Rubellavator posted:

Nobody ever talks about going back in time and saving Hitler. Getting him therapy from an early age. Making him feel loved.

Tendai posted:

"Hitler, but DeviantArt-er" doesn't actually seem like an improvement

Bogus Adventure posted:

Imagine a totalitarian world where all of the ubermensch parade around in Furry costumes of Sonic and Goofy

Blade Runner posted:

I would also go back in time to gently caress Stalin but that's mostly just because Stalin was hot

CheesyDog posted:

imagine the alt-right got it

dudeness posted:

The only moral use of a time machine is to go back to dinosaur times and have a t-rex steak, maybe take a selfie with a dimetrodon.

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We have been married for 17 years, arranged marriage and a needs teenager, so divorce isn't the simple answer. I also love him and I don't want to fight.

He just recently started doing things as a family. The past couple months. his mother convinced him to start spending more time with us instead of working, such as doing errands or eating out. He has poor manners. I'm starting to handle his manners at home and with our son. He makes scenes in public, hurts strangers and workers, and embarrasses us.

I'd like advice on how to approach it and possibly ways to control the situation better. I'm a passive person unless I know what to do.

Here is a good example of behavior he shows at friends'/in public.

We went to eat. I had teen son in his stroller because it's easier to contain him and it was late so he'd probably fall asleep. Husband was making a huge deal about how the entrance had a thick threshold and he had to lift the stroller over it. He pinned it on the salad bar tender and told her to go report it to the manager. He started getting a passive aggressive attitude with a waitress because it took over 10 seconds for her to bring us butter, and he was snapping his fingers for a whole seven seconds to get a waitress' attention about his drink, even though she acknowledged. The ice started melting before he decided to start drinking it, so he pinned it on our waitress and the "lovely ice" she served.

He got mad because son wasn't eating a piece of bread I gave him, and he gave the impression that son was ruining everything. I told husband to stop. So what does husband do? Gets up, scrapes plate off in the trash because he lost appetite. Then he insisted I order him something else, because he got hungry. I offered him my food, since I usually finish son's food, and he complained about what I ordered. I took son through the salad bar for some fruit or treats to go with the potatoes and soup I got him. Husband complained about the fruit (he gets upset when I feed son soft diet foods or "feminine" food like fruit, though son mostly eats soft food). Son was doing good, was feeding himself, I fed him in intervals. Food got on son's clothes and face and husband criticised it. But before husband finished his appetizer, son fell asleep. Husband started snapping his fingers in son's face telling him to wake up. I put the hood out on the stroller and I draped the blanket over the stroller, so son would sleep in peace (something I do anyways because I don't like strangers seeing my kid sleep). Husband told me to stop babying.

Son finished eating before husband got his plate. What does husband do? Stops enjoying his meal and pushes his plate to the middle of the table, puts his glass to the middle of the table, and spits bread into a napkin. He's no longer allowed or able to have a lovely dinner. I took son to the bathroom with me and texted my mom in there, so I wouldn't lose my poo poo. She offered to come get us but I didn't want to make hus lose his poo poo. I waited until he decided it was time to go home.

tl;dr: Husband turns into a 4 yo in public

Bogus Adventure posted:

Imagine a totalitarian world where all of the ubermensch parade around in Furry costumes of Sonic and Goofy

Blade Runner posted:

Marching around at the speed of sound
Got people to kill gotta swallow that red pill

Rotten Red Rod posted:

Hey I know, let's start posting stories from Reddit! That's different for this thread.

How's this pendulum swing from open relationships?

I[36F] am in arranged marriage with [37M]. He has very poor manners and make scenes in public.

(Note: I'm pretty sure English isn't this person's first language so there's some weirdness in the writing. I think by "needs teenager" she means they have a disabled teenager in a wheelchair/stroller of some kind.)
Her disabled son is literally more mature than her husband.

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Hello, This takes place in Chicago IL. I work at a gym in their childcare department. I have years of experience working with kids and when I got this job I was told that I'm not allowed to change diapers because I'm a man. It's nice that I don't have to change diapers but this rule doesn't seem legal and I'm slightly offended that they think I'm predisposed to do something nefarious just because I'm a man.

In short, is this legal?

OP posted:

Mostly just curious. Also this isn't the first time I've ran into people or situations having reservations about me working with kids. It's really frustrating to have to justify that you're not a pedophile. I'm fine with not changing diapers, I'm not fine with why I don't change diapers.

This Escalated Quickly posted:

Don't assume they said this because they think you're capable of doing something nefarious due to your gender. It may be a better safe than sorry situation. Many parents, especially fathers, would be very upset at having another man change their baby girl's (or boy's) diaper, for example. My own husband would be livid, and I would be angry as well. I think you're making this into something it isn't.

extra row of teeth posted:

Maybe if Deviantart existed back then his decent Disney drawings would have given him a hugbox of positive comments and lifted his self esteem.

Deviantart stops the holocaust

La Brea Carpet posted:

Sexual discrimination against Men

La Brea Carpet posted:

Sexual discrimination against Men

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This Escalated Quickly posted:
Don't assume they said this because they think you're capable of doing something nefarious due to your gender. It may be a better safe than sorry situation. Many parents, especially fathers, would be very upset at having another man change their baby girl's (or boy's) diaper, for example. My own husband would be livid, and I would be angry as well. I think you're making this into something it isn't.

