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Why don’t I (19F) care that my bf (20M) is abusive?quote:He’s not physically abusive. But gaslighting and emotional abuse is a routine. Today, he said he was going to the bathroom and I asked him to hurry, as I had to go as well. 40 minutes I texted him and said, “are you going to be out anytime soon?” I wait 10 minutes and go to our room to see him laying on our bed. I asked why he ignored me and he said because I was rude. I said I could have worded it better, but you knew I had to go so after 50 minutes total I was a little frustrated. He said that he didn’t ignore me, he just didn’t respond, as ignoring “has to be a conscious effort”. I explain that reading a text from someone and choosing not to answer it is a conscious effort. And that it was then even rider of him to not let me know he was out, as I STILL had to go. He continues going on about how he didn’t ignore me, so I just left the room. I went back in to grab something and he said something to me, I got what I needed and left without answering (to do the exact same thing as he did). He storms out, yelling “you’re just going to ignore me now?!” I said I did it solely because you did it to me. I’m showing you how hurt I felt. He continues yelling about how I was rude and how I’m wrong for ignoring him. I asked why it was okay for him but not for me, and he said “because mine was justified.” I know this is a bad example as I did egg him on a bit, but my mind is cluttered right now so I can’t think of other experiences. This is a daily occurrence. Hahaha, Jesus.
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# ? Jul 9, 2018 22:04 |
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tactlessbastard posted:I got u fam Awesome, thanks! EDIT: That is some extremely good poo poo. metachronos fucked around with this message at 22:14 on Jul 9, 2018 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:Why don’t I (19F) care that my bf (20M) is abusive? next time pee on his clothes
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# ? Jul 9, 2018 22:14 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:Why don’t I (19F) care that my bf (20M) is abusive?
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# ? Jul 9, 2018 22:20 |
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I’m reeeeeeeally hoping to hear more on this one, because the content was removed to just say:quote:Edit: Well, this is awkward. Turns out she also uses reddit and reads this sub. gently caress me, right? I [30M] Chose The Wrong One - Can It Be Fixed quote:A few years ago, I was going through the worst break up of my life. Around the same time, I reconnected with an old female friend I had since early childhood, Sophie[23F then, 28F now]. We had always gotten along well and shared many of the same interests and she is someone I would consider a best friend. Sophie is the kind of person who gets along well with everyone and one of the few people I am fairly comfortable with as I find that I can tell her anything really easily. She is always willing to help others and honestly just a genuiely good person. She listened to me for days on end and helped me pick up the broken pieces of myself and become even better than I was before. She never made me feel like less of a man for crying or going to therapy and was the only person who actively encouraged to take care of my mental health. Sophie cooked me delicious meals when I didn't feel like getting out of bed, went on runs with me to keep me motivated, watched anime me with, enjoyed working on my car with me, helped me make a plan for the future and would calm me down whenever I would start to get close to having a panic attack. I constantly felt like I was becoming a better person just by being in her presence and found myself thinking about her 24/7 after many months of this. There was lots of flirting and banter between and people often mistook us for a couple based on how close we were (and how easily I could make her blush) and to be completely honest, we always had chemistry but I was somewhat of an rear end in a top hat when I was younger.
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# ? Jul 9, 2018 22:30 |
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Nice thread title everyone- seeing content I posted in the thread title will serve as a constant reminder of my stellar posts 💯
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# ? Jul 9, 2018 22:31 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:Why don’t I (19F) care that my bf (20M) is abusive? Really the part where she just kind of sat there for 40 literal minutes not even peeking at the bathroom door while he sat on the bed seething over a perceived slight and not moving or speaking is the perfect encapsulation of someone staying in an emotionally abusive relationship despite knowing it's a terrible idea
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# ? Jul 9, 2018 22:32 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:The reason I got with Katie - not wanting to wait for sex - was thrown out the window as soon as we were together for a few months. She was suddenly always tired and never really interested in me anymore. Plus, she has gained over 100 pounds since we had gotten together while Sophie still looks the exact same way she did at 23 - a real 10/10. It turns out she was cheating on me with multiple men for almost the entire duration of our relationship. She made me quit many of my hobbies, made fun of me for enjoying anime, and finally had me sell my car because it "you don't need a sports car around kids". I still work in the same lovely job and rent a crap apartment just barely scraping by. Katie never once helped cook or clean claiming they were "wifey" things and pointed out that the last girl who did that for me got dumped on the curb and laughed.
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# ? Jul 9, 2018 22:40 |
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Lol. I would have understood about having reservations with dating an abuse survivor who was struggling with intimacy. But he couldn't have handled the situation more poorly.
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# ? Jul 9, 2018 22:53 |
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failing forward posted:Re: Landlord Word Salad
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# ? Jul 9, 2018 23:00 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:It's taking my [F25] bf [M24] of 4 years too long to propose and my attitude ruined our weekend. Not sure how to proceed. In the comments she reveals that they actually tried to live together once and "it was quite the wakeup call". So she thinks it will magically work out in the future just because there's a ring on her finger. No poo poo he doesn't want to propose.
