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Leon Einstein posted:When I see a clean dishwasher, I empty it. If the floor needs to be cleaned, I clean it. I find it strange when people are so petty about poo poo like that. Do you want to live in a nice place or not? I also find that kind of thing strange. I mean.....it's your spouse, not a lovely roommate.
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GrandpaPants posted:I'm sorry, 1 is understandable? Shed be willing to rationalize 1 away as someone lying, I assume
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Jan 2, 2019 21:54
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I can empathize with those estranged parents posts because I didn't talk to my father for like 3 years once and while he's not computer savvy enough to post about his estrangement, I bet his posts would look identical to the ones I've shared here. Just by talking to him here and there I could see glimpses of his weird narrative he built up in his head where he was the victim and I had pretty much destroyed his life by *checks notes* not dumping a girlfriend I had at the time because he said so.
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I [39F] was sleeping with my coworker [33M] until he slept with our female coworker.quote:Long story short: I’ve hooked up with my Coworker around 10 times since June 2018. I’m married, he’s married and we both work in the same department together. Yes, I I know.. don’t poo poo where you eat. Before we started being intimate, we were coworkers/friends and had lunch everyday for 2 years.
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Jan 2, 2019 21:59
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Straight White Shark posted:I [39F] was sleeping with my coworker [33M] until he slept with our female coworker. Lol that might be the best TLDR ever.
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life is a joke posted:I used to think foot guys were really weird and now that's the most basic, entry-level fetish of them all due to INTERNET and it's just something I don't get. But re: this specific story, there is something kinda cute about these teen stories where they're both too scared to make a move, it'll probably be funny to look back on when they grow into some confidence. I doubt this kid is even into feet, just having his gf get physical in any capacity is probably going to have him revved up. Y'all talk like you never heard of a foot job.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [26m] girlfriend [26f] expects me to ask her parents for permission to propose, and it's causing problems. I have zero respect for the "tradition" of asking permission to marry someone like they're loving property but it's hardly something worth nuking a relationship over. You bridge the gap by doing it and forgetting about it.
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Jan 2, 2019 22:01
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Straight White Shark posted:I'm pretty sure this guy is the epitome of red flag- need second opinions pls /r - I feel like 1 sexual assault is understandable but 3??
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Straight White Shark posted:I [39F] was sleeping with my coworker [33M] until he slept with our female coworker. This is a lot of hilarity to take in, almost spit my coffee out.
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Jan 2, 2019 22:02
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Meme Emulator posted:Thats the problem with reasonable people who shout like assholes. My sister is that way, it takes a LOT of convincing to tell her "Yea, youer right, but the way youre saying it is pissing everyone off" because her mind just shuts down at "Yes, Im right" Except most of the time that kind of feedback isn’t levied at men, or men face lesser social consequences for the behavior, or are praised for being “take charge” in a situation. Meanwhile other folks are tut-tutted for having a certain “tone” and no matter how valid their argument is are scoffed at and ignored. At what point do you draw the line, and is that line moveable.
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SUPERMAN'S GAL PAL posted:Except most of the time that kind of feedback isn’t levied at men, or men face lesser social consequences for the behavior, or are praised for being “take charge” in a situation. Meanwhile other folks are tut-tutted for having a certain “tone” and no matter how valid their argument is are scoffed at and ignored. At what point do you draw the line, and is that line moveable. Hmmm, I think you might have a point but could you be less rude about it its very offputting. My [26m] girlfriend [26f] expects me to ask her parents for permission to propose, and it's causing problems quote:The title pretty much sums up everything. My girlfriend and I were recently discussing the future and marriage, we're both very on board with the idea of it. However, she made it clear that she'd "need" me to ask her parents for permission before proposing. I'm entirely uncomfortable with that, and I told her it wouldn't be happening. This upset her and she started saying if I wouldn't ask them then obviously it doesn't mean much to me and I'm not serious about it.
