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Cythereal posted:It's so hard to be a man these days. This is a little too on the nose. 
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Hellblazer187 posted:It wasn't dudes reading 50 Shades. It wasn't dudes reading erotica, period
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Cythereal posted:It looks like I'm losing my family, all my respect at church, and the love of my life, all because I said yes to that slut. It's so hard to be a man these days. 
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Taima posted:It wasn't dudes reading erotica, period Speak for yourself.
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Freudian posted:Speak for yourself. Yeah I switched to reading erotica because I can't watch porn without worrying I'm watching sex trafficking victims
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Freudian posted:Speak for yourself. Yeah, erotica is pretty great, and like DrunkNerds said you don't have to feel guilty about actresses being taken advantage of
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SciFiDownBeat posted:I think this is one of those things where it's much easier to say how you should react rather than how you really would react. I mean in this specific situation the church is clearly a toxic environment and this guy is an rear end in a top hat (assuming it's even real), but I think one could understand someone having a negative reaction to being told by their partner that their marriage is a sham. Especially if kids are part of the picture. There's a difference between a negative reaction, and just refusing to have any empathy at all. It's not just that he's reacting negatively, it's that he doesn't care about his wife as a person, at all. She is His Wife, and all that matters is that she continues to be His Wife. I'm going to comfortably assume I'd probably not react the way he did, because he is a poo poo person. I'm also not sure how betrayed I would need to feel to not feel lovely about something like the fact that every time my wife had sex with me, she was probably forcing herself and feeling like poo poo the entire time. Maybe if they killed my parents or something? Cheating on me after I pushed them into a threesome, after marrying me because they had to repress their sexuality due to religion, probably wouldn't be enough though. Edit: Not saying I wouldn't be angry or irrational, just that I can't imagine just.. not caring at all? In any way?
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Burt Sexual posted:I was trying to think of circumstances where I’d come into a substantial 5 figure windfall with no traceability. Bonuses would through my company and their bank, inheriting would likely come from a trust/bank, selling a car for cash? Personally I wouldn’t take cash for a car, probably only a cashiers cheque or whatever from a bank. I don’t want your counterfeit bitcoin money. Could you buy 10000 dollars in gold bars, bury them in your walls, "find" them and sell it to a reputable person for cash? I guess the problem then is the initial purchase which would need to be done under the table somewhere
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Araenna posted:
You're martyring yourself pretty hard here and assuming a lot about lesbians and it's weird sorry
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SciFiDownBeat posted:I think this is one of those things where it's much easier to say how you should react rather than how you really would react. I mean in this specific situation the church is clearly a toxic environment and this guy is an rear end in a top hat (assuming it's even real), but I think one could understand someone having a negative reaction to being told by their partner that their marriage is a sham. Especially if kids are part of the picture. Look, I obviously don't know how I'd react if I'd been raised in a system where women were basically property, and this was accepted fact by everyone I knew; I'm just saying I can't emphasize with this guy's reaction at all. Plus, he posts on reddit, and I feel like anyone who's online enough to have r/relationships as a line of defense should have come across the idea that women are people somewhere down the road. It's not exactly esoteric knowledge.
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Meme Emulator posted:Could you buy 10000 dollars in gold bars, bury them in your walls, "find" them and sell it to a reputable person for cash? I guess the problem then is the initial purchase which would need to be done under the table somewhere If you know someone who can get you $10,000 worth of gold on the down low, that person probably also knows someone who launders money.
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I was pulled over after 12AM. I was speeding. My bumper sticker is Rasta & says ‘Positive’. I passed every Field sobriety test that was administered to me & Blew a .000 in AZ ; the Zero-Tolerance State. I was very respectful to the officers as they searched me and I even allowed them to search my entire vehicle. They did not Believe me as I continued to tell them “I Am Sober”. They booked me in Jail and took my Blood. Here’s my Question.... If THC metabolites stay in your blood for up to 1 month, How can that blood test prove to them I was under the influence..? Thanks in Advance for serious responses. My Court date is next month. The Test came back Positive for THC metabolites.
