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Midnight Voyager posted:If you guys are this weird about a bra that was tried on once, I hope you never buy clothes from stores. Because believe it or not, people try those on! They might have been worn by more than ONE person before! Even the bras! Shocking, I know. I guess if my boyfriend took me to a store and told me he was going to get me an outfit, but all of the outfits had been worn by his exes, that would be a little more of an apt comparison.
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big dyke energy posted:I guess if my boyfriend took me to a store and told me he was going to get me an outfit, but all of the outfits had been worn by his exes, that would be a little more of an apt comparison. They literally could have been. If it's stained and old, that's an obvious no. Something of sentimental value? Probably no. I guess I just don't give a poo poo if it was worn once, is nice, and fits. (hey guys, do you know they put little plastic things in the crotch of bathing suits for women? They do it because people try those on nude. You're welcome!)
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# ? Nov 4, 2018 23:43 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:They literally could have been. Why are you being so weird about this
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# ? Nov 4, 2018 23:44 |
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CharlestheHammer posted:Why are you being so weird about this Someone compared it to offering your partner some anal bubblegum, but this person's the weird one to you?
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# ? Nov 4, 2018 23:46 |
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Batterypowered7 posted:Someone compared it to offering your partner some anal bubblegum, but this person's the weird one to you? Anal bubblegum is less weird and more insanely dumb.
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# ? Nov 4, 2018 23:47 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:They literally could have been. You're supposed to try em on over your undies. Like if the dude wants to give it to his current gf, he can, but he shouldn't tell her it was his exes. He can be like 'oh I checked your size and bought this for you' or whatever, if he feels THAT bad about neither of his girlfriends wearing the bra. Or he could donate it and not worry about it ever again. It's a weird thing to keep harping on tho.
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# ? Nov 4, 2018 23:52 |
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People are mixing up two completely different ways of looking at this and it's driving me crazy. Offering the bra is either weird because - it's underwear and you don't offer used underwear at all! - it's something connected to the ex and you don't offer things your ex had I can get the second argument because as I said I'm honestly not super qualified to talk about ex stuff, but the first one is completely incomprehensible to me, especially if you read the OP just a little bit carefully. The woman in question tried the bra on, once, it's not used in any definition of the word, and obviously boobs are of a different quality than genitals, how is this even close to a reasonable comparison?! Please make up your mind what you actually find weird about this.
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# ? Nov 4, 2018 23:55 |
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big dyke energy posted:It's a weird thing to keep harping on tho. I just want to stop thinking about how the hospitalized girl in the story I found is probably being made into a skinsuit as we speak.
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CPS is dividing my relationsipquote:I'm 32 and live in a 2 level house. 9 months ago a single mom (25) moved in upstairs and we started a relationship.
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 00:15 |
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its about the fact it was an ex's possession you incredible spergs, and yes most people would feel weird about it no matter how "illogical!" you want to get about it anyways, have some office craziness from ask a manager: quote:A reader writes: answer: quote:Huh.
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 00:17 |
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big dyke energy posted:I guess if my boyfriend took me to a store and told me he was going to get me an outfit, but all of the outfits had been worn by his exes, that would be a little more of an apt comparison.
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Straight White Shark posted:CPS is dividing my relationsip I don’t even know where to start with the mess of a story. I do know that the English is terrible in it but the guy seems to be from America?
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 00:21 |
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:its about the fact it was an ex's possession you incredible spergs, and yes most people would feel weird about it no matter how "illogical!" you want to get about it
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 00:24 |
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:its about the fact it was an ex's possession you incredible spergs, and yes most people would feel weird about it no matter how "illogical!" you want to get about it Fire her Yes it's terrible that she was abused but a woman's life was pretty much ruined by her, for malicious reasons or not, and she absolutely cannot work there anymore
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 00:29 |
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Straight up report her to the police. Jail will keep her ex away from her
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 00:43 |
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Barudak posted:Straight up report her to the police. Jail will keep her ex away from her He did but they refused to do anything
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 00:45 |
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Straight White Shark posted:CPS is dividing my relationsip I'm getting tickled by the idea of a parenting time trial. How long does it take you to get these three kids under 6 bathed, in PJs and in bed? There's a three minute penalty for each outburst of tears!
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 01:24 |
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Blade Runner posted:He did but they refused to do anything the white man gets oppressed again!!
