Solice Kirsk posted:

I asked my buddy who's a farmer and he said that they shoot barn cats if their numbers start to get too out of control (but I guess that's only happened like twice in the almost 30 years he's been working his family farm). But he also agreed it was hosed up and weird to feed them just to cull them.

Odd posted:

how is your dad and his gun "nature"

Rad-daddio posted:

Hey OP, are there any good confessions so that everyone stops talking about kitty murder?

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Hi there! I thought I'd send in pics of my finished cat puzzle in case you need something light hearted to post.

For folks looking for where to get puzzles that aren't too schlocky, Amazon and any store geared towards teachers or educational stuff have done me really well. The cat puzzle came from a local store for teachers. I have a lot of luck going to the website of whichever company made a puzzle I really liked. White Mountain puzzles has some good ones. Just stay away from anything that looks super Jesusy or weird dragon fantasy ones.

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This is DivorceGoon CustodyShithead with a quick followup.

So I was obviously in a bad and selfish place back then and fortunately have gotten better and more mature. My thought process at the time was that there was no way I wanted to get involved with another single mother (ex-wife was one) and get caught up in another round of family drama that wasn't my own. Basically, I wanted to go back to being 23 and carefree, except one night a week and every other weekend, but also magically wanted to be a good father. Obviously a lot of bullshit thinking there.

Things have worked themselves out well in the years since the divorce. The three of us are all coparenting effectively (the third is my child-free serious squeeze, looks like I got my wish! Little did I know it's not that important in the scheme of things.) Ex-wife cleaned up her act significantly. It's not perfect but nothing is.

I still wrote this response in some of the most-reasonably-douchey language because things have worked out for the best not because of my courage and self-sacrifice, but in spite of my irresponsible manbabiness.

"Kids are the worst. Kids you're not related to are somehow even worserer."
Absolutely wrong, and often absolutely wrong (but sometimes absolutely correct; it depends on how the parent models/informs their relationship to you). I basically wish I had become a parent in fact instead of name at a younger age; though things are reasonably good now and the future keeps getting better, that time is gone.

I guess I'm writing this in the hope that some goon, perhaps scared of what he thinks he's going to lose by doing the right and difficult thing, might avoid the chickenshit decision I made.

loquacius posted:

I just posted some earlier, nobody wants to talk about virgoons or E/N I guess

I have these pictures of cats in puzzle form but I dunno if that'll help






Also a followup from the guy who regretted not getting custody of his kid:


Well, glad the worst-case scenario didn't happen I guess, and glad you're more of a presence in your kid's life now!

Rad-daddio posted:

My cat only goes outdoors for a short time everyday.

One time, a blue jay crashed into my bay window and broke its neck. While it flopped around on the ground, I was trying to figure out how to help it.

My cat came over, jumped on top of it and ripped its head off Ozzy style.

loquacius posted:

loquacius posted:

25 is still super young dude, you've got your whole life ahead of you

I'm not gonna come right out and tell you to hit the bars or get Tinder or whatever, that'd be stupid to try right out of the gate, but just get a hobby that involves talking to people, and (said with no judgment as per usual) see a therapist to discuss your self-esteem issues. Eventually you probably should try an Internet dating service, because that will remove a lot of the ambiguity from the process, but I'm of the opinion that you need to work on your self-confidence first.

Sagebrush posted:

Tinder universally sucks, don't use it

Hinge is quite good right now though, at least in large cities. Dunno about its market share outside of that. But I've had way more connections (and with better people) on that app than any other online dating thing.

SciFiDownBeat posted:

Never heard of Hinge before, but the majority owner of Hinge is Match Group, which also owns Tinder, Match.com, and OkCupid

Also apparently the original founders and execs of Tinder filed a $2b lawsuit against match group for stripping stock options from employees

Just some dating app facts and news for ya

New Wave Jose posted:

Also don't put all your hopes that sex will fix everything. Yes sex is good (very good) but it will not make you happier in life. Work on yourself to be happy. Everything will comes from that.

You should not be depressed by being a virgin because it doesn't mater. Nobody you meet knows unless you tell and even if you tell, someone who is genuinely interested in you wouldn't care.

I lost my virginity at 25 and it didn't magically fixed me. I did some therapy for my anxiety and low self esteem. It helped me way more than sex could.

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I had another one of those dreams where I'm best friends with a YouTube personality. It's probably time to get off the internet.

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Virgoon, you are probably going to be or have already been told by your friends to just screw a hooker to get over the mental block. Don't do it. I was in exactly your situation. I had never been on a date, never got more action than a kiss on the cheek by the mother of the girl I was friendzoned by in highschool who had alzheimers and thought I was her son. I decided in my third year of grad school to just order an escort off of backpage.

Don't get me wrong, the sex was great and even though I overpaid extremely I didn't regret it at the time. She asked for 200, I gave her 450 because I was a stupid goon who thought it would get me better service. It didn't, but no big deal. The reason why I would never recommend this is that it can and probably will gently caress you up in the head on what to expect from sex and women in general. I am now 37 years old and I still have never had sex with a real woman, only prostitutes. And I've hosed a LOT of prostitutes.

I have tried going on real dates and have gotten close to sex, but I always ruin it by treating them like a whore, just starting to strip down immediately while asking about her rules. Not being willing to or knowing how to initiate foreplay is a pretty big turnoff for basically any woman, apparently. I've tried multiple approaches, like reading erotic romance novels and trying to reenact it, asking her to tell me what to do, even being honest and saying I've only hosed whores and don't know what I'm doing (do NOT do this unless you want her to look at you like you just admitted to having multiple infectious diseases).

Hookers ruined my life honestly. You might think being sexually active will get oyu over the hump and fast-track you into being normal, but it won't. Just see a therapist, and do not gently caress them. Or at least if you do, make sure it's clear you are paying them for the therapy, not the sex.

yeah I eat rear end posted:

Don't listen to him. Boiling denim and banging whoores is the key to success and happiness in life.

Sagebrush posted:

(Carell, S., 2005)

Nooner posted:

When i clap guts with a hooker i like to take 5 100 bills out of my wallet and put them on the night stand. Each time she doesnt perform to my expectations i take one away

Nooner posted:

When i clap guts with a hooker i like to take 5 100 bills out of my wallet and put them on the night stand. Each time she doesnt perform to my expectations i take one away

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Hookers ruined my life honestly.

Rad-daddio posted:

My cat only goes outdoors for a short time everyday.

One time, a blue jay crashed into my bay window and broke its neck. While it flopped around on the ground, I was trying to figure out how to help it.

My cat came over, jumped on top of it and ripped its head off Ozzy style.