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I found some suggestive photos of my sister (F17) on my husbands phone (M23). Do I say anything or what should I do? We are visiting my mom, stepdad and sister and staying with them right now. Yeasterday we went shopping and my husband and sister left to cook dinner as theey are not fans of shopping. Today I needed to look I picture of a laptop I plan to but, it was in my husband's smarpthone. But I also saw many pictures of my sister while they were cooking. On these photos she is posing as she is pin up girl or something. One photo that diisgust me the most is her playifully licking white stuff of her fingers (meringue I guess). On some photos she has a mark on her butt as if she was slapped with a hand covered in flour. They always were really close, it was cute when she was 13 and he was helping her with homework, but now she is a grown girl and I am worried. She clearly loves him more than me, I didn't do anything becouse I thought that she should have a male in her life (our dad died and our stepdad basically ignores our existance) and he always wanted to have a sibling. How do I aproach it? Who should I comfort? TL;DR Husband made photos of my sister that I consider inappropriate.
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Mar 24, 2019 21:45
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jobson groeth posted:Nepotism isn't networking. In my experience the people who benefited most nepotism are always the ones in the most denial that this is a thing.
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Mar 24, 2019 21:54
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People hire people that they like and get along with. News at 11.
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Mar 24, 2019 21:56
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I found some suggestive photos of my sister (F17) on my husbands phone (M23). Do I say anything or what should I do? If he hasn't yet he's going to. Just FYI.
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Mar 24, 2019 21:58
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QuarkJets posted:Nurses are constantly on their feet doing physical things that I imagine is probably damaging, but is that normally described as a form of "physical" labor? I thought that term applied more to construction work, moving services, etc. where physical stuff is literally all you do Also lol at the 5k "marathoner". I wonder if he skipped meat for one day he would claim to be vegan?
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Mar 24, 2019 22:09
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QuarkJets posted:Nurses are constantly on their feet doing physical things that I imagine is probably damaging, but is that normally described as a form of "physical" labor? I thought that term applied more to construction work, moving services, etc. where physical stuff is literally all you do these days there are lots and lots of extremely fat people lol
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Mar 24, 2019 22:10
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GI_Clutch posted:I'm interested in what this guy's line of work is. I'm trying to think of college degrees that result in you performing lots of physical labor. Besides maybe some kind of field scientist doing research which includes lots of digging or something (?), I'm coming up blank. Or maybe he's talking trade school or I'm missing something obvious. I've got a friend who has some crazy metallurgy related degree that is essentially a very high end welder for things like pressure vessels and pipes. But OP isn't likely to be doing that, because it pays very well.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:17
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Smirking_Serpent posted:I found some suggestive photos of my sister (F17) on my husbands phone (M23). Do I say anything or what should I do? Plot twist she's only 18.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:21
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GI_Clutch posted:I'm interested in what this guy's line of work is. I'm trying to think of college degrees that result in you performing lots of physical labor. Besides maybe some kind of field scientist doing research which includes lots of digging or something (?), I'm coming up blank. Or maybe he's talking trade school or I'm missing something obvious. Dentistry. Spend a lot of time hunched over a patient while scrunched and half twisted while trying to look at a mirror to see the upper rear wisdom teeth and see how your back feels.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:28
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Motronic posted:I've got a friend who has some crazy metallurgy related degree that is essentially a very high end welder for things like pressure vessels and pipes. But OP isn't likely to be doing that, because it pays very well. What is "very well"? From my understanding, Silicon Valley type tech and security jobs pay ludicrous amounts of money.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:34
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CheesyDog posted:Nursing Lol. Nursing isn't physical labor. Sure, you're somewhat active moving around your clinic/hospital/etc, but it's not like you're performing actual physical labor on par with working in a warehouse, welding, HVAC, plumbing, construction, etc. Like, I work in IT asset management where I'm on my feet for much of the day working with hardware and often not at my desk, but it's not actual physical labor either.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:37
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There's also been a push lately of lower-tier private schools offering two or four year degrees in fields traditionally served by trade schools or apprenticeship programs. So it's not completely out of the realm of possibility for him to be in a blue collar trade with an associate's or bachelor's degree in the field.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:39
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Lol. Nursing isn't physical labor. Sure, you're somewhat active moving around your clinic/hospital/etc, but it's not like you're performing actual physical labor on par with working in a warehouse, welding, HVAC, plumbing, construction, etc. Boy, those nurses over in the nursing thread will be happy to know that their debilitating physical injuries from being on the job don't exist. Nurses might do more physical crap than just walking around.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:39
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QuarkJets posted:Yet strangely I've never, ever seen them at any gym I've been to, between 5 gyms in 3 cities. I'm sure other gyms do have them but it seems to be primarily a crossfit thing Maybe you should sign up for a gym that isn't planet fitness that allows you to do deadlifts and cleans because most gyms won't be comfortable with you failing and dropping cast iron plates. It's pretty easy to differentiate bumper plate sizes even if they aren't the color variety.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:41
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Also nepotism is a VP at a large corporation giving his brother's niece a high-paying administrative assistant job that she probably isn't qualified for. Not someone getting a good job they're qualified for because they have friends at a company. Y'all are dumb.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:43
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Lol. Nursing isn't physical labor. Sure, you're somewhat active moving around your clinic/hospital/etc, but it's not like you're performing actual physical labor on par with working in a warehouse, welding, HVAC, plumbing, construction, etc. Patients are a lot heavier than CAT5.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:44
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Cyks posted:Maybe you should sign up for a gym that isn't planet fitness that allows you to do deadlifts and cleans because most gyms won't be comfortable with you failing and dropping cast iron plates. What is it that you think I said because your post doesn't seem to be relevant at all I've never even set foot in a planet fitness, did you forget to eat breakfast this morning?
