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The Something Awful Forums > Main > General Bullshit > r/relationships: This is made up and stupid Probably, but what's the point in debating that?
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Surpised this hasn't been posted yet (or maybe I missed it) AITA for not wanting to attend my daughter's wedding because her fiance's grandmother is going to walk her down the aisle. quote:I'm on throwaway for personal reasons. Fairly mundane, right? Bunch of NTA and YTA depending from early commenters. But then the OP responses keep revealing more and more what should really have been in the original post: quote:It's a cultural thing. You don't walk with brides grandma here. quote:What is this day about me and you. I really don't understand because some people mentioned this and I'm not from the West. Is it a cultural difference. Aren't weddings about everyone who attend. The family and relatives and all. If it was only about them why invite anyone quote:India. Mumbai. quote:Yes this is arranged. quote:She does. They've been going out for the past 6 months. I mean the groom and my daughter quote:YTA memememememememe. That’s all I’m hearing. Did you even suggest a solution like taking you both down the isle? Stop being a baby quote:That's not possible in my country. quote:Hey. Wedding is not about me or her. It's about everyone who attends. I'm spending 3.5crores(idk how many dollars this is) for the wedding, more for the gifts for the grooms family. If it's about them the groom could've asked for a courthouse ceremony where you sign an agreement and get married. They want a grand wedding. lovely redditor. quote:No it's not. It's 35million indian rupees. 548240$. I just checked quote:This is actually a mid tier wedding in my country. Not as huge as you think. Giving the grooms family gifts is a cultural obligation. She can put their feelings above me. I chose not to attend. But as someone who cares, I'm still paying for her wedding because I don't want to shame her. quote:Why do you think I raised a high maintenance kid. We aren't exactly rich. You somehow think that I'm responsible for all her choices in life and she's somehow spoiled because of me. Parents only provide the options. She has to make her own choices. I pay for a big fat wedding, work my rear end off to raise my daughter and I get humiliated at her wedding? That's not happening. And again. She made her choice and as a responsible parent I'm paying for her wedding. You don't get to ask for everything. quote:I run an orphanage in my country and there are many children who I consider mine. I'll be really happy and fulfilled when they become successful adults and get married. I'm content. If my daughter doesn't want me, I don't mind. I'll look for closure in their lives. But as a responsible parent who cared for her, I'll pay for it because I don't want to humiliate her. Thats it. quote:ou may think like that but here, it's the biggest insult any father can take. People have called off weddings over such issues. I can't show my face at her wedding. But I will not humiliate her by refusing to pay. It's all I can do at this point to show my love at this point. When I was young and unsuccessful, And yes I'm proud of what I've done in my life. quote:You talk about grotesque ownership symbols. I don't own her. Neither does the grandma. But we are having an arranged marriage and I'm spending 550k$ for the wedding. More for dowry and gifts. I'm doing it because it's a cultural obligation here. So, you might be progressive but people in my country are traditional. And parents do have some expectations from their offsprings. When I was young and unsuccessful I had to sell my kidney to feed her. And yes, I actually feel proud because many kids in my country are homeless, but I was successful. I lived my life for her. And even now, I'm looking out for her. If I don't pay, the groom and his family will cancel the wedding.( Grandma included). But I don't want to be insulted. Like, okay, I get that there's a huge difference in culture between western weddings and traditional Indian weddings and face culture etc.. But then why would you post on reddit of all places about this, a site mostly comprised of young westerners who'd happily wear their fursuits at the courthouse and party at Chuck-E-Cheese? Isn't there some Indian equivalent to Emily Post or something you'd consult when it came to old-rear end traditional $shitload arrainged marriages instead? Also the slow reveals of selling kidney -> "not rich" -> half a loving million wedding -> runs an orphanage makes me more than a little suspect but whatever. God what a trainwreck.
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UZR IS BULLSHIT posted:The gently caress is wrong with afternoon delight? There's nothing wrong with having sex in the afternoon. There's everything wrong with referring to being mid-sex as "the fornication was well underway."