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 01:40 |
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I don't particularly have a dog in the slightly-used-bra fight, but I asked my wife out of curiosity and she's on board the "if it fit I'd take it" train She said to specify that it's because she places really high value on nice bras that fit right because most bras don't actually fit anyone (she is very passionate on this issue) She is currently yelling in from the next room that she wouldn't care if my ex was wearing the bra while we hosed, if it was an expensive bra that actually fit her she'd wear it But, I have been instructed to continue, there's probably nuances to be found here in the specific relationship, like, if you've been dating your current girlfriend for six months, and the ex in question was a five-year relationship and you almost got married, she can understand why jealousy would come up, like, it has to do with how secure she feels in the relationship compared to the ex Ok this has been "loquacius dictates a Something Awful post about bras for his wife" thanks for reading
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 01:42 |
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CharlestheHammer posted:Anal bubblegum is less weird and more insanely dumb. please dont kink shame
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 01:45 |
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you know I thought the whole idea of him not going for the obvious thought of “hey this is my ex’s, I should throw this out” and instead thinking “hmmmm I spent a lot of money on this, I bet my gf will wear this!!! ” was funny But nah let’s continue splitting hairs in a tedious derail and examine every fine detail of this under a microscope there should be a word for this let’s call it redditing
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 01:58 |
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a man and his cat https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LNeBf7bOTU
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 02:00 |
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failing forward posted:What if you don't have one of those friends? Wait... am I...? The whole point of this thread is to say "at least I'm not them" over and over
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 02:00 |
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I hate to get autistic about the bra thing but I can definitely see why a woman would get uncomfortable with a) learning that her boyfriend still has something of his ex’s, especially lingerie, and b) being asked if she wants said intimate item. Even if logically he just forgot he had it and there’s nothing weird about him keeping it she might still feel strange about it. Personally if it was me in the banana hammock scenario I’d wear the hand-me-down banana hammock (after washing it, obviously) but other people wouldn’t and that’s fine. Now this loving Jane/Mary story is loving wild, gotta feel bad for everyone except the husband here.
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loquacius posted:I don't particularly have a dog in the slightly-used-bra fight, but I asked my wife out of curiosity and she's on board the "if it fit I'd take it" train Weird account share but okay
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 02:04 |
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there is always going to be a day when we ask ourselves if we made the right choice, and with regrets comes consequences. it's life.
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 02:08 |
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Blade Runner posted:Fire her Yea I don't know how 'doctoring the books to make it appear a coworker committed fraud' isn't fraud itself and an immediately termination. I'd bet the victim would have a good chance at a lawsuit against the company.
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 02:10 |
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I bet this is one of those cases that makes the legal department take a minute to stare at the facts and sigh
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Pirate Radar posted:I bet this is one of those cases that makes the legal department take a minute to stare at the facts and sigh LOL IT BUDGET SLASHES NEEDED lets go and waste time elsewhere
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 02:15 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I (23F) think I got myself trapped in a bad relationship with my (41M) S.O. This made my skin crawl the most. She is already an abuse survivor. Predators almost have a 6th sense for sniffing out vulnerable people, and this disgusts me to no end. Several people I've known go got assaulted got assaulted more than once by different people because of their vulnerability and difficulty in enforcing boundaries. This guy deserves to get his face smashed in. Smirking_Serpent posted:My [37F] Life Long Friend [37F] Humiliated Me by Crashing a Work Party and Being Rude. The 'friend' suddenly senses she holds no more power over her and turns toxic. What a nasty person. Oh and about this sperglord with the BPD girl - my very first girlfriend had (undiagnosed) BPD. BPD people often seek out naieve and vulnerable partners, too, because they will respond best to their manipulations, suicide threats, extreme mood swings, etc. because they don't know any better. It's a long time ago and I'm not bitter over it anymore, but God drat this girl should have sought help instead of traumatizing a long series of insecure boyfriends. Having BPD is terrible I'm sure, but it doesn't excuse making other people's lives a living hell.
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 02:15 |
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Imagining having to deal with that mess and the fallout is the only time I've ever felt a tinge of sympathy for someone in an HR department
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 02:16 |
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MrQwerty posted:Imagining having to deal with that mess and the fallout is the only time I've ever felt a tinge of sympathy for someone in an HR department All major corps hr depts are immune to charms anbd other things, its kinda funny actually.
