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Veni Vidi Ameche!
Nov 2, 2017

by Fluffdaddy

TheScott2K posted:

Someone at New York Magazine opened the marriage. Looking forward to her husband's inevitable r/relationships post.


This lady found a way to replace her husband with her gently caress Man with zero guilt and wrote a word salad about it.

Lol, holy poo poo. She climbed the loving turnbuckle and cucked him from the top rope.

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Caganer
Feb 15, 2018
Super conservative friend (29 M) is fundraising to pay his medical bills, I (28 F) need a way to back out of my initial sort of offer to contribute.

quote:

Hi all,

I am hoping to get suggestions to deal with my issue without committing a social faux paus. I am a lawyer and while I was in law school, I was part of a large group of friends. We got along great for the most part except when it came to political differences. It was never really a big deal aside from some long drawn out discussions and arguments about public policy and so on.

My friend Jack was a hard core conservative in the financial sense. He was all about "paying your own way in life" "bootstraps," and "not getting any government help." He was against welfare of any sort, unions, pensions, and of course, the biggie, universal health care. He hated the idea of "free" healthcare with a passion. His usual line was "get another job if you need to pay off medical bills." He failed to understand how incredibly bloated US healthcare costs are, how people with insurance still ended up going bankrupt etc.

We graduated and despite the awful job market for lawyers, I got lucky and ended up with a good job. Jack however did not get a legal job and worked as a bartender to make ends meet while he applied for jobs. Last fall, Jack got in a pretty bad accident when he lost control of his motorbike and ended up in the hospital for several weeks. He had to get multiple surgeries, but he is now ok, except he has about 120k in medical bills because he was uninsured.

Last month, he sent me and many others, a link to a fundraiser website where he is is raising money to pay off his bills. I had fallen out of touch with Jack over the last few years, but I felt really bad for his situation and decided to help. I told him that I was willing to contribute "about $250-$300."

Last week, I went home (same city where I went to law school and a couple towns over from Jack) for a short trip and decided to drop by Jack's place to see him and also give him a check as promised. That went horribly. You would think a guy who just went through a horrific event like this would have learned a lesson or two about sympathy. Nope. The entire evening he ranted about 2 things - 1. Obama's plan to introduce paid maternity leave and 2. Obama's plan to make 2 years of community college free. He bitched about "freeloaders," "lazy women wanting a paycheck to stay home in their pj's after giving birth," "losers getting free college when they didn't deserve it" and so on.

I was stunned. Here is a guy who supposedly believes in financial responsibility, yet asking for free money and in the same breath, deriding others who want help in life. What really pissed me off though was when he told me that he was eligible for insurance on the exchange for only $70 a month but he chose not to sign up because "he will never support Socialism." WTF??

At this point, I am turned off by his double standards and plain stupidity. I kinda want to tell him to "get another job" and pay off 120k, easy peasy. What do you guys think is the best way to proceed? How do I back out of paying? Should I even back out since it's really tacky.

tl;dr: Friend who does not believe in helping others is asking for money to pay off his medical bills.

sephiRoth IRA
Jun 13, 2007

"Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."

-Carl Sagan

Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:

Lol, holy poo poo. She climbed the loving turnbuckle and cucked him from the top rope.

Yeah, I’d love to hear his side. Gotta feel for those kids though :(

My Imaginary GF
Jul 17, 2005

by R. Guyovich

TheScott2K posted:

Someone at New York Magazine opened the marriage. Looking forward to her husband's inevitable r/relationships post.


This lady found a way to replace her husband with her gently caress Man with zero guilt and wrote a word salad about it.

She keeps emphasizing how both of them were "on board," even though Rob keeps throwing up hints that he's not that into it.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

Caganer posted:

Super conservative friend (29 M) is fundraising to pay his medical bills, I (28 F) need a way to back out of my initial sort of offer to contribute.

Tell him that to his face

Leon Einstein
Feb 6, 2012
I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.
Ugh, that lady is insufferable. Her experience is hardly a poly success story worth writing about. So she had a slow motion divorce with a husband she no longer hosed and moved her boy toy in with her and the kids, but it's cool because her kids are so woke that they're not weirded out by uncle Mikey.

EDIT: That conservative guy reminds me of my sister in that she yells to the high heavens about how terrible Obamacare is, yet gets $400 a month in subsidies.

Leon Einstein fucked around with this message at 21:49 on Jun 14, 2018

Theophany
Jul 22, 2014

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Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:

I know it's me. I know I'm the problem. I can't help it. I immediately dislike every one of those people, and I can't imagine them being anything other than insufferably lovely twits with bad opinions on everything.

