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Dr. S.O. Feelgood posted:Yes, disabled people have difficulty doing a lot of things that able-bodied people take for granted. Not really sure where fault comes into it. Because shaving is more tactile than it is sight reliant. And because there are plenty of people who wear glasses who can't see in the shower and yet manage to do the necessaries without any problem. This woman is using blindness as a crutch and it shouldn't be encouraged.
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Dr. S.O. Feelgood posted:I can understand the guy not really wanting to shave his girlfriend, even though I think he's being kind of silly. But I don't blame her for asking him because having to pay to get waxed regularly gets pretty expensive and it makes sense she would be more comfortable with her partner doing it instead of a stranger. Also I'm somewhat hesitant in believing his claim that he really doesn't care if she has body hair or not, considering up to this point it sounds like she's been waxing. Let's see what he says a few weeks down the road. this. neither of them is out of line. him not being comfortable doing it is fine (it seems silly and childish to me, but i'm also a nursing student so i know my perspective on gross perineal stuff is not normal), her feeling upset and hung out to dry is fine. dating someone who's living with disabilities can involve some heavy poo poo. a lot of people living with disabilities feel a deep need for partnerships that help give them a refuge and a feeling of safety and security from their disability and the difficulties it creates in daily life. so yeah, her having an emotional reaction to him saying he's too embarrassed to shave her isn't totally out of left field, because he's basically saying when the going gets tough he's outta there. now he may not have realized that, and there's plenty of room there to course-correct and work something out if this is an isolated thing. like if he just has a really severe aversion to helping her groom but really is in it for the long haul, they could end up fine. but chances are he's just not up for it
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Apr 3, 2019 17:43
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Also they've been going out for 2 years and have been living together for the better part of a year, so it's just plain super uncool to be like "Nah, don't feel like it anymore. Sorry!" out of nowhere.
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Apr 3, 2019 17:48
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poor daredevil jumping around getting pubes stuck in the suit
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Apr 3, 2019 17:51
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:Also they've been going out for 2 years and have been living together for the better part of a year, so it's just plain super uncool to be like "Nah, don't feel like it anymore. Sorry!" out of nowhere. Read it again, it isn't even that long He just started doing it recently and found he wasn't comfortable doing it, previously she went to a professional to get it waxed, this isn't something he's been doing for their whole relationship
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Dazerbeams posted:Because shaving is more tactile than it is sight reliant. And because there are plenty of people who wear glasses who can't see in the shower and yet manage to do the necessaries without any problem. This woman is using blindness as a crutch and it shouldn't be encouraged. lol shut the gently caress up i wear coke bottle glasses and i guarantee you my sight is still useful for shaving my balls telling disabled people to harden up is not helpful or insightful, it just makes you look like a callous turd a mentally stunted callous turd Cactus Ghost fucked around with this message at 17:57 on Apr 3, 2019 |
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Apr 3, 2019 17:53
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so how much does it cost to wax at home? she can put on the wax and he can stand in the other room ready to pull the rope
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Apr 3, 2019 17:54
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I'd never put a straight razor near my jimmy, sight or no sight.
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Apr 3, 2019 17:54
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datajugend posted:so how much does it cost to wax at home? she can put on the wax and he can stand in the other room ready to pull the rope There you people go again trying to make this all about sex
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datajugend posted:so how much does it cost to wax at home? she can put on the wax and he can stand in the other room ready to pull the rope the two of them designing and building a big rube goldberg machine to wax her pits crotch and butt is definitely the best possible outcome here
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Blade Runner posted:Read it again, it isn't even that long That's not the point, ya doof. The fact that they've been going out for 2 years and living together says that he should be comfortable with helping out his blind girlfriend in shaving her body hair, which she's extremely uncomfortable in doing herself for obvious reasons. He's her trusted partner and part of being a reliable person in your partner's life is helping her and being there. Besides, he was okay with doing it for a time and is suddenly being all like "Eww, body hair is gross and awkward" and that's lame as gently caress. It would be one thing if he objected initially, but now he's going back on his promise. It's not about the length of time, but that he's reneging at all.
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Apr 3, 2019 17:56
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Dazerbeams posted:Because shaving is more tactile than it is sight reliant. And because there are plenty of people who wear glasses who can't see in the shower and yet manage to do the necessaries without any problem. This woman is using blindness as a crutch and it shouldn't be encouraged. Also ableist garbage like this is dumb as balls. She's a goddamn blind woman who is scared of shaving her armpits and lady bits and that's totally normal and expected. Either she's going to get it done professionally or have her boyfriend do it and that's fine.
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Apr 3, 2019 17:58
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OMGVBFLOL posted:lol shut the gently caress up i wear coke bottle glasses and i guarantee you my sight is still useful for shaving my balls Well she's a woman so her genitals presumably don't have awkward dangly bits to maneuver around. If she doesn't want to shave because she's uncomfortable doing so, that's fine. But she shouldn't make it her boyfriend's problem.