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Miserable Maid posted:Yeah, erotica is pretty great, and like DrunkNerds said you don't have to feel guilty about actresses being taken advantage of Made up people are real people too~ The video-game situation is probably not that uncommon. People get upset when they feel ignored, even people who are not young, depressed or checked out of the relationship. The dude could have been upset that she's on her phone all the time, and she could have been upset that he's stalking off to play videogames as soon as they come home. Maybe they were tired, maybe they had plans and hopes for the evening or maybe they were just sick of seeing the same behavior all the time. Doubling down instead of letting it go, or talking it out, and then letting it turn into a break-up situation definitely means they're young, depressed or checked out of the relationship though. Araenna posted:I'm also not sure how betrayed I would need to feel to not feel lovely about something like the fact that every time my wife had sex with me, she was probably forcing herself and feeling like poo poo the entire time. Maybe if they killed my parents or something? Cheating on me after I pushed them into a threesome, after marrying me because they had to repress their sexuality due to religion, probably wouldn't be enough though. Dude is definitely a dick (if he's even real), but we don't have to be extremely charitable to imagine that he must have had hopes and dreams, as well as more than a little self-worth invested in the relationship. Maybe he would have reacted with more compassion had she come out before the relationship ended, and before what he sees as a betrayal, or maybe he would have just said some crazy christian poo poo, who knows. In either case, breakups bring out the worst in people. thotsky fucked around with this message at 21:36 on Dec 26, 2018 |
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Bf (23m) of more than a year & a half made insensitive joke at Christmas dinner. I (22f) don’t know if I’m overreacting. For the past two years, my family’s been caught up in the trial of the man who indecently attacked my little brother (I have to use euphemistic wording because of this sub’s rules). The offense happened when my brother was 9... he just turned 11 in November. Early on My parents decided to reject a plea deal where the man would only serve two years with three years probation... my parents in conjunction with the prosecutor chose a trial because my brother said he was okay to testify. I still don’t know if it was the right decision to let him go on the stand. Although the man was sentenced to 30 years, I know the trial was very traumatic for my little brother. Anyway, my bf of 1yr 7 mos knows what my family’s been going through. He came to Christmas and things were going great until my boyfriend made this joke over the dinner table to my BIL. BIL: (light joke about an attractive female teacher he had in school - my sister [his wife] laughed too) My BF: Yeah, we had a teacher like that. He was so cool, he even dated a student or two... Then a whole bunch of other kids came forward. Kind of ruined 8th grade for us. I realized later when I talked to him it’s a joke from the Office, but in the moment it put everything at a standstill. My heart sank and everyone just focused on their food. I don’t know why he thought that was the time or place to repeat that joke. I talked to him alone afterwards and he said it meant nothing and I’m trying to create a conflict where there doesn’t need to be one. I don’t know why he thinks I’d crave conflict when I just want everyone to enjoy some peace and happiness after what we’ve been through. Am I being over sensitive? I feel so unsettled about it. TLDR BF of 1.7y made a tasteless joke/reference knowing our family’s going through a hard time that’s related to the joke topic. I don’t know if I’m being too sensitive by reacting poorly. Bf thinks I am.
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No, she’s not being too sensitive,  his dick off
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Pick posted:my female friends do that all the time so i guess we're just going to live in the giant lesbian makeout house where ppl have manners and flersh the toilate I salute this decision, you do you, guurl
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Am I the rear end in a top hat is a relatively untapped mine of quality posts. Behold: AITA for not wanting to pay for my stepkid's education despite paying for my own kid? quote:My husband and I have one daughter, age 7, and he has two older sons from a previous marriage (11 and 15). They currently live with us but had been living with his mom up until about 2 years ago. Their mom is really messed up, addicted to drugs now and on the brink of death basically due to her addictions. My husband has largely cut ties with his ex-wife but is obviously still responsible for his sons.
