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lol only predatory female teachers make the news because its social engineering to pretend that the trend is the same among both genders but everyone knows the creepy teacher guy who hosed girls before or after graduation and they never fire him
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LooksLikeABabyRat posted:Obviously I’m not thrilled with how things ended up, and I was dreading making this post, but I do appreciate all of the support you all have given me these past few weeks. It’s made it much easier to cope with everything having your words of encouragement and your sharing of similar experiences. No matter what ends up happening, I have faith that my daughter will make it out of this okay, and I will be there to help her through the hard times no matter what. I don't buy it. But obviously, if it's real, OP needs to move to an assisted living facility before they choke on a hotdog, and Mr Smith needs to be buried at sea before he grooms another victim.
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LooksLikeABabyRat posted:Should I be concerned about my daughter’s (18 F) relationship with her married teacher (40s M)? Change your last name to Bungler so people can identify you as a bungler right away.
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I had an 8th grade teacher yell at the girls to close their legs when they're sitting, as he wasn't there for "cheap thrills." I mean, how much more obvious can you make it that you were peering up their skirts?
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How old is 8th grade? Year 8 over here would be 12/13. Anyway, the want to be detective just wants to sexually assault the wife right? Me [27 F] with my Husband [28 M] married for 2 years. I got a call from his 'friend' that he has been cheating on me but things don't add up. quote:u/handsomehubby12 Like you checked the dates and he has an alibi with you, you’re going to implode your marriage.
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Jul 2, 2018 19:39
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when i was in high school the shop teacher would always hang around my girlfriend's table and try to look down her blouse and always asked her to stay after class and commented on how her uniform was fitting and that kind of poo poo. but it was twenty years ago so all it ever came to was "yeah everyone knows he's a creepy perv just stay away from him" e: he also had a flat spot on his head from where he got hit with an i-beam or something when he was younger
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Milotic posted:How old is 8th grade? Year 8 over here would be 12/13. 13/14 in the states. E: quote:the guy called me again last night asking that I go on some sort of stake-out with him. Yes, a 'stake-out' tactlessbastard fucked around with this message at 19:48 on Jul 2, 2018 |
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Milotic posted:How old is 8th grade? Year 8 over here would be 12/13. it sounds like the detective guy is paranoid about his wife cheating on him (maybe she is, who knows) and he knows it's with the handsome guy at the tennis club so he's trying to both catch her in the act and, as a consolation prize, gently caress that guy's wife too ask hubby to  with the tennis partner and maybe report detective man to the cops
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Jul 2, 2018 19:49
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Pick posted:lol only predatory female teachers make the news because its social engineering to pretend that the trend is the same among both genders but everyone knows the creepy teacher guy who hosed girls before or after graduation and they never fire him It's fairly difficult to fire a teacher in most states/counties (you need a lot of documented reasons for doing so), if the actual relationship didn't start until after she graduated all they can really do is monitor the crap out of him hoping he makes some sort of mistake and/or not renew his contract when the school year comes up. The guy is a loving creep, but hasn't done anything illegal. Our district here had both situations come up over the years, one where it started while the girl was a student and he was fired right away, one where it started after and the school he was at didn't renew his contract, can't remember if he just went to another school nearby or had to move counties though since he hadn't technically done anything illegal. The laws and such might vary depending on the state though? Edit for Detective: If she knows her husband isn't cheating (alibi for those times, and she's gone through his phone) wouldn't you just tell your husband what's going on? "Hey Flora's husband is blowing me up thinking his wife is cheating on him with you. What should we do about this?" Also why do people who right these things have to give the dumbest names to people? It makes it so much harder to follow rather than just calling them John and Jane or some poo poo. Ouhei fucked around with this message at 20:12 on Jul 2, 2018 |
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Jul 2, 2018 20:06
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Yeah there are lots of creepy teachers out there. One of my science teachers always grabbed girls by the shoulders and eventually stopped when enough people mentioned it. Our history teacher got fired for looking at porn while we were watching Schindler's List.
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Pick posted:lol only predatory female teachers make the news because its social engineering to pretend that the trend is the same among both genders but everyone knows the creepy teacher guy who hosed girls before or after graduation and they never fire him Rather than machiavellian social engineering it's probably the more boring interpretation that anything that is less ordinary is more newsworthy, although no doubt is also ticks the ancient "woman are temptresses" tabloid gimme.
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Sagebrush posted:when i was in high school the shop teacher would always hang around my girlfriend's table and try to look down her blouse and always asked her to stay after class and commented on how her uniform was fitting and that kind of poo poo. My mother worked in a district office for a decade. I knew of a teacher that left his wife for a student after the student graduated. The district promptly moved for dismisal upon being made aware and the union didn't fight it. Last I heard from a former student of mine, the kid was miserable. Had a baby right after highschool graduation, the dad is in their late 30s and is unemployable in a professional environment (bit difficult to explain 'terminated for grooming a teenager'), and they both regret their decisions in life.
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Jul 2, 2018 20:09
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Don’t gently caress kids! Don’t gently caress people you have an unfair amount of leverage over!
