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at 40. can we define "much older" in like actual temporal parameters? hello alcoholic-denier me, go read twitter or the news so you have legit excuse.
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Can we call these ladies womanchilds? Cause like the whole manchild stereotype is basically dudes who want to date their mom so it feels like it'd fit.
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 22:53 |
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sneakyfrog posted:at 40. can we define "much older" in like actual temporal parameters. The literal Crypt Keeper
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 22:54 |
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god AskMetafilter would be a goldmine if every post wasn't a novel-length explanation of personal anxiety
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 22:57 |
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She's 40. How much older does she want to date? That's granddaddy issues if anything.
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:01 |
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How can I date women at work without being accused of sexual harassment?quote:My boss brought me into his office today and said one of my coworkers complained that I was sexually harassing her. I've only worked here for a couple weeks, we actually started together. Ever since our first day of work we've been friendly, even flirty. She told about she and her fiance may break up and I jokingly told her I would take her out afterwards. She laughed and jokingly agreed! additional details from OP: quote:I should probably also add that I'm quite obese. I'm not sure if that makes any difference but it's definitely something I've thought about so I figured I'd put it out there.
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:04 |
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curiously satisfying
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:07 |
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CheesyDog posted:How can I date women at work without being accused of sexual harassment? Oh, hey! It's THAT guy! What's up, THAT guy? I know we all spend a lot of time at work, but maybe you should expand your dating pool a bit? Maybe to places where you DON'T work? That'd be great for everyone involved. Thanks! Some men just need to be neutered.
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:10 |
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My dad [60sM] spent the last year belittling my [26F] master's program. Now he wants to come to the graduation. This isn't the first time I've posted to r/relationships about my dad and it's unlikely to be the last. He and I have a very strained, problematic relationship that's gotten worse over the last year. Having received great advice on my last post I'm giving this another whirl. I finished my bachelor's degree back in 2015 at a school that's considered fairly prestigious internationally. The workload was very intense and extremely stressful, and after four years there I graduated with a degree and the educational equivalent of PTSD. I knew I wanted something different for my master's, so I decided to apply to a program in Europe. I was ecstatic when they accepted me. My dad for some inexplicable reason doesn't like my program. He's made many comments to friends and family about it not being a "real" program or not being distinguished enough because the workload is much less than it was for my bachelor's. He recently told my sister that my degree is worthless and will get me nowhere finding a job. These comments are frankly baseless; it's an economics degree from a very respected European university. It's far from worthless. Regardless, I committed a year of my life to this program and put in a lot of effort to do well. It's really hurtful for him to dismiss it or say the things he does. To date I don't think he's said one positive thing about my program - not even a congratulations when I finished my thesis. In fact, when I told him I was accepted the first thing he asked me was "are you sure it's not a scam?" I should add that this is fairly typical of my dad. He can be very critical and vocal of things he decides he doesn't like. He offers zero emotional support. I've spoken to him many times about his comments - I tell them how awful they make me feel and how I want him to stop making them. He either lies and claims he never said such things, or (my favorite) he puts me down for having such low self esteem that I can't handle the criticism. It is very clear to me that my dad lacks the capacity for empathy and has very little understanding of human emotions, and the sad part is that in the end he's the one who suffers the most. A few days ago he asked for the graduation ceremony date so he could arrange his schedule to attend (the ceremony is in Europe and so he would need to fly there). It's clear he'd like to be a part of the celebrations but I'm so hurt that I don't want him there. My friends and family are telling me that I should be the bigger person and let him come. They believe that my dad can't really help the way he is and that since he's been this way for so long, I should know not to attribute any value to his words. I'm not sure what to do. TLDR: My dad says mean comments about my master's program and has offered me no support whatsoever throughout. He's now asking for an invitation to the graduation ceremony. I don't want him there but friends and family are telling me to be the bigger person and let him come.
