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Brother Entropy posted:oh yeah, that's genuinely lovely. it was just kinda lol to see people going 'but canada has problems too!', especially at a time where americans don't even know if roe v wade gets to keep being a thing within the next decade, among all the other bad poo poo that's gonna keep getting worse Also doesn't Canada have like government mandated minimum vacation days and maternity leave? And legislated employee protection laws?* That's a concrete reason other than "promised liberal land!!!" to want to move *I mean I don't doubt that there are TTOONN of employers who look at such laws and dump them in the trash, but that's still a step above "right to work"
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Arbitrary Coin posted:Also doesn't Canada have like government mandated minimum vacation days and maternity leave? Yeah, 2 weeks vacation until 5 years employment and then 3 weeks (at least in Ontario). A year of parental job protection split between the parents.
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Arbitrary Coin posted:Also doesn't Canada have like government mandated minimum vacation days and maternity leave? And legislated employee protection laws?* That's a concrete reason other than "promised liberal land!!!" to want to move there's certainly practical reasons a person might want to live in Canada, none of which are really touched upon as motivations in the OP and none of which are incredibly compelling if you're already affluent enough to just up and move to Canada, but there's also a Type who just likes the idea because they view everything through the lens of the consumer and Canada suits their personal branding. Ditching everyone else and taking your business elsewhere because you don't like something vague about the politics of your country is the epitome of bougie shallowness, and Canada is always the primo choice because it lets you dramatically flounce out of America without having to adjust to a meaningfully different culture or relationship with the state or, uh, change any part of how you were already living in America. A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 23:44 on Jul 10, 2018 |
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Yo we talkin about Canada in this thread? [Ontario Canada] Neighbour doesn't want us sitting on our front porch because "it's an invasion of his privacy". quote:Our front porch faces to the north and on nice evenings we like to sit out there in the shade to get some fresh (non-AC) air. The prevailing winds are west to east so we also get a nice breeze. We've been doing this for many years when we are home in the summer.
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Depressio111117 posted:Yo we talkin about Canada in this thread? Oh man, having crazy neighbors would be the goddamned worst.
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tactlessbastard posted:Oh man, having crazy neighbors would be the goddamned worst. We just try to not look south too often.
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Jul 11, 2018 00:43
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Subjunctive posted:We just try to not look south too often. Lol
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Subjunctive posted:We just try to not look south too often. Solid loving burn Lolol Edit content Canada moving wife is a massive bitch and he should 
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Subjunctive posted:We just try to not look south too often. It's basically all of North America that says this with respect to their southern neighbors (EG New York vs New Jersey, Everyone vs Florida, etc) It's kind of weird
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Subjunctive posted:We just try to not look south too often. Was the 13th Amendment just repealed because I feel like we all just got owned
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TheScott2K posted:Was the 13th Amendment just repealed because I feel like we all just got owned "In a 6-3 decision today..."
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La Brea Carpet posted:"In a 6-3 decision today..." fuuuck
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Baronjutter posted:People break up and have ex's, that's life. She isn't saying the dude assaulted her and got away with it, or was some horrible abusive jerk. They just had a fairly normal sounding early 20's college breakup and she can't get over it. What was the worst he did, break up with her in front of some friends? String her along? That's normal lovely 20-something college dating drama, most people are pretty lovely at that age. That doesn't really strike me as weird, tbh. Maybe that means I'm cold, whatever. I don't see any reason to interact with people who are pretending that we don't have history, especially when that history is wholly negative. When I was in high school, this guy impersonated a crush of mine on AIM, pretended to like me, and then showed our chatlogs to a bunch of his friends for a laugh. Yeah, I'm 31 now, but if he saw me right now and acted friendly, I would have absolutely nothing to say to him. quote:"ah yeah... sorry man, high school, you know..." Bull loving poo poo. Plenty of people were nice to me in high school, and I was nice to plenty of people. "High school" doesn't mean "mandatory bullying".
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P-Mack posted:Dude has an actual pornhub account and uses the "favorite" function... Wild story. I hope he's one of those jackasses that links it to his Facebook account, as well.
