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How should I [24F] bring up starting an open relationship with my long-distance boyfriend [27M] of 5 months?quote:We're 1200 miles apart, relatively happy, but [i]I [/b]just need more right now. I don't know when or if we're going to be in the same place again and the thought of seeing each other once a month or less for several years is so daunting to me. i spy
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My [20F] artsy friend wants to do a 'female empowerment' group photo shoot...Should I participate? I'm a 20 year old female who goes to school with and is friends with a girl who does art/photography as a hobby. She has asked me to be a part of a 'female empowerment' themed group photo shoot. I'm not 100% on all the details, but it would basically be 2-3 females and 2-3 males, posing in ways that, as she puts it 'turns the tables' on what we normally see. Her idea is to have the guys strip down (either to like boxers or fully nude) for some of the poses (since it's usually the girls), while the girls pose with them fully clothed. Poses with the girls being in 'positions of power', etc. I know most of the other people she is asking to pose for the shoot. What do you all think? On one I like the idea, but on the other hand I'm a bit nervous about the idea? Any thoughts or advice? TL;DR: Friend wants to do a female empowerment photo shoot...should I participate?
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 02:37 |
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Blood on the stairs??!
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 02:41 |
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My mother joined a cult and now believes that I am possessed by an 'Evil Entity'.. The rest of my family and New Age 'Shaman' BIL is encouraging her delusions. For years my [25 M] mom who has had a long time obsession with conspiracy theories has been telling me about this ranch in a state (I won't mention here) where people go and try to communicate with aliens via meditation and how she wanted to get tickets or w/e to go. I didn't think much of it because my mom is pretty quirky and gets really excited about stuff like that and I figured why burst her bubble? I didn't want her thinking that I considered what she would say as weird or crazy because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and I didn't see the harm. She flew out to visit me recently and to meet might girlfriend for the first time as my parents live in another state. When we picked her up she was acting somewhat normal at first but quickly started casually saying weird things. She talked about herself the WHOLE time and barely asked my gf one question about herself. Instead, she would talk about how she had seen a grey alien and knows it was a real experience or describe how her group(cult) does these weird breathing exercises that put them in a hallucinogenic state that is better than Ayahuasca. I have learned to keep my mouth shut because if I question these things my mom turns into a victim real quick and if she doesn't start crying she will act like I'm bullying her, and as if I get some sick enjoyment out of making her suffer.. so I bite my tongue and limit myself to saying brief things like "that's interesting", and "wow.. that's wild" despite being totally mortified and genuinely concerned. When she wasn't talking about those things she made sure to let my girlfriend know what a difficult child I was growing up and even referring to me as Damian(son of satan). My mom has always painted the picture to everyone that I was so incredibly mean to her when I was a child which has always bothered me. I would not want to do certain things and would protest like many other young children and toddlers and she would cry and tell me that I must hate her because I didn't want to follow her around and watch her do errands all day. Once she even told me while sobbing over a mundane disagreement that as a mother she knows she should feel love for me but just doesn't and that worries her, I was probably 9 or 10 years old. I later told her in private that I didn't like the way she brought up my behavior as a child all the time because a A. I don't agree with her and B. It brings up painful memories and feelings guilt I felt as a young child. She appeared to be receptive and told me she would respect that and I thanked her and grateful we could have a dialogue about it. Less than a week later she texts me out of the blue in the middle of the day and tells me that we need to face time. My parents hardly call me once a year to ask how I am doing or tell me anything so I'm thinking this must be big and I thought it was going to be good news since she insisted on face timing me.. We face time and she tells me that when she was at her alien contact group(cult) 'conference' and while she was there spoke to a member who was also a psychic who told her in a past life I was a confederate soldier who made a pact with an evil entity and essentially that this is why I haven't lived up to my potential and why I was so mean and why me and my sister aren't close with each other. She kept using the word "infestation" which is something that people use when describing demonic possession. I told her that what she was saying is truly hurtful and she would say "well I'm sorry that what I said doesn't resonate with you" she advised me I to ask my 'Shaman' brother in law perform a cleansing to get rid of it. I called my dad and told him what she said to me and he said that it's not that big of a deal my BIL helped him get rid of an entity attachment recently... On one level the whole thing is ridiculous and rather humorous on another it's extremely profoundly worrisome and deeply painful. What do I do? Also if there are any therapists out there what does this seem like to you? I have never questioned my mothers sanity before but I am beginning to feel concerned considering things seem to be escalating. **TL;DR; : My [25/m] mother is part of a cult that alleges to be in contact with aliens through meditation. A fellow member told her that I made a pact with an 'Evil Entity' in my past life as a confederate soldier during the civil war. My entire family seems to either believe it or their all just going along with it BIL is encouraging her delusions because it validates his own self proclaimed status as a so called"Shaman".
