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Dazerbeams: Jul 8, 2009

I get no emotional or financial support from my boyfriend, how do I call him out about one particular lovely trait without leaving him?

edit: Oh poo poo, uh have some content

I [26F] am sick and tried of my boyfriend's [28M] refusal to contribute to our household

quote:

I know this is an age-old problem, but I could use some advice because my tactics haven�t been working. I�ve been living with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. We�re mostly really great together and I�m very happy with him. However, in the time we�ve been cohabitating, it�s become clear that he does not care about being an equal partner when it comes to household maintenance (chores/cooking), and what�s worse, he doesn�t seem to take seriously how much that bothers me. Plus, he�s a bit of a slob and does things like leaving dirty clothes EVERYWHERE, letting food trash sit around, and just generally does not clean up after himself on a daily basis. Relevant info: we are both professionals, but he�s in tech and makes way, way more money than me. Despite that we both work full-time, I sometimes feel like he views his much more substantial financial contribution to our household as a free pass when it comes to chores. I�ve mentioned this, but he says it�s not true.

We�ve had lots of conversations about this, which tend go one of three ways: (1) he tells me that he just doesn�t notice things/doesn�t know how to clean. That�s may be partially true--he grew up in a household where he wasn�t expected to do chores and grew accustomed to a fairy woman magically making everything clean--which is a role that I have now assumed in his life. However, I make a point of asking him to do specific things, show him how to do chores, and point out when he leaves a mess behind. There has been no progress in his �awareness,� willful or otherwise. (2) He�ll apologize and say how grateful he is for everything I do, and promise to do better. But that �do better� time never comes, and I end up feeling like he�s making empty promises to squash my complaints. (3) He gets angry and points out completely unrelated ways in which I am not a perfect partner OR will describe how I also don�t always pick up after myself immediately. When he does the latter, he�ll say that it�s unfair for me to expect him to do chores on my timeline when he doesn�t demand the same of me. That would be a fair point if he HAD a timeline for this stuff. But I�ve tried that many times, leaving his mess untouched--and inevitably, once I get sick of the same trash or laundry pile sitting in the living room for over a week, I�ll cave and clean it myself.

I understand that sometimes there are compatibility issues when it comes to standards of cleanliness, but I would not call myself a neat freak at all. It�s just that we live in a nice apartment and have nice things and I want things to look�decently nice, and not filled with trash all the time. He often points out that the mess doesn�t bother him, whereas my counter is, of course it doesn�t because you take it for granted that somehow it will *mysteriously* all become clean if he waits on me long enough. Besides, I don�t care if he�s fine with living in a college-dorm level of squalor; to me, maintaining a home is a basic requirement of adulthood. When he does small things that I very pointedly ask of him, like take out the trash, he�ll often demand thanks for it. This drives me absolutely crazy. I feel that nearly all of the household work I do is invisible to him, and it�s laughable to imagine demanding his thanks/praise every time I do something. And in any case, I�m not looking for a �helper� here. I expect that my partner should take equal responsibility for the home we equally live in.

The gender analysis of all of this is not lost on me. Like, as much as I know that he views me as an equal in most ways, I think he seriously takes me for granted on this issue. Despite the frustrations I�ve voiced in this post, we are a mostly happy couple and I love this guy a lot. I see a future together, but this issue is actually super worrisome in that context. If we have this much trouble with balancing chores, I can�t imagine the issues that would arise if we were to have kids together. I�ve never wanted to be a homemaker and have a career of my own that demands just as much time and energy as his, despite our differences in pay. How can I get him to take this problem seriously?

TLDR: We both work, but only I cook/clean. How can I communicate to my partner that this issue is actually very serious to me? What are some strategies to establish him as a contributor to household tasks?

Dazerbeams fucked around with this message at 16:47 on Mar 23, 2019

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# ? May 14, 2024 23:19

Agrikk: Oct 17, 2003; Take care with that! We have not fully ascertained its function, and the ticking is accelerating.

