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comeon pick you post here, you can't pretend you're not extremely judgmental about people making bad choices.
I feel extremely bad for kids in today's professional environment, they are deliberately misled and exploited.
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- ArbitraryC
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That's just OP being 17 and thinking that everything is the world's greatest disaster.
The parents sound like they're reasonable human beings, so it'll just become one of those funny stories between the four of them.
Oh yeah but I mean she literally had texts that would assuage her concerns that she'd rather ignore than wallow. Like that entire post could have been avoided if she picked up her phone she probably spends 20 hours a day on already.
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My mother is trying to get my downs brother to impregnate his downs girlfriend so she can take the baby
quote:My brother is 22 and has down syndrome with my mother being his sole carer (our father did a runner soon after he was born).
I'm 26, female and was told I would never have kids due to my tubes closing up which meant my mother would never have a grandchild from either of her own children.
Soon after I got my news my mother took an extreme interest in my brothers sex life. She signed him up to various dating agencies for people with downs even though all my brother wants to do is play Minecraft. He has no genuine interest in girls or sex.
Around 3 months ago I'd say a dating website specialising in relationships for people witb disabilities in Durham found my brother a match. A 19 year old also with a milder form of downs who is absolutely sex mad but like most young downs nowadays they share an interest in Minecraft but my brother still had no interest in sex.
As the weeks went by my mother began to encourage my brother to have sexual relations with the girl, asking him to kiss each other and lick eachothers tongue. This all came to a head when my mother bought testosterone gel online in hope it would make my brother more stimulated but after a month of that not working she decided to give him viagra during a play date, the dose was that strong he began crying because after 4 hours his erection wouldn't go away and she had to take him to hospital where she told the doctor he had found her boyfriends viagra pills in her bedroom. She doesn't even have a boyfriend.
When she fixed the dose of viagra she would tell my brother to go to bed with this girl where my mum would help them have sex. Again my brother had no interest in sex but was bribed with his favourite treat jammy dodgers (They were also the method my mum used to spike him by putting chopped up viagra pills in them).
By the way... throughout all this I'm telling my mother that YOU'RE F.CKING CRAZY! I've argued with her multiple times and I'm currently in the process of moving out because of this. Even though they're not using condoms my mother insists she's not trying to get this girl pregnant and says she's only helping because it was recommended by another mum with a son with downs. She says boys build up a lot of frustration if they don't have a sexual release and she's trying to look out for her son.
Anything my mother says doesn't add up, I've seen her history on her iPad. She searched for the best positions to conceive a child, how to make sperm stronger, ivf prices in India, sperm extraction techniques. It's so obvious she wants this girl to get pregnant.
My mother genuinely loves her son but I think this has just gone too far now. I don't know if what she's doing is criminal and I don't know if my brother will be taken away from her. I feel like if he was to get taken away she would lose him and me because I caused her and even though what she's doing is messed up she's still my mum and we are all she has.
So what I want to know, is there a way I can take full responsibility for my brother and move him out to live with me?
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Sep 24, 2018 01:29
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My mother is trying to get my downs brother to impregnate his downs girlfriend so she can take the baby
To: son
knock this bitch up i'll give you mad dodgers
loadsa love,
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Sep 24, 2018 01:34
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- Salty Josh
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Sometimes there's so much beauty in the world, I feel like I can't take it, and my heart is just going to cave in.
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To: son
knock this bitch up i'll give you mad dodgers
loadsa love,
Mom
That's all the positive reinforcement a son really needs.
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Sep 24, 2018 01:40
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- Haifisch
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Cherry on the poo poo sundae: Mom's plan is futile because men with Downs are basically guaranteed infertile(aside from an entire two documented exceptions) and women with it have trouble both conceiving and carrying to term:
quote:[–]toomanyrougneds 1206 points 8 hours ago
I wonder if she knows that the overwhelming vast majority of DS men are sterile. There are two reports in the world literature of DS men who have fathered children, and there’s no word in either case as to whether these men were mosaics or, less likely, chimeras.
