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Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:I feel bad for Sarah. Lol why?
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Jun 19, 2018 01:13
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I feel like one of the things kink people don’t get when kink goes bad is that involving people that don’t want to be part of your weird, needlessly elaborate sex life is basically assault, even if they don’t realize what you’re doing. Only consent is consent, after all.
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Jun 19, 2018 01:38
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Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:I feel bad for Sarah. I am so glad the company got rid of the worthless piece of crap.
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Jun 19, 2018 01:39
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I hate hate hate it when coworkers tell me about how/who they're loving. HATE it.
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Jun 19, 2018 01:40
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Pick posted:I hate hate hate it when coworkers tell me about how/who they're loving. HATE it. I hate it when coworkers tell me anything. Beat that
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Jun 19, 2018 01:44
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Odd posted:I hate it when coworkers tell me anything. Beat that I hate.
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Jun 19, 2018 01:47
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Can we kill all men already?
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Jun 19, 2018 01:50
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Pick posted:I hate hate hate it when coworkers tell me about how/who they're loving. HATE it. Yeah same, everyone knows the rule: raunchy hentai masturbation stories only
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Jun 19, 2018 01:51
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Pick posted:I hate. Yeah yeah nanoangstroms of the word hate on your millions of miles of circuits we get it yeesh, just turn them into mouthless abominations already instead of just kvetching
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Jun 19, 2018 01:59
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Barudak posted:Yeah yeah nanometers of the word hate on your circuits we get it yeesh, just turn them into mouthless abominations already instead of just kvetching I have no mouth but I must hate Harlan Ellison.
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Jun 19, 2018 02:01
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*breathlessly whispers "2006 Hugo awards"*
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Jun 19, 2018 02:01
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Ellison is pretty much the Ur-Molester of sci-fi gently caress that dude
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Jun 19, 2018 02:09
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Harlan Ellison doesn't deserve to want to to be loved.
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Jun 19, 2018 02:10
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I just checked his wiki page, he publicly bitched about the woman he assaulted on stage refusing to acknowledge his subsequent forced apology for it. I forgot about that. What a loving asswipe
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Jun 19, 2018 02:12
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Man who names book "The Glass Teat" turns out to be boob weird.
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Jun 19, 2018 02:14
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Cat Army
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Haifisch posted:My (44M) sister (41F) moved in on my block. She is now being controlling over my kids (12M, 9F) and saying I am a bad parent because I am not a helicopter parent like she is. She's now practically blackmailing me by threatening to tell our parents I use drugs if I don't 'be a better parent'. Burn her house down
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Jun 19, 2018 02:17
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Also the only response a guy should have to a lady that says "I have a boyfriend" is either "Cool, adios" or "You look like the kind of gal that could use two."
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Jun 19, 2018 02:19
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Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:I feel bad for Sarah. All Sarah needed to do to keep her job was not film porn at her office. The bar was incredibly, incredibly low and she still managed to gently caress it up.
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Jun 19, 2018 02:20
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Kuros posted:Why should he move, he was there first. Them's the breaks. His sister isn't going to change.
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Jun 19, 2018 02:21
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Dienes posted:All Sarah needed to do to keep her job was not film porn at her office. The bar was incredibly, incredibly low and she still managed to gently caress it up. I think the situation for the fetish feedie with the arsonist porn-producer husband might be a little more complex than you’re pretending.