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Sierra Nevadan posted:Yea I don't know how 'doctoring the books to make it appear a coworker committed fraud' isn't fraud itself and an immediately termination. If this was really somehow the only option, why not doctor the books to make HERSELF look like she was the one committing fraud so she could have a private audience with authorities?
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Motronic posted:If this was really somehow the only option, why not doctor the books to make HERSELF look like she was the one committing fraud so she could have a private audience with authorities? I mean, probably her abusive husband who also works at the company would become very involved in that immediately if she was the one being investigated tbf
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Straight White Shark posted:CPS is dividing my relationsip OP is omitting all the drug use by himself, the girlfriend upstairs, and her ex, because otherwise nothing any of these people are doing makes any goddamn sense.
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 03:00 |
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IMO they should continue to employ Jane, but then make sure to inform her abusive husband of her location when he gets out of jail. Just like fingering a coworker for fraud was they only way she could contact the police, getting her murdered is the only way they can manage to fire her.
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LabyaMynora posted:OP is omitting all the drug use by himself, the girlfriend upstairs, and her ex, because otherwise nothing any of these people are doing makes any goddamn sense. oh yeah there’s definitely a healthy dose of recreational drug use he conveniently left out
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 03:13 |
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Betrayed by a "friend", ruining my life after a year stillquote:TL;DR: So called "friend" read my personal counseling file weekly and messed with my head. Still struggle with her and the situation months later. When asked how the boyfriend acts: quote:Yeah it is very weird the more I think about it. My new counselor was shocked that I would even talk to her after everything that happened. and (all their heads)
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# ? Nov 5, 2018 04:20 |
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Bf’s friends came over to my house with guns and handled them unsafely when we were all drunk. My boyfriend had his two friends (all of us are in our early 20’s) come over today and one of them had recently bought a new gun so both of them brought theirs over to show us. We all got drunk as soon as they arrived. Now, everyone is aware I DO NOT like guns. I was fine with them being here since they weren’t loaded (at first) but these guys were constantly pulling the triggers on their unloaded guns in my house and it made me very uncomfortable. I slid into the conversation how I think gun safety and etiquette is important but I was quickly dismissed with “they aren’t loaded so it doesn’t matter”. My boyfriend then went to the bathroom and one of his friends loaded his gun. My boyfriend then came out and they then handed my boyfriend the unloaded gun and said “What, are you afraid to pull the trigger? I haven’t seen you do it once” I immediately said not to and that he should never pull the trigger on a gun unless he was planning on shooting something. He then pulled the trigger after some more of his friends urging him to do so and then I got upset. I didn’t say much but I was clearly upset and it was awkward. I explained how I didn’t like being ignored about something like this and that it was unsafe especially since we were all drunk. He said “I’m sorry” and his friends said “look he said he’s sorry...” as if to pressure me into getting over it. This is MY HOUSE not my boyfriends. One of the friends then proceeded to take a picture of me looking annoyed and posted it to a group Snapchat with a caption about how I’m ruining their fun. Some other people in the group called me a “snowflake” along with some other things. The two friends then left without me or my boyfriend noticing. I then had a conversation with my boyfriend and we’re essentially on the same page now. He was drunk and gave into peer pressure, but now I really do not want those two to come back into my house. These are my boyfriends closest friends but I think they were being really disrespectful by putting us all in danger. I have no idea what to do about this or if it’s fair to expect my boyfriend to stop being friends with them or if I should just forgive them or what. TLDR; BF’s friends were pulling the trigger on their guns in my house and peer pressured my boyfriend into doing the same. They didn’t like me expecting proper gun safety and made fun of me to others for “ruining their hang”. I don’t know how to proceed.
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LadyPictureShow posted:Betrayed by a "friend", ruining my life after a year still In addition, she needs to look at how the statute of limitations clock works for HIPAA/whatever relevant privacy law was being violated by their system not being sufficiently secure, she may be able to file a complaint. Smirking_Serpent posted:Bfs friends came over to my house with guns and handled them unsafely when we were all drunk. , and if boyfriend doesn't do the same, tell him to gently caress his guns if he likes them so much. Also LOL @ this display of responsible gun ownership. Violating safety rules written in blood to own your friend's girlfriend.
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