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 02:41 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [20F] artsy friend wants to do a 'female empowerment' group photo shoot...Should I participate? When I first read the intro, I thought it was going to be some "body positivity" thing where she'd be posing topless/nude.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 02:42 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My mother joined a cult and now believes that I am possessed by an 'Evil Entity'.. The rest of my family and New Age 'Shaman' BIL is encouraging her delusions. Might I suggest... Murder you're famil
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 02:43 |
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Pick posted:Blood on the stairs??!
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 03:05 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [20F] artsy friend wants to do a 'female empowerment' group photo shoot...Should I participate? are you OK with seeing a man's butthole? If yes do it.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 03:08 |
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Lots of broken windows? Where the hell do they live? Detroit?
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 03:12 |
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MrQwerty posted:are you OK with seeing a man's butthole? If yes do it. Maybe it'll be with the guy who shaves his butthole with his girlfriend's razor.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 03:17 |
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Haifisch posted:Obligatory reading whenever estranged parent forums come up. See how many themes from this site you can spot in that lunatic's posts! For some reason I thought this was going to be the no Contact letter to end all no contact letters. Somehow I haven't seen that site before, and wow, it's amazing. Thanks for the share.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 03:47 |
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I love this post because like all the comments are other women saying this has happened to them too. ahhhhh. eeyep.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 03:48 |
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Dear Prudence posted:Q. Too Many Siblings: I’m a freshman in college about three hours from my parents. I have 10 younger siblings—three biological and seven adopted from the foster care system. My parents are doing a wonderful service to these children in providing them with a warm, loving home. However, as the oldest child, a lot of responsibility was put on me from ages 12 to 18 to babysit, watch, and care for my younger siblings. I never felt like I had much of an opportunity to be myself or build my own interests because the vast majority of my time was occupied caring for children. I am attending college on an academic scholarship and I am enjoying my studies and learning to grow on my own. I recently got a summer job near my university and there is an affordable apartment I can rent for the summer while I am working. When I told my parents, they got very upset, claiming that I was “abandoning” them. They said that they needed me home to drive children to appointments and provide summer care. I feel like I gave my teenage years to my family and college should be my opportunity to grow as an individual. My parents think family is more important than anything else and I owe it to them and my siblings to come how and offer care. Who is right in this scenario? If I decide to stay in college, how do I explain my choice to my parents and preserve a relationship with them? If I decide to go home, is it possible to negotiate for a few hours per week that I am not responsible for children to go to a movie, talk to a friend, or do some yoga?
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 03:57 |
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too many daves
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 04:16 |
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Pick posted:too many daves deep cut there mrs mccave.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 04:34 |
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Brother Entropy posted:link please sgocity posted:Mod Edit: This thread is for venting about students; if you wish to vent about teachers, administrators, or anything else like that, take it to Venting about teachers, etc.. If you're looking for academic advice, there's a thread for that. If you want to discuss teaching in general, take it to the teaching/pedagogy thread. If you wish to vent about a particular poster, take it nowhere (or report them if they did something reportable). Don't crosspost in a way that might look like you're attacking a particular poster.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 04:38 |
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Pick posted:
pink triangle on her sleeve let me know the truth let me know the truth
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 04:53 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [20F] artsy friend wants to do a 'female empowerment' group photo shoot...Should I participate? How I avoid having to pay girls to appear in my CFNM porn. Pick posted:Blood on the stairs??! But I can't help it if I have a heavy flow and a wide-set vagina.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 05:03 |
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What the hell do her parents think she's majoring in? Advanced Nannyism? It sounds like they thought she'd come home and merrily take care of the brats while they run off on a 'vacation', leaving her to deal with their mess. And then, at the end of her college stint, she's coming back to be their personal caregiver.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 05:09 |
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tactlessbastard posted:I'm reading the bitch about students thread and I'm in about 2015 and meanwhile this thread has prematurely revealed that Absurd isn't a professor anymore. drat spoilers! What the hell? Are you people gossiping about me in one of the gazillion pages I've skipped over? Also I was never a professor, I TA'ed for 7 semester total in grad school.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 05:20 |
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Moon Atari posted:Red Dead Relationship /r/ed Dead Bedroom
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 05:46 |
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Okay r/deadbedrooms is horrifying. You know what's worse than being rejected? quote:Being told, "sure, but I need a glass of water first."
