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Man that's tough; in some couples, your partner is your buffer against the craziness of their own extended family. It seems like she lost her buffer, and the anger of losing her husband combined with her pent-up anger at her husband's parents for past mistreatment got all mixed up and things exploded. Grief manifests in weird-rear end ways and they both just exploded the anger of it all at one another. This could be a growing experience where they connect with one another, if one party just let go and stepped forward to apologize.
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From Savage Love:quote:My small bedroom window looks DIRECTLY into my neighbor's kitchen, living room, and bathroom. We're close enough that their apartment takes up my entire view—I literally can't look out my window without looking into their apartment. (Happy to send you a photo, if you doubt how obtrusive this apartment is.) The best part of Dan's response: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jkO0AUUfPH0
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What's Air BnB's advantage in stubbornly leaving a listing up if they keep having to refund the money and put up in a hotel everyone that uses it?
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Nov 23, 2018 15:08
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Also, it's probably a long shot but you might be able to get custody of your kids if you take the 'my wife is an outrageous slut' tack. She'll show up with her baby bump and her boyfriend and bam primary custody.
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Nov 23, 2018 15:11
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tactlessbastard posted:Also, it's probably a long shot but you might be able to get custody of your kids if you take the 'my wife is an outrageous slut' tack. Not unless a court finds that it impacts her fitness as a parent. Also attempting this would require a spine, which dude obviously doesn't have. She cheated on me throughout the marriage and our solution was to simply let her continue doing that lmao.
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Hellblazer187 posted:Not unless a court finds that it impacts her fitness as a parent. Also attempting this would require a spine, which dude obviously doesn't have. The only way that guy could be more owned is if he was the one that opened the relationship in the first place.
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Nov 23, 2018 15:21
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tactlessbastard posted:What's Air BnB's advantage in stubbornly leaving a listing up if they keep having to refund the money and put up in a hotel everyone that uses it? What I don't get is why it was in the guys advantage to effectively pay them $4200 to gently caress off. He had managed to stop them renting the place out. Then he just needs to sue them for damages + costs. With the signed contract it seems pretty simple to get a lawyer to do that really. But instead he did himself for $8400?
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Nov 23, 2018 15:30
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If your tenants are illegally subletting your property, surely there's a better solution than handing them nearly ten grand?
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I would also think that if a property owner said to Air BnB, "Hey I'm the owner of this property and the person listing it has no right to rent it out, please remove the listing," it would be in Air BnB's interest to take down the listing, as they are exposing themselves to legal liability. Also, maybe Air BnB shouldn't do business with weirdo businesses that rent places out via Air BnB and then sublet them against the owner's wishes, but then I'm not a silicon valley venture capitalist, so what do I know?
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LabyaMynora posted:I would also think that if a property owner said to Air BnB, "Hey I'm the owner of this property and the person listing it has no right to rent it out, please remove the listing," it would be in Air BnB's interest to take down the listing, as they are exposing themselves to legal liability. He's the kind of person who would hand someone five grand instead of suing them for the extensive property damage they've done. AirBnB can smell his fear.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:he was pretty casual with his hygiene /r/relationships: he was pretty casual with his hygiene
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Theophany posted:Penance for my previous transgression. Oh god, it's like he meekly asked the guy living in his house to please maybe not nut inside his wife and got shut down. Husband's life makes me very sad 
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My friend (34M) is being conned by his 'girlfriend' (43F) and her ex-husband. My friend Tom* (34M) has been in a secret relationship for about a decade with another friend of ours Laura* (43F) (there's a few of us, we all used to work together). I'm the only person who knows, and he told me just over a year ago. To the rest of the world, they pretend they're just friends (and don't do a brilliant job of it – nearly everyone we used to work with was convinced they were dating). I understood back when they were working in the same office that they might not want people to know, and that's fair enough. However, the charade continued even after we all left. When he eventually told me everything last year, I was horrified. Basically, Laura is separated but still married (to Bill*), and still has a house with a mortgage with him. What disturbed me even more, is that Tom has been PAYING their mortgage all these years, and made the final payment this month. He has been trying to get her to divorce him but there's always some