She’s suborning rape - double rape, really - for her own demented sick reasons and she doesn’t even know how futile her attempt is bound to be.
[–]madestories 518 points 7 hours ago*
This is true, my son has Ds, any parent is going to know about sterility* (it’s one of the more noteworthy lifelong symptoms) unless they’re not paying attention, which could easily be the case if you’re the type to engage in sexual abuse/assault/sex trafficking of your vulnerable adult child.
There’s also about a 50% chance that a woman with Ds would be unable to conceive/carry a fetus to term. Again, common knowledge for anyone close to or working with people with Ds. This is just so bizarre that it reads like troll, but taking into consideration the fact that people with developmental/intellectual disabilities are SEVEN times more likely to be victims of sexual abuse/assault than the general population, then hell, anything’s possible. Some APS worker’s going to have their hands full.
Edit: *aside from the two documented cases you cited.
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Sep 24, 2018 02:06
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Cherry on the poo poo sundae: Mom's plan is futile because men with Downs are basically guaranteed infertile(aside from an entire two documented exceptions) and women with it have trouble both conceiving and carrying to term:
For a split second I was comforted. Then I remembered that fertility has nothing to do with why this is story is horrible. The whole thing is so hosed it makes me itchy.
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Sep 24, 2018 02:27
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My [28F] partner [30M] of 10 years is rethinking our relationship because a girl told him she has feelings for him
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Sorry for the formatting, I'm on mobile.
I'm posting here in the hopes someone can relate. I met my boyfriend in school, and we instantly hit it off. He's a great partner and I love him very much.
So he realised he was unhappy with his line of work, and decided to go back to school. I've been very supportive, as I've done the same. He went to a party with his school friends a few days ago. He'd been acting weird ever since, so I told him I want him to be honest with me and tell me if anything's wrong.
He told me that at the party, a girl from his class told him that when she met him, she instantly fell in love with him. My bf was the designated driver, and he ended up driving her home last. He told me she tried to get him to go in with her tlbevause she wanted to sleep with him. He declined and went home.
Ever since then he's been rethinking our relationship (what he said). He says he wants to be free, and I think he regrets not enjoying his youth more, as we started dating when we were fairly young. He's my first and I don't feel the need to go and sleep with different people to see how it'd be like, but he said he's someone who likes to try new and different things. He says that since then he's been questioning his love for me, his happiness in our relationship and whether he truly sees a future with me or not. He told me the classic "it's not you, it's me" line and said I shouldn't blame myself, because he said there's nothing wrong with me or the relationship in general. He said he needs time to think, but he doesn't know when he'll be able to give me an answer.
Now no relationship is perfect, and we have our highs and our lows, but I never suspected something like this to happen. Honestly I'm just hurt and I don't know what to do right now. We were planning on traveling and buying a home together... All I know is that I hate that other woman very much.
Has anyone experienced anything like this before? What happened, and how did you deal with this? I could use some advice right now.
Tl;dr Some girl told my long-term partner she has feelings for him and now he's rethinking our relationship, and considering leaving me.
Every. Time.
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Well, darlin, it's not you, it's me. You see, I settled, and I only just now realise that, you boring piece of poo poo.
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Sep 24, 2018 03:20
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- La Brea Carpet
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Bf(30m) said he’s going to take some time to figure things out after I(23f) got heavily intoxicated at a concert.
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Last night we went to a concert and had 3 drinks prior to the event. Once we got to the venue I had two more drinks but I had not eaten anything since the morning so it ended hitting me harder than expected. Long story short I end up at the hospital due to heavy intoxication. I don’t remember being transported in an ambulance to the hospital all I remember is being in the ER and asking the nurse to take a pregnancy test and when I was told it came back negative my boyfriend said he was hoping I’d be pregnant.
I texted him this morning to apologize for last night and asking him how I could make it up to him. I was completely shocked when he said he doesn’t know and that he wants some time to figure things out.
