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Vox Nihili posted:Lmao, but can we get a link to the reddit thread? Yikes dude, lol. You either genuinely despise me or correctly assumed I was over my awful breakup! potatoducks posted:So the woman you're getting engaged to in 2 weeks is a new one? What are you going to do if she also refuses a prenup? I didn't post that in this thread, c'mon man. Can you be a little understanding of why I'm trying to do it better this time and asking people for help?
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Weatherman posted:What do you guys do about tipping at restaurants when you're married? Do you split the tip evenly, or do you pay according to a complex equation based on "who makes more", "who ordered more", and "who ended up eating more (both of each person's initial order and of any food that they didn't order but still consumed)"? Also how much of the bill is appropriate to tip? I almost always pay for dinner and other social occasions. I tip 20% or more. The tip on a meal is a negligible expense for either of us and not a source of conflict in our relationship.
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BEHOLD: MY CAPE posted:I almost always pay for dinner and other social occasions. I tip 20% or more. The tip on a meal is a negligible expense for either of us and not a source of conflict in our relationship. Look at this 1%er here.
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Now that you mention it, he Does seem to hint that he's a high earner
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Weatherman posted:What do you guys do about tipping at restaurants when you're married? Do you split the tip evenly, or do you pay according to a complex equation based on "who makes more", "who ordered more", and "who ended up eating more (both of each person's initial order and of any food that they didn't order but still consumed)"? Also how much of the bill is appropriate to tip? I use dinners out as a convenient way to give my wife constructive pointers about how she should start being more responsible and increase her worth to society so that she can order nicer dishes. Sometimes I let her eat some of my extra food if I'm feeling generous, since otherwise she would never be able to afford steak or lobster in a restaurant. When the separate bills come I make sure to help her figure out the tip percentage since I know how much better at math and numbers I am, then I consult the notes I've made about proper tip amounts and, using inputs like how much the waitress smiled and whether or not my drink was ever empty for more than 30 seconds, I come up with an amount I find appropriate for the service caste.
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Sep 16, 2018 00:54
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GoGoGadgetChris posted:I didn't post that in this thread, c'mon man. Can you be a little understanding of why I'm trying to do it better this time and asking people for help? I'm not even saying that it was your fault. I have no clue. It was a long time ago and I don't really remember, but I don't think you gave out many details. Just amusing that you're having the same issue with another woman one year later and still have no idea what to do with it. Who knows, maybe this one loves prenups.
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Droo posted:When the separate bills come I make sure to help her figure out the tip percentage since I know how much better at math and numbers I am, then I consult the notes I've made about proper tip amounts and, using inputs like how much the waitress smiled and whether or not my drink was ever empty for more than 30 seconds, I come up with an amount I find appropriate for the service caste. You don’t put a stack of singles on the table at the beginning of the meal and let the server know when you take some back throughout the meal due to their poor performance? Missing out on handing out life lessons.
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Wait is it not expected that a woman keep the ring in the event of an engagement dissolving? The only reason I could see to give the ring back is if it was grandma’s maybe, but other than that? It’s like loaning money to a family member, the second you hand it over you should never expect it to be yours again.
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There’s a fair amount of jurisprudence on the subject so it depends on your jurisdiction. But usually it depends on who broke off the engagement, and whether the ring was offered during a gift giving occasion - eg Christmas or a birthday.
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Droo posted:I use dinners out as a convenient way to give my wife constructive pointers about how she should start being more responsible and increase her worth to society so that she can order nicer dishes. Sometimes I let her eat some of my extra food if I'm feeling generous, since otherwise she would never be able to afford steak or lobster in a restaurant. This guy fucks BEHOLD: MY CAPE posted:I almost always pay for dinner and other social occasions. I tip 20% or more. The tip on a meal is a negligible expense for either of us and not a source of conflict in our relationship. This guy doesn't
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Sep 16, 2018 03:13
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tipping is bad with money. why pay more than you need to
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Sep 16, 2018 03:16
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long term emotional attachment to others is BWM
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Sep 16, 2018 03:22
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Droo posted:come up with an amount I find appropriate for the service caste. Lol
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Methanar posted:tipping is bad with money. why pay more than you need to yeeeeahhh there it is! who wants to guess how much my wedding cost?
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sparkmaster posted:long term emotional attachment to others is BWM I loved you in Heat.
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Kanish posted:yeeeeahhh there it is! For the tiebreaker, how much did the photographer cost??
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Kanish posted:yeeeeahhh there it is! If the amount isn't measured in "cases," you paid too much.
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Who would have guessed that some goons act like goons in their relationship.
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Dustoph posted:Who would have guessed that some goons act like goons in their relationship. Somehow this thread has become a honeypot, and hell, I'm not complaining.
