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My boyfriend of 19 years... won't marry mequote:It's been years. We've been together since Summer 1999. I was 16 and he was 48 at the time. We basically fell in love, he asked me to move in with him, etc. As life went on, we went through lots of ups and downs through the years (bankruptcy, foreclosure, eviction, opening a business, going out of business, working together, few affairs on his end)... and here we are... still together... He did do things that a normal girl would leave him for, but I chose to stay.... I guess I was in love and I still am.
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Hello Ketene posted:My boyfriend of 19 years... won't marry me HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
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Jul 8, 2018 06:06
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screaming forever
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Jul 8, 2018 06:07
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Nonvalueadded User posted:Classic oldies time, I guess? Dude got owned but tbh it does seem like more of a standard relationship issue of one person being more invested in their work/hobbies than their relationship. If he was unhappy with it, he was right to put his foot down and it's good that they can separate and find someone they're more compatible with. His weird tirade about her love of animals being childish is off putting, but it does sound like there's a very real aspect of time and financial commitment that he was understandably upset by.
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Jul 8, 2018 06:11
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:ahaha I remembered that story but I'd forgotten how perfectly the OP was the Platonic ideal of a turd I had forgotten the fairies and mermaids line. Like homeless and/or injured animals are imaginary.
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Jul 8, 2018 06:12
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Colonel Gentleman's advice about not getting involved with a Persian a third your age also works the other way around, apparently.
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Jul 8, 2018 06:12
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How much you want to bet the animal hating boyfriend plays videogames all day?
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Jul 8, 2018 06:15
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Hello Ketene posted:My boyfriend of 19 years... won't marry me This 67 year old dude seems to have a more active sex life than me
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Jul 8, 2018 06:16
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Hello Ketene posted:My boyfriend of 19 years... won't marry me Did her family sell her to him 19 years ago?
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Jul 8, 2018 06:18
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Bored posted:Did her family sell her to him 19 years ago? Not saying that didn't happen but they are in California so it would be safe to assume that is not the case.
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Jul 8, 2018 06:23
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A person who considers having pets and liking animals to be childish is a terrible, terrible person.
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Jul 8, 2018 06:30
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"oh yeah, why don't you save some children?  ""ok that is a good idea. any recommendations?" "*can't even muster up the name of a single charity that helps childs* gently caress u bitch  !!"
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Jul 8, 2018 06:40
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I don't know how someone even reaches the conclusion that liking animals is childish. Having a pet dog is a mature and good thing and when children are given the opportunity to raise a pet it's meant to be a test of maturity, to see whether they can handle a relatively low bar of adult-like responsibilities
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Jul 8, 2018 06:42
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also for someone who is an extremely passionate animal lover, 2 dogs and 2 cats does not strike me as particularly craaaazy
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Jul 8, 2018 06:43
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and guess what, if you dump your boyfriend u got room for another cat!
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Jul 8, 2018 06:43
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My sister got my dog’s tail docked without permissionquote:My sister took my dog for a week while I traveled. I have watched her kids and pets before. I believe family should help each other out. 
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Jul 8, 2018 06:55
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Docking is hosed up. On some, SOME, working dogs it makes sense but that is literally it.
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Jul 8, 2018 06:57
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And it only 'makes sense' on dogs that have already been crippled through inbreeding anyway.
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Jul 8, 2018 07:15
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I can't even comment on the Iranian Humbert Humbert and the clueless Dolores Hayes who was too loving stupid to call Clare Quilty after 19 goddamned years. It's breaking my brain to think about it.Pick posted:"oh yeah, why don't you save some children? While trying to remember enough details of the story to find it, I assumed that the girlfriend had dozens and dozens of animals in the house. I too was surprised to find that it was only six (including the two tree frogs). But there's no arguing that she's a little crazy. For example, "she has the dogs go to day-care ECT!" Now, I'm in favor of any effective treatment for mental health disorders, but I don't see why two dogs should have to be subjected to daily electroshock therapy. That's just excessive. quote:I love dogs too fake edit: didn't realize I had this window open/this reply unposted for so long. But refreshing the thread let me read about yet another dog-related douchée.