We’ve been together for a couple of months and already have talked about our future and what we are going to name our kids one day. He has repeatedly told me that he loves me and if I ever decide to leave him one day it will hurt him a lot.
I really love this man and I don’t want to lose him. I hardly ever drink and I’m extremely embarrassed for what happened last night. Besides last night, there was another time where I got drunk at a bar but I wasn’t completely wasted and seemed fine. He’s actually told me he prefers me being tipsy and likes it when I drink.
I thought our relationship was strong enough to withstand last night’s incident. We’ve never really had any major arguments and everything was going great so far prior to this.
tl;dr: Got drunk at a concert, ended up in the ER. Bf said he needs time to figure things out. Does this mean he wants to break up with me?
Reading between the lines here is a big ol yikes.
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Sep 24, 2018 03:37
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- Absurd Alhazred
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Bf(30m) said he’s going to take some time to figure things out after I(23f) got heavily intoxicated at a concert.
Reading between the lines here is a big ol yikes.
He prefers he when she's tipsy? He was hoping she'd be pregnant?! What?!?!?!?!?
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- ArbitraryC
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Bf(30m) said he’s going to take some time to figure things out after I(23f) got heavily intoxicated at a concert.
Reading between the lines here is a big ol yikes.
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Sep 24, 2018 03:48
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The gently caress. #killallmen
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- Absurd Alhazred
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My[17F] brother [15M] brings his girlfriend [15F] with lice over all the time. I worry about getting lice because my brother now has lice as well. My mom [36F] is a pushover and won’t make him stop bringing her over. How can I approach this situation?
Get the CDC on this case before it spreads.
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- Haifisch
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Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!
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I’m [28m] American, recently relocated to the UK. My new Londoner GF [25f] is on a kick to get me to be more.....uh, British, I guess, and it weirds me out a little bit. Is this a normal thing?
quote:Heyo!
This is such a weird issue, and I think she is coming from a good place, I’m just kinda weirded out by it.
As mentioned, I relocated from the US to London about five months ago. And I really, really love it here! I initially only planned to be here for a year or two, but I’m considering staying permanently-ish if I can work it out with the government.
But that’s beside the point. I met a very pretty London girl a couple months after I moved here, and we hit it off very well. Hannah is a really great girl and has helped me fit in in a number of ways.
We’ve been dating three months. Maybe a month ago she started trying to help me assimilate, I guess. At first it was pretty welcome. Stuff like helping me remember the subtle and not-so-subtle differences between US-English and British-English. It was slightly annoying when she would jump in and correct me for using an American slang term in place of something more British-y, but I figured she was just trying to help, so I didn’t say anything.
But it seems like she’s kicked it up a notch these last couple weeks and its getting on my nerves a bit. There was a day last week she came over to my apartment (sorry, flat) and looked at my clothes (I was wearing some lose jeans and a t-shirt from some dive bar in Texas) and made the comment “I need to take you clothes shopping.” I asked her what was wrong with what I was wearing and she gave me an answer like “Nothing, you look okay, just.....you dress so American.” I told her that kinda makes sense, since, ya know, I’m American, and really I don’t think I look all that much different from most other people I see on the street.
She responded that she thinks I dress okay, but I’m in the UK now, and she wants to go get some more UK-style clothes. I still don’t think there is much of a difference in fashion, but I let it go.
Over the last couple weeks she has kind of subtling been making fun of my American accent, too. She claims she likes it, but she has been kinda making fun of what I say by repeating it with an over-emphasized Texas-accent (I don’t even have a Texas accent, for the record), and then trying to get me to repeat in a non-rhotic fake Britsh accent.
It was cute at first I guess, but shes been doing it more and more lately and I have to keep reminding her that I don’t think anyone is going to be mistaking me for a Brit any time soon, so I don’t really see a point in trying to pretend.