Biplane posted:

and if there's any type of parent one should cut out of their life it's traditional chinese parents (TCP)

In this day and age, shouldn�t we call them Traditional Chinese Parents / Immigrant Parents (TCP/IP)?

# ? Mar 23, 2019 16:53

DemoneeHo: Nov 9, 2017; Come on hee-ho, just give us 300 more macca

Agrikk posted:

In this day and age, shouldn�t we call them Traditional Chinese Parents / Immigrant Parents (TCP/IP)?

Boo this man

# ? Mar 23, 2019 16:59

Piell: Sep 3, 2006; Grey Worm's Ken doll-like groin throbbed with the anticipatory pleasure that only a slightly warm and moist piece of lemoncake could offer; Young Orc

Is it illegal to hire a prostitute for someone else if they don't know?

quote:

Hi, I have a really horrible boss at work who is extremely sexually frustrated. My coworkers and I want to hire a prostitute to pretend to organically seduce him. If we pay her to go on a date with him, and encourage sex but not require it, and he doesn't know she's being paid, is that illegal?

Edit: In the United States!

# ? Mar 23, 2019 17:00

Midnight Voyager: Jul 2, 2008; Lipstick Apathy

DemoneeHo posted:

My [25 F] lazy boyfriend [26 M] always lies and pretends he's sick when someone in our household falls ill. How can I confront him without seeming crazy?

Infect him with a disease so he won't be lying anymore. Or you could just call out his bullshit and dump him without outing your friend.

That'll never change. My dad's just like that, he always has it worse than anyone else when bad things happen, and that includes illness.

Piell posted:

Is it illegal to hire a prostitute for someone else if they don't know?

I think Chip and Ironicus mocked this anime once...

# ? Mar 23, 2019 17:48

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Power Khan posted:

AITA for not being being grateful to meet my gf's sock friend?

lmao at this reply

NTA

What the gently caress?

If you sent your socks to some woman how would gf feel? My bet is angry and betrayed.

Yes, what if the shoe was on the other foot, all those men's-sock-buying women in the sea.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 17:52

dudeness: Mar 5, 2010; Cat Army; Fallen Rib

You have to hire someone else to hire the prostitute to make it legal. The CIA call it using a "cutout".

# ? Mar 23, 2019 17:52

Antivehicular: Dec 30, 2011; I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

nonathlon posted:

EDIT: woah, new title. Which story did that come from?

IIRC, it was a woman seeing her boyfriend in amateur gay porn, and "meth makes me gay" was his excuse? IIRC she didn't know he was into meth, either. The story was actually a pretty routine "welp, turns out my partner is a shithead train wreck" thing and not that funny, imho, but the line is pretty good.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 18:01

Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; I LITERALLY SLEEP IN A RACING CAR. DO YOU?
p.s. ask me about my subscription mattress; Ultra Carp

Known Lecher posted:

Imagine how turned on that weirdo probably gets from socks she ran a marathon in.

On second thought, don't

Thanks a lot! blech

# ? Mar 23, 2019 18:11

Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; I LITERALLY SLEEP IN A RACING CAR. DO YOU?
p.s. ask me about my subscription mattress; Ultra Carp

DemoneeHo posted:

Boo this man

# ? Mar 23, 2019 18:12

DragQueenofAngmar: Dec 29, 2009; You shall not pass!

Girlfriend (25f) and her friends joke about murder a lot and it's making me (29m) uncomfortable.

quote:

This sounds really weird, I know, but please hear me out. My girlfriend Susan and her friends Lexi and Brianna are super close and have been for 7 years. They have this inside "joke" amongst themselves that's pretty disturbing.

Basically they'll joke about murdering people who have done something to wrong any of them. Don't get me wrong, it makes sense that they're upset about this stuff, but it's still shocking to hear those kinds of jokes. For example Lexi used to work at a place where her boss harassed her, and she asked Susan one night "do you still have that knife in your purse?" And Susan was like "girl, that's the wrong type of knife to gut a pig." And then they talked through going to pay her dad a visit at the farm and borrow some hog hooks and a better butchering knife.