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Jul 8, 2018 07:19
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Not that I don't like animals or anything, but sixty dogs, at home, might be a bit excessive. Even assuming he's exaggerating that's still a heck of a lot of dogs.
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Jul 8, 2018 07:21
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Haifisch posted:My sister got my dog’s tail docked without permission this is just reminding me of that guy with the dickhead neighbor who sued for his dog, won on default, and had it put down immediately just to gently caress with him and now I'm sad again
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Jul 8, 2018 07:25
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Pick posted:also for someone who is an extremely passionate animal lover, 2 dogs and 2 cats does not strike me as particularly craaaazy Two dogs, five cats, and we used to have a free-roaming turtle too  that dude is the hugest of weenies and it's good that she booted him.E: did not see the tail docking tale. 
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Jul 8, 2018 07:44
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I'm glad that numb nuts removed himself from animal loving girl's life. It's nice to read a story with a happy ending. EDIT: I have never heard of docking a dogs tail before, I didn't even know it was a thing. Thankfully I live in a country where that's illegal because holy poo poo. Holy loving poo poo. hooman fucked around with this message at 07:56 on Jul 8, 2018 |
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Jul 8, 2018 07:52
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Sagebrush posted:there's no way anybody jizzes on their ipad and then methodically documents each time in their porn folder. oh my sweet summer child
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Jul 8, 2018 08:20
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Caganer posted:why would i not do something i want to Because. 
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Jul 8, 2018 08:34
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While we're on dogs, does anyone have the story of Barbarian Brother who wears his wolf-dog like a cape and paves driveways with his bare hands?
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Jul 8, 2018 08:53
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See if you can guess the ending from the title. Michigan: Do you need the mother's consent for a paternity test? I want to get one but I do not think my girlfriend will let me. quote:My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 years. We recently graduated from college (1 year ago) and have a 6 month old son. I trust her but I do want to get a paternity test. I've had some insecurity issues I never really got checked out, quote:Got a DNA kit from CVS the same day I asked my question (girlfriend went to visit her parents for a few days so I had time to myself) Sent the kit in (took a little longer than what the kit said to arrive but it got there in about a week). I got the results online in a few days and it said that the probability of paternity is 99.99%, thus confirming that my son was indeed my son.
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Jul 8, 2018 08:58
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Beachcomber posted:While we're on dogs, does anyone have the story of Barbarian Brother who wears his wolf-dog like a cape and paves driveways with his bare hands? Haha it wasn't even brother it was like cousin or something who recently had his dad die and he was like Australian lol The story was amazing on so many levels. welcome to hell posted:See if you can guess the ending from the title. hahaha dumbass self owns are so awesome.
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Jul 8, 2018 09:00
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dog cape is one of the all time greats
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Jul 8, 2018 09:03
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I think the dog shoes one is.