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# ? Jul 9, 2018 23:00 |
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there was an unbelievably sad and hosed up story a lil while back about a woman who was raped and as a result found the prospect of intimacy (or even physical proximity) with her husband/boyfriend unbearable. sometimes it’s not your fault but you’re not compatible. Don’t do what this guy did.
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# ? Jul 9, 2018 23:00 |
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Aramoro posted:Calling the English failed imperialists kinda makes it sounds like they failed at imperialism and they pretty much nailed that to be honest. Also it wasn't really the English but rather the British that were the imperialists. this was 3 pages back but uh what? the first people the english colonized was everyone else in britain
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tractor fanatic posted:this was 3 pages back but uh what? the first people the english colonized was everyone else in britain Go back that far and I guess the definition of 'English' becomes pretty confused, but yeah, certainly Wales and part of Ireland were directly colonised by a recognisable English state.
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LadyPictureShow posted:I’m reeeeeeeally hoping to hear more on this one, because the content was removed to just say: hahahahahaha
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 00:16 |
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27 [M] with my fiancee [28/F] of three years. Found unflattering messages about me and I don't know what to think[new] (self.relationships)quote:I have always had a big crush on my fiancee. She was my sister's friend in HS (a grade ahead of me) and we both attended the same university. She and I were never close but definitely knew each other - she and my sister spent a lot of time together.
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 00:22 |
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luckily real life is a goosebumps CYOA and you can "take back" years worth of relationship by keeping your thumb on the page
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 00:22 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:
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Caganer posted:27 [M] with my fiancee [28/F] of three years. Found unflattering messages about me and I don't know what to think[new] (self.relationships) Oh drat.... ouch bro just ouch.
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 00:42 |
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Pick posted:*the women will still be at the wedding Right, and the men will be crowded around the tv somewhere adjacent and the bride will be mad. To a Texan this feels like when (Texas) weddings are scheduled for Saturday’s in the fall. Yeah, people will be there. The men will congregate around the nearest tv and feelings will be hurt. That being said, unless this is a very low key wedding rescheduling is not feasible. Hopefully the wedding goes off and they’ll laugh about it some day.
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Flutieflakes017 posted:Right, and the men will be crowded around the tv somewhere adjacent and the bride will be mad. Bring back Texas v Texas A&M
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blugu64 posted:Bring back Texas v Texas A&M Yes then bomb the stadium
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 00:50 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:Why don’t I (19F) care that my bf (20M) is abusive? All this dude has to do is explain to her that he's being emotionally distant because he is very excited about the World Cup and she'll let him off the hook (or if she doesn't, then she doesn't really love him anyway)
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Flutieflakes017 posted:Right, and the men will be crowded around the tv somewhere adjacent and the bride will be mad. At every wedding Ive been in Louisiana if your wedding even partially conflicts with the Saints or LSU expect literally everyone up to and including your own mother to be watching the game on the closest TV or cellphone. One couple scheduled their wedding to wrap up at kickoff so they themselves could turn on the Saints at their reception with the expectation even they wouldnt stay if it wasnt on. Conversely, this is also the same state where the brides father and the grooms uncle got in a fistfight over it being a dry wedding and the two of them failing to agree on how to split the fifth they snuck in so “decorum” may not apply.
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 01:33 |
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My husbands female coworker is friends with him on Facebook and she’s liking all of his photos without me !quote:So around 6 months ago I (34 F)started to notice a girl who is friends with my husband (33 M )on FB liking all of his photos with him and our kids. Also likes his status updates. She’s never liked any photo with me and if i tag a pic of my husband she will of course like it. I asked my husband who she was , and he said it’s a coworker. He’s worked with her for years but they just became friends on fb this year. I love a good buried lede. he's cheating
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 01:50 |
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A spicy bit from the comments of this story to lead off:quote:I believe I am the exception, not the rule. Oh my G My soulmate was definitely born at the wrong time quote:I’m a 20 year old female, and he’s a 47 year old male.
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LadyPictureShow posted:A spicy bit from the comments of this story to lead off: Oh yeah thats the stuff right there.
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 02:01 |
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Stevens Dad was an ill advised sequel to Stacey’s Mom.
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Caganer posted:My husbands female coworker is friends with him on Facebook and she’s liking all of his photos without me ! She's definitely cheating
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LadyPictureShow posted:It's taking my [F25] bf [M24] of 4 years too long to propose and my attitude ruined our weekend. Not sure how to proceed. That dude is going to troll this poor girl into an early grave. This is like a movie where the pizza-faced sixteen-year-old gets all hot and comes back to psychologically torture the crush who treated him like poo poo in school.