I wasn't posting it ironically. I'm an idiot smoker and that is the only acceptable route into vaping.

If you pick up vaping out of the blue you are literally as loving stupid as two short planks nailed together.

Seriously. Seek medication, care or therapy you loving retard if it seems like taking up vaping out of the blue seems reasonable to you.

E: to be clear, I'm not saying this to you, we're in total agreement :)

TheScott2K
Oct 26, 2003

I'm just saying, there's a nonzero chance Trump has a really toad penis.
Thing is an all time hate read for me. Hall of Fame hate read

chitoryu12
Apr 24, 2014

I (32F) love drinking IPA beer. My husband (32M) of 3 years says that it makes my skin smell and won't be intimate with me when I drink. I think he's just making excuses and doesn't find me attractive and won't be honest.

quote:

So right now I'm in a super stressful phase of my job, my one relief in the world is enjoying my beer. I love IPAs and drink anywhere between 1 and 4 every evening (5 or 6 on super stressful days) when I get home to unwind.

My husband says that I'm drinking enough to where I smell like alcohol and he also says and quote "when you drink IPA your skin smells like the mop bucket at a cheap brewery." Nice right? Anyways he refuses to be intimate let alone touch me because of this supposed odor.

Well it just so happens that this current opinion of his just so happens when I've discovered him checking out college age girls on Instagram. So to me, he's just comparing me who can't possibly look as good as 19 year old college girls and is getting his rocks off on Instagram.

How do I resolve this issue with him?

tl;dr: My husband says I smell when I drink IPA beer, I think he has other motivations.

I agree, IPAs suck.

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

chitoryu12 posted:

I (32F) love drinking IPA beer. My husband (32M) of 3 years says that it makes my skin smell and won't be intimate with me when I drink. I think he's just making excuses and doesn't find me attractive and won't be honest.


I agree, IPAs suck.

this lady has a drinking problem and she probably does smell like alcohol but she's also completely right about her husband checking out with lame excuses

Jeza
Feb 13, 2011

The cries of the dead are terrible indeed; you should try not to hear them.
I like a drink but that's not a normal or healthy amount of beer to drink every night.

cumshitter
Sep 27, 2005

by Fluffdaddy
All IPAs taste the same and the reason they're popular is because they have a high alcohol content. That is the only reason to get them.

Leon Einstein
Feb 6, 2012
I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.

boner confessor posted:

this lady has a drinking problem and she probably does smell like alcohol but she's also completely right about her husband checking out with lame excuses
I'm guessing his passive aggression is due to her being a sloppy drunk rather than her stink, although she probably stinks too.

Caganer
Feb 15, 2018

boner confessor posted:

this lady has a drinking problem and she probably does smell like alcohol but she's also completely right about her husband checking out with lame excuses

it's not so much the IPA, it's the piss. when she downs 8 of them then passes out in the bathtub, which also smells like :airquote: "IPA" :airquote:

cumshitter posted:

All IPAs taste the same and the reason they're popular is because they have a high alcohol content. That is the only reason to get them.

Are they really *that* high? I am more of a dark beer guy but I have to be careful on dates/work outings since it's easy to order some random milk stout and have it be 8% or some poo poo

cumshitter
Sep 27, 2005

by Fluffdaddy
When you go to a bar or browse the beer aisle take a look at the IPAs. They're typically about 6% or above whereas other beers are 4-5%.

Goose Island is a pretty common IPA to find at bars, at least where I live, and it's a lighter IPA at 5.9%.

Barudak
May 7, 2007

My Imaginary GF posted:

She keeps emphasizing how both of them were "on board," even though Rob keeps throwing up hints that he's not that into it.

Rob honestly sounds like hes mostly in it to avoid child support

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Oct 15, 2012

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TheScott2K posted:

Someone at New York Magazine opened the marriage. Looking forward to her husband's inevitable r/relationships post.


This lady found a way to replace her husband with her gently caress Man with zero guilt and wrote a word salad about it.

The link is broken. Did you make a typo or is the story actually gone already?

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

One of the biggest problems with the craft beer scene is that it convinced people drinking a lot is a "hobby"

like, you couldn't type "I'm so stressed out by my job that the highest point in my day is drinking whiskey, usually 1-4 shots a night, sometimes more if I'm really stressed, but my spouse has a problem with this for some reason" without a light bulb going off at some point

Theophany
Jul 22, 2014

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chitoryu12 posted:

I (32F) love drinking IPA beer. My husband (32M) of 3 years says that it makes my skin smell and won't be intimate with me when I drink. I think he's just making excuses and doesn't find me attractive and won't be honest.