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I’m Thinking of Transitioning, but I Don’t Support All LGBTQ Rightsquote:Dear Prudence, Prudie's take: quote:I think it’s good to have robust, progressive views on LGBT rights, but they’re not a necessary precondition for transitioning. Caitlyn Jenner is one of the most famous trans women in the world, and she’s rather well-known for her lukewarm views on the subject. If you’re concerned that you may find yourself on the outs with other trans people by espousing these views and therefore may not have the strong community support you need during your transition, then I’d encourage you to spend a little time preparing for how to deal with conflict graciously and respectfully. Perhaps you might spend time learning more about how rights that might not seem desirable or beneficial to you might be so for other members of the community. You are free not to participate in any sports professionally or recreationally, to only patronize the bakers you like, to ignore all children and parents, and generally to sit out the push for any rights you don’t support. It may help for you to think about the causes you do support and find ways to further them, rather than worrying about causes you don’t. If you were to move from having certain private qualms to actively campaigning, say, against an “LGBT agenda being pushed on children” (I’m not quite sure what that would look like—forced calendar updates?), you may very well find your life quite lonely, alienating both transphobes and trans people alike. But none of that would have any bearing on whether you ought to transition. That’s your call to make. I'm torn between making GBS threads on this person or pitying them for their presumed emotional baggage about being trans in world hostile to transpeople (god knows it took me a long time to accept my own gayness). But i do find her "LGBT agenda" comment stupid as hell. I'll split the difference, and hope she can transition peacefully while also telling her to gently caress off.
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Antivehicular posted:There's nothing wrong with having sex in the afternoon. There's everything wrong with referring to being mid-sex as "the fornication was well underway." As Billy Bob Thornton once said, "look, I've boned a lot of fat chicks in my time, sure. But, as far back as I can remember, I've never fornicated anybody."
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CheesyDog posted:r/Swingers Just wait 25 years from now when their kids start swinging too
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DemoneeHo posted:Just wait 25 years from now when their kids start swinging too I absolutely love the "I mean, if nothing else, we were there first" part. You think you were, kid.
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DemoneeHo posted:I’m Thinking of Transitioning, but I Don’t Support All LGBTQ Rights Eh, could also just be that she's having some issues overcoming how she's been socialized. Conservative families are a hell of a drug.
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DemoneeHo posted:I’m Thinking of Transitioning, but I Don’t Support All LGBTQ Rights Yeah sorry but you don't get to enjoy the comforts so many before you have died for while being 'meh I don't REALLY think you all need to get married. Fags." I like how people assume us gays have an agenda. Like, we are totally going to mind control your kids just by telling them that we are gay. It's all pheromones, like bees! poo poo, my niece has two moms and at one point she was asked by a classmate's parent not to mention that during some Meet the Family presentation because it would 'confuse other kids.' Bitch, no one is demanding a kid raised by a single parent to stay quiet or a kid raised by grandparents or a kid raised by a revolving door of boyfriends or girlfriends of one parent to shut up!
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I think my favorite part of this thread is a good third of the posts are of completely normal people having completely normal problems and goons can't understand the concept of normal people.
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Guilty posted:I think my favorite part of this thread is a good third of the posts are of completely normal people having completely normal problems and goons can't understand the concept of normal people. can you show us some examples
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Cowslips Warren posted:Yeah sorry but you don't get to enjoy the comforts so many before you have died for while being 'meh I don't REALLY think you all need to get married. Fags." The true gay agenda: getting the same rights as everyone else and being treated like a human being and not getting abused/shunned/secondclassed/murdered for not being straight. loving horrifying I tell you what. I had a bi dude tell me "Well I'm fine with gay people but I'm not going to marry a dude! Marriage is for men and women, gay marriage should be called something else." The gently caress. If you tell a kid that the person in fact has two mommies because they fell in love and that's fine the kid is gonna be like, "Okay" and meander off and be a kid. Goddamn people loving suck.
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I wonder if the transphobic transperson would change her tune once all those lovely prejudices applied to her, or if she’s so damaged that she’d believe it was perfectly acceptable and deserved.
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Kinda reminded me of "the only moral abortion is my abortion" story.
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Dazerbeams posted:I wonder if the transphobic transperson would change her tune once all those lovely prejudices applied to her, or if she’s so damaged that she’d believe it was perfectly acceptable and deserved. A well known politician in our country is an openly gay Catholic who says he is celibate. I'm sure his life hasn't been easy, he would have experienced prejudices first hand, but he voted against the Marriage Equality Bill (gay marriage). quote:You register unions and you leave marriage to the church, temples, mosques. I'm voting against it for those reasons In case it's not obvious, "unions" in this context is a Civil Union, which was already legal (but is different from marriage and last I checked you can actually switch between the two both ways).