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:11 |
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Ending a 10 yr long distance relationship. My [30f] gf [30f] and I have been "dating" for almost 10 years now. Dating is in quotes because we've only spent a total of 2 months together, physically, in 10 years. We met online and live in different countries, America and Australia. The cost of making that trip is super expensive for us, so we don't get to do it very often. In the beginning, she always said she would be the one to move to America "when the time was right." However, there always seems to be a reason for not making the move. In the earlier years, our relationship was complicated by her unwillingness to tell her family that she was in a relationship with a woman. People need to go through that in their own way and in their own time, I get that. So I waited until she was ready. It took years, but eventually, she told her parents who ended up being okay with it and just wanted her to be happy. Since then, there have been a barrage of reasons why "now isn't a good time," the most recent being that her dad [65 m] has cancer. The diagnosis came this year and it has been hard on her as she is extremely close with him. He's had the cancer surgically removed (no chemo or radiation was needed), but still has to have 3-month checkups. I've been telling her for the past 5 years that I can't keep living my life like this...carrying on this relationship through texts and Skype voice calls. We've been playing this game since we were 20 years old and have allowed so much time to go by without any real change or growth. It's hard to work out any problems we have because we're not actually together. I love her and don't want to end things, but I feel like I have to. I asked for a compromise -- "If you can't move here indefinitely, at least live here 6 months out of the year." That was met with a hard "no, I need to be here for my dad." "Okay, I get that. What about 3 months out of the year?" That was also a "no." So, I just don't know what to do anymore. I want to be supportive and not be the one who dumps her because she wants to take care of her parents, but I feel like this relationship is never a priority for her. There's always something more dire. I can't fix our problems by myself and I'm not getting any younger. Am I wrong to want more? Should I wait it out until her dad is better? TL;DR - I'm currently in a long-term, long distance relationship that I'm not sure I should be in any more. It doesn't seem to be going anywhere, but we're in love, so it's hard to just leave. I'm not sure what to do anymore.
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LabyaMynora posted:Oh, hey! It's THAT guy! What's up, THAT guy? if we could only have a word filter for "date women at work" itt and have it be this quote
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:13 |
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CheesyDog posted:How can I date women at work without being accused of sexual harassment? Someone just needs to sit the op down and tell them that dating at work is a bad idea in general, and that while some people may date successfully at work they are attractive and charismatic, not obese dudes that whine to Reddit after getting reported for sexual harassment.
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:14 |
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CheesyDog posted:god AskMetafilter would be a goldmine if every post wasn't a novel-length explanation of personal anxiety Let me tell you about my polyamarous ukelele group of body positive women who dont own a tv.
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:15 |
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sorry to do this but can i please, please get a link to the post the title is from i got to know
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:20 |
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Today in "How Can I Make This About Me" Help me think about shaving my head. quote:I'm considering shaving my head as an outward expression of grief. Am I nuts? I've been considering it for about six months. It's not going away.
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:20 |
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CheesyDog posted:How can I date women at work without being accused of sexual harassment? Tapping someone on the shoulder is a pretty self defeating way to begin any conversation never mind with someone that you want to think of you as a potential love interest.
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:23 |
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start conversations with potential love interests in the form of rap battles to make both of you comfortable and to allow your prospective partner to drop some mad poo poo yo
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:29 |
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Biomute posted:She's 40. How much older does she want to date? That's granddaddy issues if anything. ...I mean, at her age, her dad would be old enough to be a granddad. That's how time works.
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spacetoaster posted:They double your pay? lol, bullshit. Low ranks, after taxes.... yeah, wouldn't doubt it.
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CheesyDog posted:How can I date women at work without being accused of sexual harassment? Lmfao good poo poo
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OMGVBFLOL posted:sorry to do this but can i please, please get a link to the post the title is from It’s better not to know, believe me.
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:32 |
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Boyfriend practices semen retention. It sucks. What can I do?quote:My boyfriend abstains from ejaculation during sex and sexual activities. It makes me feel tremendously frustrated, sad, and turned-off. I have no clue how to even begin to unpack why I feel this way, or how to navigate the inevitable discussion I'll need to have about it with him.
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:34 |
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ask mefi used to be different in subtle ways but it's been deffo more than a decade of it being completely suffused with depression it's like 15% of total vol of question
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:37 |
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op stick your thumb up his butt when you are good and into it or barring that, look directly into his eyes and begin singing the timeless love ballad blue by eiffel 65
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:38 |
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I (f) feel weird that my (m) husband lets his (f) friend paint his nailsquote:My (m)husband lives abroad and he and his (f) platonic friend from out of town are hanging out. She is very attractive, a lot younger, and a wonderful person. She recently sent me a few pictures of their time together and including one with his nails painted, and mentioned she painted them.
