:

it's a hugh joke

It's a consistent thing but also absolutely gross--I'm saying this in general terms--to conflate physically handicapped and mentally handicapped people.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:20

Hellblazer187: Oct 12, 2003

I work from home and I don't think I currently own any shirts that don't have one of the following on them:

1) holes
2) stains
3) X-Men characters

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:21

value-brand cereal: May 2, 2008

My [32F] Girl Scout Leader [32F] stole all of the cookie money.Non-Romantic

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4l093t/my_32f_girl_scout_leader_32f_stole_all_of_the/

quote:

I'm so furious reddit, I need some advice before I do something rash.

I am a co-leader for a girl scout troop of first graders. I don't have a daughter or family member in the troop, but I was in girl scouts when I was a girl and I thought it would be a great way to volunteer and give back. When an old girl scout member that used to be in my troop, Candie, posted about starting up the troop on Facebook, I jumped on board. It's our very first year as a troop and we only have 5 girls. Despite our small number and starting up half way through the season, we still managed to raise $3000 in cookie money, about 1/4 of that goes to our troop to do fun activities with the girls. I myself raised about $800 of that.

Everything was going great and I was super excited to have a few fun end of the season events with the girls with the money we raised.

That's until I received a letter from the Girl Scout office that they tried to withdraw the money from our account (as leaders we had to start a non-profit bank account under our troop #) and they were unsuccessful. If they didn't receive the money within the next 5 business days we would be removed as volunteers and sent to third party debt collectors. I immediately called Candie and she acted very confused and said she didn't know why they sent me anything considering she's the primary leader and I'm the co-leader and that she would go to the bank and update me later.

Well the day came and went and I received no update from her so the following day I went to the bank to ask them to print out a statement for me (she's listed as the primary person on the account so I don't get anything from the bank in the mail). It turns out someone, well obviously her, had been withdrawing money IN the bank over the last month. 50 dollars one day, 200 the next, 400 the next day, and so on until the bank had only 3 dollars remaining. Then the Girl Scouts attempted to withdraw the money and it became overdrawn and we now have a -33 balance from charges from the bank. So then I called Candie to ask her what was going on and she just brushed it off like it was no big deal and told me she could account for 800 of it in "supplies" that she got for the troop (what supplies?!) and then just started changing the subject to something else.

I then became really worried that Candie would try to throw me under the bus to the Girl Scouts so I went back to the bank and sat down with a branch manager to get some evidence that she had been withdrawing the money. Turns out, Candie DID come into the bank and contest the charges when she told me she would "investigate" it, but the bank manager explained to her that when you withdraw directly through the bank (not atm) you have to provide an ID and he had a teller in the bank that specifically remembered her coming in. When the branch manager left Candie in his office to go retrieve some proof for her, she bolted and left the bank. I was shocked, but the branch manager happily provided me with signed withdraw slips from Candie in case I needed to relay them to the Girl Scouts organization.

I have since spoken with the Girl Scouts organization and they have assured me that Candie will be the one sent to the debt collectors and not me. I'm relieved to hear that, but Candie has NO idea that I know all of this. She actually just texted me to see if I would run the meeting tomorrow because she is busy with work (yea right). At the same time I'm worried that she won't tell any of the parents what's going on. What if she scams them out of more money?? Should I text her and tell her I know what she did or should I just ghost her?

I just wanted to volunteer...

edit: words

Edit: I just went to the bank to see if she had replaced the money. She obviously did not and the Girl Scouts attempted to withdraw the cookie money again a few days ago. There's another overdraft fee and now the account is at -69 dollars. I then called our local Girl Scouts organization and they informed me that they're still processing this issue so they haven't definitively taken her off the volunteer role just yet, but I should be getting an update from them later today or tomorrow. They told me I should go to the meeting tomorrow and not to give the parents any details and if I have to say anything just be as vague as possible. I'm kind of worried about this because I have a small business in town that my name is attached to and I don't want my name to get dragged through the mud. Also I guess that means I have to respond to Candie's text that I will do the meeting?? I don't really want to talk to her, so I'm not sure what I should do! I will update when I hear more from the Girl Scouts.

