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Caganer posted:correct me if i'm wrong, but if you can't remember sex, you were blacked out correct? and if you were blacked out, there's no informed consent? and if you don't give informed consent... it's sexual assault? The thought process for me, and I'm assuming him, is that she wasn't actually blacked out, she was cognizant when this occurred and is now lying
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Caganer posted:correct me if i'm wrong, but if you can't remember sex, you were blacked out correct? and if you were blacked out, there's no informed consent? and if you don't give informed consent... it's sexual assault? She says she was blacked out, but the rest of her behavior is the most suspicious thing in the world: * Texting the two guys and locking her phone with a password as soon as he starts getting suspicious. * Meeting the two guys, hugging them, and immediately forgiving them. * Saying that her rapists were nicer than her husband. * The guys insisting that it was all her idea. The only logical explanation is that it was completely intentional sex that she wants to keep having and she invented a story about rape to try and provide a cover, only for it to fall apart almost immediately.
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 01:46 |
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Can someone repost the "I am convinced my coworker's boyfriend is abusive and this has nothing to do with my desire to bang her, how do I break them up" story tia
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 01:47 |
chitoryu12 posted:She says she was blacked out, but the rest of her behavior is the most suspicious thing in the world: yeah this is why i thought it might be a fakepost because it ticks the "bitches lie about being raped" box that reddit loves. but on the other hand the husband makes himself out to be kind of a victim-blaming douche so i don't know
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 01:48 |
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goethe.cx posted:uh what
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 01:53 |
PetraCore posted:I never said it wasn't, just that it sounded to me like she was doing that. Sucks when people genuinely are having a lot of stuff come up last minute. oh yeah that wasn't directed at you, i was responding to the guy who thought "hard-ghosting" creates serial killers
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 01:58 |
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chitoryu12 posted:She says she was blacked out, but the rest of her behavior is the most suspicious thing in the world: personally i'm inclined to believe the victim. nothing in the story excludes assault. it's totally possible that she flirted with some guys that night. you can withdraw consent at any time. you can't give consent when blackout drunk. she may have basically been "date raped" - she was flirting and having a good time and these guys pumped her full of drinks and took advantage. that is not ok, and i find it weird that me, the alleged shitposter, is having to explain this PetraCore posted:I never said it wasn't, just that it sounded to me like she was doing that. Sucks when people genuinely are having a lot of stuff come up last minute. yeah i mean, she may be backing him off? it sounds to me like she explicitly tried to make time for him (i can see you for an hour) but instead of taking it as a happy and positive sign, he got mad it wasn't as much time as he wanted so he got angry. she might have not been backing him off before, but if he replied in a visibly angry way to her offer she is probably backing him off now. that is ok if she wants to. you all should read "the gift of fear" - "discounting the no" is one of the most reliable "pre-incident indicators". it's perfectly valid for a woman to become uncomfortable with someone displaying a combination of entitlement to attention and anger when it is not granted in sufficient quanity quote:PINS (Pre-Incident Indicators)
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 02:10 |
Caganer posted:personally i'm inclined to believe the victim. nothing in the story excludes assault. it's totally possible that she flirted with some guys that night. you can withdraw consent at any time. you can't give consent when blackout drunk. she may have basically been "date raped" - she was flirting and having a good time and these guys pumped her full of drinks and took advantage. that is not ok, and i find it weird that me, the alleged shitposter, is having to explain this Why would someone who was tearfully claiming to be raped also start secretly communicating with the rapists (including taking extra security measures she didn't used to have to keep her husband from reading any of it), meet with them to immediately forgive them, and even compliment how much nicer the rapists are than her husband about the incident? Either she's lying or she's a complete lunatic.
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chitoryu12 posted:Either she's lying or she's a complete lunatic. Yeah, obviously that drat female is lying so she can slut it up. Also she's probably crazy!