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Bored posted:I hope he's one of those jackasses that links it to his Facebook account, as well. "It says here that Frederick is into eskimos"
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:lets you dramatically flounce out of America without having to adjust to a meaningfully different culture or relationship with the state or, uh, change any part of how you were already living in America. There's a lot of significant cultural and legal differences between Canada and the states my dude
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Heh I bet you've never even taken an ice luge to work or had to calm a rabid door-to-door moose salesman during a winter storm. CANADA IS GOING TO EAT YOU ALIVE
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Is my wrong for me [42M] to want at least SOME recognition for my birthday or accomplishments, or is my wife [45F] right in thinking I’m being childish or selfish? I apologize in advance for the length of this story, and thank you for reading my situation. I've been married fifteen years and work as a systems analyst. My wife works part time as a cake decorator for her friend's home, mail order business. Prior to that she worked as a model, with appearances in lots of major advertising campaigns to her credit. We have three children [14F, 11F, 8M]. Our oldest daughter is starting high school in the fall, our middle daughter is starting sixth grade, and our son is starting third. Needless to say, it's a busy household. We live in a pricey area (California Silicon Valley), in a large(ish) house. Prior to our youngest son's birth, we lived in a two bedroom apartment, which was a tight fit with our daughters sharing a room. When our son was born, my wife and I knew we needed a bigger house. My employer (the same one I have now; I've been with them since I finished my college degree, almost twenty years) told me that their office in another state could use a man like me, and not only that, but the salary would be largely the same, and the cost of living VASTLY less. I'm the kind of guy who can live out of a suitcase and in a dark basement beneath a store (which is precisely what I did as a college student), but naturally I couldn't ask the same of my wife and children. My wife said that she was a California girl and insisted that we stay in California. Our daughters at the time were young enough to not care one way or the other. I told my wife that it was fine if she wanted to keep on living in California, but I pointed out that we would have much less disposable income, and that I would have to work longer hours at the office and get overtime whenever I could in order to earn extra money. My wife's career as a cake decorator takes about three or four hours of her day, three times a week. She makes the equivalent of less than California minimum wage because she says she doesn't want to "take advantage" of her friend. Personally I think her friend is taking advantage of her, but ultimately whatever salary she earns from this job is relatively negligible, something like three hundred dollars a month, which just serves as her pocket money or her giving money to our kids. My wife holds an associates degree in art and against the idea of working any other job (such as retail or barista or office work) than cake decorator, which, she says is, aside from her children, her passion. She also revels in being a stay at home mom and keeping house, which I'm okay with. However, my wife also insisted on a particular house, which put a major strain on our finances, especially considering the fact that my wife is averse to more gainful employment. I explained this to her, saying that I'd be working a LOT at the office and wouldn't be as available at home, nor could we just up and buy whatever we wanted (such as even blowing ten or twenty bucks on an impulse would put us under pressure), but my wife loved the house, and said she was willing to live that lifestyle. Paying for this massive (to me) house, the utilities, taxes, our cars, insurance, groceries, and the once a week "family night" my wife always insists on which occurs at restaurants commands basically all of my salary. Okay so what am I complaining about. Well, I just feel like I'm not appreciated at home.I'll get up at five in the morning to get showered and dressed, drive to work and be there until seven, and come home around eight. I understand if five is too early for my wife to get up and make me breakfast, and I understand if eight is too late for everyone to wait up on me for eating dinner, but when I come home everything is already in the fridge, and no one ever thinks to maybe keep a plate warm in the oven for daddy. My oldest daughter is a teenager now and she's too cool to get all excited when I come home, so I totally get that, but my younger kids still get all chirpy and happy to tell me about their day and what they did at school, which is great. My wife, however, over the past few years, acts as if I'm being an absentee father being away at work all the time. In fact she told me so. We still have normal sex life for a couple like ourselves; we'll do it at least once a week, usually twice. I'll spend my whole weekend with her and our kids. Anyway I explained to her that I'd love to be home more, why not flip our house and move a bit further away to a cheaper but similarly sized place where the kids could still stay at the same school, but she says that she loves our neighborhood and all our friends and that she cannot bear to move from this community, and that this house will be our family home that we will pass down through the generations. Okay, then. I also offered another solution that maybe she could work part time at (I didn't use the words "real job" but was thinking them) another employer, and thus be able to maybe kick in for utilities, or the insurance on our cars. Such a small contribution would actually allow me to cut out of work a couple of hours earlier each night. Curiously, my wife doesn't like this idea. Instead she questioned me as to why my salary has not skyrocketed over the past few years, "if I'm such a good worker." For the record, I looked it up, and my salary increase each year for a person of my experience is standard. Furthermore, each year after my evaluation, in addition to my raise, I get an extra bonus (which my wife