This is just one example, and the thing that I find the most unsettling is that they refer to pretty realistic stuff, it's not like they're joking about something totally ridiculous. Brianna is studying nursing and she'll joke about getting sedatives or scalpels or stuff from the hospital where she does rotations. Lexi plays softball and loves camping and the girls will talk about hitting someone over the head with a bat, and knowing the best places in the woods to hide a body. Susan grew up in the country and is pretty comfortable butchering and gutting animals. And knows her way around a gun. And they joke about stuff that they'd probably actually be able to do... To people they know in real life.

Just so you know, I don't believe they're at all serious about any of this. But it's still pretty gross to hear them casually talk about these gory revenge fantasies like they're funny. Especially when they talk so specifically about stuff they know how to do, like drugging someone or gutting them like a hog or going out to a place in the woods they know nobody ever goes.

I asked Susan what was so funny about this stuff to her, why it just kept coming up. And she told me that it's just the way she and her friends are able to laugh at lovely stuff in their lives instead of letting it get them down. I told her I didn't get what was so funny exactly, and she said something that unsettled me more. She told me that it wasn't necessarily funny in the traditional way. But she and her friends were so frustrated nobody had their backs but each other. They've all experienced stuff where the police or authorities were worse than useless when they were being stalked or harassed or abused by someone. And that it can be satisfying to joke about taking stuff into their own hands.

I felt kind of conflicted hearing that. Because I get how frustrating getting no help must be. But it still really grosses me out that they're laughing about doing some pretty disgusting things for revenge.

I don't see this stopping, they've apparently had this running "joke" for 7 years and I've only been in a relationship with Susan for a year and a half. But it still grosses me out and honestly makes me look at her differently for it. Is it wrong for me to be so grossed out? Should I try to get Susan to cut it out?

tl;dr My girlfriend and her friends "joke" about gory revenge fantasies and it's making me pretty uncomfortable

didn�t we have this one from the woman�s perspective a while back? anyways, dude is still a sad wimp

# ? Mar 23, 2019 19:30

big dyke energy: Jul 29, 2006; Football? Yaaaay

Girlfriend listens to too much my favorite murder and that dude is a weenus.

Actually either that's a repeat or we had one that was nearly identical earlier, I'm pretty sure that we had one from the girlfriend's side, too.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 19:39

Cactus Ghost: Dec 20, 2003; you can actually inflate your scrote pretty safely with sterile saline, syringes, needles, and aseptic technique. its a niche kink iirc

the saline just slowly gets absorbed into your blood but in the meantime you got a big round smooth distended nutsack

Piell posted:

Is it illegal to hire a prostitute for someone else if they don't know?

asking the internet if hiring an escort is legal is the oroborous of social cluelessness

# ? Mar 23, 2019 19:48

Gone Fashing: Aug 4, 2004; KEEP POSTIN
I'M STILL LAFFIN

its cool that guy knows these girls

# ? Mar 23, 2019 19:54

Antivehicular: Dec 30, 2011; I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

Gone Fashing posted:

its cool that guy knows these girls

When these two play gently caress/Marry/Kill, it gets real complicated

# ? Mar 23, 2019 20:01

QuarkJets: Sep 8, 2008

Motronic posted:

It's fine if it doesn't gross you out, but it's cheap filler substituting for real food. I suppose this is at least a better use than bulking ground meat.

you've just described fiber

# ? Mar 23, 2019 20:02

Motronic: Nov 6, 2009

QuarkJets posted:

you've just described fiber

.......and I prefer to get it from things in which it occurs naturally. You know, like vegetables, beans, grains.........yes, I know this requires occasionally not eating tendies and shoveling shredded cheese into your gullet, but it's definitely possible.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 20:29

therobit: Aug 19, 2008; I've been tryin' to speak with you for a long time

Motronic posted:

yes, I know this requires occasionally not eating tendies and shoveling shredded cheese into your gullet, but it's definitely possible.

