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Ziv Zulander posted:Support your so's garbage art by pretending to like it, or by critiquing it so they'll get better? you can get critique from all kinds of people, your job as a partner is emotional support
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Brother Entropy posted:asking a romantic partner what they think of your art is an act of aggression It’s “do these pants make my rear end look big” of creative-types. The question is a trap.
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tactlessbastard posted:you're calling the essential social grease for all of human civilization super condescending Yeah I expect that my girlfriend is willing to criticize me in a way the guy I just showed my dance routine to on the subway is not. Polite noncriticism is totally appropriate for acquaintances and lower but is condescending coming from a good friend and pushes into super condescending if it's from a partner.
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Brother Entropy posted:you can get critique from all kinds of people, your job as a partner is emotional support Which is why it's a good idea to go to your partner for criticism, because you know their advice will be constructive
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Brother Entropy posted:you can get critique from all kinds of people, your job as a partner is emotional support If you've got a huge pool of people who really give enough of a poo poo about your music that they are going to volunteer detailed, deeply considered critiques on it you don't really need critiques, you're Kanye. A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 19:50 on Jun 6, 2018 |
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If all he wanted was criticism, he could've just accepted what she said and never told her it was actually his. That seems more like he just wanted a reaction, like, gotcha! I've tricked you into doing a thing you've made it clear you didn't want to do! Neenerneenerneeener! If all he wanted was feedback, he got it. He tricked it out of her. He could have left it at that. It's not like he's going to be raking in cash or getting major publicity for his apparently super lovely music that she's going to come across in the wild and he's going to have to cover for.
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Ziv Zulander posted:Which is why it's a good idea to go to your partner for criticism, because you know their advice will be constructive While you're at it, you might want to ask your Mom's opinion of your work, too. Just hope she still thinks you're 3 and will put it on the refrigerator door.
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Huntersoninski posted:If all he wanted was criticism, he could've just accepted what she said and never told her it was actually his. That seems more like he just wanted a reaction, like, gotcha! I've tricked you into doing a thing you've made it clear you didn't want to do! Neenerneenerneeener! Brother Entropy posted:asking a romantic partner what they think of your art is an act of aggression
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If real, I’d nope out of there as soon as possible if I were you My [16F] boyfriend [17M] told me today that he wish he could kill everyone who is gay. I am bisexual. quote:u/helpthrowout10
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Milotic posted:If real, I’d nope out of there as soon as possible if I were you quote:he has violent tendencies, none are toward me
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only towards half of her
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Khazar-khum posted:While you're at it, you might want to ask your Mom's opinion of your work, too. Just hope she still thinks you're 3 and will put it on the refrigerator door. Thanks to the magic of Alzheimer's, she does!
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You know scorpion and the frog reasoning only works if the scorpion hasnt lined up a side frog
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duck trucker posted:I dunno what her problem is. I make more money per hour then she does.* I totally missed that when I read through and was surprised that he was making so much as a delivery boy (or she was making so little). "I can always take more shifts if I needed more money." Good luck getting 40 hours of courier work per week and actually making more than her. pooch516 fucked around with this message at 20:02 on Jun 6, 2018 |
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Milotic posted:If real, I’d nope out of there as soon as possible if I were you When I was 17 I thought the world would be a better place with all the homosexuals dead. I also thought the world would be a better place with all the heterosexuals dead. tactlessbastard fucked around with this message at 20:21 on Jun 6, 2018 |
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Barudak posted:You know scorpion and the frog reasoning only works if the scorpion hasnt lined up a side frog Lol
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Pick posted:Support your so’s garbage art jfc there’s no truth anyway and no such thing as objective quality
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Thankfully, I already know every creative endeavor I touch is poo poo. No need for critique!
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You can tell it's some electronic garbage because any SO of someone who plays an instrument has heard them sit and play variations on the same guitar riff or clarinet fingering drill for hours straight and has had learned to tune out all art altogether
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Like and share if you remember “kissing”. Good memories all around. Me [35 M] with my Wife [31 F] of 15 years, Our kissing is not good. Are we just bad at it, or is it something else? quote:We used to make out back when we were in love. But we haven't been in love like that for 15 years. I started getting sick of kissing her all the time when it felt gross to me. Eventually, after a few years I confessed to her that I didn't like the way we kissed, but she didn't want to try anything different. After that she started slowly stopped being into kissing me as well. Now we hardly ever kiss and when we do it feels totally forced.
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fruit on the bottom posted:Like and share if you remember “kissing”. Good memories all around. This is like a slightly more coherent version of the story about girls who put their hair up in ponytails but didn’t
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Yeah it's super condescending to lie and say "oh yeah it's great sweetie" while withholding your actual thoughts. That's super patronizing - if you don't feel comfortable giving your unfiltered opinion because I'm your boyfriend, say "I don't feel comfortable giving my unfiltered opinion because you're my boyfriend". I'd still go on to say that's silly and I want you to do it anyway and I wouldn't particularly *want* to date someone who refused. I don't think it's a dealbreaker but having negative thoughts about me that you're unwilling to vocalize is certainly a communication skills red flag. Before, he had a girlfriend who cared about his feelings and wanted to encourage him. Now he has no girlfriend and the objective knowledge that he sucks. It doesn't sound like he came out on top with his plan, here.
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20 year old marries a 16 year old. What could possibly go wrong? I bet this is just the tip of the iceberg.
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Xombie posted:Before, he had a girlfriend who cared about his feelings and wanted to encourage him. Now he has no girlfriend and the objective knowledge that he sucks. It doesn't sound like he came out on top with his plan, here.
