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DragQueenofAngmar posted:very high there is literally no universe where it doesn't happen it's the actual dictionary definition of a zero-probability event
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La Brea Carpet posted:Just found out BF (20M) looks at lolicon porn and I (19F) don’t know what to do Like idk maybe he has some poo poo to untangle bc of what he saw as a kid but he should probably be working that out in a different environment. EDIT: By probably I mean absolutely for certain.
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Like it's the most honest answer but also probably the one she doesn't want to hear, that yes there is a difference but no that doesn't mean it's okay.
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Nightgull posted:Just shave your head. Jesus lady I had the same problem growing up, until we got soft water and I asked my hair dresser at the time to give me a haircut like a specific black celebrity. For the record, I'm a white chick. I also started cutting my own hair after moving multiple times and discovering that most hair dressers have no loving clue how to cut jew-fro. This includes black hair stylists. I get tons of compliments now that I've moved to Texas and don't have hard water anymore. I would love to give this girl some pointers since I don't really have to do much to take my hair at this point. Depending on how much of a monster her boss is, she should still tell her about the bald patches. Unless her boss is a robot, she will have sympathy for her.
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It’s a variant on what Judge Judy says: “You ate the steak!” I’m speaking from experience here because I’m actually an office manager. Firing an employee is a process that requires proper notice. If this isn’t done, the employee is not fired. It doesn’t matter if you meant to fire someone and forgot to do it. It doesn’t matter if you fired everyone else in the department and insist that the remaining guy should just know he was fired because he was the only one left even though you never actually fired him and he should have just left anyway. It doesn’t matter if you give him no job duties and expect him to willingly leave because of it. They not only didn’t give him notice of firing, they continued to accept his time cards and pay him. Legally, that’s a sign that they still accepted his status as an employee. They ate the steak. You don’t get to receive a steak, eat the whole thing, and then say “Wait that was a mistake, I didn’t want the steak, I want a refund!” You don’t get to pay a dude for months because you never fired him and then say that you meant to fire him so all the paychecks you gave him retroactively don’t count. You can fire him after realizing your mistake, but virtually any judge would laugh you out of court if you tried to take an employee’s wages back because you forgot that you meant to fire him last year.
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chitoryu12 posted:It’s a variant on what Judge Judy says: “You ate the steak!” Yeah this, exactly.
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Basically they're scrambling for reasons why someone in the company wasn't a huge idiot on this, and if he doesn't gently caress up and give them one(or something that could be construed as close enough to one to make it to court), there's nothing they can do about it. He did the job duties he had, and for all intents and purposes he was just being paid to be on standby until something else came up.chitoryu12 posted:It doesn’t matter if you give him no job duties and expect him to willingly leave because of it.
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They should just tell him he won a motorboat and all he needs to do to claim it is sit down for a quick interview. e: I (19F) always bump into this junkie (20 something M). Last week we had this brief interaction. Was he harassing me? I'm weirdly hooked on him. quote:As the title goes, I often take the train to get around. In the last months, I've noticed this guy, who must be in his early/mid twenties, jumping on the train and begging for change. dudeness fucked around with this message at 06:42 on Jun 13, 2018 |
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chitoryu12 posted:It’s a variant on what Judge Judy says: “You ate the steak!” This is why fancy steakhouses have the waiter watch you take a bite and ask how the steak is, and why LAOP has to have someone sign off on their timecards. 
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Caganer posted:This is why fancy steakhouses have the waiter watch you take a bite and ask how the steak is, and why LAOP has to have someone sign off on their timecards. They need to give me a loving minute to chew it first. I think it's a game to them, trying to get people to talk with their mouth full.
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Beachcomber posted:They need to give me a loving minute to chew it first. I think it's a game to them, trying to get people to talk with their mouth full. Joke's on them, I'm happy to talk with food in my mouth
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Caganer posted:This is why fancy steakhouses have the waiter watch you take a bite and ask how the steak is, and why LAOP has to have someone sign off on their timecards. Wait is that a real thing which is true or are you being facetious? Is it an America thing?
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Andante posted:Wait is that a real thing which is true or are you being facetious? Is it an America thing?
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Servers in restaurants here definitely come asking you whether you're enjoying the food, but I've always assumed that's so you can ask for more salt / sugar / cheese / well-done-ness before it becomes a complaint.
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QuarkJets posted:Joke's on them, I'm happy to talk with food in my mouth just lol if you don't order your steak blue, make your first mouthful the size of your fist and then answer with full eye contact and hissing 'delicioussss' through a hail of bloody spittle
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pidan posted:Servers in restaurants here definitely come asking you whether you're enjoying the food, but I've always assumed that's so you can ask for more salt / sugar / cheese / well-done-ness before it becomes a complaint. It’s this, not to keep watch on those sneaky steak stealin’ scammers. They want to know if the steak is cooked correctly and if the table needs anything else before giving them space and time to eat. I’ve never been to a restaurant where they didn’t, and this includes Europe.
