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- Barudak
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In the comments she said it was in-game currency and in-game stuff for his avatar.
Dump him.
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Feb 17, 2019 05:26
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- DragQueenofAngmar
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You shall not pass!
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In the comments she said it was in-game currency and in-game stuff for his avatar.
what is wrong with people. like I’ve spent money on dumb poo poo. but this is just, I don’t even know
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Feb 17, 2019 05:27
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- Barudak
- May 7, 2007
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what is wrong with people. like I’ve spent money on dumb poo poo. but this is just, I don’t even know
Seems pretty simple, theyre trying to be the one to open his lootbox.
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Feb 17, 2019 05:30
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- PHIZ KALIFA
- Dec 21, 2011
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#mood
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is it really so weird to want the worst people on the internet to find you sexually desireable
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Feb 17, 2019 05:33
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- Midnight Voyager
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Lipstick Apathy
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I [29F] found out my boyfriend [27M] of 6 years has been playing a sex MMO for the last year. He's the love of my life but I feel sick.
*Google*
Hoshit, okay, that's actually pretty graphic, yeah. I mean, I've seen some weird and dumb poo poo on the internet, but that's got some misplaced effort put into it.
I guess I expected less "porn closeups" and more "humping pixel people" but alright.
Midnight Voyager fucked around with this message at 05:41 on Feb 17, 2019
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Feb 17, 2019 05:35
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- Smirking_Serpent
- Aug 27, 2009
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My girlfriend [25F] accused me of "peacocking" because I [26M] accidentally left the receipt in her present. I'm having a hard time getting over it.
We recently had our 1-year anniversary and planned on doing a small gift exchange. I bought her a bracelet in a style she likes. For the record it wasn't super expensive. Definitely not cheap, but not like I went out and bought her something from Tiffany's. After I bought it I tucked the receipt in the flap of the box because I had been trying to decide between two different bracelets and thought I might return it. I decided not to, wrapped the present, and gave it to her during dinner on our anniversary.
When she opened the box the receipt fell out because I had forgotten I tucked it in there. She rolled her eyes and said "peacocking" is so childish. I had never even heard that term before. She explained it (if anyone else is also not aware; basically showing off) and said I had clearly left the receipt there on purpose so she could see how much I spent and be impressed. I said no I didn't, I genuinely forgot the receipt was there. She didn't believe me and said who puts receipts in boxes like that instead of in their wallet. Well, I do. I always have. I like to keep the receipt with items I think I might return. I genuinely don't think that's out of the norm at all. I told her that wasn't the case and she just brushed it off and gave me my gift.
This whole conversation really soured the mood of the evening. She never even thanked me for the gift, for one. Then she kept poking fun at me. When the waiter brought the check she made a comment about making sure I use my "fancy card" so he knows how rich I am. Then after dinner I was driving her home and she joked about realizing why I always insist on driving, because I have the fancy car. A: Not true, I do drive the majority of the time but mostly because I just like driving and because she never offers. and B: I don't have a "fancy" car. My car is maybe half a step nicer than hers.
After all of this I told her to stop and it was really starting to piss me off. We got into a bit of a fight about it. She gave a half-assed "sorry but I was just kidding" apology. Since then I've been trying to get over it and I'm having a hard time. Bottom line is I'm pretty irritated and she seems to think I should just get over it.
In case it's relevant: I'm not richer than her or anything. We both have decent jobs and grew up in middle class families. I'm not "rich" by any means and our wealth disparity is basically non-existent. So I don't think this is coming from a place of insecurity. I don't know what it is.
Am I overreacting? Do I just need to move on? Or am I right to be irritated by all of this?
TL;DR: My girlfriend made a big deal out of me "peacocking" because I mistakenly left the receipt in her anniversary gift. She never really apologized and I can't get over it. What do I do?
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Feb 17, 2019 06:40
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- sephiRoth IRA
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"Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality."
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My girlfriend [25F] accused me of "peacocking" because I [26M] accidentally left the receipt in her present. I'm having a hard time getting over it.
We recently had our 1-year anniversary and planned on doing a small gift exchange. I bought her a bracelet in a style she likes. For the record it wasn't super expensive. Definitely not cheap, but not like I went out and bought her something from Tiffany's. After I bought it I tucked the receipt in the flap of the box because I had been trying to decide between two different bracelets and thought I might return it. I decided not to, wrapped the present, and gave it to her during dinner on our anniversary.
When she opened the box the receipt fell out because I had forgotten I tucked it in there. She rolled her eyes and said "peacocking" is so childish. I had never even heard that term before. She explained it (if anyone else is also not aware; basically showing off) and said I had clearly left the receipt there on purpose so she could see how much I spent and be impressed. I said no I didn't, I genuinely forgot the receipt was there. She didn't believe me and said who puts receipts in boxes like that instead of in their wallet. Well, I do. I always have. I like to keep the receipt with items I think I might return. I genuinely don't think that's out of the norm at all. I told her that wasn't the case and she just brushed it off and gave me my gift.