EDIT 2 I received a call from our troop support specialist and she has communicated with Candie to drop off the box of troop items for the meeting on my porch. Candie told them that she will be dropping it off in a half an hour! I hope she doesn't knock on my door and try to talk with me, I will totally lose my drat mind on her! The troop specialist is going to call me back tonight to tell me the verbiage I should use with the parents, but I feel kind of slimy about the wording she used. She said "right now, only you and Candie know the money was taken.. that's all I'm saying." Like what is that supposed to mean?! I'm not supposed to say anything to the parents because they don't have access to the account?

tl;dr: I am a girl scout co-leader and my troop leader cashed in all of the cookie money. I don't know if I should respond or ignore her and leave the situation.

UPDATE: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4p7t7x/update_my_32f_girl_scout_leader_32f_stole_all_of/

quote:

It has been just about a month and I have an update for all of you. Thank you so much to everyone who offered advice and their stories. It really helped! original post

Most of you urged me to go to the police and file a report. Well I did, but the officer that talked with me said I shouldn't file a police report yet and should contact Candie and try to procure the money from her to show that when I do file a police report I can show them that I made every attempt to get it from her and that she is aware of the theft. So, I messaged her:

"Candie, in the month of March our Girl Scouts' bank account was drained. I went to the bank and have account statements and withdrawal slips showing that you made unauthorized withdrawals from the account. If you do not restore the account I will be filing a police report on June 1st to protect myself and the girls"

Her response:

"I will be restoring it no worries. It was not all me but I will be replacing it because I am the one who lost the information. But thank you. I am putting in a certain amount each month towards both girl scouts and the bank. But thank you, I got what you are saying."

My response:

"I spoke with the branch manager at the bank. They have evidence that it was you. I have had a bank account there for over a decade, they require you to show proper ID when you withdraw money from the account. Also, there are cameras outside and inside the building."

Candie's response:

"Well without going into my personal information, I do not remember it, but I am being treated for it. Acknowledged my mistake and will take care of it. It will all be paid to the GS council before August 1st and the remainder of the money is accounted for between my trip to the council shop and the stuff I will be purchasing for the water park. My first payment to them is June first because that is my first check for my new job. That is all I'm saying on any of this."

After that, I talked with the GS council again and sent them the messages. I told them that if they didn't resolve this I would. They had a meeting about it the next day and decided to remove Candie as a volunteer (obviously) and that they would be going after her for the full amount of what they owe the Girl Scouts and what she stole from our troop. They also agreed to deposit the money right back into our account as soon as she was removed from the bank account. I was super happy about this resolution! There is a catch though... they didn't want me to tell the parents at our last meeting that this was going on. They had to officially send Candie a letter of removal before it was official. Also my contact at the GS council said they still wanted me to pass out flyers for Candie's water park event that she promised. I was pissed about that, because this lady might have a drug problem or something, how in hell can you trust that she will go buy anything for the water park or even show up? AND if she does what if she uses it as an opportunity to scam them out of more money? They had Candie drop off the troop meeting information on my porch so I didn't have to talk to her.

Well, I went to the meeting and no one ended turning up because Candie had conveniently scheduled it the day before they had the day off of school, which I wasn't aware of since I don't have a child in the school. So no one thought there was a meeting. I was actually really happy about that, because I didn't want to encourage them to go to this supposed water park event hosted by criminal Candie.

After that, the Girl Scout Council agreed to send a representative to have a meeting with the parents and go over our options for next year and having a new troop leader. Candie sent me a message this morning (I guess one of the parents clued her in about our meeting):

"The only thing that needs to be discussed at tonight's meeting, is the fact that I will not be returning as troop leader for Troop xxxxxx, my family is moving and will no longer be in the school district or nearby to be able to continue with the truth. I wish you the best of luck."

Yes, screw her for trying to cover her own rear end. Even though I would love to tell everyone how terrible she is, I decided not to tell the parents about Candie. I thought about it a lot, and if I did, one of the parents will tell their daughter and then everyone will be gossiping about Candie's daughter. It is not this poor girl's fault that her step mom is a crook and I don't want her to get bullied because of it. I also think it would turn a lot of the parents away from the troop and I don't want to ruin everyone's girl scout experience because of me. Candie is gone and can't be a part of the troop anymore, so good riddance. Girl Scouts are going after her for all of the money so she will have to face the legal consequences as well. Me telling the parents wouldn't help anything.