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Apparently, my(26F) bf(27M) is a drug dealer. I am in a relationship with this guy for 5 and a half years. I love him a lot, even thought he gave me enough reasons not to. He smokes weed. A lot. I know that and I tolerate it. But, this spring, he encountered some issues with the law, as it is not legal where we live. He found out 3 weeks ago that he will be on trial for that. I tried to be as supportive as I could, but it also affected me. I mean, it's our future. Today, we went out with some of his friends and he got drunk. And he told me that he got busted for posession of not only marijuana but also amphetamine. And that he had been dealing weed since before we've met. I don't know what to do. I feel betrayed, lied to and dissapointed. I pictured a life together and he... I just don't know anymore. How to deal with a situation like this? He lied to me for that many years. How did I not know? Am I that stupid? What have I done with my life? Tl;dr: I just had a surprise.
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How do I [22F] deal with a guy [31M] who is very good at pretending to not be creepy? So this guy used to be one of my closest friends and recently broke up with his girlfriend. Then he turned the creepiness dial up to 100, but he does it in such a way that it leaves me no way to properly call him out or respond to it. I need help and advice on how to navigate this situation. Examples: "I don't mean to sound disrespectful of your relationship with bf, but you're beautiful and I would go after you the minute you're single" "I don't want to sound like I'm gaslighting you, but... <Proceeds to gaslight me>" "can I have one of your cups so I can drink from it when I am thinking about you and get some of your energy? I hope that's not creepy or anything." "I feel like we're in a relationship already... We care about each other so much we feel like lovers... But only platonically of course. I value you so much as a friend" Just a lot of stuff like that with explicitly thirsty undertones but he always pads it with "I hope I'm not being creepy" or "there's no way I would ever thirst after you btw, I'm not that kind of guy, but you have such beautiful legs". TL;DR My friend always says weird/creepy stuff but says it in a way thats always "friendly" or "non creepy" that makes it hard to call out and I need help on how to properly deal with it.
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Don't make promises worth tens of thousands of dollars to 5 year olds, although we all know the daughter isn't the one that's actually upset about this.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Bf (23m) of more than a year & a half made insensitive joke at Christmas dinner. I (22f) don’t know if I’m overreacting. That kid is a hero and that bf should get smacked in the face and dumped
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I was pulled over after 12AM. I was speeding. My bumper sticker is Rasta & says ‘Positive’. This is one of those things where you imagine a buncha people are gonna get unfairly railroaded until someone with enough money can kick it up the chain.
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Cythereal posted:
Uh what did this guy think was gonna happen when he told his priest everything about his sex life? His MORMON priest? "What, am I just supposed to AVOID temptation?"
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Bf (23m) of more than a year & a half made insensitive joke at Christmas dinner. I (22f) don’t know if I’m overreacting. Dang my child rape TV reference didn't land when i told it to the juvenile sexual abuse support network, what could i possibly have done wrong?
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Veni Vidi Ameche! posted:Four times the legal limit? Either this happened in a country with a limit of .01, or that girl is a hard core alcoholic. No normal human being with a blood-alcohol level of .32 would be able to locate their car, or breathe. Ill defend this later. 1st_Panzer_Div. fucked around with this message at 23:40 on Dec 26, 2018 |
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Drunk driving is horrible, idiot. People lose friends and family to drunk drivers every day.
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Meme Emulator posted:Uh what did this guy think was gonna happen when he told his priest everything about his sex life? His MORMON priest? I'm honestly surprised they're holding him culpable at all as opposed to just blaming that hussy of a wife for bringing temptation into the home like that. Simultaneously the wise master of the house and uncontrollable sex beast who cannot be held responsible for his actions/inadequacy.
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1st_Panzer_Div. posted:My 1st day in court, a 20 yo kid comes in, bac from breathalyzer. 16 (oh hey), he was leavinv a party and bouncing off cars on either side of the road. His dad, not his lawyer, says they're taken away his driving privileges. Lawyer talks about their generous detonation to public charity for anti drunk drivung , case over that same day with a misdemeanor.