This whole conversation really soured the mood of the evening. She never even thanked me for the gift, for one. Then she kept poking fun at me. When the waiter brought the check she made a comment about making sure I use my "fancy card" so he knows how rich I am. Then after dinner I was driving her home and she joked about realizing why I always insist on driving, because I have the fancy car. A: Not true, I do drive the majority of the time but mostly because I just like driving and because she never offers. and B: I don't have a "fancy" car. My car is maybe half a step nicer than hers.
After all of this I told her to stop and it was really starting to piss me off. We got into a bit of a fight about it. She gave a half-assed "sorry but I was just kidding" apology. Since then I've been trying to get over it and I'm having a hard time. Bottom line is I'm pretty irritated and she seems to think I should just get over it.
In case it's relevant: I'm not richer than her or anything. We both have decent jobs and grew up in middle class families. I'm not "rich" by any means and our wealth disparity is basically non-existent. So I don't think this is coming from a place of insecurity. I don't know what it is.
Am I overreacting? Do I just need to move on? Or am I right to be irritated by all of this?
TL;DR: My girlfriend made a big deal out of me "peacocking" because I mistakenly left the receipt in her anniversary gift. She never really apologized and I can't get over it. What do I do?
She sounds like she’s really “online”. If she keeps at it tell her that you seriously didn’t mean it and if she persists break up with her.
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Feb 17, 2019 07:10
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- Midnight Voyager
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She sounds like she’s really “online”. If she keeps at it tell her that you seriously didn’t mean it and if she persists break up with her.
I mean, she can't be THAT online. I haven't heard proper PUA terminology in the wild in ages.
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Feb 17, 2019 07:54
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- Ghost Leviathan
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Exploration is ill-advised.
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'Peacocking' came up in Adventure Time of all places. (being used by a complete idiot of course)
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Feb 17, 2019 08:08
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- PHIZ KALIFA
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#mood
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'Peacocking' came up in Adventure Time of all places. (being used by a complete idiot of course)
don't, heh. don't sign youreahahahaha. don't post your siDAMMIT
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Feb 17, 2019 09:38
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- Power Khan
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quote:I'm [21F] falling out with my parents [49M+F] a lot because they don't agree with my boyfriends [24M] views. They've started stalking our online presence and my dad drove 2 hours to our city out of anger.
Non-Romantic
My parents keep sending me nasty messages or calling me and abusing me over the phone because they don't agree with my boyfriends views, or they see something he's posted/commented/liked on Facebook that they don't like. He's blocked them both, and they obviously have either alt accounts following his movements online or people screenshotting things and sending it to them. None of it is very noteworthy, normally it's just a link to a website or a comment stating a difference of opinion.
This has been happening for about a year, that I wake up to a barrage of messages from normally my mum full of swearing and name calling, saying I'm "brainwashed" and don't love/care about my parents because of how my boyfriend has said something that they took as a personal attack or of disrespect to them personally despite none of it being targeted to them. Even if he comments on an old post on Facebook from years ago, that's somehow offensive to their views.
It's really escallated in the past ~4 months, where I was under a lot of stress, had to move out and didn't have anywhere to stay in the meantime until we got approved for a unit, I didn't have any money saved, my shifts were getting cut, I was in exams etc etc. I said I couldn't afford to take any days off of work to visit them for Christmas, couldn't afford the $50 to get there and back on public transport, that I was depressed and just needed time to myself and to work on my own things. This was the first argument that my boyfriend had heard from my mum to between my mum and I. She was on the phone screaming, calling me names, for hours. These kinds of "arguments" (which are just her yelling and screaming at me, in person she would usually get physical and I would do nothing because it would just escalate it) have been a recurring thing as I grew up. My boyfriend has reassured me that I don't deserve the abuse and I'm finally standing up for myself, even if it's just saying "I don't want to argue about it" or "I don't like how you're speaking to me."
Two days ago, my boyfriend commented on a public post in passing while he and I were at work. I got a message from my mum a few hours later saying that my dad recieved a screenshot from someone showing my boyfriend saying we should "let the Sudanese refugees come in" and had "totally lost it" and was now on his way down to where we live, which is two hours away, because he was so angry. I replied and said that I was at work, I'm really busy and that I'd check in when I finished. For an hour and a half, until my shop closed, I was terrified and embarrassed worrying if my dad was going to burst into my workplace and go off like he's done at my mums (old) workplace when she was getting a hard time there. My mum messaged me shortly after I had finished and was going out to celebrate our anniversary saying that my dad had turned back, and was going home.
Yesterday, I receieved a message asking me to explain what had happened, to which I replied I wasn't sure because I didn't get in touch with my dad and thought that she knew more than me. She replied telling me if I "wanted to be that way, then fine," and that my boyfriend should cease using his online accounts to post anything political/anything she didn't like despite it being part of his job and something he is passionate about. I was then accused of not caring/loving my dad because he was just trying to "protect" me from someone who doesn't protect me (my boyfriend) and that it took him a lot of effort bothering to come down to my city at all and I should be grateful to my mum for "stopping" him.