kind of issue that puts a spanner in it – e.g. the marriage certificate was lost; the papers were lost in the mail... all these bullshit excuses. A few years ago, Laura moved in with Tom, but because she can't/won't get a divorce with Bill, it's soured their relationship. They have separate bedrooms and he's not sure he can trust her. Bill has a gambling addiction and together they have a lot of overdrafts and credit card debt, plus the gambling debt, which Tom has been helping them to pay off. He's tried asking Laura to move out, but whenever he gives an ultimatum she starts crying and tells him she'll be out on the street if he makes her leave. She has a well-paid white collar job and one of his reasons for not choosing a smaller place was because of "all the clothes she has" – probably all bought on credit, but nonetheless. There's no way she would be homeless if she had to move out. I keep telling him, you've waited so many years for this divorce to happen and for your relationship to become public, and I think Laura and Bill are taking you for a ride. I've suggested he find a smaller flat, hand in his notice at his current place, move out and give her a month to do the same (before the new tenants move in). He doesn't want to do this for two reasons – he thinks the divorce is getting closer to finally happening (I'm skeptical) and he's worried about how she'll support herself on her own. He's also told me that he has mixed feelings about her now after all they've been through and is not sure he loves her anymore. This charade he's had to keep up has been entirely for her benefit and at her request. He hates living a double life, not being able to tell his friends or family what is going on. It's isolating him because the people he knows feel like he's hiding stuff and that he's a 'dark horse'. His parents and sister live in another continent so they can only go on what he tells them. I've told him he needs to tell his family but his parents are getting old and he's worried it'll make them sick with worry and that they'll just add to the pressure he already feels. I really want to help him, and over the last year and a half have tried so many times to get him to cut his losses and leave her, but he won't. He feels trapped (and is self-aware enough to realise he may have Stockholm syndrome) but is anxious about the fallout and upheaval that would occur from asking her to leave. I told him his friends and family would be totally behind him and he's done nothing wrong but to be too trusting. Fellow Redditors, I'm at a loss. How can I get him to see the light? Thank you for reading. *Names changed TL;DR; : My friend has been scammed into paying off his girlfriend's and her husband's debts, who are still married but separated. He's been trying to get her to divorce him but hasn't been able to. He won't listen to reason, he's in too deep.
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Pirate Radar posted:Who did spray poo poo all over Howard Stern’s celebrity bathroom? Tim Sabean who was the manager of Stern's channels on Sirius.
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An AirBnB property you rent out but the entire floor is set up like a trap door so you can just get rid of overstaying guests with a simple pull of a lever.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My friend (34M) is being conned by his 'girlfriend' (43F) and her ex-husband. It's been said many times before but lmao goddamn the poo poo people put up with just to not be alone
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dudeness posted:An AirBnB property you rent out but the entire floor is set up like a trap door so you can just get rid of overstaying guests with a simple pull of a lever. How would the furniture not fall in the hole?
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Jack-Off Lantern posted:How would the furniture not fall in the hole? You get inflatable furniture and fill it with helium. Tell guests to just pull it down by the attached string when you want to sit on a couch or something. Get hardwood floors so you can rollerskate around your home.
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Jack-Off Lantern posted:How would the furniture not fall in the hole? Bolt it to the floor.
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cumshitter posted:Tim Sabean who was the manager of Stern's channels on Sirius. And here I thought Gary's poo aim was as bad as his ceremonial first pitch aim. CannonFodder fucked around with this message at 18:53 on Nov 23, 2018 |
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Motronic posted:/r/relationships: he was pretty casual with his hygiene I like it. ?
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I'm [25/M] tired of my sister's [30/F] ridiculous relationships. New BF [probably 30, M and VERY gay] is another in a long, seedy, line.quote:My sister has an amazing penchant for picking the wrong guy. If she had to choose between "Average Guy #1" and "Criminal" she'd choose criminal because "no way would Average Guy #1 go for a gal like me!". Honestly, ever since I was a just a teen, I can remember her boyfriends vividly - there was the guy who tried to steal my parent's car; the guy who was sure that the middle east wasn't real and would have a panic attack when anyone said otherwise; there was the activist who wound-up charged with multiple rapes; there was the "doctor" who wasn't a doctor at all but a janitor. There was the international business mogul who traveled a lot but was actually an uber driver with a wife. And there was the "Importer/Exporter" who always had fancy gifts - all of it stolen. Random set of watches, vitamins, bedding, gourmet food that was in distribution boxes, random car parts and electronics. He went "underground" and she never heard from him again. Safe to say, if my sister is dating you, there's a problem. Get help.