Please try to remember your audience and provide citations for facts they will have a hard time swallowing.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 20:45

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

My [22F] best friend [22F] is avoiding me after we hooked up.

I�m bisexual and I came out to my best friend last year. We went to school in a pretty liberal city, but I still wasn�t ready to tell people so she was the only person who knew for a while.

This made us even closer. She was super supportive and would take me to gay bars and ask me if I thought a girl was cute. I had a big crush on a classmate of ours and she was the only person I could talk to about it.

Then, last summer after we graduated she cane over to my place to check out my new apartment. We started drinking and she thought it would be funny if we made out. I said it was a bad idea at first but eventually I went along with it. Things escalated and she ended up fingering me.

After that I realized I may have feelings for her. I thought our relationship would either go to the next level or we would laugh it off and stay friends, but after she left my place she never spoke to me again. We have a lot of mutual friends, and she told them all what happened and now they�re all really weird and awkward around me. Some have even made gay jokes. At one party I was at someone got drunk and asked me why I haven�t come out yet in front of everyone.

It�s been eight months. I�ve tried reaching out and she still won�t talk to me. At one point when I tried contacting her she had a friend of ours write me back on her phone telling me to �stop harassing her�. She just had a birthday party and invited all of our friends and didn�t invite me.

I feel so loving isolated and lonely. I miss my friend so much. I feel like everywhere I go everyone knows what happened to me and they think I�m pathetic or a stalker or a lesbian. I feel like everything is spiraling out of control. I can�t remember ever feeling so depressed and hurt. I�m in so much pain and I don�t know how to make it better. What should I do?

Tl;dr: my friend and I slept together. We are both girls and I was in the closet. Now my friend won�t talk to me and all our friends know and they treat it like a joke. I don�t know how to navigate this.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 20:54

CannonFodder: Jan 26, 2001; Passion’s Wrench

therobit posted:

Please try to remember your audience and provide citations for facts they will have a hard time swallowing.

There was that one goon that twice almost choked to death on a hotdog.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 20:59

Cactus Ghost: Dec 20, 2003; you can actually inflate your scrote pretty safely with sterile saline, syringes, needles, and aseptic technique. its a niche kink iirc

the saline just slowly gets absorbed into your blood but in the meantime you got a big round smooth distended nutsack

Motronic posted:

.......and I prefer to get it from things in which it occurs naturally. You know, like vegetables, beans, grains.........yes, I know this requires occasionally not eating tendies and shoveling shredded cheese into your gullet, but it's definitely possible.

it does occur naturally in wood though

# ? Mar 23, 2019 21:15

Smirking_Serpent: Aug 27, 2009

AITA for not caring about my ex�s family tragedy?

I dated my ex for 3 years and ended up finding out she was cheating for about half of that time. I broke up with her about 4 months ago and she moved out of my house. I ended up hearing from friends that she was painting me as the bad guy who drove her into the beds of all those guys she cheated with. No one believed her and she ended up isolating herself from the friend group because people really didn�t like the way she handled things as far as cheating and with the break up.

Her parents recently were killed in a bad car accident. It�s a shame, they were very good people. I enjoyed the time I spent around them and they treated me well. They died about 5 days ago.

My friends have been telling me over the past few days that she was asking about me and saying she wishes she could be with me and talk to me about the loss and apologize.

I don�t buy the bullshit. This isn�t about her being sincerely remorseful about anything. This is her wanting to manipulate me into emotionally supporting her through this. Her parents dying sucks and I�m sure that�s awful to deal with, but it is firmly her problem, not mine.

I told my friends this and they said they�d soften it but make sure she knows I�m not the one she should be calling or coming to.

She came over to my house early this morning a mess and crying and apologizing and begging at my doorstep. I thought about what I�d say but everything was going to be needlessly cruel so I just shut the door and she screamed so loud and for so long my neighbors called the police.