Recieving abuse-filled messages near weekly has just become a part of mine and my parents relationship it seems at this point. I try to keep a level head and see, well maybe they're seeing something I'm not, but for the life of me I cannot get over this escallating into something potentially physical and seeing this manipulation play they're trying to do with me and my personal relationships. I'm so fed up and I don't know what to do. I want to cut them out and just leave them but on the other hand I'm terrified of doing that for some reason. They won't give up stalking our online presence despite being blocked, and although my boyfriend is reassuring and says he's not upset/hurt by them and he's only worried about me being on the recieving end, I don't want to lose him either.
what do 
tldr: parents stalk my boyfriends online presence, don't like what he says/likes, send me verbal abuse as a result. Came to a frightening situation the other day when my dad came 2 hours to our city out of pure rage - I'm scared and want to call our relationships off.
Parents are fans of the orange shitgibbon. That poor girl needs to exorcize that abusive trash out of her life
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Feb 17, 2019 10:48
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- Clitch
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I lived through
Donald Trump's presidency
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this lousy virus
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I can understand that reasoning, but at the same time the parent seems to be taking issue with their kid inheriting any of that money at all. That's weird. Surely the trust could be structured in a way that doesn't just dump millions of dollars on a teenager
The OP states concerns of
A: Not being a trustee. Being a trustee doesn't mean the parent can decide the kid needs a boat and a new house for her parents. A trustee has a responsibility that is subject to a lot of legal scrutiny, should it be called into question, just like an estate executor can't ignore the deceased's will. They have to act in the beneficiary's best interest.
B: The daughter being told of her inheritance before she's of age.
Why should she do what her parents tell her when she gets grandma and grandpa's money when she reaches 18? What is a good age to tell an idiot teenager that no matter how they behave toward their parents, they're guaranteed a pile of money? It's a classic narcissist move on the grandparents' part to undermine the parent and ingratiate themselves with the granddaughter. Even if it all goes up her nose or in her veins, she's just the product of bad parents, and they tried their best as loving grandparents to give her a secure future.
You can set up a trust such that the amount in the trust cant be touched, only the interest, with some outside extenuating circumstances you define, and typically cant be collected against for any debts the child racks up. If you are concerned an 18 year old will blow through several million when they turn 18 (which they will) you set up the trust this way so instead of unfettered money the kid starts getting paychecks for a several thousand dollars a month which is enough to be comfortable for life but not enough to live large and blow through it. The people ive met on these schemes have either gone on to be teachers/artists/care worker since the low salary doesnt stop them from living their passion or as a subsidy income at the start of their careers as soul shattering business types.
In summary the parent is pissed shes a financial failure her parents have made the decision to bypass entirely.
You can do all of those sensible things, but that being the case is entirely your speculation just like the parent being a financial failure.
If someone wants to give your child millions of dollars, and you decline for whatever reason, that is tantamount to child abuse in this capitalist hellscape we live in 
Why not a million ice cream bars? gently caress you for wanting to meter your child's access to them for the sake of their health and dietary habits into adulthood. That's a lot of life-sustaining calories you're denying that kid.
You bet your rear end I would've sued the poo poo out of my parents for depriving me of millions of dollars I could blow on the dumbest poo poo when I was 18. Also would've been pissed as gently caress they let me blow through millions as a dumb-rear end teenager.
Just give them a generous allowance and let them have at it while the rest collects interest. They'll eventually calm down.
Right now I'd settle for some island property, a bi-weekly maid service and whatever small luxuries I could dream of. Just park my rear end by the warm beach, make sure the house isn't too dirty and leave me the gently caress alone.
Those are some reasonable applications for a good lump of wealth. Almost like you're not a dumb 18-year old.
Yeah that's my thought as well. Screaming I DO NOT CONSENT TO MY CHILD INHERITING MY PARENTS' VAST WEALTH VIA A TRUST really means that they expected to inherit that money
probably a zaurg bad-with-money type that the grandparents know would blow it all on candles or whatever
Again, the post doesn't object to the kid getting an inheritance, just knowing they're getting unfettered access to that inheritance as a naive teenager. The OP says they get their own inheritance. I don't know where you people get this idea that they're getting stiffed while the kid's getting a sensibly supervised income from the grandparents while the original post is reasonably stating the exact opposite.
A parent wants to be able to raise a decent person without them saying, "gently caress you. I'll just wait out your bullshit until I get them grandma ducats.", and they're the brainless, money-grubbing rear end in a top hat?
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Feb 17, 2019 10:51
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- Ghost Leviathan
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Exploration is ill-advised.
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They're rich, the kid's gonna be awful anyway.
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Feb 17, 2019 10:56
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- Smirking_Serpent
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Is there a tactful way for me (56f) to talk to my son (30m) about keeping the volume down during sex?