will use quickly to purchase various home sundries, clothes, or things for our kids. The reason I bring that up is because at work I've consistently been given these little plaques and certificates of appreciation from my boss. Just little awards that tell you what a great employee you are. Only a few people get them, and I feel proud to get them so often. I don't go home crow about them, but whenever I try to hang them up, like on the wall where our family photos are, or our kids awards from school, my wife will take them down and say it's "inappropriate" and "cheesy." I just feel bad when she says my awards are lame and I told her so, but she says I'm being childish to want to hang up such a "meaningless award." She does, however, see nothing wrong with hanging up cartoon clippings of Homer Simson sitting at his desk at the nuclear power plant underneath the two or three pictures of me alone on our "family wall" (my wife and our kids, in addition to family photos, have literally dozens of individual shots on this wall. My wife is a former fashion model so it makes sense that she has so many solo shots). I tell her that Homer Simpson is a stereotypical, stupid American husband, and also that my job is nothing at all like Homer Simpson's, but she says "I take myself too seriously" and "need to get over myself." It just hurts. The latest thing is this past weekend when it was my birthday. Whenever it's my wife's birthday, or our children's birthday, my wife will want to make a huge event of it, with a party, inviting practically everyone we know. I don't mind this because I want them all to have a good time. However, during my entire marriage, my wife never thought to make a big deal of my birthday. It's not like I want a big party like she has or our kids have, but maybe just some form of recognition. Like, hey, once daddy comes home from work, let's all sit at the dinner table and sing to him or have a special dinner with him. My kids, even my oldest kid who's "over it" will make or buy a present for me, which is sweet. But my wife will just say "happy birthday" (albeit, in a kind and loving way) but not even give me so much as a card. She, on the other hand, would lose her s**t if I tried to get past her birthday or Valentine's day without a present. I've told her in the least confrontational way possible in the past that it would be nice if we have at least a small recognition of my birthday or other small achievements, such as maybe having a special dinner together, but she says that "I'm acting like a woman."It's sad that even my office buddies make a bigger deal of my birthday than my own wife. They'll ask me to come hang out for drinks and whatever. But I know from the one time I actually broached the topic to my wife that she considered it bad form for me to "abandon" my family to go out drinking with my friends. Even on our weekly family night, everyone gets a chance to pick where we eat. Except me. Granted, I'm never disappointed about other people's choices, and honestly I probably would have made the same choices, but I feel left out when a courtesy of asking dad's opinion isn't even extended. In the past, when I said, "how about me taking a turn?" my wife would tell me that it was selfish of me to want to choose for us, to just be a sport. Okay, I get that, but it's not like she ever has to be "sporting" and forego her own turn. Needless to say, I'm paying the bill. My wife's not the type to have affairs (I'm not fool; I've actually considered the possibility and discreetly had her investigated), so the possibility that she's saving her love for some other dude is out. My wife has the luxury of going to her yoga class daily whenever she wants, to keep in shape. Although I am at the office all day, at least twice during the workweek and on both weekend days I'll get up even earlier than usual to run five or six miles. So, I'm in really outstanding, fit shape as well and my routine doesn't cut into family time, because they're all still asleep. Nevertheless, my wife will cite my solo running sessions as proof that I am "narcissistic" whenever I bring up the awards from work, such as my most recent trophy I got for twenty years with the company. My ultimate beef is, I wouldn't have any problem at all working all these hours if I could just get a thank you once in a while, or not have my little awards insulted, or have more acknowledgement at home. My kids do what they can independently from my wife, but ultimately she could set the tone more at home while I'm off paying for everyone's roof and everything else. I mean, after all, without me, there wouldn't be a nearly two million dollar house, two BMWs, private school, dinners out, vacations to Europe, or anything else. And I would be willing to forgo all those things, be happy in a trailer if my family stays together. But my wife has let me know that she is NOT willing to forgo her lifestyle. Is it really selfish and childish for me to expect more acknowledgement?I really don't think my wife hates me; in all other ways she's a normal spouse and we have our normal relationship. It's just when I want encouragement or acknowledgement where I'm left out, whereas everyone else's feelings are treasured, that I feel like I’m getting less respect than I should. I mean really, getting up at 9, working on decorating a cake sometimes, shopping while someone else pays? Yoga whenever? Cafe lunches with other wives in similar positions? Sounds like the dream. Thanks for reading. tl;dr: wife thinks it's wrong for me to want acknowledgement for my various, small milestones
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Is my wrong for me [42M] to want at least SOME recognition for my birthday or accomplishments, or is my wife [45F] right in thinking I’m being childish or selfish? lol I stopped reading like half way through and this guy is such a cuck. This is like a CEO bitching about his trophy wife hahaha jesus Edit: Upon reflection of .01 seconds this is 100% fiction but 100% hilarious fiction so I give it a 10/10 on the MRA scale.
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She's right, there's nothing wrong with that and it's pretty hilarious.
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Subjunctive posted:We just try to not look south too often. God drat this was good.
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I said ok!