Also, on a positive note, at the meeting one of the parents said they will step up and be troop leader, yay! I have decided to stay on and help them as much as possible. I want to have a good experience volunteering and I shouldn't give up because of one jerk.

edit Just wanted to add to those that are worried that Candie can do this to another troop, she has been black listed from the Girl Scouts organization nationally, she is not allowed to be in any leadership role. As far as her doing something shady somewhere else otherwise... there's not a whole lot I can do about that. I can't let everyone in my state know she is a scumbag, so it is what it is.

tl;dr: Candie was kicked out of the troop and the Girl Scouts are legally pursuing her for the money stolen from both the Girl Scouts and the troop. We're moving on!

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:21

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

Pick posted:

wow IT and nurses, people known for professionalism in dress

drat rich white girl got fangs.

Fiance [23 F] is blaming me [22 M] for "Jeopardizing her sisters [28 F] marriage.

quote:

Last night my fiance and I were having drinks at our place with her sister and brother-in-law. We've started planning our future in terms of location, jobs, how many kids we want etc, and her sister/BIL started giving advice.

We were chatting and then the issue of "getting through tough times" got brought up. My fiances BIL mentioned her sister cheating on him last year. My face gave away my reaction and he asked what was so bizarre. I said "I just have respect for myself so I could never take someone back who cheated". I went on to ask how he trusts her and doesn't assume the worst every time she's late or not where she says she is.

He got angry instantly and told me I didn't know what I was talking about and that I should "shut the gently caress up". I told him I know enough to not marry a cheater and definitely wouldn't stay with one. I was mad and he cursed at me so I went one step further and said: "Your wife had sex with another dude, loved every second of it, and then probably came home and kissed you. Shut up".

He tried to get big with me, but I played D1 football so that was shut down fast and they left abruptly. My fiance and I are still in a fight, but we're talking. However, shes now saying her BIL wants to reconsider the marriage to her sister and wants space, and that its my fault.

I don't feel like it's my fault at all. I didn't make her sister cheat on her husband. I didn't make her sister go through all the necessary steps that cheating requires. If her husband, can't handle the critique of him taking her back, then he's not really over it and needs to stop giving advice. He chose to take her back. He chose to share that information. He has to nutt up and deal with the criticisms that come with it.

My fiance wants me to apologize and I'm against it. She wants me to talk to her BIL and take back what I said, so he stops reconsidering the marriage. That's not happening. I meant every word I said. Cheating is a non-starter for me. I don't respect people of either gender that take their spouses back for cheating. What should I do?

TL;DR

Fiance's BIL mentioned that my fiances sister cheated. I implied he didn't have respect for himself for taking her back. A blow up ensued. He's now questioning the marriage and my fiance wants me to apologize/take back what I said, but I meant every single word of it.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:23

FUCK SNEEP: Apr 21, 2007

Pick posted:

it is extremely amazing how this still bears fruit, im kind of committed now

I just think you're an rear end in a top hat now but more power to ya

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:24

Yawgmoth: Sep 10, 2003; This post is cursed!

Pick posted:

It's a consistent thing but also absolutely gross

yes that accurately describes your posting quite well

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:25

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

gently caress SNEEP posted:

I just think you're an rear end in a top hat now but more power to ya

There�s definitely some truth to that, but she�s clearly baiting people.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:25

ravenkult: Feb 3, 2011

Pick posted:

It's a consistent thing but also absolutely gross--I'm saying this in general terms--to conflate physically handicapped and mentally handicapped people.

didn't you say he was autistic?

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:27

Haifisch: Nov 13, 2010; Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!; Taco Defender

fruit on the bottom posted:

Fiance [23 F] is blaming me [22 M] for "Jeopardizing her sisters [28 F] marriage.