Straight White Shark posted:

Don't assume they said this because they think you're capable of doing something nefarious because of your gender. Assume they said it because I think you're capable of doing something nefarious because of your gender, you perverted monster.

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That's the thing that says he had images [of children]. But I never have. Never had any interest in children. I just ordered the smallest cuz I was living at home and had to hide it

PancakeTransmission posted:

Back on the sex doll guy...

The smallest sex doll? I don't want to google how... small they get.

PancakeTransmission posted:

Back on the sex doll guy...

The smallest sex doll? I don't want to google how... small they get.

La Brea Carpet posted:

Sexual discrimination against Men

Anne Whateley posted:

He is actually right, you can't implement gender-based discrimination at work even for things that are no fun. Like you can't make women not be trash collectors because they're women, and you can't make men not change diapers because they're men.

You gotta just change babies with at least one other adult present, ideally just in the main room.

Rotten Red Rod posted:

Hey I know, let's start posting stories from Reddit! That's different for this thread.

How's this pendulum swing from open relationships?

I[36F] am in arranged marriage with [37M]. He has very poor manners and make scenes in public.

(Note: I'm pretty sure English isn't this person's first language so there's some weirdness in the writing. I think by "needs teenager" she means they have a disabled teenager in a wheelchair/stroller of some kind.)
Her disabled son is literally more mature than her husband.

Streak posted:

She has a needs husband apparently

Streak posted:

She has a needs husband apparently

Pick posted:

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I'm a male (33), dating a woman (24) for about 9 months now.

Besides all the other things that are rattling around in my mind, here's the thing thats at the forefront of it. Over the last couple years I spent a ton of time working out, working on myself and generally just healing from years of serial relationships (bad and good), bad decisions (drinking and drugging too much) and overall really putting forth the effort to be a better me. One component that was valuable in helping me to accomplish that was getting off social media (fb, insta, etc), ditching tv and spending more time reading (mostly non-fiction), listening to music, working out and just spending more time DOING actual things with my time.

Here's my quandary. Ill try to keep is short and if more clarification or information is asked of me, I'll provide it.

Basically, my girlfriend, like most people spend a pretty large amount of time watching tv (cable, Netflix), etc. I'll be back home in town for a month ( I travel a ton for work), and I'll be picking up a rental that's furnished but doesn't have a television (which I love). I pitched the idea that maybe we should go the month (30 days) without any television (when she's with me). I even suggested tons of things we can do instead. She declined.

My honesty is that it kind of bothers me that she can't imagine being without access to a television. I'll be honest I don't hold the highest regard for it. Yes, it can be a great source of entertainment, the expression of art in that medium can be awesome and as a tool for relaxation it works for most people but in general, I'm just of the mindset that it's a fantastic time waster. I just want to try filling our time with doing stuff together other than vegging out every night. Like cooking dinner TOGETHER and sitting and talking. Finding projects to do together (she loves DIY projects but only the kind that come out of an IKEA box. I wanna reupholster her worn out floor chest/), read more books and talk about them. Go for walks. Get out to events in town, meet people (she's always complaining about not having friends). But, she's just not having any it. Her primary concern most nights is just making it home to her tv and to her bed.

Part of my worry is that I wish she'd want to be more proactive in this way (which is a ridiculous expectation). But, the other reservation is that I know that partners tend to pull each other towards the others habits. Hers being smoking (pot) nightly and falling asleep on the bed. And that's just not me. I have no issues with occasional smoking ( I use to smoke daily) but at 33, I just enjoy life more sober versus when I was her age. She's tried to guilt me into smoking more by telling me I'm boring and that BF's are supposed to smoke with their girlfriend's (which I think is pretty childish logic). I guess I just worry that this will eventually get old...or that it already is...

Am I overthinking all this?

All insights welcome.

**TL;DR** Girlfriend's relationship to tv and pot bothers the poo poo out of me. Am I overreacting or are we just not a match?

La Brea Carpet posted:

Does TV dictate our Me [33 M], [24 F] lives?


Hmm yes why isn't my nearly decade younger girlfriend as self actualized as me.

Pick posted:

Blade Runner posted:

If you're giving "when I was your age!!!!" style old man lectures to your girlfriend perhaps the age gap is excessive

loquacius posted:

my initial reaction was that this was an ironic shitpost but on second thought that might just be a conditioned response to seeing Twitter

Anomalous Blowout posted:

Oh my god, I didn’t think “out for some cigarettes” dads were real.

I freaked out and hosed up big time with my girlfriend and newborn (33m, 26f, 0f)

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Really you need to have a talk one on one. If she cant be adult enough to do that she cant possibly be mature enough to look after that baby. Try to empathise for a second she might be scared you'll leave again but next time not come back you need to talk down that part of her.

Dannywilson posted:

I mean if the counter was clear before she showed up and looked like that when she left? IDK, I have always helped SO's/friends clear up before I leave. If the counter looked like that when she got there... yeah, gently caress that guy.