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He can't control what his daughter does at her mother's house. I guess I forgot to mention the divorce initially. Still, the assumption that he's a lovely parent pisses me the gently caress off. HAHAHA i know lots of bad people. Yeah, along with a few judgemental fuckheads on the internet.
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I wouldn't be shocked to see a rash of issues like that related to tumblr because of the moronic ways they're defining "adult content". The system is automated and flagging posts as "adult" that are absolutely not even remotely adult. Like pictures of deserts, or anything critical of Tumblr. Most hilariously is a post that's just a screenshot of tumblr's stock price taking a massive poo poo when they announced it. Everyone who reblogs it gets the little message that it was flagged. It's a glorious trash fire, but there are also nonzero people whose actual income comes from selling whatever imagery on there who are gonna be hosed. E:  Also you really don't "let" a teenager do anything on the internet. That is always and forever a losing battle.
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Dec 4, 2018 21:37
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16 year olds can drive literal cars to places you can't monitor. People who can drive cars are adults in everything but the difference between which jail they'll go to if they kill someone while doing it. Perhaps you should stop snooping in their internet use at this point. If there's creepy guys on the internet perhaps the real solution is to stop letting guys grow up to be creeps.
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Dec 4, 2018 21:49
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Rhyno posted:He's a struggling single parent dealing with a rotten ex wife who is blaming the child for her problems. Yeah, that was in poor taste. How is the ex wife blaming the kid? Saying that it's likely for attention? I agree with the sentiment above that attention is likely something she does actually need at this time. If she's really as reclusive as you stated, how much faith do you have in the father having a comprehensive understanding of the troubles she's going through. How did you/they come to the tumbler being the last straw conclusion? From the sounds of it this is going to be a difficult time for that family, and while likely that the ex is a terrible person, I doubt she'd genuinely want to do/say anything that'll hurt her daughter. Maybe I'm wrong though.
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All the information I have comes from the broken and possibly drunken texts he is sending. His girlfriend is in NC for work so he's dealing with this alone. "***** says she does this poo poo all the time for attention" - which makes me think maybe his daughter has been cutting herself? I doubt he is 100% aware of his daughters problems and struggles, he works 2nd shift so he only sees her a little each day when she stays with him. I've made it very clear he can come stay with us so he doesn't have to be alone but he's declined. He wasn't even aware what tumblr was until recently.
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IOwnCalculus posted:STR: Dell has a few lasers that are literally rebranded Brothers. They are just different enough that you can't use a Brother toner in it, but the usual suspects have just as many cheap as gently caress toners for the Dell versions as they do for the Brothers. Depending on when you buy you might be able to get a better deal on the Dell - I did. On the bad rebranding side, Samsung laser printers are rebadged HP, and the drivers are the absolute clusterfuck you'd immediately think of when combining HP and Samsung. Avoid both. Will vote for Brother, the cheap ones are basic, but will happily keep chugging along.
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Ether Frenzy posted:16 year olds can drive literal cars to places you can't monitor. People who can drive cars are adults in everything but the difference between which jail they'll go to if they kill someone while doing it. Perhaps you should stop snooping in their internet use at this point. Well you're wrong obviously, because 16 is legally a child whether you agree with it or not. Also I was under the impression the parents were actively allowing her selling porn drawings on Tumblr, which if that's the case is bad parenting, but from what Rhyno is saying it sounds like the Mother is the one allowing it. If dad isn't around much it's hard to know exactly what's going on so i can see why he would be freaking out.
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If you're responsible enough to drive a car, which can kill someone, you're responsible enough to participate in the internet if you want to.Applebees Appetizer posted:Well you're wrong obviously, because 16 is legally a child whether you agree with it or not. How on earth can you be under the impression that X or Y is happening when the only report any of us has had is "I think a girl I don't even really know is doing something on the internet" - Rhyno
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Ether Frenzy posted:16 year olds can drive literal cars to places you can't monitor. People who can drive cars are adults in everything but the difference between which jail they'll go to if they kill someone while doing it. Perhaps you should stop snooping in their internet use at this point. If you're the parent of a 16 year old and do not monitor them to some degree, you're doing parenting wrong. They are legally your responsibility, and morally/ethically your responsibility, too. If you're allowing a side-Tumblr hustle to continue from your 16 year old girl, there is a problem. These things shouldn't be hard to understand.
