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Haifisch posted:My [35M] ex wife [34F] won't drop it. I got my son [6M] a chocolate cake for his birthday party and I forgot he's allergic. Lol at not remembering one of your kid's deathly allergies even after you were given several hints. Father of the year here I can see why that's his Ex.
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Haifisch posted:My [35M] ex wife [34F] won't drop it. I got my son [6M] a chocolate cake for his birthday party and I forgot he's allergic. It's understandable to make a mistake, and if that is how she treats it every time he makes one no wonder they are divorced.
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therobit posted:It's understandable to make a mistake, and if that is how she treats it every time he makes one no wonder they are divorced. It’s really not in this case (this is totally ‘you had one job, moron’ territory) and he should rightfully be called ‘the allergy amnesiac’ by literally everyone for the rest of his life
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Oct 23, 2018 01:28
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Haifisch posted:My [35M] ex wife [34F] won't drop it. I got my son [6M] a chocolate cake for his birthday party and I forgot he's allergic. this is one of those 'the hell do you think the internet can do about this?' posts don't forget your child's allergy next time dingus, end of story
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therobit posted:It's understandable to make a mistake, and if that is how she treats it every time he makes one no wonder they are divorced. Getting your child a cake they're allergic to because you're not paying attention is an understandable mistake, albeit still lovely and avoidable. Getting your child a cake they're allergic to because you blanked on your child's life-threatening allergy to the extent that even pointed reminders don't ring a bell is just extreme and wanton neglect, gently caress that guy.
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Oct 23, 2018 01:35
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Refreshingly, this is a case where the chocolate is actually not for the children.
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Oct 23, 2018 01:48
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It's amazing how people think a simple sorry suffices in a situation so serious. Just this weekend I was walking to the park with the gf and we were using a crosswalk, some dude making a left (and it wasn't particularly busy) just gunned it without looking and I had to drag both of us out of the way. He saw us as he was halfway into the crosswalk already (so we were basically right next to his driver side window) and gave this shrug/hands up like "whoops my bad, almost maimed/killed you no harm no foul" as he just drove off.
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on a related note a lot of folks think "im sorry" is a magical incantation that vacuums away people being mad at you, and hoo buddy, are they mad, in turn, when it doesn't work
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Xenocides posted:And now for the darker side of candy where it is used as a weapon to frame an innocent man: So the parents are totally leaving them in the car, right?
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:on a related note a lot of folks think "im sorry" is a magical incantation that vacuums away people being mad at you, and hoo buddy, are they mad, in turn, when it doesn't work im sorry
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:on a related note a lot of folks think "im sorry" is a magical incantation that vacuums away people being mad at you, and hoo buddy, are they mad, in turn, when it doesn't work What else are you supposed to do? I've run into this situation a lot in my life and it's just like...okay? Why are you still mad if I expressed regret and apologized? Should I flay myself and wear a hair shirt?
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Palemdromes posted:What else are you supposed to do? I've run into this situation a lot in my life and it's just like...okay? Why are you still mad if I expressed regret and apologized? Should I flay myself and wear a hair shirt? Gotta do something to actually make amends or if that's not possible then accept that it's gonna be a thing until you've sufficiently proven it's not a thing and that's on the other person's timeline. Kinda depends on the degree of the fuckup. Like totally blanking on your child's deathly food allergy even when given a chance to think about it/remember is probably gonna be a long term thing because it was a clear demonstration of how little of shits you gave for your kid.
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Also give people time to realize you're not going to do the same thing again. A lot of people who go "I said I'm sorry, why are you still mad, gosh" conveniently ignore that this is the 10th time they've done the exact same thing that pissed the other person off.
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quote:I have a tolerable relationship with my mother. She doesn’t have a history of making good choices, and the short version of the long story of my childhood is that she did not protect me from physical abuse.
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Palemdromes posted:What else are you supposed to do? I've run into this situation a lot in my life and it's just like...okay? Why are you still mad if I expressed regret and apologized? Should I flay myself and wear a hair shirt? People don't HAVE to forgive you if they don't want to. You don't apologize to be forgiven, you apologize because you're genuinely sorry. It's not about you.
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Oct 23, 2018 02:00
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100% chance the new husband has done time, 50% chance it was for a sex crime against a child.
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Miserable Maid posted:People don't HAVE to forgive you if they don't want to. You don't apologize to be forgiven, you apologize because you're genuinely sorry. It's not about you. Everything in my life is actually about me - I'm the hero of my own story. If someone won't forgive me even with an apology, I have to cut them out of my life. It's not something I enjoy doing - it's caused a lot of resentment - but I don't see any other option if an apology doesn't work. I'm not going to debase myself at the altar of their satisfaction until they decide I've paid enough penance. This isn't the goddamn catholic church in the medieval ages.