Due to circumstances I (56f) ended up moving in with my son (30m), his wife (29f) and my granddaughter (2f). They are helping me out, and I try to pitch in anyway I can, I try to give them their space, buy groceries, babysit, etc. They are doing me a favour and I recognize this.
They live in a smallish house, a 2 bedroom bungalow with a basement, I’m in the basement, it’s comfortable and I’m so thankful for the accommodations.
The point of this post is that almost every night they put my granddaughter to bed, then they go to bed shortly after and almost every night I hear them having sex. I get it, they’re married, it’s their home. It’s a good thing and I know this. The only problem is that they are so loud. I’ve started taking their dog out for a walk every night so I can avoid having to hear it. I’m sure they probably think since I’m in the basement I can’t hear them. If I hear them, then I’m sure my granddaughter does too.
Is there a tactful way to address this? Or do I just keep walking the dog every night?
TL:DR- is there a tactful way for me (56f) to talk to son (30m) about keeping the volume down when he has sex with his wife (29f) or just suck it up?
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Feb 17, 2019 11:00
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- Anony Mouse
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A name means nothing on the battlefield. After a week, no one has a name.
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Lipstick Apathy
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Take someone home and gently caress even louder than them until they realize how thin the walls are, obviously.
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Feb 17, 2019 12:24
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- QuarkJets
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The OP states concerns of
A: Not being a trustee. Being a trustee doesn't mean the parent can decide the kid needs a boat and a new house for her parents. A trustee has a responsibility that is subject to a lot of legal scrutiny, should it be called into question, just like an estate executor can't ignore the deceased's will. They have to act in the beneficiary's best interest.
B: The daughter being told of her inheritance before she's of age.
Why should she do what her parents tell her when she gets grandma and grandpa's money when she reaches 18? What is a good age to tell an idiot teenager that no matter how they behave toward their parents, they're guaranteed a pile of money? It's a classic narcissist move on the grandparents' part to undermine the parent and ingratiate themselves with the granddaughter. Even if it all goes up her nose or in her veins, she's just the product of bad parents, and they tried their best as loving grandparents to give her a secure future.
You can do all of those sensible things, but that being the case is entirely your speculation just like the parent being a financial failure.
Why not a million ice cream bars? gently caress you for wanting to meter your child's access to them for the sake of their health and dietary habits into adulthood. That's a lot of life-sustaining calories you're denying that kid.
Those are some reasonable applications for a good lump of wealth. Almost like you're not a dumb 18-year old.
Again, the post doesn't object to the kid getting an inheritance, just knowing they're getting unfettered access to that inheritance as a naive teenager. The OP says they get their own inheritance. I don't know where you people get this idea that they're getting stiffed while the kid's getting a sensibly supervised income from the grandparents while the original post is reasonably stating the exact opposite.
A parent wants to be able to raise a decent person without them saying, "gently caress you. I'll just wait out your bullshit until I get them grandma ducats.", and they're the brainless, money-grubbing rear end in a top hat?
None of this addresses the fact that the parents are opposed to their child inheriting any of that wealth at all. "Oh boo hoo I'm not the trustee" is a poor loving reason to take that stance. "Well I'm worried my child won't respect me if they can expect this huge inheritance" is a poor reason as well, since that has nothing to do with the child's well-being.
QuarkJets fucked around with this message at 13:07 on Feb 17, 2019
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Feb 17, 2019 12:39
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The OP states concerns of
A: Not being a trustee. Being a trustee doesn't mean the parent can decide the kid needs a boat and a new house for her parents. A trustee has a responsibility that is subject to a lot of legal scrutiny, should it be called into question, just like an estate executor can't ignore the deceased's will. They have to act in the beneficiary's best interest.
B: The daughter being told of her inheritance before she's of age.
Why should she do what her parents tell her when she gets grandma and grandpa's money when she reaches 18? What is a good age to tell an idiot teenager that no matter how they behave toward their parents, they're guaranteed a pile of money? It's a classic narcissist move on the grandparents' part to undermine the parent and ingratiate themselves with the granddaughter. Even if it all goes up her nose or in her veins, she's just the product of bad parents, and they tried their best as loving grandparents to give her a secure future.
You can do all of those sensible things, but that being the case is entirely your speculation just like the parent being a financial failure.
Why not a million ice cream bars? gently caress you for wanting to meter your child's access to them for the sake of their health and dietary habits into adulthood. That's a lot of life-sustaining calories you're denying that kid.
Those are some reasonable applications for a good lump of wealth. Almost like you're not a dumb 18-year old.
Again, the post doesn't object to the kid getting an inheritance, just knowing they're getting unfettered access to that inheritance as a naive teenager. The OP says they get their own inheritance. I don't know where you people get this idea that they're getting stiffed while the kid's getting a sensibly supervised income from the grandparents while the original post is reasonably stating the exact opposite.
A parent wants to be able to raise a decent person without them saying, "gently caress you. I'll just wait out your bullshit until I get them grandma ducats.", and they're the brainless, money-grubbing rear end in a top hat?
What the gently caress are you even going on about mate
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Feb 17, 2019 12:41
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- Ghost Leviathan
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Exploration is ill-advised.