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Ether Frenzy posted:If you're responsible enough to drive a car, which can kill someone, you're responsible enough to participate in the internet if you want to. You're obviously not a parent, but you should still be able to remember when you were a teenager and could not be completely trusted with everything. It's not up to the child, it's the parent's decision to make, period. quote:How on earth can you be under the impression that X or Y is happening when the only report any of us has had is One page back Rhyno posted:16. Very introverted. I don't even know if she has any IRL friends. Any time I've gone over there she's been shut away in her room. She's definitely a bit odd as she spends a lot of time drawing overly sexualized cartoon characters (the tumblr connection). I guess she sold commissions through there and made a few bucks here and there.
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Tomarse posted:I just had a ‘beyond meat’ burger. Yeah, it wasn't bad, but burger is cheaper so not much a draw for me. I started getting fruit drunk today.  
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The Royal Nonesuch posted:A couple days ago my friend sent me a photo of that exact same robot at a work conference in Estonia Thanks for this, I had a look and found the company; Starship Technologies... now to find out why this was here at work 
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Rhyno posted:16. Very introverted. I don't even know if she has any IRL friends. Any time I've gone over there she's been shut away in her room. She's definitely a bit odd as she spends a lot of time drawing overly sexualized cartoon characters (the tumblr connection). I guess she sold commissions through there and made a few bucks here and there. "A teenage girl who ignores me, there must be a problem" - a 40 year old man "I'd better speculate on a complete stranger's sexual life and start making judgements!" - other 40 year old men on the internet Applebees Appetizer posted:You're obviously not a parent, but you should still be able to remember when you were a teenager and could not be completely trusted with everything. It's not up to the child, it's the parent's decision to make, period. You're correct, I'm not a parent - I only have it from the "I would have been disgusted to find out that my parents' acquaintances were discussing my personal life with a bunch of random strangers and making weird assumptions based on knowing literally nothing about me" angle that I would have had when I was 16. These things shouldn't be that hard to understand.
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Applebees Appetizer posted:So you still have the mentality of a teenager, got it. Aren't you the one who won't vote?  Teenagers don't vote either.Sorry I think weird patriarchal thoughts about other people's nearly-grown daughters is "a bad thing".
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Suburban Dad posted:The internet was a mistake. You might say, The internet makes you stupid.
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Right or wrong, trying to utterly monitor and dictate your kid's internet activities is a fool's errand once they hit the mid teens. The futile attempts will just make them trust you even less.
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Monitoring in this case mostly means “check in every once in a while” since watching their traffic on wireshark is what crazy people do
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Ether Frenzy posted:Sorry I think weird patriarchal thoughts about other people's nearly-grown daughters is "a bad thing". Well you honestly sound like a bitchy teenager defending teenager rights when there aren't many to begin with. Driving isn't a right just because they can, neither is using the internet, and if you think teenagers should be left to their own devices you're daft.
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Applebees Appetizer posted:Well you honestly sound like a bitchy teenager defending teenager rights when there aren't many to begin with. Do your kids have security cams in their bedrooms? Y/n
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"My kid's rights are what I decide they are" is exactly the recipe for a hosed up teenager who tries to kill themself because tumblr is self-immolating, hth
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Javid posted:"My kid's rights are what I decide they are" is exactly the recipe for a hosed up teenager who tries to kill themself because tumblr is self-immolating, hth So is, "I trust my kid to use the internet to surf porn and interact with strangers, he/she has enough of a frontal lobe by now to do the right thing because hey, they can drive you know."
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No, that's how people grow up to be adults because they can apply the understanding of responsibility and trust that operating a car entails to other ventures instead of having their parents run in to "help" them with all their important decisionmaking as they reach adult maturity.
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Tomarse posted:I just had a ‘beyond meat’ burger. I had one but they put so much mayo on it I couldn't really tell if I liked the patty or not. Will retry with less condiments and report back tho.
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Ether Frenzy posted:No, that's how people grow up to be adults because they can apply the understanding of responsibility and trust that operating a car entails to other ventures instead of having their parents run in to "help" them with all their important decisionmaking as they reach adult maturity. So because they can drive they should be treated like an adult? lol when I and every friend I had got our licenses it gave us more freedom to gently caress off and get into more trouble than we were already getting into. We've all told stories here in this thread about it before. Do some research about brain development, specifically the frontal lobe. A teens brain isn't fully developed and won't be until their mid 20's, as a result their judgement skills are poo poo. No wonder it's an issue for parents.