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GoGoGadgetChris posted:Yikes dude, lol.
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Droo posted:I use dinners out as a convenient way to give my wife constructive pointers about how she should start being more responsible and increase her worth to society so that she can order nicer dishes. Sometimes I let her eat some of my extra food if I'm feeling generous, since otherwise she would never be able to afford steak or lobster in a restaurant. 
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He's kidding.
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So BWM is just the tip of the iceberg here, but I've been listening to the new CBC radio series Uncover: Escaping NXIVM about the MLM-based cult and I highly recommend it. https://www.cbc.ca/radio/uncover/listen-to-uncover-escaping-nxivm-1.4675949 Come for the millions of dollars lost via pyramid scheme, stay for the reincarnated Nazi harem.
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Vox Nihili posted:He's kidding. Nah, you can't generate stupid drivel like that unless it already lives in your brain in some capacity.
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GoGoGadgetChris posted:Nah, you can't generate stupid drivel like that unless it already lives in your brain in some capacity. GoGoGadgetChris posted:in my opinion the only mistake you're making is believing that everyone shares your limitations.
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I'm guilty of it too, friend. I don't claim to be superior to you
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I can't be sarcastic about something unless I actually secretly feel that way about it. Is that what you're saying?
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sparkmaster posted:long term emotional attachment to others is BWM inhabiting a body that requires constant nutritional inputs and shelter from the elements occasionally is BWM
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CornHolio posted:inhabiting a body that requires constant nutritional inputs and shelter from the elements occasionally is BWM Infomercial voice: "At today's prices you can't afford NOT to kill yourself!"
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StormDrain posted:You don’t put a stack of singles on the table at the beginning of the meal and let the server know when you take some back throughout the meal due to their poor performance? Missing out on handing out life lessons. Don't be a Dick
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I feel like the people for whom split finances work, it doesn't really matter how they handle they're finances, because they're largely on the same page as far as how much should be spent on what, and have very good, open lines of communications about financial matters. I also feel like lawyer married to teacher just really wants her to be the one to dump him.
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UCS Hellmaker posted:Eh, me and my wife split our finances, she gets her own account I get mine. We have a joint that we put money in also. But we don't split bills and do them jointly with me putting more money in. It certainly helps to not have money fights like a ton of people e: needed to read the OP better Something Offal fucked around with this message at 03:33 on Sep 17, 2018 |
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Something Offal posted:I want to hear about how people split money with their SO in restaurants too. cool, start a thread
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Did you read the first post? Limit the self posts. That's been the rule.
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Something Offal posted:Man this thread sucks and Moneyball is on a power trip. Somebody got probated for mentioning how they split their finances up with their SO? There are lots of BWM stories about that sort of thing and I'm not going to want to create a thread every time if god forbid an interesting question about BWM/GWM is spawned by the thread. Are we straight up not allowed to discuss stories if we use i/me/myself like this was a drug forum? Ridiculous. pig slut lisa posted:
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Something Offal posted:Man this thread sucks and Moneyball is on a power trip. Somebody got probated for mentioning how they split their finances up with their SO? There are lots of BWM stories about that sort of thing and I'm not going to want to create a thread every time if god forbid an interesting question about BWM/GWM is spawned by the thread. Are we straight up not allowed to discuss stories if we use i/me/myself like this was a drug forum? Ridiculous. Don’t sign your posts. If anything Moneyball should probate more than he does. Moneyball, feel free to probate me for this statement.
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Fine maybe I'm wrong if that's the consensus choice. I'll not do self posts anymore. I just don't understand how bland and distant our reaction to True BWM Stories will have to be to avoid ever mentioning our own situations and how they might relate.
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Something Offal posted:Man this thread sucks and Moneyball is on a power trip. Somebody got probated for mentioning how they split their finances up with their SO? There are lots of BWM stories about that sort of thing and I'm not going to want to create a thread every time if god forbid an interesting question about BWM/GWM is spawned by the thread. Are we straight up not allowed to discuss stories if we use i/me/myself like this was a drug forum? Ridiculous. lol whose rereg are you? OR Show us on the rapsheet where the mod probated you
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Something Offal posted:Fine maybe I'm wrong if that's the consensus choice. I'll not do self posts anymore. I just don't understand how bland and distant our reaction to True BWM Stories will have to be to avoid ever mentioning our own situations and how they might relate. It's because it's loving *boring* reading about how you pinch pennies in the BWM thread. If you want to talk about being GWM, there's a proper thread for that.
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I actually don't like to hand out probations for self-posting, but it's a rule for this thread and I get complaints if I let too much slide. If you feel like you're being unfairly targeted, please let me know. If the admins would just let me permban everyone who posts here like I keep asking, that would make things a lot easier.
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