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Jul 8, 2018 09:05
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That guy sounds like he's amazing at everything whereas the OP's only good at self-owning  I don't feel comfortable watching anime and cosplaying in the basement anymore
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Jul 8, 2018 09:09
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welcome to hell posted:See if you can guess the ending from the title. Kick him to the loving curb
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Jul 8, 2018 09:41
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HIJK posted:Kick him to the loving curb Why? That punishes their child more than it punishes him. This really seems like something they should go to therapy over (which they are) but doesn't seem like reasonable grounds for divorce (assuming there aren't important additional details being left out)
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Jul 8, 2018 10:06
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that guy is going to be a way worse dad than no dad would be
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Jul 8, 2018 10:14
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QuarkJets posted:Why? That punishes their child more than it punishes him. This really seems like something they should go to therapy over (which they are) but doesn't seem like reasonable grounds for divorce (assuming there aren't important additional details being left out) What good would come from getting a paternity test that indicates the child ain't his? That the insecurities he feels are valid? They've been together since highschool, my guess is their relationship has a whole lotta maldaptive behaviors goin on because neither of the two have had enough dating experience to contextualize what it is they want from a relationship and how they can adequately communicate that to each other. Lets say the test indicated the kid likely ain't his. What would he do with that knowledge? Hes probably already on the birth certificate, so he'd still likely have to pay child support for 17 years. Would he use that to break up with her? I bet he feels insecure and inadequate sexually, and is questioning whether his wife may be attracted to other men. I don't know very many men with deep insecurities willing to break up with their partners; my guess is that he would use the knowledge to bludgeon his wife into submission on relationship issues and make her life a living hell. Dude wants to stay home all day playing video games while the wife works 60hrs/wk? 'I'm raising a kid that ain't mine, so we're even.' Maybe a counselor and therapist will help the wife realize its time to  A Wizard of Goatse posted:that guy is going to be a way worse dad than no dad would be the last single mom I hosed was getting out of a relationship with a dude like that OP. Guy channeled his insecurities into borderline abusive behaviors, chick rebelled against his controlling personality by going out and enjoying her early 20s as best she could My Imaginary GF fucked around with this message at 10:29 on Jul 8, 2018 |
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Jul 8, 2018 10:27
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I dunno, That dudes dead boring prose doesn't really give me much in terms of nuance but even with the fist sized grain of salt of him being the narrator I don't feel like he's unforgivable... I think he just did some dumb bullshit because he got spooked by stories on the internet, I mean he came clean... Than again he dosn't seem remorseful either and he's obviously easily manipulated.
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Motherfucker posted:I dunno, That dudes dead boring prose doesn't really give me much in terms of nuance but even with the fist sized grain of salt of him being the narrator I don't feel like he's unforgivable... I think he just did some dumb bullshit because he got spooked by stories on the internet, I mean he came clean... Than again he dosn't seem remorseful either and he's obviously easily manipulated. Thats what ya get for being in a relationship with someone since ya'll were in highschool together. If dude had dating experience, he'd know to never loving mention getting the paternity test, to be open and honest about his insecurities, and start seeing a therapist on his own accord to deal with his issues. Don't date folk since highschool. Date them in highschool, break up for college, and then get back together when ya have some experience with relationships. Its like admitting to cheating when you don't fear your SO finding out. If you have a one night stand at the governors ball with someone you'll never see again or have contact with, why ruin your relationship and tell your SO? My Imaginary GF fucked around with this message at 10:35 on Jul 8, 2018 |
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Jul 8, 2018 10:32
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Nonvalueadded User posted:Does anyone believe that if this guy actually had a dog that he'd be fine with a shelter mutt (the only unpunchable type of dog) instead of a purebreed? what the gently caress is wrong with you, all dogs deserve love
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Jul 8, 2018 10:52
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:that guy is going to be a way worse dad than no dad would be That is a hell of a stretch. Mad Wack posted:what the gently caress is wrong with you, all dogs deserve love You are objectively wrong, the only subjective factor is how wrong you are. Now, if dog rescue GF was up all night all the time arranging flights for horses we'd call her crazy. If she was up late arranging flights for snakes we'd call her a creep. If it was collecting Funko Pops all day erryday we'd mock the poo poo out of her. But because it's dogs she can act like a complete obsessive to the detriment of her relationship and somehow it's her boyfriend who is an rear end in a top hat? I don't understand. I grew up around dogs and I like dogs but I just keep seeing people going bonkers over dogs, even theoretical dogs and it blows my mind.
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tactlessbastard posted:That is a hell of a stretch. Eh, if the story is true the guy is clearly an unreliable narrator trying to make himself appear as the rational and reasonable one. She is able to financially support herself doing it on a legal secretary's salary, it's not like she's prioritising it over work, running a menagerie out of her garage or even getting incredibly involved every day of the week. Tbh he came across a whiny little pinhead who can't deal with not being to sole focus of his SO's attention. Which makes it all more of a commentary on modern men being needy loving babies, rather than society pandering to dogs.
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