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Xombie posted:Before, he had a girlfriend who cared about his feelings and wanted to encourage him. Now he has no girlfriend and the objective knowledge that he sucks. It doesn't sound like he came out on top with his plan, here. People aren't trying to encourage you when they tell you "Oh it's fine", they're trying to get you to go away and stop bugging them.
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I am not sure why some people equate infantilizing people and straight up lying to them to preserve their fragile self esteem because they can't handle the truth as some kind of respect or kindness. because holy poo poo that's not what it is. It's contempt with nice window curtains.
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Clark Nova posted:This is like a slightly more coherent version of the story about girls who put their hair up in ponytails but didn’t Aw man now I want to read that hot mess again. It was his sister, too, wasn't it?
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Ham Sandwiches posted:I am not sure why some people equate infantilizing people and straight up lying to them to preserve their fragile self respect because they can't handle the truth as some kind of respect or kindness. take what you can get I presume
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:If she actually cared about his feelings, she'd care about his desire for genuine feedback instead of presenting transparently insincere and generic praise. Now he can go meet a nice new girl who will be able to give thoughtful and constructive criticism and won't lie to placate feelings that he doesn't have. Maybe he’ll even meet a nice person who’s into the same lovely niche music he is!
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My wife is very sensitive towards sexual/suggestive content in movies and tv. It's causing problems.quote:My wife (23) and I (23, male) have been married for three years. Tonight, we had a serious fight because I decided not to cave and "explain" myself to her. This issue has come up several times before. Here is what happened. quote:[–]Oriasi 25 points 6 years ago
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Ham Sandwiches posted:I am not sure why some people equate infantilizing people and straight up lying to them to preserve their fragile self esteem because they can't handle the truth as some kind of respect or kindness.
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Oh no someone that likes to holler at sports games I [24m] have been dating a very cool girl [27f] for about 3 months. I went to her club beach volley ball game and she screamed and cursed at teammate, refs, other team. Is this a red flag or just competitive spirit? quote:So background on this, I've been seeing "Mandy" for about 3 months. She is a very cool, very smart with a really good job and working her way up in her company. It also helps that she is by far the best looking girl I've ever been with. I really, really like her. I don't know who the gently caress Walter Sobchak is This is gina's cousin and it owns. I also find it bizarre how many dudes seemingly don't enjoy being around a lady that is a bit spicy
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Offended by her HotOrNot score from BF Is this shallow? How do I get over this? quote:Hi! I’ll try to make this quick. Thanks for anyone who reads! Regular brain: Negging a girl you want to pick up Galaxy brain: Negging a girl you're already dating so she doesn't get an inflated impression of how attractive you find her The solution is he won't talk about how she's plain like an amish wife until some time passes and she's ready for more sick burns
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You can't spell ballet without ball Me (22M) and GF (20F) of 1 year - girlfriend is in a high-level ballet program where she frequently 'partners' with other men and I'm struggling with jealousy/insecurity quote:To give some context, me and my girlfriend have been dating for about a year after meeting in college. This is my first real relationship whereas she's had long-term relationships before. We have been long-distance for about 2 months and will be for another 2, but there's a pretty serious time difference between us right now - 9 hours, so contact is unfortunately quite limited to occasional Skype calls and intermittent text messages. My girlfriend is an up and coming ballet dancer and currently doing a summer programme at a prestigious ballet company. As part of this programme, she's doing a lot of dancing with male partners and I'm struggling with feelings of jealous and insecurity. Why do people date ballet dancers if they aren't comfortable dating a ballet dancer,
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Ham Sandwiches posted:
John Goodman in The Big Lebowski. I think he freaked out and pulled a gun when an opposing bowler stepped over the foul line. [27 F] in a 3 year long relationship with [27 M]. Considering a lie detector before marriage. quote:I’ll explain. I’ve recently caught him in 2 lies. I was with someone before who constantly lied to me, and I explained to my fiancé from the very beginning I cannot take being lied to. Now we are about to get married and I want to make sure that he has been truthful and faithful to me before walking down isle. My word! What are these two lies?! quote:What he lied over as I explained earlier is really dumb. In causal conversation my friend asked him if he’d ever been to a strip club. Now early in our relationship I asked him the same question and he said no I’d never go into one of those. When my friend asked he said oh yeah I’ve been to a few. This woman should not be getting married.
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Ham Sandwiches posted:You can't spell ballet without ball Two things. First aren’t like 90% it make ballet dancers gay? I swear I read something like that. Second lol he can’t even lift a twig of a dancer. He needs to work on that and she’s right.
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Oh man there was a show about lie detectors and if you thought your partner was cheating or lying you could have them submit to the polygraph It was great watching relationships implode over nothing at all Anyway I hope that dude gets out safely
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Ham Sandwiches posted:Oh man there was a show about lie detectors and if you thought your partner was cheating or lying you could have them submit to the polygraph Maury?
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oh my god there's a whole genre of lie detector posts, you hit a goldmine Boyfriend of 2 yrs cheated whilst I was pregnant with his baby quote:My boyfriend of 2 years whom I have a 6 month old baby to and am about to buy a house with has just confessed that he kissed a girl in a nightclub whilst I was pregnant and went home with her but never slept with her. Obviously I told him it's over this is the second time he has done this, once in the first few weeks that I met him. How could he do this? I need advice so I don't make a huge mistake please. And I am going to lose thousands of pounds with the solicitors as all paperwork for the house is complete. I feel numb! A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 21:47 on Jun 6, 2018 |
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Ham Sandwiches posted:You can't spell ballet without ball Lift weights you dumbfuck this problem is entirely in your control.
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