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Caganer posted:Yeah, obviously that drat female is lying so she can slut it up. Also she's probably crazy! i feel like you're ignoring a lot of context here. what about her behavior makes sense? e: vvvvv alright yeah i briefly wondered if that wasn't some kind of response to trauma. not something i've heard of before but if it's a known phenomenon then it makes more sense goethe.cx fucked around with this message at 02:35 on Jun 16, 2018 |
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goethe.cx posted:i feel like you're ignoring a lot of context here. what about her behavior makes sense? what Caganer hypothesized is probably about right, she got taken advantage of in a hosed up way and her reaction to it is strange but not indicative that she's lying yeah her behavior doesn't make sense but the alternative doesn't really make sense, either e: vvv oh apparently it actually *does* make sense, it's just counterintuitive to people who don't study sexual assault
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 02:31 |
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chitoryu12 posted:Why would someone who was tearfully claiming to be raped also start secretly communicating with the rapists (including taking extra security measures she didn't used to have to keep her husband from reading any of it), meet with them to immediately forgive them, and even compliment how much nicer the rapists are than her husband about the incident? quote:Counterintuitive as it may seem, my impulse to initiate a second encounter with my attacker more than a year after the original incident makes sense to experts on sexual assault. “Attempting to master a situation in which you previously did not have control is one way a lot of assault victims respond,” says Jim Hopper, Ph.D., teaching associate in psychology at Harvard Medical School and a nationally recognized expert on sexual assault and trauma.
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Anne Whateley posted:not saying anything about this case, but in general, it's actually not an unusual response to go back to it thanks for the support Anne! My girlfriend hangs out with a guy who obviously has a crush on her. How should I react?I Need Advice (self.dating) quote:Hello redditors! My girlfriend and I are both in graduate school, at universities two hours away from each other. We are in a new relationship - less than three months old - but are living together over the summer academic break so that we don't have to drive to see each other (I work online from home, so it was an easy transition for me). She has a very good male friend at her school who by her own admission has a crush on her, and they communicate through snapchat every day. I have watched her take selfies in the process of snapchatting with him, while we are cuddling and watching TV, but in the past I have said nothing. so basically, he
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 02:34 |
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My (M/23) girlfriend (F/24) has openly admitted she would have sex with a famous person if given the chance, and only with my permission. u/fuckincelebrities quote:Throwaway because some people I know browse this sub. I mean, poo poo, who hasn’t joked around about what celebrity they’d bang if they had the chance? The casual sex/open relationship mention is a little iffy though. In reality, there’s like a 0.00000001% chance you’d actually have the chance to sleep with a celebrity on your ‘yeah, I’d do ‘em’ list. But on that topic, did we ever find out which D-List celebrity knocked up that one Reddit poster?
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Anne Whateley posted:not saying anything about this case, but in general, it's actually not an unusual response to go back to it While this is valid as a point, it just seems so much different from the story we've been given by that OP. People react to trauma in a lot of different ways, so it's not necessarily impossible that this is just her method of dealing with it, but that marriage is certainly destroyed, regardless. LadyPictureShow posted:My (M/23) girlfriend (F/24) has openly admitted she would have sex with a famous person if given the chance, and only with my permission. It's Bruce Campbell, for both stories
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 02:54 |
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Caganer posted:yeah i mean, she may be backing him off? As for the rape story I don't think it's that weird that the guys denied everything, like, that doesn't really tell you one way or the other. Her behavior is more what's cinching to me that something happened especially if she hasn't behaved like this before. Also if she was drugged she might have actually 'participated' enough for the dudes to justify it to themselves because rapists are shitbags.