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MarcusSA posted:Lol that might be the best TLDR ever. She didn't use a throwaway for that post. Lots of posts about this affair with details not always the same. May be written one handed
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My boyfriend [30m] thought the conversation I [22f] was having with my friends [20s women] was mean and catty.quote:My friends and I used to be a little wild in college, we all hooked up with a bunch of people, like after parties, and stuff. We've all settled down a lot since then. We were all college athletes and a bunch of people we know stayed in the area after college so we've got the same group of friends and acquaintances still around. My friend Jodie had a childhood friend Sara move to the area recently, and we all started to invite Sara out with us because she was new and didn't know many people. On new year's, we brought Sara to a bar, and I also brought my boyfriend Tom. Guess what mean-spirited gossip is being passed around that a 30y/o who hooks up with college chicks thinks should be off limits! quote:Edit - one commentor said this should be added to the post, and I think it is relevant... The kind of things we were criticizing were things like:
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MF_James posted:This is a lot of hilarity to take in, almost spit my coffee out. My favorite is that she still wants to continue to hang out everyday so her co-workers don't suspect something's amiss. "You know, John and Susan sure seem to not be having a lot of intimate lunches recently. You don't they're not having an affair with each other, do you?" "Ugh, quit spreading rumors. Just because they're spending some time apart doesn't mean they're still not cheating on their spouses."
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christmas boots posted:My [26m] girlfriend [26f] expects me to ask her parents for permission to propose, and it's causing problems I mean, I understand his point, but the woman you are supposedly wanting to spend the rest of your life with wants you to do a thing, why not do it if it makes her happy, you put out your protests against it, but she still wants it.
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SUPERMAN'S GAL PAL posted:Except most of the time that kind of feedback isn’t levied at men, or men face lesser social consequences for the behavior, or are praised for being “take charge” in a situation. Meanwhile other folks are tut-tutted for having a certain “tone” and no matter how valid their argument is are scoffed at and ignored. At what point do you draw the line, and is that line moveable. Well my Dads the same way and Ive told him so as well, my sis just stuck in my mind because its been an issue for her lately. Those two take after each other, theyre extremely aggressive and refuse to budge an inch. Complete stubbornness Although while my sis screams and yells my dad loved to do "Wow, youre melting down and im as cool as a cucumber". Thats a good way to piss anyone off by sounding like a jackass. Meme Emulator fucked around with this message at 22:19 on Jan 2, 2019 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Am I the rear end in a top hat for telling my wife that when/if she quits her job to be a SAHM I am not planing to do much in the way of household chores anymore? It's me, I'm the guy saying the things we used to hire at least two other people for can be done by one, one I'm married to. This makes sense and will result in less stress for me.
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Obviously the spoilered stuff is bad, but it is tacky to be talking like that. I mean, sexual chemistry depends on both people. 30 year old needs to date older if he wants to avoid that behavior.
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Jan 2, 2019 22:18
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MF_James posted:I mean, I understand his point, but the woman you are supposedly wanting to spend the rest of your life with wants you to do a thing, why not do it if it makes her happy, you put out your protests against it, but she still wants it. It's probably not even about needing their "permission" per se, but wanting the parents blessing on their marriage. Which is understandably something that's important to her. It's not a ritual that matters for everyone, but for her it does and I do think he needs to understand the root of that and respect it.
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Leon Einstein posted:Obviously the spoilered stuff is bad, but it is tacky to be talking like that. I mean, sexual chemistry depends on both people. What's the appropriate level of respect to discuss possible rapists with when warning female friends not to date them?
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Straight White Shark posted:My boyfriend [30m] thought the conversation I [22f] was having with my friends [20s women] was mean and catty. Y'all are great and your boyfriend is an idiot.  and move on, this relationship is toast.
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Straight White Shark posted:What's the appropriate level of respect to discuss possible rapists with when warning female friends not to date them?
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Admiral Ray posted:It's me, I'm the guy saying the things we used to hire at least two other people for can be done by one, one I'm married to. This makes sense and will result in less stress for me. I mean, I will argue that they were paying 2 people to do these things because both of them were working, she will no longer be working.. Dude still needs to do poo poo, but she also needs to be picking up a larger majority of it. Now I'm too lazy to look back at how old the kid/kids are so that also affects what you can get done as a SAHM.