And then there are just a bunch of little comments that I probably wouldn’t mind if not for the above-mentioned stuff. Like, a couple days ago we were catching a ride from a friend of hers and she made the comment “You should love riding with him, he drives one of those big cars Americans like.” (It was a Chrysler 300, again, for the record).
I don’t know, it’s like she simultaneously doesn’t want me to forget I’m not from here, but still wants me to pretend like I am. When I point this out she says she’s just trying to help me fit in, and I tell her that honestly she is literally the only one who even seems to care.
She’s promised to tone it down a little bit, but hasn’t, really. I can appreciate that she is doing what she feels is helpful, but it’s kind of exhausting.
Outside of this issue, she’s great. I’m quite happy with her. I just need her to tone down on the cultural stuff that I don’t think is as big a deal as she seems to think it is. Help?
TL;DR American in London (not a werewolf, sadly). My British girlfriend has been on a crusade these last couple weeks to get me to be more “British” and it feels a little weird to me. Help?
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You earned it it's cute.
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Do you realize that fluoridation is the most monstrously conceived and dangerous communist plot we have ever had to face?
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I’m [28m] American, recently relocated to the UK. My new Londoner GF [25f] is on a kick to get me to be more.....uh, British, I guess, and it weirds me out a little bit. Is this a normal thing?
Buy a Stetson.
blugu64 fucked around with this message at 04:17 on Sep 24, 2018
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I’m [28m] American, recently relocated to the UK. My new Londoner GF [25f] is on a kick to get me to be more.....uh, British, I guess, and it weirds me out a little bit. Is this a normal thing?
The only things I know for sure after reading this are that he definitely does have a Texas drawl and does dress like poo poo
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Sep 24, 2018 04:17
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- Cythereal
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I love the potoo,
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And the boyfriend was the one who did it, sounds like.
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Sep 24, 2018 04:25
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- ArbitraryC
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The only things I know for sure after reading this are that he definitely does have a Texas drawl and does dress like poo poo
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buying cat avatars for people is so wholesome, i love it.
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My (M20) parents asked me for a small loan of £250 to prevent them from going under. The next day my mother(F50) busy a dress and shoes, and my dad(M54) buys alchohol. I'm upset and worried about my future.
quote:I'm a full-time university student reading medicine at an expensive uni (think oxbridge), doing a 6 year long course. During this years summer break I took up a job to earn some money, primarily because I knew my parents were having financial worries and wanted to be independent for as long as possible. This job paid around 8.50 an hour and I earned around £2000 in total.
This month my father asked me for £250 to prevent credit card payments from 'pushing them into the red' at the end of the month. I agreed- stipulating that as a condition they would not buy any alcohol, stupid purchases (my father has bought £800 canoes that don't work, Wimbledon tickets, stamps for his collection and other wasteful things regularly for many years) or frivolous items until the credit cards had been paid off or there was a guarantee that their financial problems were fully under control, and I wouldn't have to worry about it any more.
The very next day my mother bought a new dress and a pair of shoes, justifying it because she 'needed new clothes for work'. My father, who has struggled with alcohol for almost a decade now, bought beers and wine, with no justification given. I am understandably a bit miffed, and feel a little lied to, as I thought I was helping keep the families financial head above the water, not pay for luxuries.
The kicker is, my parents are both highly paid professionals, my mother receives the highest pay grade for doctors the NHS provides and my father twice the national average. They shouldn't need to be taking money from their kids to pay for these things, surely? I have told them that they need to manage their money better, but as far as I can see, are ignoring all my advice. They insist on sending my 2 younger siblings to private schooling no matter what. They insist on paying for the food and housing of my drug-addicted, violent, abusive and regularly unemployed younger brother. They have a history, especially my father, of making rash impulse-purchases of useless things that cost our family many hundreds of pounds- canoes, summer camps, holidays we cant afford, private tutors, overly expensive and often unwanted family gifts.