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 02:48 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:I [30M] Chose The Wrong One - Can It Be Fixed Hey turns out she has my ideal life and I want her now? So I'm still good to get in there right?
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:jfc i just found the rest of Nutt Bugg's boyfriend's post history and it's all like Wasn't there some girl who posted that she had a guy friend who saw her s&m bruising and decided to tell everyone she knows that her boyfriend was abusing her when she told him to drop it? Oh! Also he discovered the bruising by lifting up her shirt without her permission. Maybe this is the same dickbag.
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 03:10 |
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Milotic posted:My (late 20s/F) brother (mid 20s) and i have been estranged for years. I am a bone marrow match but do not want to donate as he is still being disrespectful and doing so will require me to give up my whole life and move back to my home country after I moved here to escape his bullying. quote:He also could not afford to come to my country, would not be covered by insurance here, and would expect to live with me to keep his costs down even if he could, which is a huge no after how he treated me for years.
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 03:17 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:A spicy bit from the comments of this story to lead off: How old is she going to be when she finally realizes how loving creepy and predatory his behavior was? She'll probably pine over him for the next 20 years and become a cat lady.
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 03:17 |
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Odd posted:She's definitely cheating That was my first thought.
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 04:01 |
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Caganer posted:My husbands female coworker is friends with him on Facebook and she’s liking all of his photos without me ! She clicks like... on his penis
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 05:20 |
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Barudak posted:At every wedding Ive been in Louisiana if your wedding even partially conflicts with the Saints or LSU expect literally everyone up to and including your own mother to be watching the game on the closest TV or cellphone. One couple scheduled their wedding to wrap up at kickoff so they themselves could turn on the Saints at their reception with the expectation even they wouldnt stay if it wasnt on. Yes. My boss, a Sooner and an NYU educated tax attorney, found out my paralegal scheduled my office wedding shower for a Saturday during football season and went ballistic. I am not invested in the World Cup but I am sympathetic because.. well.. UT football. blugu64 posted:Bring back Texas v Texas A&M You ruined my night. This won't cause a derail but if had any sway it would. I am concerned this might gain me a prob because I haven't seen a football derail in all of the 3000+ pages of this thread but I don't care. I also I know I will lose all credibility with goons whose stuff I like reading like Pick, Caganer, and Ziv Zulander but I don't care. The World Cup talk and you mentioning UT football brought this on. I watched the last Texas v. Texas A&M game, the 2011 game, with my parents. They are UT class of 78' and 80' respectively. I am class of 09 and I have 2 uncles on my dad's side and 3 uncles on my mom side who are UT grads. I don't know if you remember that game but I have this idea you're a Texas fan and I suspect you do. There was no reason UT should have won that game. It was in college station. Most of the starting A&M O-Line that night played a role in setting up Johnny Manziel and went NFL. Ryan Tannehill was a 1st round pick. Both of their starting running backs went into the NFL. Texas had "Herp-a-derp" Case McCoy, the younger Shipley, and a really good kicker. Somehow the UT offense did enough that night so that three guys on defense with terrible names, Kenny Vaccaro, Carrington Byndom, and Quandre Diggs could absolutely ruin Ryan Tannehill's night. Moments that immediately springs to mind any time I think of that game is me and my dad taking turns yelling at the other to calm down. For example, when Miles Onyegbule threw an incomplete pass to a stumbling receiver on a trick play that would have been a touchdown I was inconsolable for about 20 seconds. My dad told me to calm down and I told him I was going to throw "his old rear end" into the pool if he didn't sit down. When Jaxon Shipley threw Blaine Irby, a man who was told he might not walk again a couple of years earlier, a touchdown on another trick play I cried like my first child had just been born. Two plays later my dad flipped poo poo and I said he needed to sit down or I would sit him down. The penultimate shouting match occurred during the Case McCoy dash for 23 yards that set up the winning field goal. I think in the time that it took him to run that far my father and I traded off yelling at each other to calm down at least 3 times. When the Justin Tucker field goal sealed the game I started crying and forced my dad to hug me. When he finally managed to pull away I had left two tear stains on his shirt. We drove from our house in north Austin down to the drag in front of UT just like we did after the Ricky Williams 1998 A&M game. Yes, I know I have emotional problems and after writing this out I do not feel it is fair for me to judge the /r/relationships posters anymore. I am not convinced it is in my best interest to bring back Texas v. Texas A&M.
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 06:10 |
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Flutieflakes017 posted:Yes. My boss, a Sooner and an NYU educated tax attorney, found out my paralegal scheduled my office wedding shower for a Saturday during football season and went ballistic. I am not invested in the World Cup but I am sympathetic because.. well.. UT football. didn't read
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# ? Jul 10, 2018 06:23 |
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So how much money do you throw at the burnt orange cult when they come calling for money
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Xun posted:So how much money do you throw at the burnt orange cult when they come calling for money I think you can only give like $2k a year to the RNC but the superpacs will accept larger donations
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