I didn�t get in trouble or anything but it was embarrassing and I had to deal with explaining things to them(it sure was fun explaining the context of her saying her parents were dead and crying on my doorstep).

My standing on this is pretty much that it sucks for her and more for her parents. But this isn�t my job anymore�to deal with supporting her through anything.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 21:22

Antivehicular: Dec 30, 2011; I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

CannonFodder posted:

There was that one goon that twice almost choked to death on a hotdog.

I want to say that guy turned out to have a congenital throat issue, so that kind of got less funny. Also, because goons, he got banned/long-probed after being creepy in PYF about a 16-year-old crushing on him, so the hot dog thing is maybe no longer his biggest problem

# ? Mar 23, 2019 21:25

Freudian: Mar 23, 2011

Antivehicular posted:

I want to say that guy turned out to have a congenital throat issue, so that kind of got less funny. Also, because goons, he got banned/long-probed after being creepy in PYF about a 16-year-old crushing on him, so the hot dog thing is maybe no longer his biggest problem

Wow, two hot dogs failed us.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 21:27

ilmucche: Mar 16, 2016

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not caring about my ex�s family tragedy?

I dated my ex for 3 years and ended up finding out she was cheating for about half of that time. I broke up with her about 4 months ago and she moved out of my house. I ended up hearing from friends that she was painting me as the bad guy who drove her into the beds of all those guys she cheated with. No one believed her and she ended up isolating herself from the friend group because people really didn�t like the way she handled things as far as cheating and with the break up.

Her parents recently were killed in a bad car accident. It�s a shame, they were very good people. I enjoyed the time I spent around them and they treated me well. They died about 5 days ago.

My friends have been telling me over the past few days that she was asking about me and saying she wishes she could be with me and talk to me about the loss and apologize.

I don�t buy the bullshit. This isn�t about her being sincerely remorseful about anything. This is her wanting to manipulate me into emotionally supporting her through this. Her parents dying sucks and I�m sure that�s awful to deal with, but it is firmly her problem, not mine.

I told my friends this and they said they�d soften it but make sure she knows I�m not the one she should be calling or coming to.

She came over to my house early this morning a mess and crying and apologizing and begging at my doorstep. I thought about what I�d say but everything was going to be needlessly cruel so I just shut the door and she screamed so loud and for so long my neighbors called the police.

I didn�t get in trouble or anything but it was embarrassing and I had to deal with explaining things to them(it sure was fun explaining the context of her saying her parents were dead and crying on my doorstep).

My standing on this is pretty much that it sucks for her and more for her parents. But this isn�t my job anymore�to deal with supporting her through anything.

Goddamn.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 21:27

Sagebrush: Feb 26, 2012

gonna say that yeah you are the rear end in a top hat there for calling the police on your grieving ex after she lost all her friends and both her parents were suddenly killed.

you can support someone through a tragedy without dating them. it's not taking her back or showing weakness or whatever.

yep, big ol' rear end in a top hat

# ? Mar 23, 2019 21:33

hevnz 2 murgatroyd: Apr 13, 2018; by Smythe

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not caring about my ex�s family tragedy?

Wow, that�s brutal, but experiencing a tragedy doesn�t make a lovely person not a lovely person.

Sagebrush posted:

gonna say that yeah you are the rear end in a top hat there for calling the police on your grieving ex after she lost all her friends and both her parents were suddenly killed.

you can support someone through a tragedy without dating them. it's not taking her back or showing weakness or whatever.

yep, big ol' rear end in a top hat

The neighbours called the police, not him.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 21:34

Anne Whateley: Feb 11, 2007; i like nice words

His neighbors called the cops

# ? Mar 23, 2019 21:34

Power Khan: Aug 20, 2011; by Fritz the Horse

Sagebrush posted:

gonna say that yeah you are the rear end in a top hat there for calling the police on your grieving ex after she lost all her friends and both her parents were suddenly killed.

you can support someone through a tragedy without dating them. it's not taking her back or showing weakness or whatever.