Translation: Fiance is mad someone rocked the boat instead of quietly talking poo poo about sister and BIL behind their backs.

fruit on the bottom posted:

There’s definitely some truth to that, but she’s clearly baiting people.

And yet people go for it every single time.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:27

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

gently caress SNEEP posted:

I just think you're an rear end in a top hat now but more power to ya

I've actually been thinking a lot about how much nastier I've gotten in the last 4 or so years but there's been a good turn in my life (maybe?) that I think is going to solidify whether I turn things around or not, so fingers crossed that I return to the assessment that being nice isn't so bad. But if I continue being a jackass it'll still be my fault, don't worry about that. :shrug:

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:31

tactlessbastard: Feb 4, 2001; Godspeed, post; Fun Shoe

fruit on the bottom posted:

drat rich white girl got fangs.

Fiance [23 F] is blaming me [22 M] for "Jeopardizing her sisters [28 F] marriage.

Man, that's one of those situations where you just keep your opinion to yourself but no, he had to trot it right on out there and then escalate through the roof. If I was his fiancee I'd be mad at him for being so tactless. That said, she should probably be angry at her ho-bag sister for doing the marriage jeopardizing if she cares so much.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:32

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

Too much Dragon Age, I think. You should a break from that and play a real game like Angry Birds.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:33

Admiral Ray: May 17, 2014; Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

fruit on the bottom posted:

drat rich white girl got fangs.

Fiance [23 F] is blaming me [22 M] for "Jeopardizing her sisters [28 F] marriage.

quote:

He got angry instantly and told me I didn't know what I was talking about and that I should "shut the gently caress up". I told him I know enough to not marry a cheater and definitely wouldn't stay with one. I was mad and he cursed at me so I went one step further and said: "Your wife had sex with another dude, loved every second of it, and then probably came home and kissed you. Shut up".

Fuckin' owned hell yeah.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:33

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

tactlessbastard posted:

Man, that's one of those situations where you just keep your opinion to yourself but no, he had to trot it right on out there and then escalate through the roof. If I was his fiancee I'd be mad at him for being so tactless. That said, she should probably be angry at her ho-bag sister for doing the marriage jeopardizing if she cares so much.

At the very least the �she hosed everyone, and enjoyed every second, then came home as kissed with those same lips� was probably a bridge too far over the river Kwai.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:34

Admiral Ray: May 17, 2014; Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

Like that dude dunked on the BIL so hard he's gonna get a divorce, god drat.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:36

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

fruit on the bottom posted:

At the very least the �she hosed everyone, and enjoyed every second, then came home as kissed with those same lips� was probably a bridge too far over the river Kwai.

It's true though. That's why you don't marry a cheater.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:37

tactlessbastard: Feb 4, 2001; Godspeed, post; Fun Shoe

Admiral Ray posted:

Like that dude dunked on the BIL so hard he's gonna get a divorce, god drat.

we're going to have to fire back up the greatest all time owns thread

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:37

dudeness: Mar 5, 2010; Cat Army; Fallen Rib

Divorcing your wife to win the respect of a college football player.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:38

Hellblazer187: Oct 12, 2003

Comments are eating D1 guy alive, and I don't agree. D1 guy owns.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:38

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

Hellblazer187 posted:

Comments are eating D1 guy alive, and I don't agree. D1 guy owns.

That's because cheating has become way more mainstream.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:39

La Brea Carpet: Nov 22, 2007; I have no mouth and I must post

My (28F) boyfriend (28M) is obsessed with living frugally to the point of being controlling

quote:

Background: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years, living together for 3.

He comes from a family that is fairly well off but extremely frugal. �Waste not, want not� type of deal. Ex. One time I was helping his mom chop up some vegetables and when I was finished she went back to the stems and nubs I�d leftover to salvage an extra 0.5cm. Their default is to abstain from things if they could be considered a luxury in any way. I usually avoid running the dishwasher, but on occasions where it�s full/we�re out of dishes and forgot to run it the night before, I will run it during the day. This is a huge affront to him and if he�s around he will turn it off. We also recently got in a huge fight because he was convinced that leaving the roof rack on the car (instead of storing it in our tiny apartment) would cost more in gas, even though we live in the city and only use the car 3-4 times a month.