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In this week's installment of It Came from Savage Love:quote:I am a transgender man, and my girlfriend is a transgender woman, and we have hit a plateau. Intimate time is rare, communication is minimal, and although I care for her deeply, I do not like her as a person and no longer want to get married. I have considered asking if we could open up the relationship, but I doubt that is the solution. How does one end a long-term relationship? quote:How does one end a long-term relationship?  I guess sever would be totally inappropriate advice.
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i dont like you as a person but i still care deeply for you. huh
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datajugend posted:i dont like you as a person but i still care deeply for you. huh Yeah, no kidding. I used to work at a place that discovered they had been paying a machine operator $150.00/hr instead of $15.00/hr for a quarter and the HR flack that was doing payroll went on the warpath swearing he'd get that money back and the company lawyer essentially said lol no you won't and fired him. They fired the machine operator too, tho.
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Caganer posted:Does anyone remember the saga of the goon who had no job functions? Because this /r/legaladvice saga reminds me of it: There was a question on Stackexchange a while back where a guy was talking about how his entire job was basically data entry, and that entry then got reviewed by a superior. He wrote a script that did all of his day's work in a few seconds, and had gone as far as to make the script periodically make very minor mistakes to try and make his supervisor not get suspicious about how perfect all his work was. Dude was having a moral crisis about whether or not it was ethical for him to continue taking money when he had effectively made himself redundant. Everyone pretty much agreed he should get rid of the dumb part of the script that deliberately made mistakes, and either just keep taking the money or, more sensibly, figure out what else he could automate and then tell someone higher up that he'd found ways to significantly improve business productivity and reduce human error, since businesses love that poo poo and will often chuck gobs of cash at you.
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tactlessbastard posted:Yeah, no kidding. Here, in the UK, you can have money like that clawed back from you. Basically if there's a mistake like that and it's obvious, like getting paid 1000% more than you're supposed to be then you don't get to keep it. You see it all the time when someone gets money paid into their account by accident people always say 'just spend it, it's yours now' but is not how it works at all, you have to operate with good faith.
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DACK FAYDEN posted:The steakhouses bit is definitely real - the reason the waitstaff either stand around or swing by almost immediately after dropping your food off (depends on the place) is to fend off those people that'll eat the whole drat thing then complain and try to get comped. They pull that poo poo even in the worst restaurants. My first job was a summer job at an Italian restaurant. I found out the place was failing and nobody gave a poo poo about the job anymore. We refused to comp just about everything. And if somebody demanded to talk to the manager, whoever they said that to just so happened to be the manager. A guy yelled at me because I wouldn’t take his meal off the bill. I just shrugged and said ‘well, you shouldn’t have said everything was fine and eaten the whole thing if it was awful’. Content: I (32 m) am in a school with a classmate (30s m) that believes in anti-Semitic conspiracy theories and I'm Jewish. quote:I'm in a school in China studying martial arts. I'm an Israeli Jew and recently had a conversation with one of the students. He's a really nice hearted person but he believes in crazy things. It started with him not believing in the moon landing and random conspiracy theories. Yesterday we discussed the Holocaust and he said it was a hoax created by the Jews to create the land of Israel. At most 180,000 Jews died. And anyways Jews are responsible for starting world war 1 and 2 and that's like 80 million people that the Jews are responsible for killing. We're also responsible for all sorts of things including the invasion of Iraq and other world conflicts. I tried to argue with him but you can't reason with crazy.
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LadyPictureShow posted:They pull that poo poo even in the worst restaurants. My first job was a summer job at an Italian restaurant. I found out the place was failing and nobody gave a poo poo about the job anymore. God forbid the whackadoo anti-semite feel ostracized
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Quote-Unquote posted:There was a question on Stackexchange a while back where a guy was talking about how his entire job was basically data entry, and that entry then got reviewed by a superior. He wrote a script that did all of his day's work in a few seconds, and had gone as far as to make the script periodically make very minor mistakes to try and make his supervisor not get suspicious about how perfect all his work was. Dude was having a moral crisis about whether or not it was ethical for him to continue taking money when he had effectively made himself redundant.  at anyone who thinks they wouldn't claim the script belongs to them since he's their employee, then lay him off and dissolve his now redundant position
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Dude it’s ok to not be nice to people sometimes
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Danaru posted:
Pretty much my entire job is writing software to eliminate manual procedures. If the dude has a talent for it (and I'm assuming he does since he automated the entirety of his job), any semi-competent business would put him to use.