They have told me that they'll pay me back in the future and support me through university, and admittedly, they have done so significantly. I'm just worried about the future- My savings will be gone by the end of the year, and I'll need to ask them for support again. What will I do if they have worked themselves into this position again? How do I convince them to manage money better without being accused of 'bullying' or 'being ungrateful'? What options do I have if they can't afford to help me through the last three years of my degree? I'll be starting my clinical years next year and will be unable to work during the summer due to placements.
Christmas and multiple birthdays are approaching and I'm worried.
Thanks.
Tl;dr: I give money to parents. Parents spend on trivialities. I'm worried they wont control their spending in the future, and will not support me through the rest of my degree.
EDIT: Spelling
I wanna hear more about those canoes that don't work
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Being an American with a non American kinda sucks because you know you're garbage and it's embarassing how Euros actually know things because they have good education. It's easier when you're with a fellow garbage American.
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I wanna hear more about those canoes that don't work
There's a hole in the top
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Being an American with a non American kinda sucks because you know you're garbage
Texans don't know this
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This person is a complete moron and deserves their predicament.
E: I am also curious about the canoes.
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its weird I feel kind of privileged being raised by a single parent below poverty line because all my academic scholarships were bundled with need based opportunities so i got to move out at 18 and go to school on my own terms with no debt while most of my peers were connected financially to their parents (who couldn't really help that much but had enough income to be cosigners on loans).
what a garbage system
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Sep 24, 2018 05:04
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- Haifisch
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Objection! I object! That was... objectionable!
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Boyfriend (20M) is disappointed that I didn't get him a Gucci belt for his birthday. I'm (19F) considering walking away, despite how much it hurts.
quote:My boyfriend's birthday was today but I gave him his gift yesterday. For the past month, he's been hinting that he really wants a Gucci or Hermes belt (the ones with the GG or H symbol as the buckle). They are around $500. Despite the price not being a huge issue for me, I just thought he might like something a bit more thoughtful. For about three months, I worked on making a picture book of us. I drew out each significant scene from our relationship (detailed and colored drawings, not just stick figures) and wrote a short paragraph about the corresponding moment narrative-style. I got the book printed, hardcover for him.
I was so excited to give it to him since last year, I also gave him a somewhat thoughtful gift and he LOVED it. First thing in the morning, I rushed over to his place, and presented him with the wrapped up picture book. His face immediately fell when he saw it—I could literally see his smile fade. He tried to act happy and he opened it and was like, "What is this..." and I explained it to him. He expressed his happiness but it seemed so fake and unenthusiastic. Then he asked, "Wouldn't it have been easier to just get me a Gucci belt haha?"
It hurt like hell. I spent so long on that friggin gift and put so much thought into it. I almost started crying and managed a, "I thought you'd like it; I worked so hard on it." He reassured me that he did like it but I could tell he was super disappointed. He even said, "The belt would've been really nice but this is cool too!" and hugged me.
I didn't end up staying with him and just went back to my dorm. I did some serious reflecting after that and realized that he's changed. A lot. When I met him, he was sweetest and most selfless person. He was kind to everyone and would never judge anyone. He wore t-shirts, baggy jeans, and this pair of ripped up Vans everyday. He didn't give two fucks about what people thought of him. Then suddenly, a year into our relationship, he began caring about his appearance and what other people thought. I supported this since I thought he was just becoming more confident. But instead, he became so materialistic and judgmental. He poured his money into expensive clothes and designer brands. Even worse, he began judging other people for their appearance. He's changed so much in front of me and yesterday, I finally realized how much. Last year (for his birthday), I wrote him a song and recorded it and he was so happy he cried and said it was the best thing anyone's ever given to him. I miss that person.
gently caress. I think I'm going to end it. He's just not the person I fell in love with anymore. Am I right to do this? Should I talk to him and try to work it out or just walk away?
Tl;DR: Boyfriend's changed a lot in the last year. I just realized how much when he got upset that I didn't get him a $500 Gucci belt for his 20th birthday. Thinking of leaving.
