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tactlessbastard posted:He's got every right to not be attracted to her anymore or want to break up, but he's being a complete bitch about it. Yeah, he should've just broke up with her. What good is having you both miserable for 3 months?
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tactlessbastard posted:He's got every right to not be attracted to her anymore or want to break up, but he's being a complete bitch about it. yeah if he wants to no longer be with her he needs to fukken dump her already
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Is there a HR contact at firms in charge of applicants who have been black listed? Are blackballs from large firms company-wide or location specific? Need to do damage control. (self.FinancialCareers)quote:I posted my resume on this sub about two weeks ago without removing my personal information for purposes of having the formatting reviewed. Someone took/made a copy of the resume and applied to 30+ jobs across at least 15 firms with my resume and information, but replaced some of the info with lewd language and slurs in a cover letter or the resume itself. While applying to the jobs they kindly used my actual email so I got all of the notifications that I had applied, which is how I know it’s at least 30 apps and 15 firms.
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Jan 30, 2019 16:51
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Jan 30, 2019 16:53
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Jan 30, 2019 17:01
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I'm having a hard time believing anyone contacted him about it instead of just tossing his resume after raising an eyebrow. I double dog don't believe anyone ever sent him a written communication that used the word blacklist. tactlessbastard fucked around with this message at 19:05 on Jan 30, 2019 |
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Jan 30, 2019 17:14
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tactlessbastard posted:I'm having a hard time believing anyone contacted him about it instead of just tossing his resume after raising an eyebrow. Yeah - we get so many resumes when hiring, I couldn't be bothered to call anyone to tell them that their resume is terrible. But we do make fun of the really 'special' ones.
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Jan 30, 2019 17:26
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If the edits were both really offensive and obviously sabotage, I miiiiight drop an email to the owner. "hey bud, you're hosed"
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Jan 30, 2019 17:33
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SciFiDownBeat posted:What a complete idiot This guy isn't any dumber than the person who told him they "do not wish to work with someone so careless with Internet security." Anyone could do this to any target with a LinkedIn.
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Jan 30, 2019 17:42
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I like their expectation that someone is going to come in and give them the exact details on how "blacklists" work across many different very large corporations. if the concept exists at all it's probably only as a note on an entry in a recruitment database
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I[25M] can’t bear to watch my husband[49M] gamble anymore. Took my ring off and tossed it.quote:He had been away from gambling for almost 6 months. He decided to go on a cruise and wouldn’t go if I didn’t. I said alright, we’ll see some ground rules to make sure we don’t go overboard... well those rules went out the window the moment we got on the cruise. Regardless, we managed to have a good time - I accepted it as a vacation as why not let him have some fun. It’s not like I could have stopped it anyways.  Dude, pull the plug. But also, if he's a gambling addict don't agree to go on a cruise or to a casino if there's going to be gambling. Setting 'ground rules' clearly isn't working.quote:His age doesn’t bother me. And i had concerns at the start and sometimes now, but I figured that with all the messed up poo poo I had to deal with growing up, having a mature relationship would be good for me. And for it was. The relationship is amazing when he’s not gambling... or drinking. He managed to stop drinking too much these past few months (ever since he totaled his car not too long ago). So that settled the drinking issue, and now the gambling issue popped back up. Get the Hell out of there!
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Jan 30, 2019 18:33
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Was definitely disappointed he didn't get the ring back out and immediately put it on 26 red.
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Hello Ketene posted:Is there a HR contact at firms in charge of applicants who have been black listed? Are blackballs from large firms company-wide or location specific? Need to do damage control. (self.FinancialCareers) This just makes me think of the Ask A Manager story with a resume where the Interests section was just "making GBS threads." The applicant immediately called the place and explained that his teenage son tampered with his resume, and IIRC he got an interview/possibly the job.