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therobit posted:100% chance the new husband has done time, 50% chance it was for a sex crime against a child. What I can’t get is, even if it’s that, why not just not mention it? The dude wouldn’t have PEDO tattooed on his forehead. Just introduce him and don’t talk about it! Unless it’s someone the letter writer would recognize immediately 
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The mother's boyfriend is the daughter's baby daddy
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therobit posted:It's understandable to make a mistake, and if that is how she treats it every time he makes one no wonder they are divorced. Yeah, I can agree with that. I wouldn't make that mistake if it was my kid though.
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hint: sometimes, it would be unreasonable to not accept a given apology (ex- you accidentally step on my toe and i remain pissed) sometimes, it is unreasonable to expect the apology to make the person not mad anymore (ex- I left your door open for 2 hours and your dog got out and was torn to pieces, and you are still mad after I say sorry) sometimes different situations, mean different things are true! I know! it's like god drat can't we just have some rules that work for everything and no exception clauses!!' but we dont
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:hint: sometimes, it would be unreasonable to not accept a given apology (ex- you accidentally step on my toe and i remain pissed) Okay, I didn't want to do this but here's the situation: their child escaped their house and entered a nearby dentist's office and was detained until I found them. No harm came to them and it was their fault for not locking the door when the left. What is a reasonable amount of time to be angry at someone for something that you are partially responsible for?
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Palemdromes posted:Okay, I didn't want to do this but here's the situation: their child escaped their house and entered a nearby dentist's office and was detained until I found them. No harm came to them and it was their fault for not locking the door when the left. What is a reasonable amount of time to be angry at someone for something that you are partially responsible for? Are you the parent, the person who was watching the child, the dentist, or the child themselves?
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Palemdromes posted:Okay, I didn't want to do this but here's the situation: their child escaped their house and entered a nearby dentist's office and was detained until I found them. No harm came to them and it was their fault for not locking the door when the left. What is a reasonable amount of time to be angry at someone for something that you are partially responsible for? im pooping on ur head right now. hehehe.
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Palemdromes posted:Okay, I didn't want to do this but here's the situation: their child escaped their house and entered a nearby dentist's office and was detained until I found them. No harm came to them and it was their fault for not locking the door when the left. What is a reasonable amount of time to be angry at someone for something that you are partially responsible for? Wait partially responsible in what way.
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Barudak posted:The correct thing to do is to lure her into the basement with promises of a candy of amontillado Hopefully if things go awry your mom will hear my screams and let me out of the basement.
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Pirate Radar posted:Are you the parent, the person who was watching the child, the dentist, or the child themselves? Child watching services provider, sorry for the confusion.
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so you, the professional child watcher, did not consider that you should perhaps lock the doors before you let the child pass from your field of vision?
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SpaceViking posted:It Came From r/LegalAdvice: I don't know if the followup to this was posted (as I'm 200 pages back and still catching up) but the dude got loving fired and lied to his wife. quote:(UPDATE) My sexual harassment investigation quote:Do you tell employers why you fired someone?(reference check) quote:I was recently terminated for sexual harassment. I would like advice on how to recover professionally. Mordiceius fucked around with this message at 02:33 on Oct 23, 2018 |
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:so you, the professional child watcher, did not consider that you should perhaps lock the doors before you let the child pass from your field of vision? I always lock the door...when I enter or exit it.
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Palemdromes posted:Child watching services provider, sorry for the confusion. I’m extremely confused, how is this not all your fault. Did the kid get out in the changeover?
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*me, an idiot at the no-lose-ur-kid front desk* "what the hell, I paid you to not lose my kid and then some dentist calls me with him? you're supposed to be a professional at this!" *you, the suave teceptionist* "look, I said I was sorry if you're gonna be bringing all this hostility and toxicity to our relationship then I need to cut you off for my own mental health"
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CharlestheHammer posted:I’m extremely confused, how is this not all your fault. I’m sorry for your confusion.
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Palemdromes posted:I’m sorry for your confusion. Could you clear it up. Because the way you tell it your just blaming the parents for you not paying attention
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CharlestheHammer posted:Could you clear it up. No, I'm sorry.
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Salty Josh posted:Yeah, I can agree with that. 100%* of parents who have dropped their spouse of at work then let their kid broil to death in the backseat because they forgot the kid was there also believed this. So did every gun owner whose kid shoot a neighbor in the face. Also, every parent of a kid who drowned in the family pool, or made it from the porch to the street in the eight seconds mom or dad was distracted. * Except for the ones who did it on purpose. Cake dad is a moron, but he's well within normal human moron parameters. Mom is still right to be pissed, and should pin notes to the kids and leave bi-hourly voicemails every time the twins are alone with him.
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Please forgive my interruption of all of ...this, but I have a burning question for Pick and since this seems to be her main parlor I'll just go for it before I explode of curiosity: Pick. Are/were you Chicken? (If not, I once knew your spiritual twin on a forum long ago)
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