yep, big ol' rear end in a top hat

quote:

she screamed so loud and for so long my neighbors called the police

Furthermore, she's a manipulative bitch and he doesn't want anything to do with her.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 21:39

jobson groeth: May 17, 2018; by FactsAreUseless

Yeah OP isn't the rear end in a top hat here. She cheated on him for years, tried to trash his name and now she's expecting him to support her after all of that. Sure what happened in her life is not pleasant but he doesn't owe her the time of day.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 21:46

Tiny Timbs: Sep 6, 2008

Dazerbeams posted:

I get no emotional or financial support from my boyfriend, how do I call him out about one particular lovely trait without leaving him?

edit: Oh poo poo, uh have some content

I [26F] am sick and tried of my boyfriend's [28M] refusal to contribute to our household

How do counselors and therapists listen to this stupid poo poo all the time without reflexively hating both parties immediately?

# ? Mar 23, 2019 21:47

QuarkJets: Sep 8, 2008

Motronic posted:

.......and I prefer to get it from things in which it occurs naturally. You know, like vegetables, beans, grains.........yes, I know this requires occasionally not eating tendies and shoveling shredded cheese into your gullet, but it's definitely possible.

cellulose is an all-natural source of fiber, friend, it's just plant matter

like you ever eaten celery? it's almost all cellulose

# ? Mar 23, 2019 21:48

CheesyDog: Jul 4, 2007; by FactsAreUseless

Does vaginal acidity have any effect on the penis micro-ecosystem, skin, or size? (self.sex)

submitted 15 hours ago by cpnoneeye

quote:

Just found on reddit that vaginal acidity can be strong enough to bleach underwear which I had no idea about. it's not a big deal but one of my former partners definitely did have highly acidic discharge to the point it caused skin cracking at the very tip of my foreskin according to a doctor.

My question is, does acidic vaginal discharge affect the penis some how beyond this? Like is it possible for a penis to become smaller over time because of this acidity? I've hears that guys get smaller over time because of this so if anyone has any answers, that'd be awesome.

Cheers

# ? Mar 23, 2019 22:04

Butter Activities: May 4, 2018

Sagebrush posted:

gonna say that yeah you are the rear end in a top hat there for calling the police on your grieving ex after she lost all her friends and both her parents were suddenly killed.

you can support someone through a tragedy without dating them. it's not taking her back or showing weakness or whatever.

yep, big ol' rear end in a top hat

Not really this sounds like the first person to ever post with healthy boundaries regarding a lovely ex or family member.

And if he�s telling the truth it�s her that pushed her friends away.

Showing up to your ex�s uninvited is not a normal thing for any reason.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 22:13

Vim Fuego: Jun 1, 2000; I LITERALLY SLEEP IN A RACING CAR. DO YOU?
p.s. ask me about my subscription mattress; Ultra Carp

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not caring about my ex’s family tragedy?

I dated my ex for 3 years and ended up finding out she was cheating for about half of that time. I broke up with her about 4 months ago and she moved out of my house. I ended up hearing from friends that she was painting me as the bad guy who drove her into the beds of all those guys she cheated with. No one believed her and she ended up isolating herself from the friend group because people really didn’t like the way she handled things as far as cheating and with the break up.

Her parents recently were killed in a bad car accident. It’s a shame, they were very good people. I enjoyed the time I spent around them and they treated me well. They died about 5 days ago.

My friends have been telling me over the past few days that she was asking about me and saying she wishes she could be with me and talk to me about the loss and apologize.

I don’t buy the bullshit. This isn’t about her being sincerely remorseful about anything. This is her wanting to manipulate me into emotionally supporting her through this. Her parents dying sucks and I’m sure that’s awful to deal with, but it is firmly her problem, not mine.

I told my friends this and they said they’d soften it but make sure she knows I’m not the one she should be calling or coming to.

She came over to my house early this morning a mess and crying and apologizing and begging at my doorstep. I thought about what I’d say but everything was going to be needlessly cruel so I just shut the door and she screamed so loud and for so long my neighbors called the police.