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My (33f) boyfriend (35m) is very mad at me because I accidentally expressed disgust regarding his uncle.
Basically, my boyfriend's uncle is coming to visit from another country. He is bringing his wife. His uncle is 62. My boyfriend told me he has been married to his wife for 5 years and she's pregnant with their first child. She's 26 and the niece of his best friend who passed away.
This information just kind of threw me for a loop. He was dating this girl when he was in his 50s and she was a teenager. Plus she was his best friend's niece and he had known her since she was born.
I said "ugh! gross" when he told me and he immediately became offended. He told me not to judge his uncle. I'm sort of upset that he chastised me about this and also that he doesn't find this gross.
We spoke more about it and he said ALL men find women in the 19 - 25 age-range most attractive no matter how old they are themselves. He said it is normal that his uncle (a man in his 50s at the time) was attracted to this girl (a teenager). He sees nothing wrong with a 60+ year old becoming a father.
I'm not sure how to process this information.
tldr: boyfriend is angry that I think his 62 year old uncle is gross for marrying a woman in her 20s.
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Sep 24, 2018 05:13
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- ArbitraryC
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For some reason I read that as $250k. You're right; I'm too tired to SA.
They're not american, just that the scenario sounds familiar. Not sure if any of the euro countries have a similar policy on educational bills/aid as we do it just sorta sounds identical.
Like it's kinda funny when we see posts itt that boil down to "why don't you just sever and do what people with poorer parents do" but it's like not actually an option because your aid is based not on your parent's willingness to contribute but their hypothetical ability to do so. FAFSA won't just let you pretend you're an orphan.
ArbitraryC fucked around with this message at 05:17 on Sep 24, 2018
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- A Wizard of Goatse
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yeah it's hosed up and terrible how need-based college scholarships go to people who actually have greater need instead of the poor little rich kids who have been at a tremendous, near-insurmountable advantage in every single other moment of their lives, secure higher education at nearly double the rate of their lower-parental-income peers, and will statistically wind up better off than them even if they drop out and spend their lives fingerpainting instead
also what's up with the death tax, why do we have a tax just so humble dirt farmers will get their childrens' inheritance taxed away
I [28M] said "I love you" to my FWB [28F] and she started crying, but says she doesn't want a relationship. WTF is going on?
quote:Ive been hooking up with this girl for about six months. When we first met she told me she only wanted to be friends with benefits, but as time went on we got really comfortable with each other and started getting food, seeing movies, etc before hooking up. I've told her things I haven't even told women I was officially dating for twice as long as I've known her. For the last two months or so I've wanted more than just a hookup with her and have been trying to drop hints, but she either didn't pick up on them or intentionally ignored. The other day I finally told her that Im in love with her and it did not go well. She started crying, which is very VERY out of character as she's usually extremely guarded with her emotions, and wanted to know how long I'd felt that way and why I hadn't said anything sooner. I tried to explain but she was really upset (?) and ended up leaving.
The next day she texted me apologizing for her weird reaction and we met up that night. She said because she's only ever had casual relationships no one has ever said that to her and she just freaked out. I asked if she felt the same and she seemed confused and like she genuinely didn't know the answer. She said I'm one of if not her best friend and she's just really thrown by this since she thought we were both uninterested in a relationship. We had sex that night and didn't talk about it further. Then the next day I texted her and basically said that unless she was interested in a relationship I was going to have to end things because I care about her too much to keep hooking up casually like this. Her response was that she doesn't know what a relationship would entail and she doesn't think she'd be good at it. But I don't understand why she had such an emotional reaction to me saying I love you if she doesn't feel the same way at least on some level. Now she says she needs a day or two to process her thoughts and we have plans to meet up on Tuesday to discuss. What should I be preparing myself for here?
sounds like the all-clear to proceed with a serious and no doubt healthy relationship with this chick, my dude
A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 05:26 on Sep 24, 2018
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Sep 24, 2018 00:48
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