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Mar 24, 2019 22:49
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Also nepotism is a VP at a large corporation giving his brother's niece a high-paying administrative assistant job that she probably isn't qualified for. Not someone getting a good job they're qualified for because they have friends at a company. Y'all are dumb. You are like the king of not reading posts and then creating a spicy hot take anyway, the dude getting hired knew "literally nothing about" the field and was completely unqualified
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Mar 24, 2019 22:51
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Also nepotism is a VP at a large corporation giving his brother's niece a high-paying administrative assistant job that she probably isn't qualified for. Not someone getting a good job they're qualified for because they have friends at a company. Y'all are dumb. The poster said his friend wasn't qualified in the least though? Honestly, I would be pretty pissed about this too, it's like his friend is some 19 year old trust fund baby. Awaiting the update that torpedoes all of this lol Sandwich Anarchist fucked around with this message at 22:58 on Mar 24, 2019 |
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Mar 24, 2019 22:52
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Midnight Voyager posted:Boy, those nurses over in the nursing thread will be happy to know that their debilitating physical injuries from being on the job don't exist. Yeah pretty much. I started off as a laborer in construction before working my way through and finally becoming an operator. I would rather dig ditches than be a nurse. On top of the physical part they deal with a lot of patients that are just outright hostile and nasty. If you're ever hospitalized please be nice to them.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:55
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Lol. Nursing isn't physical labor. Sure, you're somewhat active moving around your clinic/hospital/etc, but it's not like you're performing actual physical labor on par with working in a warehouse, welding, HVAC, plumbing, construction, etc. Lol ok IT jockey. I know / work with a lot of nurses and lol if that’s what you really think.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:57
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Sandwich Anarchist posted:The poster said his friend wasn't qualified in the least though? Yes, the bitter and jealous as poo poo OP should be trusted in this case. Not the hardworking former military intelligence/defense firm guy.
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Mar 24, 2019 22:59
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TheManWithNoName posted:Yes, the bitter and jealous as poo poo OP should be trusted in this case. Not the hardworking former military intelligence/defense firm guy. don't worry plenty of defense firm and military people are lazy as poo poo, but if you just want to make up poo poo we can do that too; like I couldn't believe it when the OP threw a full jar of vagina acid in the defense firm guy's face, that was uncalled for
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Mar 24, 2019 23:04
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QuarkJets posted:don't worry plenty of defense firm and military people are lazy as poo poo, but if you just want to make up poo poo we can do that too; like I couldn't believe it when the OP threw a full jar of vagina acid in the defense firm guy's face, that was uncalled for I have a buddy who does what I think is called "intel dissemination" here in Florida, and he sits and just approves or denies emails to be sent all day. He talks all the time about how it's the perfect job for him because he doesn't have to think about it or care, just do the rote clicks.  And military intell guys are very well known for not just sitting in a skiff room dicking around on the internet until they have a briefing, yes. Sandwich Anarchist fucked around with this message at 23:12 on Mar 24, 2019 |
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Mar 24, 2019 23:06
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Maybe I'm dumb, but don't master level professions require college? Like plumbers/electricians/etc?
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Mar 24, 2019 23:08
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spacetoaster posted:Maybe I'm dumb, but don't master level professions require college? Like plumbers/electricians/etc? I don't think so, there are trade schools that give you certifications.