I agree, IPAs suck.

Drink vodka. Clear a couple of pints and night and not smell or feel like poo poo. loving hipsters with their poncey beers.

Peaceful Anarchy
Sep 18, 2005
sXe
I am the math man.

fruit on the bottom posted:

The link is broken. Did you make a typo or is the story actually gone already?
https://www.thecut.com/2018/06/my-boyfriend-moved-in-with-my-husband-and-our-kids.html
There was an extra " at the end, probably from embedding it in the quote.

Caganer
Feb 15, 2018

loquacius posted:

One of the biggest problems with the craft beer scene is that it convinced people drinking a lot is a "hobby"

like, you couldn't type "I'm so stressed out by my job that the highest point in my day is drinking whiskey, usually 1-4 shots a night, sometimes more if I'm really stressed, but my spouse has a problem with this for some reason" without a light bulb going off at some point

the guy who runs the tsa's instagram followed me at one point and he'd drink at least 4 beers a nigh and send out photos of them to boot.

he also only liked one photo of mine ever, which was an obscure beer can.

also gently caress "craft" beer in general, most of the craft beer bars i go to often think hops=good and have no decent stouts or porters.

My Imaginary GF
Jul 17, 2005

by R. Guyovich

chitoryu12 posted:

I (32F) love drinking IPA beer. My husband (32M) of 3 years says that it makes my skin smell and won't be intimate with me when I drink. I think he's just making excuses and doesn't find me attractive and won't be honest.


I agree, IPAs suck.

5-6 IPA's a night will give ya a beer belly. Probably more pronounced with women/shorter folk? Maybe the woman should cope with stress through exercise rather than drink. You drink to forget your problems; you run to shed off stress.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost
Do o just have high tolerance because 3 shots is like who even notices

MockingQuantum
Jan 20, 2012



loquacius posted:

One of the biggest problems with the craft beer scene is that it convinced people drinking a lot is a "hobby"

like, you couldn't type "I'm so stressed out by my job that the highest point in my day is drinking whiskey, usually 1-4 shots a night, sometimes more if I'm really stressed, but my spouse has a problem with this for some reason" without a light bulb going off at some point

Yeah jezus 1-4 per night is... something. I came from a small town with an astronomical rate of alcoholism and it was still uncommon to see people having more than 1 beer or drink most evenings.

You just waited til the weekend to get royally trashed, usually

Leon Einstein
Feb 6, 2012
I must win every thread in GBS. I don't care how much banal semantic quibbling and shitty posts it takes.

Pick posted:

Do o just have high tolerance because 3 shots is like who even notices

Non-alcoholics?

andrew smash
Jun 26, 2006

smooth soul

Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:

Lol, holy poo poo. She climbed the loving turnbuckle and cucked him from the top rope.

With this and the one from slate a while back with the horse faced lesbians and their live-in schlub cat feeder i can only hope this is the dawn of a new age of people writing about their shameful sex lives on national platforms

Theophany
Jul 22, 2014

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Pick posted:

Do o just have high tolerance because 3 shots is like who even notices

Your typing suggests otherwise.

My Imaginary GF
Jul 17, 2005

by R. Guyovich

Pick posted:

Do o just have high tolerance because 3 shots is like who even notices

Depends your height/weight/genetic predispositions.

If you're native or asian and drinking 3 shots a night, thats a sign of alcoholism. Some folks just don't have the genetics to metabolize alcohol like the rest of the world, and one shot'll get them good and drunk. Some folk, like my childhood best friend, are just 6'4, 240 lbs, and able to handle their liquor like no tomorrow.

chitoryu12
Apr 24, 2014

cumshitter posted:

All IPAs taste the same and the reason they're popular is because they have a high alcohol content. That is the only reason to get them.

Buy Belgian beers instead. They taste better (good balance of sweet, sour, and bready and the best ones like St. Bernardus Prior 8 have fruit flavors) and have alcohol contents as high as 12%.

Fuck Your Website
Nov 29, 2003
FUCK YOU, AND FUCK YOUR WEBSITE
Lolling at goons clutching their pearls all "my goodness, more than one alcoholic drink in a 24 hour period? UNHEARD OF ALCOHOLISM"

But yeah sloppy drunk lady prob needs to cool it down and stop thinking of drinking IPAs (which I like, I had TWO once) as a hobby, husband is basically looking for an excuse to pull the trigger and GTFO and this is the one he's decided on.