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Scathach posted:Kinda reminded me of "the only moral abortion is my abortion" story. Link?
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"the rights that apply to me personally are morally imperative, the rights that apply to anyone else are some SJW horseshit"
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I know two people (cis-man, cis-woman) who got a civil union back when the US offered those because they didn't want to tell their families they got married but wanted the benefits so once again the only people making a mockery of marriage and stealing words from other people are the goddamn straights.
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Scathach posted:Kinda reminded me of "the only moral abortion is my abortion" story. It's not just one story. It's a multitude and i'm sure it happens every day https://ontd-feminism.livejournal.com/303092.html
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Guilty posted:I think my favorite part of this thread is a good third of the posts are of completely normal people having completely normal problems and goons can't understand the concept of normal people. the super-normal problems just sink away and don't get much discussion imo because normal-people problems are uninteresting; another third is normal stuff that still makes good gossip and the remaining third after that are the awesome poo poo such as: - "my boyfriend keeps trying to turn me into a furry and insisted that i get a fursuit and said I'm a bigot if I don't" - "my wife begged me to poo poo on her chest and when I was uncomfortably about to do the deed she suddenly shuffled around and was about to eat my poop" - "my parents are the same swingers site as us, what do?" - "i was hiding in my brother's closet watching him play with anime figurines and singing the tune to evangelion for like 2 hours while he did homework" - the order of pete
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YaketySass posted:Wait, who's singing the Evangelion theme in that example? the brother playing with the figurines was and iirc the brother in the closet was like "so is my brother weird or what" when he's the one sitting there watching all of this unfold
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YaketySass posted:Wait, who's singing the Evangelion theme in that example? The brother outside the closet doing his homework. While roleplaying as evangelion characters as a strategy to focus on and complete his work The other brother was hiding in the closet because he was jerking off in weeb brother's room instead of his own.
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Khazar-khum posted:Nothing beats having your mother walk in when you're in the middle of sex and asking if you want to go to the swap meet. Well, "Swap Meet Louie" does come right after "Baby Got Back" on Mack Daddy so maybe she just got confused.
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Barudak posted:I know two people (cis-man, cis-woman) who got a civil union back when the US offered those because they didn't want to tell their families they got married but wanted the benefits so once again the only people making a mockery of marriage and stealing words from other people are the goddamn straights. If they don't want their parents to know they got married, then just don't tell them? I don't get why it has to be so complicated.
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Panfilo posted:If they don't want their parents to know they got married, then just don't tell them? I don't get why it has to be so complicated. Because they used the civil union benefits and knew their parents would find out so they wanted the civil union so they could say "oh no, we're not married". For some loving reason this worked too, and their whole family is excited that they finally decided to get married this year despite being in a civil union for like 5 years now.
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DemoneeHo posted:The brother outside the closet doing his homework. While roleplaying as evangelion characters as a strategy to focus on and complete his work I maintain that the kid who goes through a full make believe anime sequence to do an assignment owns.
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My boss [50s m] sent me [22f] a very creepy text, I responded angrier than I should have. I work at an engineering company. I left my previous job because I was harassed by a superior, and HR didn’t help, and most of my coworkers there sided with the guy who harassed me. So I admit that kind of thing is a sore spot for me. But I got my current job, got out of there, and thought everything was better for a while. My team at my current job and I all have each other’s phone numbers to coordinate the occasional work travel but that hasn’t caused any problems so far. My boss, I’ll call him Daniel, had sent me complements over text before but they never seemed to cross a line, they were all about my work, my work ethic, my accomplishments, etc. ——— Yesterday night, I was just having a really bad night. I’d accidentally ran into someone from my old job, when my friends and I were out drinking, and that got me thinking about how angry I was about how things ended with that old job. I took a pay cut just to get away, I alsolost out on 10 thousand dollars of my 401K match because I left too early, and the last few months before I left had just been really awful on me emotionally. It caused me to damage some friendships because I was too drained to spend time with my friends, and I cancelled on people more than I should have. Once I started dwelling on that old pain, I decided to stop drinking and just go home because I knew no good would come of continuing to drink when I was in a sour mood. So I told my friends I was not feeling well and I called an Uber for myself. ——— When I was in the Uber, I got a text from my current boss Daniel, he was calling me beautiful, that he adored my body, saying he couldn’t get his mind off me, said he could tell I felt similarly. (WTF NO) That was so out of the blue and unwanted for me. Plus, I was already in a sour mood about having been harassed out of my past job. So I kinda spiralled mentally. Thinking “Not again, I just left a place because of this bullshit, I can’t believe this is happening again, gently caress you.’ I guess my anger at how stuff ended at my last job compounded with my anger at having gotten that text from my boss, and my fear that I’d go through the same thing again… I was so panicked that I was shaking all over and was having trouble typing, but I managed to slowly type out “go to hell you wrinkly c***, don’ you ever text me again, don’t you ever loving think for one minute that you can put your hands on me, or even loving look at me the wrong way. if you try poo poo with me at work i will defend my self with everything i have.” I felt really good for the first few seconds after I sent it, I’d regretted not standing up for myself more at my last job so it felt so good to get my uncensored thoughts out. But then it hit me how I may have majorly hosed up. And then I blocked my boss’s number. I don’t know if Daniel sent me anything more after that because I haven’t unblocked him. I went home and decided to just go to bed and not say or do anything more I might regret until I’d slept and sobered up. And now it’s the next day, and I’m stressed as hell. On one hand, I think I ought have done the “right thing” and gone straight to HR, and that I royally hosed up for speaking for myself so angrily. But on the other hand I don’t really trust HR departments to handle poo poo anymore, and I’m thinking maybe there’s a chance I’ve resolved stuff for good all on my own So… I’d really like some advice. What do I do at work on Monday? Damage control somehow, or just walk in there with my head held high and rise above all this? tl;dr - My boss sent me a creepy message, I sent a very angry one back. What do I need to do on Monday to save my job?
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AITA for using my boyfriend's phobia to prove a point? This happened a little over a week ago and I still feel bad about it. So, my boyfriend has a bit of a hobby collecting knives. Switchblades, butterfly knives, he's pretty proud of all of them. Now, I have a small phobia of my own. My father was very abusive, and of the few memories I have of him, he was often threatening an infant me with a switchblade. As such, I'm very uncomfortable around them. My boyfriend will often point his in my direction, and when I get upset and tell him to stop he says I need to get over it. That I might need to use one some day. That I should know he'd never hurt me. I guess he feels like if he exposes me to it enough, I'll learn to trust that he won't stab me with it? But it's not like I think that to begin with, I'm just uncomfortable around them. Well, he has a very intense phobia of a specific monster. I don't question it. For some reason, it's much more intense than my mild annoyance/breath stopping moment at the blades. He completely freaks out at even just a picture, shuts down, has nightmares for nights. If there's a chance of one showing up in a video he will whimper and whine and either stop it all together or close his eyes and ask me to tell him when it is over. I promised him early on that I didn't find it funny like some of his friends do and wouldn't use it to prank him. Well, the other night after cutting some cheese with his stupid knife, he tried waving it at me, knowing how uncomfortable it makes me. So I pulled up a particularly horrifying image of his phobia on my phone and shoved it in his face. "How does it feel? You know what a phobia is like, right? Just get over it!" I tried to paraphrase him, and he got really upset. I feel like I may have gone overboard and honestly feel guilty, but he hasn't messed with me since. grey aliens
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My sister is in some weird cult - MI No, that is not clickbait and I am seriously very worried about her and all of the other people involved. Okay. So my sister graduated from high school last year and decided to take a gap year. She came across a Craigslist posting by a woman I'll refer to as Aileen about how she has a farm and she's looking for kids who want life experience, that she'll provide them room and board to work on her farm and how she can teach them all of these great skills. I never saw the ad, but I remember my sister telling me about it at the time. She was very excited, this opportunity was everything she had been looking for she had told me. So she began a correspondence with "Aileen". I did not live with my sister, I'm older by 5 years so I was not on the scene when all of this was going down. So she ends up going to this place last August, I think, maybe early September. I have only spoken with her through emails since and at first she was happy, everything was good, she was making friends and all of that. I was wondering why she only emailed and she told me there's no phone service on the ranch, "Aileen" doesn't believe in phones and she takes them to the library for internet access. That right there was the first time I thought something was a bit off, but my sister was happy so I didn't push it. Over time, the tone of her emails changed. She would talk about her friends there, the animals, all these activities she was doing, not about "Aileen" much. Then it gradually became that "Aileen" is all she would talk about. "Aileen" was telling her some seriously messed