He gets a lot of his frugality from habits he developed with his family, but still spends lots of his own money on beer, building a collection he�s been working on for years (maybe $30-$200 per month, depending) and going out to social events at bars a couple of times a week. (EDIT: just to be clear, the collection I'm referring to is not beer - it's a totally other thing he collects.)

When my boyfriend and I moved in together we combined our expenses and have a joint account that we pay into for rent, bills, groceries etc. This includes the hydro bill, which on average is $60-$80 per month for our loft apartment.

The issue: where we live, it�s getting HOT. Our bedroom is around 30c at night, plus humidity. I put in our window A/C a couple of days ago and I feel like he spends most of his time turning it off.

Thing is, I can�t sleep in this kind of heat. I will toss and turn all night, and wake up hours early, and that�s WITH the A/C on. It�s way worse when it�s off.

I have tried to explain that this is not a matter of luxury, that I need to be able to sleep to continue to be productive at work etc. I guess he thinks I�m being dramatic/gluttonous because he keeps turning it off when he wakes up, which is usually at least two hours before I do (he is naturally an early riser and I am naturally a late one). By the time I woke up this morning our bedroom was back up from 22C to 27C.

I finally had it this morning and told him that I would start paying the entire hydro bill during the summer, if it meant I could run the A/C as needed. But is that really a fair compromise? Considering that it�s my basic comfort and ability to sleep that�s at stake, I�m a little pissed that he hasn�t tried hard to compromise himself, especially since the increase in hydro costs would be relatively negligible.

I also don�t want to �agree to disagree� on things like this - and I find his behaviour when it comes to these issues to be extremely an unfairly controlling. Am I wrong? If not, is my only option really to start striking out on my own and footing the entire bill for shared expenses because I need to add $10-$20 of use each month just to be able to sleep?

As an added layer, we�ve been talking about getting married for about 2 years now. He insists that he wants to have more money saved, but can�t seem to conceptualize how much. I worry that he has an unhealthy relationship with money that negatively affects our relationship. We�re not rich but we do okay. How can I help him understand (and have him take me seriously) that from my point of view he�s being unnecessarily frugal, and that I find it overly controlling and worrisome?

TL;DR: My boyfriend�s frugality with money is affecting our relationship and when I bring it up he thinks I�m being gluttonous. What do?

Remove the Funko Pop from thine own eye before removing the $0.50 of AC/day from your girlfriend's eye.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:40

loquacius: Oct 21, 2008

value-brand cereal posted:

That's not a meltdown. YOSPOS had a meltdown spanning many pages over how expensive your shoes should be just the other day. If you're not wearing 400-600 USD shoes, you're a filthy hobo chump.

Reddit went through a phase where they were basically fetishizing traditional adulthood to the point where they came off like kids standing next to their dad as he shaves, rubbing a comb against their cheeks pretending to shave along with him (this is where the whole fedora/trilby thing came from)

Sounds like YOSPOS is still there

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:40

Admiral Ray: May 17, 2014; Proud Musk and Dogecoin fanboy

La Brea Carpet posted:

My (28F) boyfriend (28M) is obsessed with living frugally to the point of being controlling

Remove the Funko Pop from thine own eye before removing the $0.50 of AC/day from your girlfriend's eye.

quote:

We also recently got in a huge fight because he was convinced that leaving the roof rack on the car (instead of storing it in our tiny apartment) would cost more in gas, even though we live in the city and only use the car 3-4 times a month.

Got here before I realized the solution: :sever:

from your dipshit bf.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:42

Leon Einstein: Feb 6, 2012; I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.

Hellblazer187 posted:

Comments are eating D1 guy alive, and I don't agree. D1 guy owns.

Reddit nerds getting triggered by the big bully jock. He owns for that reason as well.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:42

Ouhei: Oct 23, 2008; Cat Army

Hellblazer187 posted:

Comments are eating D1 guy alive, and I don't agree. D1 guy owns.

I mean, he was a dick for no great reason (it would have been just as easy to just keep your mouth shut in that situation). But, I would imagine one of the ways to make sure your relationship doesn't recover from one of you cheating is to bring it up in front of other people when you don't have to, so there's that. Alternatively don't take anyone back that cheats on you and don't be surprised when people lose respect for you when you do.