I didn’t get in trouble or anything but it was embarrassing and I had to deal with explaining things to them(it sure was fun explaining the context of her saying her parents were dead and crying on my doorstep).

My standing on this is pretty much that it sucks for her and more for her parents. But this isn’t my job anymore—to deal with supporting her through anything.

This one is almost relaxing. Not only is she not his problem, he knows what a hurricane of poo poo he's specifically not having to deal with right now!

# ? Mar 23, 2019 22:18

Freudian: Mar 23, 2011

SpaceSDoorGunner posted:

Not really this sounds like the first person to ever post with healthy boundaries regarding a lovely ex or family member.

And if he�s telling the truth it�s her that pushed her friends away.

Showing up to your ex�s uninvited is not a normal thing for any reason.

"So a funny thing happened and we're both implicated in this crime", "I'm pregnant and it's yours", or "Hey so you need to get tested". Other than that, pretty much.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 22:23

Tetramin: Apr 1, 2006; I'ma buck you up.

Sagebrush posted:

gonna say that yeah you are the rear end in a top hat there for calling the police on your grieving ex after she lost all her friends and both her parents were suddenly killed.

you can support someone through a tragedy without dating them. it's not taking her back or showing weakness or whatever.

yep, big ol' rear end in a top hat

He doesn�t owe her anything.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 22:24

Amnizu: Nov 3, 2003; TELL ME WHY HILLARY INJECTED A MARIJUANA

Sagebrush posted:

gonna say that yeah you are the rear end in a top hat there for calling the police on your grieving ex after she lost all her friends and both her parents were suddenly killed.

you can support someone through a tragedy without dating them. it's not taking her back or showing weakness or whatever.

yep, big ol' rear end in a top hat

try reading the post next time :thumbsup:

# ? Mar 23, 2019 22:24

JFairfax: Oct 23, 2008; by FactsAreUseless

Smirking_Serpent posted:

AITA for not caring about my ex�s family tragedy?

I dated my ex for 3 years and ended up finding out she was cheating for about half of that time. I broke up with her about 4 months ago and she moved out of my house. I ended up hearing from friends that she was painting me as the bad guy who drove her into the beds of all those guys she cheated with. No one believed her and she ended up isolating herself from the friend group because people really didn�t like the way she handled things as far as cheating and with the break up.

Her parents recently were killed in a bad car accident. It�s a shame, they were very good people. I enjoyed the time I spent around them and they treated me well. They died about 5 days ago.

My friends have been telling me over the past few days that she was asking about me and saying she wishes she could be with me and talk to me about the loss and apologize.

I don�t buy the bullshit. This isn�t about her being sincerely remorseful about anything. This is her wanting to manipulate me into emotionally supporting her through this. Her parents dying sucks and I�m sure that�s awful to deal with, but it is firmly her problem, not mine.

I told my friends this and they said they�d soften it but make sure she knows I�m not the one she should be calling or coming to.

She came over to my house early this morning a mess and crying and apologizing and begging at my doorstep. I thought about what I�d say but everything was going to be needlessly cruel so I just shut the door and she screamed so loud and for so long my neighbors called the police.

I didn�t get in trouble or anything but it was embarrassing and I had to deal with explaining things to them(it sure was fun explaining the context of her saying her parents were dead and crying on my doorstep).

My standing on this is pretty much that it sucks for her and more for her parents. But this isn�t my job anymore�to deal with supporting her through anything.

ice cold mother fucker.

i like him

# ? Mar 23, 2019 22:28

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# ? May 14, 2024 23:19

Entorwellian: Jun 30, 2006; ~~Northern Flicker~~
Anna's Hummingbird

Sorry, but the people have spoken.

CheesyDog posted:

Does vaginal acidity have any effect on the penis micro-ecosystem, skin, or size? (self.sex)

submitted 15 hours ago by cpnoneeye

Throw some baking soda way deep in there just before sex.

# ? Mar 23, 2019 22:30

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