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Rich people complaining about money always boils down to 'Why aren't they just giving all that money to me so I can put it in my pocket?'
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Feb 17, 2019 12:50
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- Splicer
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from hell's heart I cast at thee
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What the gently caress are you even going on about mate
Another interpretation is that the parent wants all the money for themselves and/or wants to be the one abusing the power this gives them.
We don't have enough info either way so obviously everyone is picking extreme positions on each side* and declaring the other tribe to be monsters, fools, and heretics.
*yes including you
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Feb 17, 2019 13:07
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- Whorelord
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Jump into the well...
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I (20M) had sex with a girl (19F) at my college. She then posted something very, very strange on her facebook status, comparing me sexually to my friend who she also slept with.
quote:There is one girl, Kelsey, who I went to high school with and ended up at the same college. She is really crazy. She was kind of the goth/punk girl in high school who did a lot of drugs and would say really creepy random stuff to people. She got really into like occult weird stuff and would get upset at people for not engaging with her when she would just blabber on about it. I don't think she was set right in the head, honestly. I don't even want to be rude, but she very clearly had lots of issues. She would just say things that were so odd. She reminded me of ally sheedy from the breakfast club. She also specifically overshares on facebook, a lot. Like, when she dated this one guy, she would share stuff about their sex life, very specific stuff. She sometimes shared gifs of random sex scenes from pornos on her wall. She would go into details about stuff. She would also openly poo poo talk her whole entire family and friends and just... ugh
So we had a party at my apartment, I ended up sleeping on the couch at the end and passing out when everyone was gone. I was really, really drunk from the night before, I'm honestly not even sure WHAT happened. But when I got up and walked down the hallway to my bedroom suddenly out comes Kelsey from my roommates room in his sweatshirt and no pants. My roommates I don't care to see me in just my boxers, they've seen me nude dozens of times, but this random girl I've known since 9th grade? Definitely weird. I run into her all the time on campus but not like this. Anyways we both were weirded out and I quickly ran to my bedroom after that, but she came over while I was still getting ready and started casually talking to me and asking how I was. We talked for a bit, then she got a bit touchy feely, then she said she sees me at the gym shirtless everyday and at that point I was pretty sure I knew what was up. We ended up having sex right there, and it was honestly pretty good. I suppose there was the aspect of her having already seen me mostly naked and that I was literally only in my boxers and her not wearing pants that kind of facilitated things. But again, this girl is insane.
Anyways we sort of just lied in bed for a while and talked for a bit. She was, as usual, acting weird. I figured my roommate slept with her the night before too considering she came out of his room, but he was no where to be found. I felt weird about it... but not too weird. Both of us would be fine with it.
She left, I went to class and work and whatnot. Then I got a message from my friends, almost all at once, to check her facebook. I checked... it was strange. She tagged us both, both me and my roommate, and said she slept with both of us and went on this insane long rant about how it was and included a bit too many details about our sizes and stuff. She also said some pretty bluntly derogatory comments about my roommates size and his body and all this stuff, and it was just really unbelievably disrespectful.
My roommate came back and I decided to show him it and he just looked like he wanted to die inside. It only had 2 likes and zero comments, but still. She literally said he was fat and had a small peni on loving facebook and then wrote this whole thing about how I am so much better in every way. I almost couldn't even look him in the eye, I felt horrible. Obviously it made me look good and him look terrible.
I am not sure what to do. This is such a strange situation. I messaged her, called her, he did the same, asking her to take it down. She responded to me when I called and seemed strung out and just kept saying she doesn't care, and that its like a personal diary to her. She sounded drunk or high, and told us nobody reads it either way, then she hung up. Both of us are really uncomfortable about this situation, both about the entirety of it but also because she literally just outwardly said I am better than this guy in like a bunch of different ways on facebook. I cant imagine he doesn't feel some type of negativity towards me, I know I would. Not directly, but just because of the whole situation. Later on I heard him loving crying to himself in his room and I literally felt so bad. I honestly was just filled with anger that she would say something like that about him.
TL;DR - - Slept with a girl after my roommate slept with her. She then went on facebook and openly compared us both in bed and in looks and basically called my friend ugly and fat and said I was great. I feel horrible, and don't know what to do.
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Feb 17, 2019 13:13
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- Power Khan
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by Fritz the Horse
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Bf likes coke
quote:Boyfriend (26M) hit me and I (26F) am worried he's dead
This is all so loving crazy, I wish I could just rewind and start over.
I've been dating my boyfriend since we were 20 and he was always very charming, handsome, and respectful. Basically the perfect guy. My parents loved him and I love him so so much, my heart physically hurts when I think about what he's doing to himself.
He started doing coke more as a social thing - we moved to a new city because he found a better job and his new work friends did it. The first time he did it, I freaked out and was all like what the gently caress are you doing, because I do not like drugs one bit. He thought it was fine because it was "classy" since it's expensive and businessmen and celebrities do it. I'm not making GBS threads you, he literally said that to me. I thought he was loving insane but I obviously couldn't stop him. I tried to deal with it and think, okay it's just for fun and it's not affecting his job or anything and we seem fine.