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Jun 19, 2018 02:23
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Dienes posted:All Sarah needed to do to keep her job was not film porn at her office. The bar was incredibly, incredibly low and she still managed to gently caress it up. It wasn’t rated for that much weight 
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Jun 19, 2018 02:31
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Caganer posted:It wasn’t rated for that much weight Hahahaha gently caress Holy poo poo
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Jun 19, 2018 02:34
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My [30F] boyfriend's [35M] female best friend [34F] asked him to leave me for her. Need advice about follow-up. (LONG - sorry!) tl;dr version - Boyfriend's female best friend asked him to leave me for her. Boyfriend failed to disclose prior romantic history, acted defensive about the whole thing, and still wants to be friends with her. What do I do? Okay, so my boyfriend and I had an interesting, extended start to our relationship, where for all intents and purposes, we met once, and then talked constantly through text or the next 8 months when we were able to meet again, and then maintained exclusivity until the year mark when we decided to be in a serious, committed relationship. For the last 19 years, he has had a best friend named Tiffany (pseudonym). They were raised in the same small town, became friends in high school, and have been through a lot together. He referenced her as one of his best friends, and made comments like "The only people who could ever ask me to bury a body with no questions would be my family members and Tiffany." Every time that he brought her up, however, he was careful to highlight their platonic connection. I'd mention how a friend didn't bother clarifying the situation between her boyfriend and his female best friend, and he ended up leaving my friend for her. He said "oh, that would never happen here." He'd mention incredulously that some girlfriends of his would lose their minds over the fact that he was such good friends with a woman his own age. I was a little surprised myself - since she was so good looking and they'd known each other so long, I assumed something would have happened, but he never even hinted at anything of the sort. So after more than a year of being each others' romantic interest and 2-3 months into our committed, more serious relationship, he's off to get dinner with Tiffany (Because they live in different cities, they only got to meet up every 2 weeks or so, even less once I moved in.). He came back a little perturbed and jumpy, and immediately told me that Tiffany asked him to leave me for her, saying things like he's the reason that other relationships with men have never worked out. We thought she was in a relationship, but apparently she was taking a break with her boyfriend at the time. He had never given me cause for concern, and I trusted him, so I just asked if he was interested in saying yes. He said no, and I accepted that and moved along. I expressed empathy about how uncomfortable that must have been for him, and he shrugged it off. Three weeks later, he went back out with her. He didn't mention that he didn't give her an answer at the time, but he (months later) told me that he just wanted to give her time to come to her senses and thought it'd fade as time passed. He said he was super uncomfortable that she asked, and thought she'd just let it go. However, she kept pushing for an answer, so he asked if he could meet up with her to officially say no thank you and "set boundaries". We talked the next day after that dinner, and I was careful not to push because I thought "gosh, how uncomfortable to have to get into this with someone you considered a friend." However, during this conversation, he revealed that they'd had these occasional cycles of romantic feelings towards each other throughout their friendship, where they'd almost get together, but then stop (NOT because he didn't want to get together, but she'd get cold feet or push him away after a little while). I was dumbfounded because all of his statements in the past had intimated something incredibly different. But he emphasized that this was all a long, long time ago when they were young, and it hadn't been a thing for a "very long time." They'd had multiple serious relationships with other people since then, and they'd always hung out less and drawn appropriate boundaries while in relationships. I was uncomfortable with what I saw as lying by omission, but he insisted that he just didn't think it was necessary to disclose a complex backstory that early on. He also made a point of emphasizing that we hadn't even said "I love you" yet and we weren't even at a point in the relationship where he would have been obliged to tell me anything at all. I was hugely uncomfortable with this, and I told him firmly that if he saw her as the person he wanted to end up with, then I didn't want to stand in the way. He told me that he decided he definitively didn't want to be with her a couple of years ago. I said okay, and moved on. I was dumbfounded that he hadn't thought it important to mention this sooner, but I thought that it could either be a massive bone of contention early on in our relationship, or I could give this thing a chance to grow and we could address it as our relationship grew. Also important to note: I asked him what he told her, and he said "I said that it wasn't a good idea to get into a relationship right out of another one." (He also later told me that he told her that he was falling in love with me and wanted to pursue me, but this wasn't info he felt comfortable giving out at the time because he hadn't yet told me he loved me. Either way, he definitely said the first thing as well), which is the worst reason to not give something a chance ever. Once he said no thanks, she asked him if they could just forget that ever happened and he agreed. I thought that was weird and unhealthy because how on earth could they ever just forget about that? Still, I let it rest. A couple of months later, he texted me saying that Tiffany was pregnant. She and her boyfriend (same one as before the break) apparently planned it. However, she was far enough along that she must have had no more than a month between when she professed her love for my boyfriend and when she was planning on having a baby with HER boyfriend (the poor guy). I asked my BF how he felt about it, and he said he felt relieved because