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loquacius posted:How do you figure that exactly? They're the ones holding all the keys and guarding all the doors Stop being a pussy and start killing cops about it
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Is my wrong for me [42M] to want at least SOME recognition for my birthday or accomplishments, or is my wife [45F] right in thinking I’m being childish or selfish? lol ohh money is so tight, we can barely afford our two BMWs and yearly trips to Europe from our 2 million dollar house If this dude had just talked about everyone but him getting to celebrate birthdays then he'd have gotten my sympathy but then he let the mask slip and revealed that he's a societal leech e: and so is his wife and she always will be QuarkJets fucked around with this message at 05:30 on Jul 11, 2018 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:like, you'd probably have to spend a solid hour searching to even find a totally vanilla missionary hump video that wasn't titled something like DADDY PUNISHES AND IMPREGNATES NAUGHTY DAUGHTER these days QuarkJets posted:lol ohh money is so tight, we can barely afford our two BMWs and yearly trips to Europe from our 2 million dollar house
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Incoherence posted:Yeah, I can tell you from firsthand experience that Silicon Valley is expensive (go look at house prices in, say, Sunnyvale, which isn't even where the hoity toity types live), but when I got to that paragraph all I could think about is the Dril candles tweet. Maybe you'd be less stressed about money if you weren't trying to keep up with the IPO veterans by spending maximum money on everything. It’s an interesting scenario. I work with lawyers who need to reel it in and live within their means but also have marital pressure to spend. Hard to say who is to blame. The obvious candidate is the high earner who doesn’t say no. But the spouse who insists on living a certain lifestyle and projecting a certain image while contributing less financially isn’t blameless. *cringes and waits for Pick to berate him about the importance of summers at Martha’s vineyard and winters at gstaad* It is revealing this guy called out that his wife is a former model. Seems like he’s bragging about it while simultaneously trying to demean her for it and cast her in a certain light. BUT, as a runner I have to say she can gently caress right off for criticizing him for running. Runners gotta run, baby. E: quoting is hard. Flutieflakes017 fucked around with this message at 06:38 on Jul 11, 2018 |
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dude, wasting money is extremely parv
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Flutieflakes017 posted:It’s an interesting scenario. I work with lawyers who need to reel it in and live within their means but also have marital pressure to spend. Hard to say who is to blame. The obvious candidate is the high earner who doesn’t say no. But the spouse who insists on living a certain lifestyle and projecting a certain image while contributing less financially isn’t blameless. When I was a teenager, my mom became friends with a mom from the new subdivision across the road. They met thru my sister and other mom's daughter doing private cheerleading together. Other mom was clearly a trophy wife and a bit of an entitled bitch. When the financial crash happened in '07, the trophy wife's husband lost his job as a mortgage broker executive and their family income dropped to nada. Relationship turned sour fast with cheating from both parents and the kid becomin the blowjob queen of highschool. Nasty divorce, worse than my parents was. Point is, never marry someone who ain't never had to live without privilege in life. If ya do, expect your relationship to become poo poo the second the gravytrain stops and your kids to be known as blowjob queens. Systems analyst should cut his loses, move to Indiana, divorce useless trophy wife, and find a hoosier with perspective on life to rekindle romance with. Pull a reverse don draper.
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Slim pickings this morning, but this one is good My ex-girlfriend (29/F) found out that I (29/F) stole a ceramic horse from her house when we broke up 5 years ago quote:u/FrontYak
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Whats wrong with being a blowjob queen you misogynistic piece of poo poo
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Is my wrong for me [42M] to want at least SOME recognition for my birthday or accomplishments, or is my wife [45F] right in thinking I’m being childish or selfish? I know a guy exactly like this, spends all of an insanely high salary to support his chronically unemployed ex-model wife's lavish lifestyle. He puts up with all of it because he wants to say he's dating a model
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Milotic posted:Slim pickings this morning, but this one is good Christ do people really feed off this insanely stupid drama or something? Getting your lawyer* boyfriend to threaten your ex over Facebook messenger over a loving ceramic horse? *I'm guessing lowest rung of the ladder, what's that, legal secretary?
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Theophany posted:Christ do people really feed off this insanely stupid drama or something? Getting your lawyer* boyfriend to threaten your ex over Facebook messenger over a loving ceramic horse? OP is no Tenesse Williams, thats for sure
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My [21F] husband [28M] is very hurt that I asked him to take an STD testquote:u/Cutiethrowsaway I mean that’s one way to nuke the relationship based on zero evidence.
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Gotta love overbearing mothers  My [16F] mother [45F] makes me go to therapy because I'm 'antisocial and rude' and my interests are unnormal. True? quote:Hi,
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Milotic posted:My [21F] husband [28M] is very hurt that I asked him to take an STD test This is basically the same as the story where the dude secretly took a paternity test
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