He kept doing it and it drove me insane. A fun treat turned into a habit and when I tried telling him he needed to get help, he'd tell me he had it under control and that he didn't need to do it, he just liked it and didn't wanna deprive himself of feeling good. Btw, he acted like a complete rear end in a top hat when he was high. Talking a lot of poo poo and acting like he was super cool. It was nauseating and embarrassing to see him acting like that - the charming guy I loved was gone and replaced with this disgusting, narcissistic character.
I even told him once that I wanted to do it with him because he liked it so much and I wanted to see the hype. I thought he was going to say no to protect me from it. Nope, he got extremely excited and helped me do it. It was okay, I guess, but not anything I would be willing to prioritize over my life. He saw it as a bonding moment and felt more open to talk to me about it, how he wanted to do it together again and how the sex was so much better.
We have been through so much because of this. He's been in rehab twice but left and he's a grown man, I can't force him to do anything. Our parents don't know. His parents were sending him some money when we first moved to help us get started in a new place. They don't send money anymore but he still doesn't want them to know. He doesn't want me to tell my parents because he doesn't think it's their business or a big deal. I feel so incredibly embarrassed as well. I've always been a good kid, never the one my parents had to worry about and my mom would probably have a heart attack if she found out about this.
He came back from rehab and he kept using. Then one night he just disappeared. I tried calling his bitch rear end friends and his job and no one knew where he was. I found out he was fired weeks before for fighting someone and destroying poo poo. He called me in the morning and was just being a condescending rear end in a top hat, making fun of me for being worried about him and laughing. It was the weirdest poo poo. I didn't see him for days and it was horrible. He wouldn't tell me where he was.
Then he came back home one night randomly and came into our bed. I was so loving mad but I was worried about where he was so I let him stay. I was crying and made him promise he would stop or else I was leaving for good. I even got up and packed up a few bags to scare him and it worked, he promised he would never use again if I didn't make him go to rehab. So I agreed that I would take care of him. I took off of work, fed and bathed him like he was a baby. I think he had started using something else too because he just seemed so messed up. He was depressed and angry at me, it was horrible to watch.
Eventually, he got over it and it felt like we were the closest we'd ever been and we loved each other so much. We talked about everything, things I'd never told him before, and it felt like we were on cloud nine. He was determined to stay clean and I believed him. We were okay for a bit, probably one month.
My parents were coming to visit and I was really excited about not having to hide anything - we were good and we didn't have to lie about all that stuff anymore. We could just forget about it. Well, he disappeared again the day before they came and he stole $1,200 from me. I can't even describe how it felt waking up and the house being empty. I couldn't even tell myself he went to the store or something. I knew he was gone. Typing this out, my hands are shaking. I hated him so much for doing that to me. My parents came and I had to lie and say he had a last-minute work conference event or whatever poo poo, I don't know. They knew something was wrong but didn't say anything. I hated lying to my parents but how was I supposed to tell them - oh yeah, you know that amazing guy you've known for years? He's addicted to coke or crack or some poo poo and he stole my money and lied to me and I've been lying this whole time and he has no job and he's a loving lying bitch rear end.
When they went home, I went into a depression. I was just thinking about how he came home and we were together and things were so so so good and how everything was actually bullshit. He was so skinny and felt self-conscious about it and didn't want me to see him since I became bigger than him but I didn't give a poo poo about that, I just wanted him healthy again. When he was going through withdrawal and was sick, I would give him baths every night since he couldn't do it himself. Even when he got better, he didn't want to have sex and I understood. And then one night he asked if I'd take a bath with him. I asked if he was having a bad day and not feeling good but, he gave me this cute smile and just shook his head. I was so excited that I had him back. He really loving tricked me. poo poo.
He ended up coming home a few days later. He was high as poo poo and didn't even care. He was just smiling and ignoring me, giving me this look as if he was so much better than me like looking at me and smiling or furrowing his eyebrows and shaking his head and laughing while I yelled at him, as if I were crazy or something. I told him I loving hated him and he ruined my life but he didn't care. And then I said I was going to tell our parents and that got his attention. He started cursing at me, calling me a bitch and slut and whore, things that didn't even make sense. I told him off for stealing my money and he took it out of his bag, saying he actually still had half and threw it in my face. I tried telling him to get out but he said he wasn't going anywhere since it was actually his house. We bought the house together. Yeah, he put more money into it but he hadn't been loving working for months and I was paying for everything. Then I did something really stupid. I don't know why I did it. I took my phone and said I was gonna call his parents and tell them that their son was a loving loser crackhead. I was just trying to scare him - I would never call them like that, in the middle of a fight in front of him. Anyway, he was yelling at me to stop and he pushed me on the wall and we struggled for a bit. He tried grabbing my phone but I had quick reflexes and I'm pretty petite so I was able to just pull away from him. Then he grabbed my hand and put his arm on my chest to hold me down and was calling me a bitch and screaming at me. I was yelling back and tried pushing him off me and pushed on his chest and his shoulder and then he slapped me really hard on my cheek. Like, swinging his arm, left a ringing in my ear, bruising kind of hard. He had never hit me before - he used to never like play fighting because he was scared he'd accidentally hurt me.
