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My husband(29) want me(28) to carry a baby, and give him/her away freely to a woman of his pastquote:A little back story: we have been together for 4 years, and we have 2 kids(1&3). There's a lot more to the back story, but, if I put All the details this could turn into a book. So. Important bit: About a week ago my husband comes at me, asking me to be a surrogate for this girl. Her back story is that they've known each other since they were little. Probably couldve been a thing, but it never happened. She moved away and got married. They somehow ended up sleeping together once, her still married. He keeps a notebook that was from her. She keeps something he gave her... At some point in their past, she got pregnant(with her husband's kid, as far as I know) but also found out she had cancer. So it came down to either she goes through treatment and saves herself, loses the baby, or she doesn't and possibly dies, so the baby lives. My husband was the guy that talked her into saving her own life. So now, years down the road, they haven't spoken, out of the blue he brings this idea up to me. He feels guilty that she is not able to have kids after the cancer(not even sure what kid it was, but assuming ovarian since she is unable to have babies now?) Which I get, I guess. And think it's a sweet gesture, honestly. But it's the rest of the story that eats at me. It started as, We should have a baby, and give him/her to this girl. I explained how I could Not give away my own flesh and blood. Then he goes as far as to suggest that I actually go to where they are and have sex with this girl's husband so it can at least be her man's child. The thought of going to another state for it became an issue, so then it turned into I can get the neighbors sperm in a cup and shoot it in me to make a kid. I went along with it for a bit. But the more I thought about it, the more it started really sinking in how messed up this really is. He was saying things like "it'll give us an excuse to go on vacations, we can play aunt and uncle" when he hasn't gone on vacations with us as it is. He is epileptic and doesn't do much of anything. But he wants us to have a kid to send states over, so we can go visit?? The more time goes by, the more I think about it, the more it hurts. And I have told him this. Every day that has passed. And as of the very next morning his only response has been that he changed his mind. It was an impulse thought. He doesn't want it anymore. Forget about it. Get over it. He says he never shows emotional side because he has learned to suppress it to survive. That his epilepsy acts up and stuff. And I'm still hurting. I don't know if I'm justified to feel the way I do. Or. Should I just forget it and get over it? Thanks for reading. I had to rant a bit.
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I wish crazy was a finite resource, leave way less for the rest of us just from that story alone.
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# ? Aug 18, 2018 05:26 |
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I'm glad I've taken to just copying them when I find them, all the good ones get taken down pretty quickly.
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# ? Aug 18, 2018 05:31 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My husband(29) want me(28) to carry a baby, and give him/her away freely to a woman of his past
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# ? Aug 18, 2018 05:40 |
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PetraCore posted:It'd be weird but tolerable if he was proposing normal surrogacy because his old friend had asked him (for some... reason?), but nothing about what he was saying was normal.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My husband(29) want me(28) to carry a baby, and give him/her away freely to a woman of his past from your husband, god drat. quote:He doesn't want it anymore. Forget about it. Get over it.
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# ? Aug 18, 2018 05:49 |
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Eureka! I've got it honey, I've solved it! NEIGHBOR CUMS IN A CUP!
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# ? Aug 18, 2018 05:53 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My husband(29) want me(28) to carry a baby, and give him/her away freely to a woman of his past What in the gently caress??? Kill this man.
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# ? Aug 18, 2018 05:57 |
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Yeah I didn't even fully understand the insanity of thisquote:Then he goes as far as to suggest that I actually go to where they are and have sex with this girl's husband so it can at least be her man's child. The thought of going to another state for it became an issue, so then it turned into I can get the neighbors sperm in a cup and shoot it in me to make a kid. This dude is still 100% still involved with and loving that lady, somehow, maybe even on the astral plane.
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# ? Aug 18, 2018 05:58 |
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Admiral Ray posted:Yeah I didn't even fully understand the insanity of this aetheric bonding
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Bogus Adventure posted:aetheric bonding Ectoplasmic bonding
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Content: My boyfriend [21M] wants me [20F] to pay for a part of his rent because I "have more in savings and I basically live here". This is wrong right? quote:My boyfriend and I have already had two fights about this and I really want to get a second opinion on our situation. I'm pretty impressed that she managed to save $150k up through high school. I'm more impressed that she hasn't left this guy because he will suck her dry like a thirsty disgraced Jedi suckling on a sea-cow titty.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My husband(29) want me(28) to carry a baby, and give him/her away freely to a woman of his past ????????????????????????????????????//////???//....???????????????
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Not sure if this got posted, but gotta put it up anyways... I (24F) just found out my boyfriend (23F) had a romantic and sexual relationship with his aunt amongst other things. quote:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost half a year now. He has made me very happy and I’ve always been so very thankful for him. He was perfection in my eyes: unbelievably handsome (people ask me how the hell I got him), generous, huge-hearted, hilarious and very interesting and unique. Livin' that "One Hundred Years of Solitude" life.