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Elderbean posted:Our history teacher got fired for looking at porn while we were watching Schindler's List. Only the classiest educators for our children
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Pick posted:Don’t gently caress kids! Don’t gently caress people you have an unfair amount of leverage over! You'd think this would be easy enough advice to follow, but here we are.
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Elderbean posted:Yeah there are lots of creepy teachers out there. One of my science teachers always grabbed girls by the shoulders and eventually stopped when enough people mentioned it. Our history teacher got fired for looking at porn while we were watching Schindler's List. firing seems a bit harsh, it's merely inconsiderate to not bring enough porn to make Schindler's List watchable for everyone
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Pick posted:Don’t gently caress kids! Don’t gently caress people you have an unfair amount of leverage over! Would you call one partner coming from $$$ an unfair amount of leverage?
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My Imaginary GF posted:Would you call one partner coming from $$$ an unfair amount of leverage? It's a red flag for probable total inability to function as a human being, but probably not unfair leverage unless you have no means to support yourself without them
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Pick posted:Don’t gently caress kids! Don’t gently caress people you have an unfair amount of leverage over! Ok I'll keep not doing it good thing you said something We had a chemistry teacher that was young and real cute and all the girls were just slobbering over him and after we graduated I guess one of them finally pulled it off because he got fired and she got expelled.
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Jul 2, 2018 20:21
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I'm super suspicious of a man who becomes a teacher at this point
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TheScott2K posted:I'm super suspicious of a man who becomes a teacher at this point Oh great, you've just condemned another generation of women to the drudgery of education.
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Jul 2, 2018 20:26
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This does bring up an interesting question though: Is it ever appropriate for a high school teacher to date a former student? Like, if a new teacher (~22/23) taught a kid as a senior (17/18) and they meet up, let's say 10 years later (so 33 and 28ish) is it still not okay? Personally, I think it would always be weird on some level if they taught them directly, less so if they just taught at the school while they were there. I think Broad City did an episode where Abbi tinder matched with an old teacher and it ended terribly.
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Jul 2, 2018 20:32
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Jul 2, 2018 20:35
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Pick posted:Don’t gently caress kids! Don’t gently caress people you have an unfair amount of leverage over! But beating the poo poo out of them? A-OK.
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Ouhei posted:This does bring up an interesting question though: Is it ever appropriate for a high school teacher to date a former student? Like, if a new teacher (~22/23) taught a kid as a senior (17/18) and they meet up, let's say 10 years later (so 33 and 28ish) is it still not okay? Ten years later and they're well within divide-by-two-plus-seven territory? Fine. A 5 year gap counts for a whole lot less in your late 20s than when you're a teenager.
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Doc Hawkins posted:I find it very hard to think of people I met when they were a child as anything but a child, so I would I met my wife when she was a child. (I was also a child)
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tactlessbastard posted:Ok I'll keep not doing it good thing you said something We had a married teacher couple at our high school with one of those ultra-creepy dudes who tries real hard to impress the cool 15-year-olds so they'll hang out with him, and when his wife ran off with one of the seniors the entire school had the most intensely cathartic razzing session the world's ever seen before that guy dropped off the edge of the earth Ouhei posted:This does bring up an interesting question though: Is it ever appropriate for a high school teacher to date a former student? Like, if a new teacher (~22/23) taught a kid as a senior (17/18) and they meet up, let's say 10 years later (so 33 and 28ish) is it still not okay? always weird if you were in a caretaker role over them as a larval person
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Paul Zuvella posted:But beating the poo poo out of them? A-OK. Actually my point was I’ve been hit and it was something I didn’t see as being as inherently worse than other forms of abuse but the degree to which people distort narratives never fails to impress
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TheScott2K posted:Ten years later and they're well within divide-by-two-plus-seven territory? Fine. A 5 year gap counts for a whole lot less in your late 20s than when you're a teenager. A note on that rule: does not apply if you're in your mid-20s and the other person is aged 20 - 23. There's a world of difference in maturity between someone about to turn 21, someone who just turned 21, and someone who's gotten over the `~`zomg`~`beer`~`pink foofooo drinks`~`dancing`~` phase of legal drink'n. Personally, I think folk that just-turned-20 tend to be a more mature than folk who just-turned-21. Made the conscious decision at 26 that it'd just be easier to reject any chick under 23 than it would be to drink til 3am hookup and then have to wake the gently caress up for professional poo poo at 5:30a.
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Yeea it just comes off as creepy. The math teacher/coach was found to be texting a few former students. I think ages ranged 22-4 Telling his wife then ditching her at the airport on the way to the honeymoon was...a pretty terrible way to go about things. He kept his job there for awile. She worked there too but quit right after. Gross.
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I was in a band with my high school Spanish teacher a few years after I had graduated and it still felt weird
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I’ve known two profs who did it as well and there were no repercussions even though the grad students were still active students. Will wonders never cease.
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Motronic posted:I met my wife when she was a child. IIRC you've mentioned this before, but I can't remember, you're almost the same age?
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Doc Hawkins posted:IIRC you've mentioned this before, but I can't remember, you're almost the same age? You might be thinking of me.
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Doc Hawkins posted:IIRC you've mentioned this before, but I can't remember, you're almost the same age? Yes, I'm 3 months older than her. Obviously I'm just being pedantic about the phrasing of what I responded to.
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