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LadyPictureShow posted:I[25M] can’t bear to watch my husband[49M] gamble anymore. Took my ring off and tossed it. Argh, poor kid. This won’t get better. Don’t marry men old enough to be your father, and don’t stick around for twenty years of circling the drain while this guy keeps you on the verge of homelessness. If you’ve got a daddy thing, at least find a daddy who is fiscally responsible and who seems like they care if you leave.
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Antivehicular posted:This just makes me think of the Ask A Manager story with a resume where the Interests section was just "making GBS threads." The applicant immediately called the place and explained that his teenage son tampered with his resume, and IIRC he got an interview/possibly the job. LMAO. Anyway I felt bad for the guy so I took him off my industry's blacklist. Of course I work in american manufacturing so there's only like, 7 of us left so I don't know what good it will do him.
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Gone Fashing posted:I like their expectation that someone is going to come in and give them the exact details on how "blacklists" work across many different very large corporations. if the concept exists at all it's probably only as a note on an entry in a recruitment database This is legitimately how some people think it works The corporatization of American culture has broken people's brains. There are folks who literally think there's a dept for handling everything. It's the same people who idly discuss how 'someone' should fix all the problems with society, the idea being it's always someone else (and 'they're' slacking on the job). It doesn't occur to folks most systems have been organized loosely over time by society, that someone literally took that on as a task to solve for all of us and that these things require active participation from the group in order to function at all. It also doesn't occur to these folks that systems don't even exist for a lot of things bc that requires proactive action - for someone to take initiative first. StrangersInTheNight fucked around with this message at 19:21 on Jan 30, 2019 |
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Jan 30, 2019 19:18
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LadyPictureShow posted:I[25M] can’t bear to watch my husband[49M] gamble anymore. Took my ring off and tossed it. My gambling addict alcoholic husband is twice my age and won't ever change. I threw away my ring and he didn't care. What do I do? I really need this mature relationship!
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Hello Ketene posted:Is there a HR contact at firms in charge of applicants who have been black listed? Are blackballs from large firms company-wide or location specific? Need to do damage control. (self.FinancialCareers) lol oh no what will he do with all of those polos if he can't get a job at a bank in charlotte??!?
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My gambling addict alcoholic husband is twice my age and won't ever change. I threw away my ring and he didn't care. What do I do? I really need this mature relationship! Have a baby. Wait, no........adopt!
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DeadMansSuspenders posted:My gambling addict alcoholic husband is twice my age and won't ever change. I threw away my ring and he didn't care. What do I do? I really need this mature relationship! Suggest a threesome! Make it clear you mean him, you and another woman.
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Jan 30, 2019 19:32
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Sunswipe posted:Suggest a threesome! Make it clear you mean him, you and another woman. The fact that they're gay men makes this suggestion better somehow
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StrangersInTheNight posted:This is legitimately how some people think it works yeah its like when you grow up, you realize that your awe for grownups as a child was misplaced because no one really has any idea what they're doing most of the time, they're just winging it and barely hanging on, reacting to things as they come down the pipe. since corporations are people (thanks citizens united) they work the same way
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Blade Runner posted:The fact that they're gay men makes this suggestion better somehow Agreed.
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Blade Runner posted:The fact that they're gay men makes this suggestion better somehow I am so bad at reading Reddit language.
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FileNotFound posted:Yeah - we get so many resumes when hiring, I couldn't be bothered to call anyone to tell them that their resume is terrible. We got one recently that was almost more like a dating app profile. Also included what the applicant's favorite video game was which--if you're wondering whether that's at all relevant to the industry I work in--absolutely isn't because we make pet accessories.
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christmas boots posted:We got one recently that was almost more like a dating app profile. Also included what the applicant's favorite video game was which--if you're wondering whether that's at all relevant to the industry I work in--absolutely isn't because we make pet accessories. He was trying to ask you out, idiot There are worse romcom plots
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christmas boots posted:We got one recently that was almost more like a dating app profile. Also included what the applicant's favorite video game was which--if you're wondering whether that's at all relevant to the industry I work in--absolutely isn't because we make pet accessories. Well? What was their favorite video game?