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Mar 24, 2019 23:10
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But I was told the upward mobility was for people who worked hard! I better hold some guy I ostensibly liked all of my life for his good fortune rather than confront my near-realization that the entire economy is a gravy train.
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Mar 24, 2019 23:11
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Sandwich Anarchist posted:I don't think so, there are trade schools that give you certifications. If you're UA (a big union in my area) it's a 5 year program that's 50% class time and 50% hands on. Are trade schools like that not college? And that's still not going to make you a master plumber/electrician/etc.
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Mar 24, 2019 23:13
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Lol. Nursing isn't physical labor. Sure, you're somewhat active moving around your clinic/hospital/etc, but it's not like you're performing actual physical labor on par with working in a warehouse, welding, HVAC, plumbing, construction, etc. "What's so physically taxing about lifting people who weigh hundreds of pounds every day????" - a computer janitor
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Mar 24, 2019 23:15
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spacetoaster posted:If you're UA (a big union in my area) it's a 5 year program that's 50% class time and 50% hands on. imu that trade schools teach you "how to be a plumber" instead of "math, science, english, writing, history, oh and also here is some classes about your field"
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Mar 24, 2019 23:15
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Sandwich Anarchist posted:imu that trade schools teach you "how to be a plumber" instead of "math, science, english, writing, history, oh and also here is some classes about your field" It's still college.
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Mar 24, 2019 23:23
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spacetoaster posted:It's still college. It isn't, but you do you, red text.
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Mar 24, 2019 23:29
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QuarkJets posted:Yet strangely I've never, ever seen them at any gym I've been to, between 5 gyms in 3 cities. I'm sure other gyms do have them but it seems to be primarily a crossfit thing Huh, I didn't know that. They have them at Anytime Fitness in the DC area and our (not CrossFit) weightlifting gym in Toronto.
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Mar 24, 2019 23:32
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Sandwich Anarchist posted:The poster said his friend wasn't qualified in the least though? His friend seems to place a lot of stock in academics, so he may not have considered that skills in the tech sector tend to be a lot less rigid. They have to be - if a company wanted the perfect candidate who has X years of experience with every last piece of hardware and software they use they'd never be able to hire anyone. It really comes down to how much relevant experience do you have and which candidate will take the least amount of time to get up to speed. For example: if he was some kind of cyber intelligence analyst in the military its totally possible he's been working the other side of the fence for the last 4-6 years, which would be an excellent skillset to take into cyber security.
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Mar 24, 2019 23:35
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Lol. Nursing isn't physical labor. Sure, you're somewhat active moving around your clinic/hospital/etc, but it's not like you're performing actual physical labor on par with working in a warehouse, welding, HVAC, plumbing, construction, etc. Nurses will be the ones rolling your fat IT manager rear end over on the hospital bed to keep you from getting bed sores in a couple years, dipshit.
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Mar 24, 2019 23:38
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Blade Runner posted:"What's so physically taxing about lifting people who weigh hundreds of pounds every day????" - a computer janitor Not even a metaphorical computer janitor... Cough Drop The Beat posted:
...literally a janitor
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Mar 24, 2019 23:38
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Sandwich Anarchist posted:What is "very well"? From my understanding, Silicon Valley type tech and security jobs pay ludicrous amounts of money. SV security gig is gonna be $200k in the bay area. Welder buddy is making nearly 75% of that in semi rural PA. Guess which one has more local buying power and a better quality of life?
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Mar 24, 2019 23:39
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Sandwich Anarchist posted:It isn't, but you do you, red text. "college" is a generic term with a variable meaning. for instance in canada a trade school is always called a college; if you're talking about a institution that grants four-year academic degrees, you mean a university. even in america the more proper term for that four-year institution would be a university, which in turn usually contains several colleges. americans blur a lot of terminology though. you need post-secondary education to be a plumber. it's valid to refer to that education as college.
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Mar 24, 2019 23:42
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Motronic posted:SV security gig is gonna be $200k in the bay area. Welder buddy is making nearly 75% of that in semi rural PA. Guess which one has more local buying power and a better quality of life? That's pretty great, I guess I assumed that blue collar work like that has been gutted in the US. poo poo man, maybe I need a career change, because busting my rear end running a restaurant is BARELY paying the bills.
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Motronic posted:SV security gig is gonna be $200k in the bay area. Welder buddy is making nearly 75% of that in semi rural PA. Guess which one has more local buying power and a better quality of life? does he work on a pipeline by chance?
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