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 05:57 |
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relationships and legal advice have a good mix of weird, funny, cringy, sad, anger-inducing, and bizarre stories that they're usually fun to read. When I pull stories, I try to stay away from anything really depressing unless it's just that compelling and unique. deadbedrooms is just bleak. I don't read it, and I doubt I would find anything really good to share if I did. There's just not much to say.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 06:03 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:relationships and legal advice have a good mix of weird, funny, cringy, sad, anger-inducing, and bizarre stories that they're usually fun to read. When I pull stories, I try to stay away from anything really depressing unless it's just that compelling and unique. What % of replies are "just break up already!!"?
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 06:06 |
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I haven't really ventured in far enough to say. But I think a lot of the big support subs have strong rules against attacking the OP. And so you probably have a lot of people that are commiserating, which is nice, but, I don't know, just, is tough to read. I mean, relationships is a grab bag. You get people who are like "how do I stop my abusive husband from physically forbidding me from going to college?", but you also get people that are like "help me decide if I can include Red Dead Redemption DLC in a prenup?" Some of the support subs are like eavesdropping on an AA meeting.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 06:11 |
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Absurd Alhazred posted:What % of replies are "just break up already!!"? From my few minutes there a lot. I think the saddest post I saw was a girl with normal BMI stats asking if losing twenty pounds might make her bf want her. What keeps these people with no kids and no marriage in these hellholes?
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 06:17 |
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My(25f) husband(25m) of 7 years wants a one sided open relationship. This may get a little long and confusing. I’m sorry in advance! For the past year or so, my libido is slipping. We don’t have sex as much as we used to. He’s got a very high libido and is sexually adventurous whereas I’m more “vanilla”. We’ve been together 7 years but our sexual personality differences are taking a toll. Now I have a choice to make. Either be “freaky” or let him have a one sided open relationship so he can get his needs taken care of. I don’t like the idea of him being with someone else in that way. I’m currently working with doctors to fix my libido but he can’t wait any longer. I hate the idea of it but I’m horrible about speaking my mind. I don’t know what to say to make him change his mind or work with me in any way. He won’t even have sex with me when I’m feeling horny because I “don’t want to gently caress him like he wants” Tl;Dr: he wants an open relationship because I can’t please him how he wants.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My(25f) husband(25m) of 7 years wants a one sided open relationship. Oh now I’m having flashbacks.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 06:54 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My(25f) husband(25m) of 7 years wants a one sided open relationship. She should cut off his balls, but I do want to know what "freaky" thing he wants her to do. Pick posted:Blood on the stairs??!
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 07:14 |
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Pick posted:
Its the flannel, it attracts bearded hipsters who play poo poo instruments like moths to a flame...
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 07:24 |
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does anyone have a link to the 'Pete' story? I'd like to read it
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 07:47 |
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My boyfriend (26M) keeps starting new businesses and I don't know if I'm (27F) reacting appropriately.quote:Me & my boyfriend of 3 years have been arguing over this for the last week and I need some outside perspectives.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 07:49 |
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ah a "serial entrepreneur"
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 07:51 |
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quote:Mom is charging me $600 a month for rent, soon to be $700. Is this legal?
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 07:56 |
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Beachcomber posted:She should cut off his balls, but I do want to know what "freaky" thing he wants her to do. It's anal. It's always anal.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 08:08 |
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Grem posted:It's anal. It's always anal. Yet he somehow objects when she suggests ramming a cucumber up his rear end.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 08:45 |
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QuarkJets posted:ah a "serial entrepreneur" She should take the kid and show him the' door to success'. Above all else do not sign up for a mortgage with this man, unless you want the house repo'd in a year after his bf's latest brilliant idea goes bust.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 08:50 |
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LadyPictureShow posted:My boyfriend (26M) keeps starting new businesses and I don't know if I'm (27F) reacting appropriately. I'm just gonna go ahead and say it. If your partner still hangs out with his friends with the sole intention of smoking weed, do not let him impregnate you. It seems to be a common theme that these loving deadbeats do not have the capacity to accept and deal with parental responsibility or appreciate the concept of putting another human beings needs before their own.
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 10:13 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:whenever i go off sa i exclusively post in the estranged parents c-spam board Where's this?
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# ? Oct 25, 2018 10:15 |
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Even if he actually has money dating Elon Musk is a bad romantic decision, let alone trying to support the broke version.
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