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Batterypowered7 posted:Well? What was their favorite video game? guaranteed anime
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The application called it the “lollipop chainsaw game” and frankly I felt like I understood that well enough without actually googling for more information. The first line of the application said “are you homophobic?”
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christmas boots posted:The first line of the application said “are you homophobic?” This is a real power move.
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bamhand posted:This is a real power move. Actually kind of respected that opening tbh
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AITA if i don't share my stash with my long term gf? I (F/23) was having an argument with my gf (F/22) about the multiple times she took weed from my stash, without asking first. For the last months, she wasn't able to purchase any oz of the weed, as she is a freelancer and business have been slow. In the other hand, i have a 9-to-5 job that allows me to buy an ounce every other week, to enjoy after a long and hard day at work. Since she's a heavy user as me (smoking daily) i told her that i wasn't able to keep up my use and hers as well. Then, some days i noticed that my jar was moved from where i left it the night before. I directly ask her if she was taking my weed from the jar. She repeatedly said no, multiple times, multiple days. But i was always suspicious. Last night was the last straw, as i saw clearly that my grinder wasn't as full as i left last night. I confronted her and we had an argument for over two hours. The thing is i feel like she's clearly taking advantage of the fact that i always have some in my stash and the fact that she's my gf , and as we live together, 'we have to share everything.' . I don't feel good about it. I feel like she corrupted the trust i had in her by taking without asking or taking my opinion in consideration. So i told her it was the last time this happened and that i would keep my stash locked. I really love her, but i don't like feeling like she's taking everything for granted from me, like i have an obligation to share EVERYTHING. TLDR: I dont feel confortable sharing my weed stash with my GF, while she does not pay for it. Pd. I don't mind sharing other things like computer, videogames systems, clothing, etc. But i really don't like when people mess up with my weed. For me, is a personal ritual and i like keeping my things under control.
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Jan 30, 2019 22:13
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AITA for reporting a close friend for drug use on the job? I'm having a small dilemma about reporting a close friend for her use of weed on the job. My friend Ally has a private Snapchat story that's only available to close friends, people she sells weed to, etc. On this story, she often posts videos of her smoking, which is whatever to me (I smoke sometimes myself). However, there was a snap on her story the other day that clearly showed that she was at work; and on her break she was shown smoking a blunt, and then returned to work. Now, this wouldn't be as big of a deal to me if she had a run of the mill job. But she works at a small private daycare, so she's around children from the ages of >1-4 years of age. It immensely bothered me and a few other of my friends who also have the ability to see her private snapchat story. From this inquiry, she's probably frequently high around other people's children, who have entrusted in her for the wellbeing of their kids. Also, Ally isn't the most functional when she's high (she also smokes everyday). I've been around her when she's only has two hits of a blunt, and she becomes sedate and can't carry on a full conversation. She's a frequent seller and smoker, and the fact that she's bringing this around other people's kids when she has no right to do so is disrespectful and dangerous in my eye. My potential plan is to email the daycare anonymously and make them aware of her behavior and make it clear that this is purely for the wellbeing of the kids, and not a malicious intent towards her or weedsmokers in general. She is a very close friend that I see semi-often, and she isn't in the best place financially, so losing her job would be a large issue. I don't want to see her financially struggle again. So, I'm asking, Am I The rear end in a top hat?
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Who gets all fiendish like that about weed lol. I guess if she smokes a half ounce a week like he does that gets expensive
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Jan 30, 2019 22:18
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I mean I probably wouldn't be happy if someone was getting high while I left my kids in their care.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for reporting a close friend for drug use on the job? Yes Smirking_Serpent posted:But she works at a small private daycare, so she's around children from the ages of >1-4 years of age. Maybe Smirking_Serpent posted:I've been around her when she's only has two hits of a blunt, and she becomes sedate and can't carry on a full conversation. No Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA if i don't share my stash with my long term gf? Lol.