La Brea Carpet posted:

My (28F) boyfriend (28M) is obsessed with living frugally to the point of being controlling

Remove the Funko Pop from thine own eye before removing the $0.50 of AC/day from your girlfriend's eye.

This guy sucks super hard and it's not even worth bothering to figure out if he's controlling. He just sucks and you should dump him.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:49

Doggles: Apr 22, 2007

My (42M) ex-wife (39F) is being rude and short with me after a relatively low-stress divorce and 2 years of cordial relations. My new girlfriend (28F) is the obvious reason

quote:

I�ll try to keep this short. My ex-wife and I got married 6 years ago, had a son about a year later, and got divorced 3 years after that. Without going into too much detail, we determined that we were incompatible as a couple and decided to split. It was amicable. We have joint custody of our son, there are no alimony issues because we both earn good incomes, and we divided the assets pretty evenly. And while there are hiccups every now and then, co-parenting has gone very smoothly.

I started dating my current girlfriend about 6 months ago and it�s gotten pretty serious. She is really great with my son (she herself is a product of divorced parents and she sometimes felt neglected when her parents started new families with their 2nd spouses; she doesn�t want that to happen with my son). I�m obviously keeping my ex-wife abreast of my life for the sake of our son, and lately she has gotten petty about some things.

There are several examples but I�ll keep it to 2 egregious ones to keep the post shorter. First, my girlfriend is a former co-worker of mine. My ex-wife had met her in passing from a couple work functions years ago. My ex-wife suddenly tells me a few days ago that she thought my girlfriend and I were flirtatious with each other during these work functions, and even asks me if I had cheated on her during our marriage! I committed no infidelity. My girlfriend is extremely outgoing and I think my ex-wife construed it all as flirting. I also barely knew my girlfriend at that point as we were in different departments during the time we worked for the same company. She also had a boyfriend at that point. I point all of this out to my ex-wife but she remains unconvinced.

Second, my girlfriend and I are travelling to see Pearl Jam in August, and I wanted to let my ex-wife know so she�d have our son that weekend. Upon telling her my plans she chastises me for never doing anything similar during our marriage. Um, hello? I *wanted* to travel more during our marriage, but my ex-wife travels a lot for work and didn�t want to travel for vacation and preferred �staycations�. Fair enough; we live in a big city and about 1 hour from the beach; there�s plenty of things to do. Why am I getting poo poo for this now when it was her preference not to do much travelling? I also point this out to her and it felt satisfying that she really didn�t have a good response for any of it.

And, of course, I�m getting digs from her about my girlfriend�s age that are getting too numerous to count in which she insists she�s just joking but I�m not buying it for a second.

I want a relationship with my ex-wife that�s cordial and without unnecessary drama and it was like that for a while, and I want to treat her respectfully given that she�s the mother of my son, but I�m tired of the disrespect and quite frankly the paranoia.

Tl:dr Relationship with ex-wife is deteriorating due to things getting serious with my current girlfriend, tired of enduring disrespectful conduct over things that aren�t true

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:50

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

La Brea Carpet posted:

My (28F) boyfriend (28M) is obsessed with living frugally to the point of being controlling

Remove the Funko Pop from thine own eye before removing the $0.50 of AC/day from your girlfriend's eye.

People like this are the absolute worst, and they suffer for no good reason. By the way, they ultimately die with very little additional money (in part probably also because they do poo poo that pisses people off and lose out on important alliances).

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:52

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# ? Jun 4, 2024 01:13

Outrail: Jan 4, 2009; www.sapphicrobotica.com

Admiral Ray posted:

Got here before I realized the solution: from your dipshit bf.

Yeah, I mean having a roof rack can add like 20% to your gas bill, but that's highway driving. Around the city a few times a month... Yeah I'd be happy paying the extra $5 convenience fee of not dragging it off the roof, and also not having to stick it in a tiny rear end apartment.

gently caress frugal people who can't rationalize how much money they're saving.

# ? Jun 1, 2018 20:58

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