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Bogus Adventure posted:I'm pretty impressed that she managed to save $150k up through high school. If she actually did this on her own then holy poo poo, she is basically financial Jesus and we need to get her a podcast ASAP. Ramsey ain't got nothing on this lady. Future President of the USA material. Unfortunately there is near 100% chance of this being a "worked at parents business for obviously way too much money" where the parents completely covered her expenses (probably with a huge "allowance") while she was free to sock that cash away for her entire early life. She's being smart with her money, which is good, but she clearly thinks that she legitimately earned it, which is really bad and sets her up for a lifetime of disappointment because real life is a lot harder than having wealthy parents. They'll probably throw down a real trust fund once she graduates college. I went to school in wine country, CA. I know these people. It's not even that rare around here. Taima fucked around with this message at 06:22 on Aug 18, 2018 |
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Bogus Adventure posted:I'm pretty impressed that she managed to save $150k up through high school. Betting it's a case of her parents giving her an improbably-well-paid position in their family-owned business and paid for 100% of her expenses. That's almost always the story behind these "I have hundreds of thousands of dollars in savings, why can't everyone just bootstrap like me?" stories.
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ArbitraryC posted:Even that would be p weird I feel, we've had a couple surrogacy request posts come up itt and they're never a good look. IIRC we had a pretty funny one where the wife was the one volunteering to be surrogates for an old friend and of course they wanted to save money doing it naturally. This... this was far beyond that.
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caterpillaropera posted:I [28M] fell in love with a girl [22F?]. Recently it hit me that she might have a penis. Help! Just ask her to wear a sexy jockstrap and enjoy the anal like jfc this isn't hard dude.
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My(33) bf (39) of 3.5 years left the front and back doors open last night while he stayed up to play video games and a random person(20's-30's) broke in the house and slept on the couch. Is this breakupable?quote:This JUST happened this morning. I'm 33 and he's 39. We have screen doors on our front and back door and we leave the doors open but the screen doors closed to let in the cold air. He stayed up all night drinking last night and played video games in his computer room with headphones on so he didn't hear a thing. I went to bed fairly early from a long tiring week and kept waking up to hear snoring (the bedroom door was open). I thought it was the bf and I almost got up a few times in the night to tell him to come to bed but decided not to. In the morning he was still playing when I got up and I freaked out and asked who was snoring on the couch. I think he'd benefit from you concluding your nefarious plan of finding an excuse to break up with him, yes.
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# ? Aug 18, 2018 07:24 |
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Yeah. People get addicted to the brain-chemical rush of living with an unpredictable abuser. Then they finally stumble their way into a decent relationship, and it's so boring compared to what they're used to that they do their best to subconsciously sabotage the whole thing.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My(33) bf (39) of 3.5 years left the front and back doors open last night while he stayed up to play video games and a random person(20's-30's) broke in the house and slept on the couch. Is this breakupable? quote:How did this supposedly drunk and confused person come in so sneakily that the screen doors weren't an issue for them?? Or they are able to work a slightly janky sliding door. Also yes, please over this, the relationship has obviously played out for you.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My husband(29) want me(28) to carry a baby, and give him/her away freely to a woman of his past People are rather judgemental about epilepsy. This assclown ain't helping.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My husband(29) want me(28) to carry a baby, and give him/her away freely to a woman of his past He wants her to be a brood mare for the one that got away.
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quote:Then he goes as far as to suggest that I actually go to where they are and have sex with this girl's husband so it can at least be her man's child. Wow. Guy feels guilty as gently caress for being the real father to all of the girl's husband's children.
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# ? Aug 18, 2018 11:42 |
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One time I watched Pokemon and after I was done twitching on the floor I had somehow talked my wife into carrying a baby to term for my ex's husband. It happens. Please consult your doctor if you think you may have epilepsy.
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# ? Aug 18, 2018 11:50 |
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I don’t know what I ever thought this thread would be about but holy poo poo everyone of these “I’ve been with X for a super short period of time and they want me to do something insane or they are super abusive and weird, Am I Dumb for staying?” and it makes you wonder how these people live and work and dress themselves... and then you look at the poo poo you put up with to get laid and say “nah this makes sense...” Way more people copping to invest than so would have ever dreamed though.
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Absurd Alhazred posted:My(33) bf (39) of 3.5 years left the front and back doors open last night while he stayed up to play video games and a random person(20's-30's) broke in the house and slept on the couch. Is this breakupable? quote:If he was truly a drunk person, our screen doors are flimsy sliding screen doors that not even a sober person could properly open without screwing up (the rollers come off the track and it collapses on itself). How did this supposedly drunk and confused person come in so sneakily that the screen doors weren't an issue for them?? Don’t underestimate the drunk reptilian hindbrain. ‘A drunk man successfully navigated our flimsy screen doors?! What demonry be this?!’ I hope everyone took OP to task for ‘you didn’t lock the doors either’ LadyPictureShow fucked around with this message at 13:31 on Aug 18, 2018 |
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I (21M) am not coping with my sister's (17F) baby (2mo) being taken from her.quote:I guess this is just a rant. Without getting into too much detail, my parents are currently taking care of my 2 month old nephew. My sister cannot enter my parents' property by law for the next 3 days, the house she also lives in. The 3 day minimum is only because my parents are organising to see a lawyer for family court so they can take over guardianship that would not allow my sister to be with the baby alone, with the possibility of those conditions being lifted if her situation improves etc. That edit sure is something...