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AITA for banning this person from our tabletop group? Hey. So, this happened a couple weeks ago but I can't help mulling it over once or twice a day. Here's the situation: Me and a five friends play tabletop RPGs every two weeks, and have been doing this for the past year and a half or so. We use a Discord server to organize these things, and also to talk to one another between sessions on that server. I'm the person who DMs these sessions. Out of the five players four are fine, but one of them is a little problematic. Let me call him Steven. Steven has a hard time getting into character and has on two or three occasions gotten pretty mad at himself for messing things up during a session, as he takes it really hard when he feels like he 'failed' the group. Despite this, Steven is by far and away the most enthusiastic player in the group and he tries his damnedest not to gently caress things up and to contribute something to the game. Steven also suffers from some mental health issues, and though I don't exactly know which ones he has been pretty open about this to us and how it effects him--he shuts down, isolates himself, that sort of stuff. Now, three weeks ago, Steven suddenly left the Discord server without saying a word to any of us. One of the other four players, Alica, texted with Steven for a bit and conveyed to me he was having a depressed streak and was going to be away for a short period of time. I told Alica to say to Steven that we'd give him all the time he'd need and that he was welcome back anytime. After all the issues I've had with Steven over the year, though, I saw in his leaving the server the chance to replace him for someone I knew to be a better player. He could've stayed, but he left, so there was a spot free right? I invited someone else onto the Discord server to take Steven's spot. Some days later, Steven texted me about rejoining and asked me for an invitation link. I told him that I interpreted his leaving the server as implicitly leaving our tabletop sessions, too. When he told me this wasn't at all what he had intended, I told him that I had banned him from playing again because he was a bad player who doesn't know how to take a hint when he does something wrong and doesn't seem to learn very well from his mistakes. I told him I'd allow him to stay on the server, though, since we still all talk there, but I told him no on doing any more sessions. After this, Steven explained to me the exact scenario of him leaving in an attempt to make me feel compassionate; he felt that he was on the brink of harming himself and felt like he had to isolate himself and have some peace and quiet for a while. To achieve this he left the server and muted every social media he had so that he could have a few days where he could get back to being okay, then intended to rejoin. I didn't budge. Then, Steven told me that he thinks I acted extremely two-facedly by saying I'll welcome him back one day then booting him the other. He told me it feels like I was waiting for the first chance to ban him and blame it on himself. He told me that I'm a bad friend and that he blames me for never bothering to send him a message about how or if he wanted to continue with our tabletop games, or how he was doing, and also said that me not doing this really hurt him because he expected more from me. He also reminded me of how highly he values the sometimes up to seven hours that we spend together as a group and how much he was going to miss that. He pleaded with me to accept him back into the group. Again I told him no. After this Steven told me that it felt like he had lost a friend and that I was a two-faced opportunist twat, and I've not spoken to him since then. Alica, who does still regularly talk to him, told me that Steven's taken his banning pretty hard and has been sullen for a while, possibly even self-mutilating again---she doesn't know this for certain but has a suspicion due to some things he offhandedly mentioned. Truth be told, I don't feel like much of an rear end in a top hat and feel like I'm justified in my actions. I took the shot and improved the situation for myself. If Steven had wanted to make sure I didn't ban him he should've stayed, he could've just muted the server right? And him being mad at me for not texting him, it's not like it's my responsibility to do that. It's him who should've let me know what was going on and how he wanted to proceed. Two friends I've shared it with think I acted sub-optimally in this situation, and the players themselves has been largely silent about it. In fact the whole server has been pretty quiet, since Steven usually started and maintained the conversations there. I'm picking up vibes from Alica that she's also less than satisfied with Steven having been banned from the group. Reddit, let me know if I acted right, or if I'm the rear end in a top hat. TL;DR - Player inexplicably exited the groupchat we use for our biweekly tabletop games. I took this chance to replace him, as he's not an ideal player. He wanted to come back, and I told him he is a bad player and denied that request. He's now mad at me, obviously thinks I'm the rear end in a top hat. Am I?
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