Fuck Your Website fucked around with this message at 22:28 on Jun 14, 2018

chitoryu12
Apr 24, 2014

I definitely drink upwards of 3 beers a night (or equivalent liquor content), but that's spread out over like a 6 hour period and I'll go several days without touching even a single lager. It helps me with creative work.

6 beers a night, though? That's probably making her stumbling drunk every time.

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

Pick posted:

Do o just have high tolerance because 3 shots is like who even notices

if she's clearing 4 a night ("i drink between 1 and 4" is alkie code for "i drink 4") then her tolerance is probably up there, but more than a couple hoppy beers in a night on the reg is going to give you that persistent drunk funk

chitoryu12 posted:

6 beers a night, though? That's probably making her stumbling drunk every time.

eh not unless she has unfortunate genetics, weighs like 100lbs (which, if she's drinking beer like this, she doesn't) or powers them down. a seasoned drinker having a few beers over the course of an evening is going to get a nice buzz going on but i wouldn't guess she gets worse than clumsy

Mr. Lobe
Feb 23, 2007

... Dry bones...


I'll never understand the weird machismo some people have about their liquor tolerance, as if it is an accomplishment to need more of a drug to get the same effect, or to flirt with one of the more self-destructive substance dependencies.

Why can't they be macho about something sexy, like body building instead?

Baronjutter
Dec 31, 2007

"Tiny Trains"

Some people react real bad to certain drinks and they smell loving awful, specially when they're already a borderline alcoholic.
Like growing up if my dad ate any seafood or shellfish and drank too much he'd have this awful stale-beer and rotting fish smell for DAYS so we had to pretty much ban him from that combo. Other people get this sour disgusting smell every time they drink to excess but certain drinks are worse than others for them.

cumshitter
Sep 27, 2005

by Fluffdaddy

Mr. Lobe posted:

I'll never understand the weird machismo some people have about their liquor tolerance, as if it is an accomplishment to need more of a drug to get the same effect, or to flirt with one of the more self-destructive substance dependencies.

Why can't they be macho about something sexy, like body building instead?

Because it owns. I used to babysit a roommate's dogs when they were on vacation and I would walk them with a beer in one hand, a cigar in my mouth, and their leashes in the other hand and everyone I met thought it owned.

boner confessor
Apr 25, 2013

by R. Guyovich

cumshitter posted:

Because it owns. I used to babysit a roommate's dogs when they were on vacation and I would walk them with a beer in one hand, a cigar in my mouth, and their leashes in the other hand and everyone I met thought it owned.

weird, who walks dogs in a carnival funhouse full of mirrors

MarcusSA
Sep 23, 2007

I mean IMO IPA's do smell so he's probably not wrong with her smelling like poo poo.

chitoryu12
Apr 24, 2014

boner confessor posted:

if she's clearing 4 a night ("i drink between 1 and 4" is alkie code for "i drink 4") then her tolerance is probably up there, but more than a couple hoppy beers in a night on the reg is going to give you that persistent drunk funk


eh not unless she has unfortunate genetics, weighs like 100lbs (which, if she's drinking beer like this, she doesn't) or powers them down. a seasoned drinker having a few beers over the course of an evening is going to get a nice buzz going on but i wouldn't guess she gets worse than clumsy

I’m a pretty seasoned drinker and 6 high-alcohol beers in one session would definitely take me from buzzed to drunk.

I tend to drink beer for the sake of sampling new ones, so my fridge is full of a mishmash of random bottles. If I want to get drunk, I grab the whiskey.

Ziv Zulander
Mar 24, 2017

ZZ for short


For a little history on the IPA, they got popular in England as a cheap beer during the time of the east India company. The reason they were cheap was because the fastest way to get from India to England was by sailboat, which meant that they would invariably get skunked on the long trip over. So, to cover the foul taste, they loaded them with a poo poo ton of hops.

I'm a problem drinker (NOT an alcoholic :mad:(at least not yet)) and I think they're pretty good

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hevnz 2 murgatroyd
Apr 13, 2018

by Smythe

Patrick Spens posted:

Trivial Bullshit! Get your Trivial Bullshit here!

I [28M] think I may have just lost my best man [28M] for my upcoming wedding

Invite your friend and his fragile girlfriend, but take him out the wedding party so they can sit together and she doesn't have to deal with stranger danger. It seems inevitable that they are going to lose touch, or not be nearly as close in the future, so it's ok that he won't be the best man, but it might be nice to have him at the wedding anyway.

It really sucks when friends get in lovely relationships like this, but there's not much you can do while it's going on without alienating them. All you can hope for is that they come to their senses, break up, and have the decency to apologize to their friends for putting their terrible SO first.

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