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BadSamaritan posted:Dude it’s ok to not be nice to people sometimes Says BadSamaritan
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Haifisch posted:Basically they're scrambling for reasons why someone in the company wasn't a huge idiot on this, and if he doesn't gently caress up and give them one(or something that could be construed as close enough to one to make it to court), there's nothing they can do about it. He did the job duties he had, and for all intents and purposes he was just being paid to be on standby until something else came up. I don't think there's anything he could do to gently caress it up unless he somehow provided concrete proof that he had been given notice of termination and continued collecting a paycheck. Assuming he's telling the truth, the whole point is that no notice was ever given. They completely forgot that they had thrown a dude in an empty office while figuring out what to do with him and didn't even remember that they had one more person to downsize. As long as he's telling the truth and doesn't get tricked into doing something like saying "I know I was fired but I tried to trick you" on a recording, he's legally in the clear.
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chitoryu12 posted:I don't think there's anything he could do to gently caress it up unless he somehow provided concrete proof that he had been given notice of termination and continued collecting a paycheck. Assuming he's telling the truth, the whole point is that no notice was ever given. They completely forgot that they had thrown a dude in an empty office while figuring out what to do with him and didn't even remember that they had one more person to downsize. Where he might be on a rockier footing is if he admits to anyone he wasn't doing anything and knew he wasn't supposed to be. In that case there would be a good case for unjustified enrichment. If he just plays it dumb then he's probably ok, if he wanders around saying 'lol I was getting money for nothing' then he's in trouble.
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Aramoro posted:if he wanders around saying 'lol I was getting money for nothing' then he's in trouble. For example, telling his story to the internet or this old chestnut quote:<Ben174> : If they only realized 90% of the overtime they pay me is only cause i like staying here playing with Kazaa when the bandwidth picks up after hours. tactlessbastard fucked around with this message at 14:41 on Jun 13, 2018 |
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Aramoro posted:Where he might be on a rockier footing is if he admits to anyone he wasn't doing anything and knew he wasn't supposed to be. In that case there would be a good case for unjustified enrichment. If he just plays it dumb then he's probably ok, if he wanders around saying 'lol I was getting money for nothing' then he's in trouble. Well, the question there would be "Was he claiming to have completed work that he actually didn't?" It would be a slam dunk if he had actual job duties that he shirked off and just lied about doing them, but if people signed off on time cards for him to sit in an empty office and do nothing without actually providing tasks for him to do, that's the employer's fault. The employer isn't legally obligated to give him specified job duties to perform in return for money, and the employee isn't legally obligated to seek out management and ask them why he hasn't been given work if they're going to keep giving him paychecks. Unjust enrichment cases are usually for things like breach of contract, like firing a contractor after they complete part of a job and refusing to pay them for the part they completed. If you don't give a guy job duties and pay him just for coming in, I can't see any solid legal defense for saying that it was all a big misunderstanding. chitoryu12 fucked around with this message at 14:53 on Jun 13, 2018 |
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Should I (25F) talk to my transgender girlfriend (28F) about her wig?quote:Hey Reddit, this is a throwaway because my girlfriend is not out as trans to most people in our life. They've somehow spent two years mutually pretending that he doesn't know about her wig, without a single comical mishap where he accidentally pulls it off?
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chitoryu12 posted:Should I (25F) talk to my transgender girlfriend (28F) about her wig? She. Lesbian couple. And yeah that is a WELL secured wig. This is like when people leave the house to go poop somewhere else so their partner won't know. Eventually if you're gonna make a life with someone, they're gonna see all your flaws. Fart without fear, and take off your wig.
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Aramoro posted:Here, in the UK, you can have money like that clawed back from you. Basically if there's a mistake like that and it's obvious, like getting paid 1000% more than you're supposed to be then you don't get to keep it. You see it all the time when someone gets money paid into their account by accident people always say 'just spend it, it's yours now' but is not how it works at all, you have to operate with good faith. That's not this, though. Dude showed up to work and they paid him his regular salary for it. He had a reasonable expectation, in the absence of anything to the contrary, that if he showed up to his workplace and did what he was told (to include nothing) that he'd receive his regular pay.