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Freudian posted:I'm [25/M] tired of my sister's [30/F] ridiculous relationships. New BF [probably 30, M and VERY gay] is another in a long, seedy, line. this is absolutely hilarious
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mods please change my name to "probably 30, VERY gay"
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The Iron Rose posted:this is absolutely hilarious This is my sister-in-laws. Fill a room with 100 jerks, creeps, assholes, etc, and 1 decent guy, and they'll go for the losers. Every. Single. Time.
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Nov 24, 2018 00:15
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quote:there was the "doctor" who wasn't a doctor at all but a janitor. I may have seen this tv show
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could someone describe how they would recommend breaking this cycle? like do you think people can pretty quickly tell she has low self esteem? or do you think she ignores things/lets too much poo poo slide? is her 'scrub' meter off?? asking for a friend
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Boiled Water posted:I may have seen this tv show I’m pretty sure Art Vandelay came up there too.
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Edgar Allan Pwned posted:could someone describe how they would recommend breaking this cycle? like do you think people can pretty quickly tell she has low self esteem? or do you think she ignores things/lets too much poo poo slide? is her 'scrub' meter off?? Maybe she just sucks and is actually dating ppl in her league lol. 
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Sooo I (m24) told my niece (f21) she would make a cute girlfriend ...... now it haunts me Sooo a few years ago I said something I terribly regret saying to my niece. To this day I feel horrible if I think about it. I’m looking for people’s honest opinion what to do. So anybody who’d like to chime in on this go ahead. Simplified story: When I was in university I was doing pretty well in my studies and had just gone through a heavy breakup. Despite of the succes at uni I felt like poo poo. Really demotivated and depressed really. When summer came I planned to go to a music festival with my niece and some friends. She has been really dear to me as we grew up together in the family. Whilst having fun at the festival we indulged in some substance usage. At a sudden moment of euphoria I said to her, while having a great time with her, : “You would make such a great girlfriend if you weren’t my niece” - at this moment I realized how f’d up this sounded. Now my heart was quicker than my mind at this point and later explained To her I wasn’t in to her. Just having a great time with her as family and sharing excitement at the festival. Obviously the ‘vitamins’ did not help keeping my emotions in check. She was a bit struck by my words but was OK with my explanation. Later in those months we still partied and had more nights out with her friends and some of mine. So basically we still met each other regularly which led me to believe it we didn’t feel awkward around each other. We hang out lots of times after it and that was OK and nothing out of the ordinary. I never could rid the feeling that I still owe her a big apology and explanation what had going on at that point in my life. We’re both adults at the moment and I don’t what to feel poo poo about something I said to one of my dearest family members. Fast forward to 2018: I’m dealing with health issues and just ended my job as I couldn’t continue anymore. One of my goals is to work on my emotional problems in my life to reconnect and reconcile to those I felt I hurt and who I value. Just typing this gives off a sense of relief. Should I apologize to her and explain why and the story behind I said something like that? Yes bringing it up literal years later couldn’t possibly make it more awkward.
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Boiled Water posted:I may have seen this tv show
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Khazar-khum posted:This is my sister-in-laws. Fill a room with 100 jerks, creeps, assholes, etc, and 1 decent guy, and they'll go for the losers. Every. Single. Time. You're supposed to flip those numbers when you set up an explanation like this. Think about it, is winding up with a jerk in a group of 99% jerks actually demonstrating anything?
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Freudian posted:I'm [25/M] tired of my sister's [30/F] ridiculous relationships. New BF [probably 30, M and VERY gay] is another in a long, seedy, line. I want a TV show about each of this woman’s exes, especially the guy who doesn’t believe in the Middle East.
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Pirate Radar posted:I want a TV show about each of this woman’s exes, especially the guy who doesn’t believe in the Middle East.
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:he's just confused and thinks they're talking about middle earth hobbits did 9/11
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:he's just confused and thinks they're talking about middle earth No blood for pipeweed
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Empirically provable that second breakfast exists.
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Anomalous Blowout posted:Sooo I (m24) told my niece (f21) she would make a cute girlfriend ...... now it haunts me Blergh and all, but if you said that poo poo while rolling on ecstasy or Molly or whatever (are they the same thing? I'm old.), just forget it and pretend it never happened. And don't do those kind of drugs around family members, ever.
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