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# ? Aug 18, 2018 13:39 |
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Oh no, not suspected weed! Not saying the rest of it doesn't show she's got problems but that bit seems out of place.
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LadyPictureShow posted:Don’t underestimate the drunk reptilian hindbrain. ‘A drunk man successfully navigated our flimsy screen doors?! What demonry be this?!’ In freshman year some drunk guy walked into our room in the middle of the night (we forgot to lock the door), successfully navigated his way in the dark all the way to the other side of our very messy room, and almost took a piss on our air-conditioner before we stopped him. So drunk he thought our room was the bathroom, yet somehow capable of getting through the knee-high obstacle course that filled our floor.
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In an open relationship (27/F, 23/M) and losing interest in hook-up culture. (self.sex) submitted 18 minutes ago by iris513 quote:I wasn't sure whether this question was better left for r/relationships or r/sex, but I'll begin here first! Not using a throwaway because I don't feel like I have anything to hide or be ashamed of in asking this.
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# ? Aug 18, 2018 14:23 |
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“I wish I was sluttier” is the saddest and most alien feeling to me. I wish I was less slutty every day
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Haifisch posted:Dropped at gunpoint by police in Arches National Park yesterday Love his teeny little mention of a “noncitizen” and how people totally clapped for him doing SOMETHING to that person (he cracked the whip at another human being and probably yelled some racist poo poo and that’s why the cops got called). Also loving the fact that the cops backed off a bit when he had a panic attack, like geez this guy’s such a pussy this isn’t even fun anymore
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Can a huge cock really destroy a relationship? (self.sex) submitted 5 days ago by inspector1138 quote:I'm mainly seeking women's perspectives on this, not from easily triggered men with low confidence. edit: lol this guy has multiple posts about bbc's CheesyDog fucked around with this message at 15:15 on Aug 18, 2018 |
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HazCat posted:Betting it's a case of her parents giving her an improbably-well-paid position in their family-owned business and paid for 100% of her expenses. That's almost always the story behind these "I have hundreds of thousands of dollars in savings, why can't everyone just bootstrap like me?" stories. She said she translated books from Chinese to English (or vice versa) at 10k a book. It took her 80 to 100 hours per book.
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Leon Einstein posted:She said she translated books from Chinese to English (or vice versa) at 10k a book. It took her 80 to 100 hours per book. Is she native level fluent in both? My understanding is professional translators generally translate to their birth language(s)...
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andrew smash posted:Love his teeny little mention of a “noncitizen” and how people totally clapped for him doing SOMETHING to that person (he cracked the whip at another human being and probably yelled some racist poo poo and that’s why the cops got called). yeah, I'd love to see video of that shitshow. the guy seems like a nut
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LadyPictureShow posted:Don’t underestimate the drunk reptilian hindbrain. ‘A drunk man successfully navigated our flimsy screen doors?! What demonry be this?!’ Oh, they definitely did. (That's why she deleted the post and the account, the coward) Despite knowing I'm married girls won't leave me alone and is ruining my marriage. quote:I'm [52M] happily married for 34 years, but recently an old acquaintance [47F] won't stop hitting on me and it's ruining my marriage. How about before shooting them in the face you just tell them you're married and not interested, and in the case of your coworker, threaten to go to HR? Escalate from there? "Gee, I just can't do anything about these girls wanting to bone me, darling, there's just nothing I can do." He's been taken to task for it: quote:Why didn't you block them already? OP posted:I did just that. Problem with mobile is that here at where I live it's easy and cheap to buy a new SIM to get a new number so blocking their mobile just made them buy a new one. quote:Okay, so we are missing something here. 47 year old women and 40 year old women don't generally start stalking and harassing men who say things like "I want to shoot them in [in] the face for making me go through this". It's just...I'm not saying it never happens, but if two different mature women are stalking and harassing you, something else is going on. And that something has to do with you. OP posted:The acquaintance is someone who is part of this fountain pen group I'm in. The group usually has lunch/dinner get together to talk about pens and note pads. I occasionally meet up with her since she lives in the same neighborhood to exchange equipment (pens, grinding blocks, etc.), but that's all there is to that.
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Bust Rodd posted:“I wish I was sluttier” is the saddest and most alien feeling to me. I wish I was less slutty every day I love you just the way you are, tramp.
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Bogus Adventure posted:
"a bit of a shady sexual past that includes incest" Bitch he's shadier than the dark side of the moon holy poo poo. Everything else aside, how could you even think again "yes I want to have sex this this man who's committed incest again"? That's like one of the the biggest turn off in the history of time.
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