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Here's an odd one, you don't normally see it from this end. How do I [21M] deal with my girlfriends nice guy friend?[new] submitted 3 hours ago by PartyArtichoke She has a nice guy friend. Wanna know how to treat with him. I started a relationship three months ago with a girl who I really like and enjoy my time with. She has some male friends (just like I have lots of female friends, with whom sometimes she's maybe a bit jelous), but then there's one special friend. I'm afraid he's a bit of the typical nice guy, who's always ridiculously available. I can't go somewhere with my gf? He will. He hangs out with her while I am currently abroad. He hugs her often and compliments her by calling her names like “beautiful “ and others. They also went to go watch Aquaman together without me (I can’t make it as I am abroad). He also tried to pick up Japanese (she’s Japanese American and I’m White) to impress her. He sends her a lot of texts. He's usually with her. I respect they have confidence and are close friends, but I'd love just to have some tips how to deal with him. TL;DR: my gf has a nice guy friend. How do I deal with him? Comments are a mix of redditors baffled at what a Nice Guy is and those trying to explain.
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Cythereal posted:Here's an odd one, you don't normally see it from this end. idk don't be weirdly jealous and trust your SO?
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FAUXTON posted:idk don't be weirdly jealous and trust your SO?
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Yawgmoth posted:it is hard to date someone who keeps other people around who actively try to sabotage said relationship hth I agree with this, but if it was cut and dried one of those situations the boyfriend would be complaining that this guy has a sour face on whenever he's around, is being extremely negative to all of his suggestions, talk shits or has broken some intimacy boundary like trying to sleep with or make out with the girlfriend. Thus far it sounds like he's just being a good friend, which might very well be threatening for an insecure boyfriend, but which is not actually a bad thing.
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re: Mormon threeway guy, there's a certain type of person that reacts to an unexpected breakup by fixating on what the relationship did for them. c.f. this thread's many "what does she mean she's breaking up with me, she cooks and cleans and blows me while I spend both our paychecks on cool Fortnite skins for my 12-hour marathon sessions" posts. It's not about the sacrifices they've made, it's all about them. Note that when his wife said she thought she might be a lesbian, his response was "Yeah? Well you better give it up and do all the things important to me or else I'm divorcing you." He really thought this ultimatum was a brilliant ploy to save his marriage. He's a schmuck and good riddance.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I was pulled over after 12AM. I was speeding. My bumper sticker is Rasta & says ‘Positive’. Not a fan of cop abuse or Arizona, but a huge red flag for me is that they mention it was after 12 AM at the beginning of the post, a pretty irrelevant detail, then forget to include the very relevant detail of how much they were speeding. 80 on the freeway? Abuse of police power 90 in a 15? Eh, probably high on something. Also, if their regular speech is anything like their "randomly capitalized words and arbitrary inclusion of details" writing style, I'm gonna say police were right to be suspicious of drug use Also, gonna go out driving with a bumper sticker that says "cheers for beers!" Drunk Nerds fucked around with this message at 22:36 on Dec 26, 2018 |
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1st_Panzer_Div. posted:Dui's really depend...Long post but the legal system is hosed up, and its worst for things like duis and drug possession, people make mistakes, try to be human and forgive, save the anger for the rape and horrible stuff. You seem to have forgiven neither the cops who were by your narrative total dicks, nor the kid who got off because his dad has money. If it had been five hours wait plus travel to the hospital, your BAC at the time of arrest was definitely .20 or higher. Do you think driving while horribly impaired is only "horrible stuff" if you actually kill someone? Or are you one of those people who is actually a better driver when you're drunk? rear end in a top hat.
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1st_Panzer_Div. posted:<dui stuff>  Edit: glad to be beaten
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Leon Einstein posted:Drunk driving is horrible, idiot. People lose friends and family to drunk drivers every day.
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They probably thought he was saying "I Am Sober." ironically.
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UPDATE: How do I [23 F] back away from this guy [31 M] without losing my favorite coffee shop?quote:Original post and original
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1st_Panzer_Div. posted:Long post but the legal system is hosed up, and its worst for things like duis and drug possession, people make mistakes, try to be human and forgive, save the anger for the rape and horrible stuff. My father is permanently disabled from a crash when I was 3, the other driver was drunk. My brother's best friend was killed in a crash by a drunk driver two weeks ago. You are a tremendous rear end in a top hat. Get hosed.
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