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Straight White Shark posted:What's the appropriate level of respect to discuss possible rapists with when warning female friends not to date them? "Alleged"!
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christmas boots posted:It's probably not even about needing their "permission" per se, but wanting the parents blessing on their marriage. Which is understandably something that's important to her. It's not a ritual that matters for everyone, but for her it does and I do think he needs to understand the root of that and respect it. he offered to ask for their blessing tho iirc, she shot down every alternative but asking for her hand (going by the post) about 20 of the replies are “did you ask her what she would do if they say no?” which the OP has ignored though, which seems to be most relevant bit
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:he offered to ask for their blessing tho iirc, she shot down every alternative but asking for her hand (going by the post) You know it's very impolite to draw attention to the fact that I don't pay attention to things!
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MF_James posted:I mean, I will argue that they were paying 2 people to do these things because both of them were working, she will no longer be working.. 6 mos, so she's got years before they go to school. I don't care that he's like "Nah, I ain't doing poo poo if I'm working 80 hours". It's his insistence that, somehow, they won't/shouldn't have extra help because she'll be a SAHM. If he wants a clean home he'll need to hire someone to help otherwise she'll be bone loving tired, more tired than him, if she's the designated 24/7 child caretaker. Children that young aren't 8 or 10 or 12 hour a day jobs that you get to stop thinking about. They are constant.
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Being SAHM is harder and more exhausting than 99% of jobs when the kids are that young.
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MF_James posted:I mean, I understand his point, but the woman you are supposedly wanting to spend the rest of your life with wants you to do a thing, why not do it if it makes her happy, you put out your protests against it, but she still wants it. I did this with my wife's dad. I didn't really want to do it, thought it was a silly tradition. But then I realized it was their tradition, and it cost me nothing and made her dad (and family) really like me.
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GrandpaPants posted:I'm sorry, 1 is understandable? I am hoping the implication was that one might be a false accusation but I am an optimist.
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spacetoaster posted:I did this with my wife's dad. I didn't really want to do it, thought it was a silly tradition. But then I realized it was their tradition, and it cost me nothing and made her dad (and family) really like me. Yeah, I asked for the blessing from the father of my first fiancé. He felt very good about it.....until the engagement fell apart.
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:that probably is the implication but that’s not good either Yeah, and a guy who has the (pretty rare) fake sexual assault allegation made against him does not tell his future dates about it. This sounds more like grooming her to think sexual assault is not sexual assault.
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Leon Einstein posted:I said the spoilered stuff is different. The post initially was about them talking about how bad all these guys were in bed. Fair enough, but it's not really clear that the spoilered stuff is different. It is entirely possible that when she's saying "that guy is bad in bed" it means something different to her than it does to you or me (and in the comments that's exactly what she claims the case is, that they were discussing the spoilered details up front with their friend and cracking jokes to try to keep it lighthearted.)
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Meme Emulator posted:Shed be willing to rationalize 1 away as someone lying, I assume "Well, you know some women..." - some woman E: - some man
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My [33M] son [6M] has started calling my wifes [29F] boyfriend [29M] dad and it's upsetting me. I feel like with crazy stories like this, instead of listing the age, "I [37M]..." they should list how much they weigh. It seems like better context, for when it seems like someone feels like "this hosed up situation may be the best I can do." "I, [445pound M], am getting walked on by my wife [135pound F]. Should I let her keep having sex with other guys in our bed, or should I send her a text about it?" It seems like that meta-info is more useful than the ages.
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LadyPictureShow posted:My (30m) gf (27f) is too confrontational and picks a fight anywhere we go with random people there are lots of teachers in my family and i can confirm this is normal. if you don’t want an outspoken & confrontational partner, don’t date a teacher. more badasses for the rest of us
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Straight White Shark posted:When it comes to evaluating potential partners abuse history I follow the 3 strikes rule And don't even get my started on if they think they're going to college!
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