he "always wondered if they were holding each other back." He had mentioned that she didn't always make the best decisions with regard to men, but he said it with a slightly affectionate, understanding tone. This made me feel incredibly lovely. This felt like he was tantamount to admitting that even though he decided not to be with her, there was still SOMEthing there that was the "I have no romantic feelings towards her" that he tried to assure me of. It also made me feel like he never actually got the chance to try it out with Tiffany because he just thought this might be like all the other times that she said yes before she got cold feet, and he also might have said no thank you partially out of obligation. So a little while later, when he mentioned that (apparently they still talked once or twice a week, and I had no idea because he never ever mentioned her) Tiffany wanted to go out with us and her boyfriend to bond, I blew up and told him that I thought he still had feelings for her, I didn't understand their dynamic, and I didn't understand how he thought it'd all be okay after she asked him to leave me. I was calm at first, but it was admittedly out of the blue. He got defensive, I started crying, and it was not a productive conversation at all. We alternated between not talking about it/avoiding it like the plague, then occasionally yelling at each other until we just got tired of talking about it and had a rather passionate rest of the night. SUPER healthy. I decided that I'd still like to meet her and just put a face to a name. However, I didn't want to be disingenuous and pretend that none of this ever happened, so I asked BF if Tiffany knew that I knew she had asked him to leave me. He said no. So I asked him to just bring up the fact that I'm a little uncomfortable with her due to what she did a couple months ago, but I'm still totally down to meet her and would like to go out to dinner or go on a hike. The BF called her (I wasn't present for the conversation - in fact, I've never heard him speak to her on the phone) and then called me. He told me that he not only mentioned that I was uncomfortable with what she did, but he told her that I was uncomfortable with their entire history. I fell silent, feeling a little betrayed, as I felt that second part was unnecessary and shared my personal insecurities with her. He felt that it was necessary context, and seemed angry that he was getting blamed for this because he didn't even see why it was necessary he had to tell her I was uncomfortable at all. He reacted aggressively, and the next fight began. During this same fight, he mentioned that they had hooked up a couple times (making out) when she was staying at his house 2 years ago (a year before we met). He wanted to continue it, but she didn't. It blew my mind because this ran in contradiction to all of these statements he had made about things being over between them for "years and years" and nothing romantic had happened since they were "much younger." When I called him out on this, first he kept on insisting that it wasn't romantic and it was just hooking up, and then he admitted that it may have been romantic, but he just forgot and in any case, "years and years" was technically true since when he made that statement, it had been two years. However, he said it was during that time that he realized that they wouldn't be a good match and a relationship with her wasn't in keeping with what he wanted with his life. He began to envision her fading gradually into the "contact with her four times a year" category eventually. So for about a month, I thought long and hard about whether or not to break up. Everything else was almost perfect, and I could genuinely see myself with him for a long, long time. But was this a symptom of something larger? Did I trust him anymore? I knew that I couldn't go through any of this again. All of these details were crystallizing into a picture that seemed eerily similar to the last time I was cheated on, and his lack of disclosure at the beginning made me felt trapped in an open relationship that I didn't consent to. But he was insistent that he only loved and wanted me, and I worked through separating what were actual concerns versus projected insecurities of mine. I decided to stay with him, but I postponed moving in with him because I was still a little wary. We had a final fight a couple weeks ago, where he said that he had been giving it time and waiting for me to just see her as another friend, but he now saw that couldn't be possible. He loves me head and tails beyond anything that him and Tiffany ever had, and it was breaking his heart that I was distancing myself because of others' actions. Him choosing me was the final nail in the coffin of their romantic potential, and he didn't have any romantic feelings towards her. He had been ghosting Tiffany, which he felt bad about, but he didn't want to communicate with her while he and I were on bad terms. He realizes that the opportunity to tell her that when he said no thanks, he was talking more generally and not just in the moment. However, because she is almost at her due date and still together with the boyfriend, he feels weird about being like "I recognize you're not at this stage in your life anymore, but you do know there's no romantic potential, right?" Things have progressed. I'm moving in with him in a few weeks, but I am now unsure what to do now. We talked briefly about how to move forward, but we decided to put it off that night because it was 2am. I'm now about to bring this topic back up, since it's been a little a couple of weeks, and I don't want either of us to avoid fully resolving this or deciding on a plan of action. There's so much visceral mistrust and anger there on my side from how defensive and aggressive he was in trying to preserve this friendship, even though I've forgiven him for the disclosure stuff. He'd be willing to give up his friendship with Tiffany, but I don't know. It'd be easiest if I just didn't have to negotiate her being a part of our lives, especially as I don't trust her one bit (got intentionally knocked up with the man she was ready to leave, obviously doesn't consider boundaries important, has been really flighty with my boyfriend's emotions before, etc). However, I don't want him to do it if he'd resent me or if he thinks he's only doing it because of me. Had this whole thing rolled out differently, I'd be fine with them remaining more distant friends/acquaintances (and I honestly might still be fine with that, but from how defensive