He let me go and I just sat on the floor and cried. He got really fidgety and I could tell he felt bad about it but he still did it. He told me "c'mon get up, it wasn't that bad". I told him I hated him. Then he had a panic attack or something, he started breathing really hard. He just mumbled he was sorry, grabbed some money from the floor and left.
Two weeks later, he called me and was crying and said he was sorry for everything and wanted to come home. I said I never wanted to see him again. He begged and promised me that he would go to rehab but I told him I was over his lies and he promised that he'd get clean for real this time but I kept saying no and that he needed to call his parents.
Then he asked me if I'd come see him in the hospital if he OD'd and I told him no. He cried harder and said he didn't want to die and he was gonna be good for me. I knew he was lying and probably ran out of money or something. I hate myself and think about this every day but I just hope him I hoped he died and hung up. That was a few days ago and I haven't heard from him and I am so scared that he's dead somewhere or passed out on the street and in need of help. I can't believe I said that to him and feel so horrible - that's not the kind of person I am, I would never wish death upon someone, especially him. I don't want him to die. I was just trying to hurt him.
This is so long and I'm sorry but I can't tell anyone about this and it's killing me. I think about everything that happened between us, all the little details that he probably never noticed or remembers. I feel depressed and on edge all the time. My mind is always thinking about him, hoping he's okay. I feel like I wasted my life on him and don't know what to do. I've been dealing with this nightmare for so long and I still miss him so much, my heart physically hurts. What did I do to deserve this?
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Feb 17, 2019 14:07
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- Biplane
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One interpretation of the story is that the parent is concerned their kid will grow into a entitled poo poo if they spend their teenage years aware that they are immune from all consequences, and/or when they receive it that the trust fund will not be structured in a manner appropriate for the long term good of a near-child, and/or that the grandparents will abuse the power this gives them.
Another interpretation is that the parent wants all the money for themselves and/or wants to be the one abusing the power this gives them.
We don't have enough info either way so obviously everyone is picking extreme positions on each side* and declaring the other tribe to be monsters, fools, and heretics.
*yes including you
Financial security is worth pretty mych anything these days.
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Feb 17, 2019 14:07
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- Power Khan
- Aug 20, 2011
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by Fritz the Horse
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I (20M) had sex with a girl (19F) at my college. She then posted something very, very strange on her facebook status, comparing me sexually to my friend who she also slept with.
What a weird humblebrag
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Feb 17, 2019 14:10
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- Ghost Leviathan
- Mar 2, 2017
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Exploration is ill-advised.
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One interpretation of the story is that the parent is concerned their kid will grow into a entitled poo poo if they spend their teenage years aware that they are immune from all consequences, and/or when they receive it that the trust fund will not be structured in a manner appropriate for the long term good of a near-child, and/or that the grandparents will abuse the power this gives them.
Another interpretation is that the parent wants all the money for themselves and/or wants to be the one abusing the power this gives them.
We don't have enough info either way so obviously everyone is picking extreme positions on each side* and declaring the other tribe to be monsters, fools, and heretics.
*yes including you
They're a trust fund kid in New York, either way they're probably going to grow up to be be completely insufferable with horrible and idiot political beliefs and have a newspaper column and published autobiography for no apparent reason beyond their family buying them popularity
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Feb 17, 2019 14:12
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- CheesyDog
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by FactsAreUseless
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I feel like I'm not allowed to make requests or be disappointed because I'm male. (self.sex)
submitted 2 days ago by EttenCO
quote:TL;DR I feel like because I'm a man and society has deemed me "in power" my requests for sex acts from my female partner come with undertones of coersion or threats because of that power and therefore I should not make requests or feel at all disappointed if she's not into something I would be. I could use some other perspectives on this.
GF and I had a great talk the other night about safe sex and how we want to approach it going forward. She let me know that in the future she would like to only be penetrated while I'm wearing a condom (we've gone both with, and without one in the past, but never finished while I was inside).
Mentally, I fully support her choice and believe she's absolutely in the right to make whatever call she wants because it's her body and gives her peace of mind.
Emotionally, I'm a little disappointed because we both really enjoyed it (she's told me the feeling is much better without a condom) and I felt like we were already taking precautions, which, while not guaranteeing protection from pregnancy, were reducing the chances (I would pee before and after sex to clean out any lingering sperm, we would only go without a condom when she was least fertile, and I'm quite in tune with my body as far as sensing and reacting to how close I am to orgasm, plus it takes a lot of work to get me to cum so the chance of it happening accidentally was very unlikely).