up stuff and if she didn't agree with it, everyone else would ignore her existence until she broke down crying and apologized. "Aileen" made her slaughter her favorite chicken, "Aileen" said she needed to cleanse herself and wouldn't let her eat solid food for a week. "Aileen" made her take drugs. Seriously disturbing stuff. I told her she needed to get out of there, that I'd come pick her up, but she would downplay everything, make excuses for "Aileen", say she was over reacting, that it wasn't as bad as she made it seem et cetera. I didn't know what to do at that point. I thought something hinky was going on, but at the same time my sister was an adult and I trusted her judgment at the time. It's not like I had anything to go off of, a location, or anything and while disturbing, I didn't think anything super egregious was happening. "Aileen" seemed like an eccentric survivalist type, but ultimately harmless. Yes, I was tentatively concerned, is what I'm trying to say, but I felt like my sister was mature and intelligent enough to know when she was in over her head. My sister emailed me yesterday and I don't feel like that is the case anymore. Something had happened and from what I was able to ascertain, one of the other girls at this place committed some kind of cardinal sin and "Aileen" instructed the other kids to beat viciously beat this girl. My sister was forced to participate in this. She seemed distraught about it, but ultimately blamed the girl because she should have known better than to have done what she did. I don't know what she did, my sister wouldn't elaborate on it. I stayed up all night pouring over all of her emails, lookings for some clue but I couldn't figure anything out. I know my sister took a Greyhound to Lansing and Aileen picked her up from the bus station, so I think this freak show is probably in either Eaton, or Ingham but as to more specifics, I have no idea. I don't think my sister even knows. I have a hunch they're in, or around Mason because Aileen made the kids spend the night at Seven Gables, but other than that I'm coming up empty. I know this is a jumbled loving mess, but I really need to know what to do. How do I handle this situation? Good update: I did what a lot of people suggested with the IP address. I would have never thought of it, I'm not very tech savvy. She is in Mason or at least uses that library. I'm going to contact the police there. You guys are rockstars.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My sister is in some weird cult - MI Pete smiles upon thee
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Cowslips Warren posted:Yeah sorry but you don't get to enjoy the comforts so many before you have died for while being 'meh I don't REALLY think you all need to get married. Fags." well yeah, they do get to enjoy those comforts actually, what are you going to do, selectively take away gay rights or the right to transition for the lgbt people who have opinions like theirs?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My boss [50s m] sent me [22f] a very creepy text, I responded angrier than I should have. Men. Are. Garbage. *Farmers Insurance jingle*
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AITA for allowing the girls on my HS track team (I’m the new head coach) wear bikini tops and cut off shorts for a fund raising car wash? This is very fresh, posting from my phone and a throwaway because I’m honestly nervous about how big this is going to get. I just got an email from the assistant superintendent of the entire district that I have to be in his office Monday morning and I’m scared shitless. Basically I just graduated college and got my teaching certificate last year. The school heeded a track coach of the program would fold so I volunteered even though district guidelines (not rules) specify that a certain number of years is required before taking a head coach position but the principal waived this. We have some very talented girls and I enjoy it. We were scheduled to do a car wash fund raiser this morning. On Monday one of the girls asked me if they could wear bikini tops and cut off shorts. They argued it was for thier comfort since it’s about 80 here today. I was a little nervous but agreed. Apparently word got out on social media and we had a line of cars 30 minutes before we even started. I’m so naive I thought initially people were just being charitable but when I saw boys from surrounding schools I knew somthing was up. And it wasn’t long before older men started taking notice and we had a line where it was taking an hour to get a car washed. The girls themselves loved it, they all had fun, nothing bad happened (thank god) and all are proud of themselves for how much we made. Parents are furious with me and obviously it’s gone up the chain. I’m hoping to god I can chalk this up to my inexperience and I’m not fired buf when I had a 6’4” dad screaming in my face that he’s going to get my fired...I’m scared. Am I the rear end in a top hat for allowing this? Edit: Just as a quick update, in rhe last few minutes I've gotten two texts from parents offering me thier support and willing to show up with me Monday to at the very least talk about how out of line the dad was who screamed in my face, that makes me feel a little better. op is a woman
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The spoiler for that one is the only thing that makes sense since if a man did that he wouldn’t even be asking about it, he would be 100% confident it was no problem.
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Pirate Radar posted:The spoiler for that one is the only thing that makes sense since if a man did that he wouldn’t even be asking about it, he would be 100% confident it was no problem.
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