he was, it makes me loving queasy to think about going through any of this again). Let me note that I have also NEVER been this girlfriend. I am fine with his numerous exes, women he's slept with who are now mutual friends, etc, however, this woman intruded on our current relationship and isn't just history. He doesn't seem to understand the distinction though, and treated it like a moment that happened that we should now all move past and forget about. Additionally, the other day, he was showing me something on his text messages, and I think her name was one of the most recently texted, which means that he didn't tell me he resumed communication with her. I could be wrong, so I'm planning to just ask him about communication more generally in a really non-confrontational way, requesting that he keep me in the loop. I don't want one interaction to be the focus, but more so, principles behind communicating with her generally. So what do you think? I don't fault this woman for wanting to get with my boyfriend, but I do think it's hosed up that she thought her history superseded his current relationship, and I can't imagine sitting across the table from her baby daddy, wondering if he knows about all the sweet things she told my BF a month before she became pregnant. Should I let this friendship fade naturally, as my boyfriend assures me it will? Should I talk to him about making it a little bit clearer to her? EDIT: I am 100% sure that is NOT his baby, ahahaha. 2nd EDIT: I have obviously been trying to normalize things that aren't okay, and I need to take a big step back and think about larger relationship questions. Thanks, guys. I appreciate it a lot.
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Jun 19, 2018 02:54
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trickle trickle
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Jun 19, 2018 03:36
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Caganer posted:It wasn’t rated for that much weight Pack it up guys Caganer is a good poster now quote:My (22M) sister (19F) went to college and returned different
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Jun 19, 2018 04:14
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"People changing during college? Must be a  thing."
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Jun 19, 2018 04:19
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Shorts and tank tops in the summer WHAT COULD IT MEAN!?
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Jun 19, 2018 04:22
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I've never seen a *checks lexicon* female wearing summer clothes in the summer either. My word!
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Jun 19, 2018 04:29
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Hey guys my sister returned from college for the winter break and I notice her wearing some sort of sweater with a fat bearded man on it (one of her professors????). I ask who it is and she says it is "Saint" Nick, I think she may be involved in a sex cult.
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Jun 19, 2018 04:39
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Next you'll tell me she wears a raincoat when she's out in a storm, where does it end
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Jun 19, 2018 04:40
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Should I (18F) ask my best and only friend (18M) if I can give him oral sexquote:I’ll try to make this not too long. So I just graduated HS as did my best friend well call him Jake. We’ve been best friends since we were in first grade when my family moved next door to his, where we both still live. We hang out pretty much every day and we’re pretty much each other’s only real friend. We’re both kind of shy and socially awkward. Neither of us have ever done anything sexually together or with others. We talk about sex, like about what we’d like to do, famous people we have crushes on, it’s kind of like girl talk and guy talk together I guess? "I've never even kissed a boy. Should I skip straight to shoving his junk in my mouth?"
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Jun 19, 2018 04:45
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Got one in image format via discord: I [21M] have a [22F] girlfriend I've been with for a year that went to a orgy her older brother hosted  "My girlfriend got rode like a show pony at an orgy, blew her brother to top it off, and everyone I know is telling me to chill out and let it go." McSpanky fucked around with this message at 05:02 on Jun 19, 2018 |
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Jun 19, 2018 04:58
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The mother is right, it is hard to do avoid doing dumb things when you're young. Stuff like continuing to date a lady that sucked her brother off at an orgy.
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Jun 19, 2018 05:02
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Hahaha I know we don’t say fake but come on
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Jun 19, 2018 05:23
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andrew smash posted:come on Sounds like the brother already did heyoooo
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Jun 19, 2018 05:24
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Well, that post was surely written with one hand.
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Jun 19, 2018 05:27
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lusting after your sister is honestly the biggest sign of the biggest lame loser weenie from planet dumbass
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Jun 19, 2018 05:29
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Haha I just found this one again it's so good. My boyfriend(22M) of 1 year was passed over for his dream job and is now acting like a gangster rapper. Should I(22F) break up with him? quote:
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Jun 19, 2018 05:44
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Haha I just found this one again it's so good. My name is [your name] And I'm here to say That you're single Starting today
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Jun 19, 2018 06:21
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How do I tell my BF he has less musical talent and street cred than the singing telegram from Clue?
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Jun 19, 2018 06:26
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