The issue I'm conflicted with and trying to get over, is I don't feel like, as a man, I'm allowed to feel disappointed by this change. I feel like men have always had things their way and we risk very little so I don't get to be disappointed with how my partner wants to have sex because ultimately it's their body on the line so I need to just be quiet and deal with it. I also feel like because I'm a man, any asks or requests I have will inherently be communicated with an undertone of hostility or coersion because that's what is commonly depicted of men in American society. So for that reason I feel like it's not my place to ask if my partner would like to perform a sex act for me, nor am I allowed to be disappointed (again) if they say 'no'.
I'm wondering if anything about this perspective is askew, and how I might go about reconciling these thoughts.
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Feb 17, 2019 14:53
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- Biplane
- Jul 18, 2005
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I feel like I'm not allowed to make requests or be disappointed because I'm male. (self.sex)
submitted 2 days ago by EttenCO
God drat what a lovely little baby
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Feb 17, 2019 15:01
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- CheesyDog
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by FactsAreUseless
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Finally a visual for when we're reading those estranged parent forum posts
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hzs5xSxLk5A
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Feb 17, 2019 15:16
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- Skippy McPants
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Sounds like she told him to get a vasectomy if he does not want to use condoms and he flinched so now it's all about her disappointing him.
Sounds more like he was routinely asking or pressuring her to have unprotected sex and she went along with it a few times to avoid awkwardness but eventually had to sit him down and tell him to wrap that poo poo up.
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Feb 17, 2019 15:19
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- Barudak
- May 7, 2007
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Lady calm down, youre 26, employed, no kids, and make enough money to pay the bills by yourself. Nobody but you ever has to know what happened to your previous boyfriend. Start workshopping deaths for him you like.
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Feb 17, 2019 15:50
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- Pivotal Lever
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God I loving hate cyclists. I routinely attend town hall meetings just to get those death machines off the roads. Might as well just replace the bicycle lane symbol with a skull and crossbones.
Unfortunately, civic action has not been as effective as I'd hoped. So recently I've been infiltrating local cycling groups and destroying them from the inside or converting them to superior 4 wheeled vehicles. My go to is to find the gayest spandex costume possible and strike up conversations with cyclists that subtly hint at the superiority of automobiles. For example:
"Greetings, fellow cyclist. I sure do love inconveniencing others with my dangerous hobby. Say, when you finally get struck down by one of those marvels of modern engineering what kind of car do you hope it will be? Personally, I'd like to be crushed in the spacious wheel well of the new 2019 Buick Envision. What with their luxurious interiors, dealer incentives, and 0% APR factory financing for qualified applicants I bet they wouldn't even care that my mangled corpse and bicycle had scratched their paintjob. Yep, that's how I want to go, when the cars finally get me."
I make every effort to yield to cyclists and respect their right to use the road (having been one myself), but the guy that got hit was riding the wrong way down the sidewalk, which is extremely loving dangerous; he proved it by getting hit by a car. Perhaps I am lucky to live in an area with generous cycling infrastructure with cyclists who use their designated lanes.
Granted, you still need to look right when turning right to check for pedestrians, but cyclists move fast and I can envision a situation where you look to the right long enough to check for pedestrians, look left to check for cars and pedestrians, begin turning and hit a cyclist who came around a corner and crossed your path of travel before you got a chance to see and react.
Pivotal Lever fucked around with this message at 16:01 on Feb 17, 2019
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Feb 17, 2019 15:56
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- Zauper
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I make every effort to yield to cyclists and respect their right to use the road (having been one myself), but the guy that got hit was riding the wrong way down the sidewalk, which is extremely loving dangerous; he proved it by getting hit by a car.
To be fair, there is no 'wrong way' to ride down a sidewalk -- sidewalks are not one-way. The driver needed to look in both directions for pedestrians anyway and didn't.
That said, riding a bike on a sidewalk is a dumb thing, and illegal most places including where I live. They need to get the gently caress off the sidewalk and on the road (little kids still learning are *ok* on the sidewalk, but realistically they should be on a paved trail, empty lot, or similar). It especially annoys me when cyclists ring their bells at me to move out of their way as a pedestrian. No, I'm not going to move out of your way, I have right of way, I'm walking by myself on the sidewalk. If it's too narrow for you to pass, you should be on the road. Where you're supposed to be.
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Feb 17, 2019 16:06
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- Splicer
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from hell's heart I cast at thee
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I make every effort to yield to cyclists and respect their right to use the road (having been one myself), but the guy that got hit was riding the wrong way down the sidewalk, which is extremely loving dangerous; he proved it by getting hit by a car. Perhaps I am lucky to live in an area with generous cycling infrastructure with cyclists who use their designated lanes.
Granted, you still need to look right when turning right to check for pedestrians, but cyclists move fast and I can envision a situation where you look to the right long enough to check for pedestrians, look left to check for cars and pedestrians, begin turning and hit a cyclist who came around a corner and crossed your path of travel before you got a chance to see and react.
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Feb 17, 2019 16:28
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Feb 17, 2019 05:20
so she can get with a decent dude.
