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Dear Prudence,

Years ago, before we were married, my husband suggested we write to prisoners all over the country to get their thoughts about life. I was dismissive of it for all the reasons someone might be wary of writing to prisoners. Over the years, whenever we got in fights about my not paying enough attention to his creative endeavors, I would think back to this idea and recognize that it was interesting. Well, it turns out he’d gone ahead and sent out his survey to prisoners. He rented a post office box and the ensuing correspondence has continued for seven years. I only recently learned of it because some of these men are starting to be released. I am sympathetic to those recently released from prison and the challenges they face. But my husband is not prepared for the role he has come to play in these men’s lives. Several have shown up at our house wanting to speak to my husband. It is unsettling, and I am afraid to disappoint them. My husband can’t say no to these men’s repeated, insistent requests to visit our house, borrow the car, get help finding work. I feel terrible cutting these people off after they evidently know so much about us and have considerable emotional investment in our family, but I do not want them in my life or my young children’s lives. I feel like everything I don't like about my husband is part of this predicament: carelessness with others' feelings and time, inability to finish projects, poor planning, and general lack of awareness about social justice issues. What should I do about these men when they show up or contact me, and what on earth do I do about my idiot husband?

—Not a Prison Wife

Haifisch posted:

Haifisch posted:

Leon Einstein posted:

If he had a p.o. box, how do they know where he lives?

lol but seriously I posted:

arial bold and please ensure that the kerning is absolutely hosed

loquacius posted:

Is there an equivalent of "bangmaid" for what the lady who wanted to go out and drink with her friends all day instead of working was looking for

I guess "sugar daddy" p much covers it


I'm trying to imagine the scenario in which the wife was so focused on how horrible it was that her son was having sex that she advised this

"Get that WHORE out of MY HOUSE"
"Uh, I don't think she can handle stairs."
"THEN PICK HER UP AND THROW HER OUT, I JUST WANT HER GONE"
"Just, like, put her outside?"
"YES"
"Should we put her clothes back on her first?"
"NO HER SINFUL NATURE DISGUSTS ME AND SHE MUST BE OUT OF MY SIGHT"

Theophany posted:

Not to be confused with a buttfuckler.

sincx posted:

Has this one been posted yet?

I (19f) have issues with my boyfriend (19m) watching anime
u/onyourleftboob

We've been together a little over a year. There's just something about most anime's that make me uncomfortable. There's so much creepy sexualization and panty shots and girls that look 12 but are actually 500 and stuff like that. I know not all animes are like that but I'd say at least 40-50% of what he watches has a lot of that stuff. It also makes me uncomfortable that for porn he pretty much exclusively watches/reads hentai or watches Japanese porn. I don't have anything against porn in general but his specific genres make me feel kind of...icky? I'm also Chinese and so was his ex, and he's admitted before that he's mostly attracted to Asians so I guess that's probably part of it too. I know he loves me but sometimes I wonder if he would still like me if I wasn't Asian. And I know this is just me being insecure but I also wonder if he'd prefer it if I were Japanese instead of Chinese.

He's also super into Japanese culture and sometimes blurts out random Japanese phrases and it makes me uncomfortable. He's not really disrespectful of their culture or anything but it just makes me cringe. His music is 70% anime theme songs and stuff like that. He's also admitted to occasionally looking at loli before (which I think is gross but I can understand if he was like 14/15 and looking for stuff that was more his age). He told me he doesn't look at that anymore and I believe him, but I also think in general anime/hentai tends to make girls look a lot younger then they're supposed to be. He also used to watch an anime called Kiss x Sis, which is basically a softcore porn with two teenage stepsisters who are 17ish but look like they're 12. It just grosses me out. I'm not gonna lie, I find anime in general to be pretty cringy but especially the ecchi/semi-porn ones. I guess I'm just kind of weirded out by the whole weeb "culture" and I kind of tune him out whenever he brings this stuff up. The whole "white guy who's super into Japanese stuff" also just makes me uncomfortable.

I've tried watching many animes with him and I just can't get into it, no matter the genre or if its dubbed or subbed. They're rarely ever funny to me and I dislike the animation style in general. I feel bad for judging him so hard for something he likes but at the same time I can't stop judging him either. It's just so weird and cringy to me. It isn't a huge issue in our relationship most of the time but when he does bring anime up I get reminded all over again of how uncomfortable it makes me. I realize it would be completely unfair to ask him to stop, but I also just really wish he wasn't into stuff like this. I'm not really sure if it's even worth talking to him about it or if I just need to deal with it?

tldr; Boyfriend loves anime and Japanese culture, and watches a lot of the oversexualized animes/hentai. I hate anime and can't get into it and think it's creepy and weird. I'm Chinese and maybe that's a part of why I find it so uncomfortable? Not sure if I should talk to him about it or not.

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Throwaway here. This is in the United States. Just got off the phone with a good friend. His kid was texting him saying boys at high school were saying my friend's wife sent boob pics to them and grabbed one boy's penis. This supposedly happened weeks ago. My friend says his wife was distraught over a death and went to stay by herself to grieve alone and drink. He left her at 3AM at her insistence and returned at 7 to find her gone. He knew she had been drinking heavily, so was very worried. She finally showed up and said she was just out driving. He ripped her rear end for being out driving drunk, but no one got hurt, so that was that. I'm not condoning any of this--just passing along the story.

So today, friend gets these texts from his daughter and calls his wife. She admits that on that night, she left the place she was staying, drove to pick up a male high school friend of the daughter, and took him back to the place she was staying. She claims they made out, says he may have fondled her breasts, claims no one was ever naked, and says she doesn't think she touched his penis. After telling my friend this, his wife says to meet her at couple's therapy this afternoon (like 10 minutes from now) so they can talk it through.