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Seems odd to call people who drugged you "nice young guys who made a mistake" like you can accidently drug someone. It tick too many reddit boxes so I'm voting fake news
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PetraCore posted:Yeah, like, I don't think you should be setting up deliberate tests for a significant other to pass but seeing how someone takes a reasonable 'no' is pretty important. Honestly from just that single post the OP scares me. I feel like she was interested before but just lost interest when he acted like a loving creep, and now is trying to let stuff trail off. Also yeah, no, the dudes are prolly pieces of poo poo and rapists are not well known for their honesty, that's not inconsistent at all. Though the above is another thing that seems weird to me, because it's not like some rando drugged her drink and then the guys took her off for what they both thought was consensual sex; if they literally drugged her, they're absolutely rapists with no debate whatsoever(They are probably this regardless), and her saying that they're not so bad after they drugged her, going by her story, is just odd, and what makes the story seem off. Blade Runner fucked around with this message at 03:09 on Jun 16, 2018 |
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La Brea Carpet posted:Unless, of course, they needs someone to play a comically hapless princess who keeps having to be rescued from things like a stiff breeze or a slightly heavy duvet. Here, if you play Dungeon World, for all your Princess needs. Content: There's some actual good advice in the comments. My [F/18] mom [F/53] thinks there are demons in my house just because (1) my sister [F/20] told her a dream about demons and (2) I deal with depression. She won’t stop screaming for God to “cast them out” and it’s bothering me. e. goddamnit, posted before I caught up and got beaten. Some good comments on that one, quote:Did Jesus have to scream at demons to get them to leave? No, he just told them, "Go," and they went. mllaneza fucked around with this message at 03:22 on Jun 16, 2018 |
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My BF [25M] of 7+ years is not sexually attracted to certain parts of my [24F] body - help?Relationships (self.relationships)quote:I'm a female athlete, very passionate about and skilled at my sport. It's a sport where one's strength/weight ratio is extremely important. I spend 15+ hours a week at the gym. On top of that, I have a fast metabolism and am naturally quite thin and muscular. As a result, my body is...not the average body for a woman. I'm tall and very slender (5'8 and ~127lbs), but am pretty "cut". I have almost a full six pack, intense back muscles, and very defined arms with forearm and bicep veins (lol). My legs are really the only part of me that are just thin and...normal looking? However, I would characterize myself as pretty traditionally feminine. I have very long hair, I wear makeup and very feminine clothing, etc. Just giving some background. On a personal level, I love my body and I especially love what it can do.
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mllaneza posted:My [F/18] mom [F/53] thinks there are demons in my house just because (1) my sister [F/20] told her a dream about demons and (2) I deal with depression. She won’t stop screaming for God to “cast them out” and it’s bothering me.
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I couldn't find a part 1. Sugar daddy (40M) and I (20F) part Ⅱ Yeah finally I told him we're not suit last night , and he really really angry,he thought I've got a boyfriend or find a new SD, he said he can do anything for me and don't leave him... I told him I just don't wanna this kinda arrangement any more,and blocked him. After that I stayed at my friend's place all night,but this morning when I back home, I just find that my window was broken.... Holy s..... My neighbor told me that last night a man came here to find me,and told them he's my boyfriend, they told him I'm not here... he tried to break the door but it's doesn't works so he breaks my window ... I called the police and now I'm gonna move out of here... My friend asked "he really likes you and treats you well, why do you wanna cut off with him?" I think maybe she can never feel What I've felt. Truthfully, he's rich and good looking, but I don't wanna be a toy, something gone wrong in this arrangement... Well I'd better to stop sugaring or something... And really thks for y'all, I'll gonna post more about this till the end... TL;DR;: finally I cut off with him...
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Caganer posted:My BF [25M] of 7+ years is not sexually attracted to certain parts of my [24F] body - help?Relationships (self.relationships) She should get fat on him.
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I couldn't find a part 1. Is it this? My sugar daddy(40/M)wants me(20/F)to be his girlfriend... quote:I thought he doesn't mean that too serious cuz he's my sugar daddy, I never put too much emotion and never make it too serious lol.
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My [25F] boyfriend [27M] of 1.5 years always feels the need to remind me that I'm not the most beautiful girl in the world.quote:My boyfriend isn't very expressive, so he doesn't compliment me often. We've had plenty of talks about this and I always tell him that I want him to be more verbally affectionate. He tries sometimes but he doesn't always keep it up and it makes me really insecure. I always used to be such a confident girl in previous relationships. I would point out hot girls to my bfs, talk about threesomes, etc. Now, one time we were watching a movie and an actress popped up on screen naked and without thinking he practically moaned "oh gently caress" and it killed me inside. He never reacts like that when I get naked, he never asks me for nudes (granted we hang out almost every day so he sees me naked all the time), but he still follows around 20 instagram accounts of naked girls. And one where all you really need is the title: Me [26 M] with world [7.66 billion?], want to know how to better get along and empathize with people?