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Ether Frenzy posted:You're correct, I'm not a parent - I only have it from the "I would have been disgusted to find out that my parents' acquaintances were discussing my personal life with a bunch of random strangers and making weird assumptions based on knowing literally nothing about me" angle that I would have had when I was 16. This world isn't what it was 30 years ago. Giving a teenager unfettered access to the internet with zero oversight is reckless, but if you don't have kids, I can understand a lack of comprehension. It really does change your perspective. Ether Frenzy posted:Sorry I think weird patriarchal thoughts about other people's nearly-grown daughters is "a bad thing". And the fact that you think 16 years old is "nearly-grown" punctuates that. Kids of that age are still kids. They have complex thoughts and are just coming to the point of being truly self-aware, but to just say "Hey y'all, just have at that internet and do fetish drawings for whomever you bump into on Tumblr" is asinine. I respect my kid and recognize that he's going to make choices that I may or may not be okay with... but if I see he's routinely camping out on some fringe site, well, that's when you have to parent. FAT32 SHAMER posted:Monitoring in this case mostly means “check in every once in a while” And that's exactly what I do. See what pops up frequently and in general, I don't worry about it, because he's a good kid. But I'll watch to make sure he stays on that track.
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Having controlling and micromanaging Parent’s is how I became the teen who was very very good at keeping secrets from my parents to the point I had my nose pierced and ear gauges and they didn’t find out for two years Not to mention all the other way less innocent things I managed to hide from them
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FAT32 SHAMER posted:Having controlling and micromanaging Parent’s is how I became the teen who was very very good at keeping secrets from my parents to the point I had my nose pierced and ear gauges and they didn’t find out for two years Go on...
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Did everyone get out of the wrong side of bed or receive the wrong type of gift card today? Feels like everyone's monthly cycles have synced up.
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spog posted:Did everyone get out of the wrong side of bed or receive the wrong type of gift card today? It's that time. In other news, I just got an air fryer. Rhyno, teach me your ways.
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Applebees Appetizer posted:You're obviously not a parent, but you should still be able to remember when you were a teenager and could not be completely trusted with everything. It's not up to the child, it's the parent's decision to make, period. I very clearly remember being a teenager... ...growing up when "internet access" was synonymous with "via a landline." WiFi existed only on paper at the time and only the children of the very wealthy had cell phones, and even then they were only useful for voice calls. And I very clearly recall having access to internet porn even with all those restrictions in place, and when it was still in its relative infancy. There realistically wasn't much my parents could have done to stop me at the time that I couldn't have worked around - short of removing our computer from the house when they weren't there. As an IT professional now I get a good laugh at the idea that you could block a website with any degree of efficacy. Sure, it's possible in your home or on a device you control. But when internet connected devices with HD playback capability can be had for a song (say, a three plus year old mid-range smartphone), and finding open internet is as simple as walking a few blocks to the nearest retail establishment (or even within range of a lazy neighbor) I think you'll start to understand how futile this all is, and why accepting this is something they're going to eventually discover and potentially like and giving them the proper tools to process it is a better approach. Unless you homeschool your children and never let them out of your sight. In which case a little internet porn is going to be the least of their worries long-term. Geoj fucked around with this message at 00:57 on Dec 5, 2018 |
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Geoj posted:As an IT professional now I get a good laugh at the idea that you could block a website with any degree of efficacy. Sure, it's possible in your home or on a device you control. But when internet connected devices with HD playback capability can be had for a song (say, a three plus year old mid-range smartphone), and finding open internet is as simple as walking a few blocks to the nearest retail establishment (or even within range of a lazy neighbor) I think you'll start to understand how futile this all is. Locks just keep an honest man honest. There's always ways around regulations... whether it's cars or computers or girls. It's a parent's job to put reasonable barriers to the more stupid choices therein. In other news, my cousin just got a new CB300R, and it makes me want a biek.
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Goober Peas posted:Go on... Posting here is my greatest secret shame obv
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FAT32 SHAMER posted:Posting here is my greatest secret shame obv I'm tellin' on u. I know your number on Facesbuks.
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spog posted:Did everyone get out of the wrong side of bed or receive the wrong type of gift card today? I just don't like big gobs of mayo on my burgers. Or anywhere but scandinavian seafood sammiches/as part of a coleslaw.
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NumbersMatching320 posted:I just don't like big gobs of mayo on my burgers. Or anywhere but scandinavian seafood sammiches/as part of a coleslaw. I got into mayo really late in life and I honestly don't know where you are supposed to use it, other than in some salads.
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