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DACK FAYDEN posted:The steakhouses bit is definitely real - the reason the waitstaff either stand around or swing by almost immediately after dropping your food off (depends on the place) is to fend off those people that'll eat the whole drat thing then complain and try to get comped. Also Las Vegas they do this pretty much anywhere that's sit down, because people are so terrible there about wanting comps. Nightgull posted:It’s this, not to keep watch on those sneaky steak stealin’ scammers. They want to know if the steak is cooked correctly and if the table needs anything else before giving them space and time to eat. I’ve never been to a restaurant where they didn’t, and this includes Europe. In Paris, I had been told to expect slower service. Ended up waiting like 45 minutes for my food (like, a sandwich in a café) and they're like "Oh sorry we forgot to make your food!" Nightgull posted:It’s this, not to keep watch on those sneaky steak stealin’ scammers. They want to know if the steak is cooked correctly and if the table needs anything else before giving them space and time to eat. I’ve never been to a restaurant where they didn’t, and this includes Europe. Or they'll let you go because you're no longer needed, take the code as company property since it was developed on company time, remind you of the expansive NDA you signed on hire that means you can't describe it, and give you a boot in the rear end. Personally, I'd only mention it in the context of an exit interview. (I was able to automate all my work, so I found a new job that's more challenging. Here is the code.) Aramoro posted:Here, in the UK, you can have money like that clawed back from you. Basically if there's a mistake like that and it's obvious, like getting paid 1000% more than you're supposed to be then you don't get to keep it. You see it all the time when someone gets money paid into their account by accident people always say 'just spend it, it's yours now' but is not how it works at all, you have to operate with good faith. I guess the UK doesn't have the same labor protections we get in Texas  LadyPictureShow posted:They pull that poo poo even in the worst restaurants. My first job was a summer job at an Italian restaurant. I found out the place was failing and nobody gave a poo poo about the job anymore. Yeah, I feel like restraunts have kind of swung in the other direction with this spunky-I'm-like-the-Wendy's-Twitter-gently caress-You-Buddy mentality. For example there was a nice looking salad someplace in Vegas, but it had bleu cheese which I hate. I ask for it with none. The waitress repeated back to me "big salad - no blue cheese . It comes w/ blue cheese. I ask for another and they huffed and were like WE'RE NOT GIVING IT TO YOU FREE and I'm like "can I just have what I ordered"? And the idiot waitress kept going "we're not comping you" until I was like "Well either make another without, let me order something else, or I'll just dispute it with my credit card company cause this is kind of ridiculous, it's not an unreasonable request to get the food I ordered" and something clicked and she's like "Oh I'm sooooo sorry, you just want it remade?". (I think she was  )Also, CONTENT!: Best friend invited controlling boyfriend on vacation (self.relationships) quote:My best friend(22F) invited me(21F) months ago to go to Mexico with her and her family. We have been friends since we were little and her family is basically my family. Caganer fucked around with this message at 15:47 on Jun 13, 2018 |
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I got an update on a former contractor we used who got married and moved to Sacramento with the guy, and it reads exactly like an r/relationships post: * They only knew each other for 6 months before getting married. They've now been married for 5 months and she's starting to have regret. * Both of them are extremely religious and spent most of their time getting to know each other with religious debates. This means they didn't actually know what the other person would be like to, you know, live with. * He has cerebral palsy, so his mother raised him in the most sheltered way possible in a combination of protecting him from other people and giving him a proper religious upbringing. This means that he never watched any of the typical educational shows growing up like Reading Rainbow or Blue's Clues, and in fact didn't know these shows existed, and also never watched TV or movies as an adult. His pop culture and world history knowledge are effectively nil and his brain is mostly filled with religious study. * He views food purely as a fuel source and has zero concern about taking pleasure from it. He utterly refuses to eat at restaurants or even get fast food or order a pizza because it's "putting money in someone else's hand for something you can do yourself", so if his wife were to order a pizza he would refuse to eat any of it. The only way he's even eaten pizza is when she makes one for him. This also means he's drastically underweight (not exactly a good thing for someone in his health, either) because he can't really cook and refuses to buy meals on principle, so he mostly just eats a salad or something when he gets home. He tries his best to shame his wife into not eating out too.
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chitoryu12 posted:I got an update on a former contractor we used who got married and moved to Sacramento with the guy, and it reads exactly like an r/relationships post: Glad to here he's not under that truck anymore
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Caganer posted:Also Las Vegas they do this pretty much anywhere that's sit down, because people are so terrible there about wanting comps. In that salad case, you said Vegas, so they probably put up with tourists trying to pull that kind of thing day in and day out. But sometimes managers are dumb as Hell. Went to a restaurant for brunch, my buddy asked for French onion soup w/out the crouton. It came out with the crouton and he sent it back. A new soup never came back out. When we asked for it to be taken off the bill, the manager came out and couldn’t seem to grasp ‘he’s not paying for it because he never received it’. I’m hoping that girl invited her BF on vacation because she figured out the perfect place to 
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