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:43 |
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Lady you need to break up with him for 5+ years again as hes on to your demonic need for a mans jing to fuel your fox magics
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# ? Dec 29, 2018 23:45 |
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Midnight Voyager posted:...I mean, at her age, her dad would be old enough to be a granddad. That's how time works. I guess I expected people who say they're into "older men" to be into guys in their 40/50's or whatever because of the status these men are afforded in our society. That patriarchy has instilled in people who fetishize men of this age some connotations of power, authority or wealth, in addition to whatever feelings their relationship (or lack thereof) to their own father brings to the table. ...not that people just have a my age+30 formula for who they wanna bang. thotsky fucked around with this message at 00:02 on Dec 30, 2018 |
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CheesyDog posted:Boyfriend practices semen retention. It sucks. What can I do? It's the one woman in the world who enjoys cumshot facials, and she's hooked up with a guy who doesn't want to cum. Also, I heard not ejaculating, like, five times a week puts you at greater risk of prostate cancer, so... Keep that comin'!
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My dad [60sM] spent the last year belittling my [26F] master's program. Now he wants to come to the graduation. As an economist, she should kill herself and as much of her graduating class as possible, so why not invite congenital rear end in a top hat dad?
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sneakyfrog posted:or barring that, look directly into his eyes and begin singing the timeless love ballad blue by eiffel 65 Yo listen up, here's the story About a little sperm that lives in a blue ball And all day and all night and everything he sees is just jizz Like him, inside, not outside CheesyDog posted:How can I date women at work without being accused of sexual harassment? Gonna guess here that his flirtation and shoulder tapping is underplayed. I'd call out unreliable narrator but he was kind enough to let us know he's obese. DeadMansSuspenders fucked around with this message at 00:26 on Dec 30, 2018 |
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:Yo listen up, here's the story I'm picturing him thundering into this woman's cubicle breathing hard, while she desperately stares forward at her screen hoping that today he doesn't have the courage to tap her on the shoulder
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# ? Dec 30, 2018 00:30 |
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(39M) was stranded on side of road from (37F) fiance due to drug induced phychosisquote:I've been together for almost eight years. are drug use has been escalating to insane levels over the last month. What in the...
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LadyPictureShow posted:(39M) was stranded on side of road from (37F) fiance due to drug induced phychosis Drugs are fun
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# ? Dec 30, 2018 02:08 |
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sounds like opiates though which are not fun to detox
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# ? Dec 30, 2018 02:10 |
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I feel like asking someone out, combined with tapping them on the shoulder repeatedly while they are in their cubicle working, is something HR would want to clamp down on even if it doesn't technically violate rules. Don't bother people at work. (I know he didn't say he tapped her shoulder while she was working, but I can't think of another context at work where you can't just make eye contact and talk). This is one of my favorite unreliable narrators, as it explains the rash of "don't talk to females at work. Don't engage them one-on-one without a witness. Not worth it." Posts I see. The quote I just cited was verbatim from an article about sexual harassment in the NFL.
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Drunk Nerds posted:I feel like asking someone out, combined with tapping them on the shoulder repeatedly while they are in their cubicle working, is something HR would want to clamp down on even if it doesn't technically violate rules. Don't bother people at work. honestly it isn’t bad advice if you don’t know how to not be a creep at work e: it isn’t particularly good advice either, “think of all women at work as dudes” is better. but it’s something at least
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Barudak posted:Hi, please dont call it alcoholism, but I cant stop thinking about the sweet taste of booze on my lips. I know drinking will only implode my life, but I want tips from people who have been there before about how to best curl up and just hold and carress a bottle of liquor for hours. *a total lie, one of those bottles will only bring pain and you need to find that out for yourself. Tequila, why do you hurt me so?
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I accidentally let slip that I[24f] am in a polyamorous relationship to one of my coworkers[26m]. Coworker told everyone at the office and now another coworker[22f] believes I am fundamentally amoral and is making my work-life miserablequote:I have been dating my girlfriend[26f] for about two years now, and last year I started dating my boyfriend[23m]. While my boyfriend and girlfriend don't date each other, they are extremely close. My boyfriend moved in with us about six months ago, and things are going as smoothly as ever.
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# ? Dec 30, 2018 02:45 |
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CheesyDog posted:How can I date women at work without being accused of sexual harassment? Quite a few people where I work have relationships with coworkers, including one where they both work on the same floor. To me it's really strange, but for some reason it works. The only one I really have pity for is the drop dead gorgeous woman who constantly gets flirted on by the married men 15 years her senior and power walks home to escape stares from work colleagues and catcalls from college students across the way.
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Pick posted:I use two squares and it's never been an issue in my life. according to you your rear end is two squares
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