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I couldn't find a part 1. searching for "sugar baby" pulls some gems - like the literal prostitute who is mad her john doesn't text her enough Is this normal for a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship? quote:I met my current sugar daddy online. He's a cosmetic surgeon but also makes some of his money playing poker. He has a home in Phoenix and one in Vegas but is looking for a home in Austin (where I live). Before we agreed to an arrangement, he told me that he does a lot of traveling during the week and that weekends would be best for hanging out. Since I'm a college student, this was more than okay with me. He's also widowed and has an eight year old daughter. "the man who pays me for sex is not as attentive to my emotional needs as my past boyfriends. why is this reddit?" Haifisch posted:My [25F] boyfriend [27M] of 1.5 years always feels the need to remind me that I'm not the most beautiful girl in the world. Wow @ the ages, that some serious college dating amateur hour poo poo. He's obviously "negging" her so she feels like she can't leave because she couldn't do better Haifisch posted:Me [26 M] with world [7.66 billion?], want to know how to better get along and empathize with people? Doing a moderate dose of Psilocybin in an Amsterdam hostel helped me with this. (not a joke) Caganer fucked around with this message at 04:07 on Jun 16, 2018 |
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Men really are terrible, aren't we? Holy Christ at some of these.
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Caganer posted:My BF [25M] of 7+ years is not sexually attracted to certain parts of my [24F] body - help?Relationships (self.relationships) Break up with him and go out with me instead
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Me [23M] with my gf's brother [16M], who performs Satanic/Wiccan rituals on mequote:Throwaway because this is personal. I want to know his Satanic name. quote:redrosebeetle 235 points · 2 years ago
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chitoryu12 posted:Me [23M] with my gf's brother [16M], who performs Satanic/Wiccan rituals on me I dont think anybody should be loving with that kind of stuff.
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 04:38 |
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Get a defensive bible, and maybe a crucifix.
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 04:39 |
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"This teenager is escalating the edgelord poo poo he's only doing to piss me off, that means he's unstable."-A huge weenie.
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Haifisch posted:"This teenager is escalating the edgelord poo poo he's only doing to piss me off, that means he's unstable."-A huge weenie. I say, throw some holy water on him and watch the fun begin.
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Salty Josh posted:I say, throw some holy water on him and watch the fun begin. Regular water that you say is holy water. Or actual holy water, but don't tell him it's holy water until later. Watch as he flips out and pretends to be burning.
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 04:45 |
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chitoryu12 posted:Regular water that you say is holy water. Mind hosed.
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 04:46 |
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Caganer posted:My BF [25M] of 7+ years is not sexually attracted to certain parts of my [24F] body - help?Relationships (self.relationships) this man is a loving fool omg what is wrong with youuuuuuuuuu
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I (24f) am desperately wanting to go out and experience the world and have fun. My fiance (33) thinks I'm being childish.quote:I have been with my fiance for 5 years and I couldn't be happier with a guy. The age gap is a little big compared to most, but I pursued him so I blame myself only for any issues that come from the age gap. quote:[–]wanderingdev 973 points 1 year ago ()
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# ? Jun 16, 2018 05:04 |
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Haifisch posted:I (24f) am desperately wanting to go out and experience the world and have fun. My fiance (33) thinks I'm being childish. User Wanderingdev is on point.
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:this man is a loving fool omg what is wrong with youuuuuuuuuu If she’s that fit, she should get him in a clean and jerk lift, then throw him out the window when she’s holding him over her head.
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LadyPictureShow posted:If she’s that fit, she should get him in a clean and jerk lift, then throw him out the window when she’s holding him over her head. Stop, dear god, stop! My penis can only get so erect
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