I told my friend that I'm pretty sure the counselor has a duty to report if they talk about a sexual encounter between the wife and a minor. Here's the thing: the friend also works for the public school district where this boy is a student. So I don't know if he now has like a Title IX duty to report it, or if that's trumped by his fifth amendment rights or what.

I told him to skip the therapist and go straight to a lawyer to find out what his obligations are and to ensure that he and his kids are protected. This will come out publicly--I think that's pretty certain. And if she's charged with something that leads to a sex offender registration, that could be more devastation than my friend and his kids will already have to deal with. What's his play in this situation? Obviously he has to think of his kids first and everything else second, but how does that play out? Should he report it? Should he do something else? What's the move that legally will best protect him and his kids from the fallout of this loving nightmare? Other than go straight to a lawyer, I mean. I think that's an obvious first move. What's his exposure here? Thanks for any help.

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EDIT: Included location

Pick posted:

That’s not hope

For women

Sloth Life posted:

Bangmaid. Sexmom. Shagserf. Bonervalet

Lockback posted:

Here's one in the category of:
I don't think Reddit can help you

Friend's wife may have molested a minor

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So I posted in r/legaladvice and was told I should post here. I added a little more detail.

My best friend is a married girl with a young kid and of course we have had sex a bunch of times but I'm not really interested in that since she had the kid. My girlfriend of 3 years didn't know anything and tried to hang out with both of us for a while until best friend started getting mean to my gf and causing us a lot of fights. Apparently the last straw was when best friend semi sorta "assaulted" her totally minorly, just like a couple embarassing shoves at our gym in front of friends. Gf said she was purposefully trying to break us up but she wasn't. I couldn't really hide the fact that we used to be involved anymore cause "it's so obvious."

I called gf during a big fight and she had a second phone recording me on speaker where I stupidly admitted out loud that we had been having sex but that we we're just friends now. Gf was mad about the best friend sending me sexy pics too cuz she went through my phone and took pics of my phone with hers gently caress.

So gf threatened to send the video of the phone on speaker to my best friend's husband. Needless to say I really don't want this to happen.

I told GF that the husband told me he would sue her if she sent the video to him and that pissed her off even more cause she didn't believe me. Best friend was the one who said she would sue her though cause obviously the husband doesn't know anything.

I threatened to call the cops if she sends it to him. Can I sue her or get her in trouble if she sends the video of the phone call or the sexy photos or even the screenshotted text messages? Can my best friend sue her?

I lost both of them due to the stupid recording and I really don't need him showing up at my house.

tl;dr girlfriend gave me ultematem after recording me admitting I used to have an affair with my best friend. She's threatening to send the proof to best friend's husband.

CannonFodder posted:

Coitus concierge

LadyPictureShow posted:

GF (33f) spied on my (34m) phone and recorded our conversation. Threatening to send to BFF's (32f) husband (35m)

Miserable Maid posted:

Yeah, this thread has shown that totally regular women will end up with the scummiest most pathetic guys for no real reason other then loneliness, and stay for sunk cost

loquacius posted:

these people's lives sound exhausting

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I think I like drama because I don't have much going on in my life

Blade Runner posted:

"Lack of awareness on social justice issues" is a hilarious thing to say about this situation, even though I agree that it's a decision they should've made together

Like she seems like the most annoying kind of person, relative to "more should be done to help prisoners. It's disgusting how they're treated like subhumans!!! What, write to them?? They're prisoners, that's disgusting"

LadyPictureShow posted:

My best friend is a married girl with a young kid and of course we have had sex a bunch of times but I'm not really interested in that since she had the kid.

LadyPictureShow posted:

GF (33f) spied on my (34m) phone and recorded our conversation. Threatening to send to BFF's (32f) husband (35m)

Clark Nova posted:

I think this is the most sympathy-killing opening sentence posted so far

Leon Einstein posted:

In Knocked Up the woman says her vagina will never look the same after a baby. Is this a common belief?

Lockback posted:

Here's one in the category of:
I don't think Reddit can help you

Friend's wife may have molested a minor

LadyPictureShow posted:

GF (33f) spied on my (34m) phone and recorded our conversation. Threatening to send to BFF's (32f) husband (35m)

Leon Einstein posted:

is it because he wants to do the right thing, or he's worried that her private parts were destroyed by the baby?

In Knocked Up the woman says her vagina will never look the same after a baby. Is this a common belief?

almightyerin posted:

My(25/F) boyfriend(27/M) has problems climaxing unless he is choking me.


Well ok then.

Baronjutter posted:

I'd say a shockingly large percentage of the population believes vagina's basically "wear out" from childbirth and too many different partners and just permanently stretches out to whatever biggest object has ever been through. A baby is even wider than most Chad penis, how could I ever compete?!

Baronjutter posted:

I'd say a shockingly large percentage of the population believes vagina's basically "wear out" from childbirth and too many different partners and just permanently stretches out to whatever biggest object has ever been through. A baby is even wider than most Chad penis, how could I ever compete?!

Anne Whateley posted:

Literally 95% of mothers who give birth vaginally (as opposed to C-sections) have perineal tearing so enjoyyy

https://www.parents.com/pregnancy/giving-birth/vaginal/vaginal-tearing-during-childbirth-what-you-need-to-know/

Leon Einstein posted:

is it because he wants to do the right thing, or he's worried that her private parts were destroyed by the baby?

In Knocked Up the woman says her vagina will never look the same after a baby. Is this a common belief?

Leon Einstein posted:

If he had a p.o. box, how do they know where he lives?

Clark Nova posted:

He manages to reveal that he can't imagine a non-sexual relationship with a woman he wants to gently caress, and that the act of childbirth destroys a woman value as a sex object for him.