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Apr 3, 2019 17:58
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If we are using a rope then she can tie it to a trailer hitch. Preferably on underneath which hangs a pair of truck nuts that are hairless. I know that's bad practice but the mental image is funny to me.
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Dazerbeams posted:Because shaving is more tactile than it is sight reliant. And because there are plenty of people who wear glasses who can't see in the shower and yet manage to do the necessaries without any problem. This woman is using blindness as a crutch and it shouldn't be encouraged. Depends where you're shaving. Armpits she could probably do fine herself, but I certainly don't blame her for not wanting to shave her pubes blind. I have absolutely horrible eyesight and shaving my legs in the shower without my glasses really isn't comparable at all. Being really nearsighted and having no sight at all are very different things.
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Apr 3, 2019 17:59
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When her boyfriend has the flu or food poisoning or a sprained ankle, should she completely abandon him and tell him to hire someone? Or does being in a serious relationship mean you have a partnership where you can help the other person?
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OMGVBFLOL posted:the two of them designing and building a big rube goldberg machine to wax her pits crotch and butt is definitely the best possible outcome here Oh I like this idea. Press the paddle that drops the ball that rolls down a chute that trips the mousetrap that strikes the match that lights the candle that drips wax on her mons while slowly burning through a string that suspends a weight. When the string is burnt up the weight drops and rips off the cloth.
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wonder if he shaved the whole downstairs, using a razor around the anus would seriously spike my blood pressure
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She should probably just go ahead and start auditioning another SO. I bet posting "Blind women seeks man who enjoys shaving pubic hair" will make her inbox BURST.
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Clawtopsy posted:Kind of? I feel like they are trying to handball responsibility to the eldest, here. Yes, that is what asking for help from a trusted elder is. bus hustler fucked around with this message at 18:08 on Apr 3, 2019 |
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Apr 3, 2019 18:05
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Dazerbeams posted:Well she's a woman so her genitals presumably don't have awkward dangly bits to maneuver around. If she doesn't want to shave because she's uncomfortable doing so, that's fine. But she shouldn't make it her boyfriend's problem. Also, I'm confused about this first sentence. Like, what. Do you think women are all barbie dolls down there? No maneuvering, that's a good one.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:That's not the point, ya doof. The fact that they've been going out for 2 years and living together says that he should be comfortable with helping out his blind girlfriend in shaving her body hair, which she's extremely uncomfortable in doing herself for obvious reasons. He's her trusted partner and part of being a reliable person in your partner's life is helping her and being there. Besides, he was okay with doing it for a time and is suddenly being all like "Eww, body hair is gross and awkward" and that's lame as gently caress. It would be one thing if he objected initially, but now he's going back on his promise. It's not about the length of time, but that he's reneging at all. He gave it a shot and found that he was uncomfortable with it, which he likely couldn't really know he would be without having done it Anne Whateley posted:When her boyfriend has the flu or food poisoning or a sprained ankle, should she completely abandon him and tell him to hire someone? Or does being in a serious relationship mean you have a partnership where you can help the other person?
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WIBTA For telling a woman she is not perceived as white?quote:For a few years I've volunteered for a local organization which has many international members (immigrants, refugees, academics who move around a lot etc.). This is in a Scandinavian country which is only sort of relevant. There's this woman, we'll call her Sara, who suprised me one day when she said something along the lines of "As a white woman, I have to be mindful of my privilege" blah blah something leftist like this about how she doesn't want to speak for women of color yeah, I don't remember exactly, but I was very surprised because to me she was a woman of color. She's from Italy and she is very dark (dark hair, dark eyes, dark skin, facial features that don't seem typically white to me). Now, I understand that people have their own identities and I'm not saying she IS a woman of color, I'm saying I read her as one. I asked a couple other folks in the organization later on to see if my perception was just off, but it turns out they were all also very surprised that Sara identifies as white. Of course race perception is relative and when she's working in certain African countries she's probably seen as white, but in this country, no. Now, why should it matter? It doesn't, except that Sara works as an anthropologist and race and race perception are important to her and her work. She has brought up her whitenesss a couple times since that first time and she truly believes that she is perceived as a white woman in society and is experiencing all the privileges connected with that. Would I be the rear end in a top hat if I told her that (this) society is actually not perceiving her as a white woman and therefore she's probably not having a white lady privilege experience in life?
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Blade Runner posted:He gave it a shot and found that he was uncomfortable with it, which he likely couldn't really know he would be without having done it he shouldn't feel forced, no, but being willing to walk through some discomfort for the other person's benefit is a normal part of being in a relationship, doubly so for relationships where one or both people are living with disabilities. like, he's not out of line to refuse to do it, but she wouldn't be out of line for seeing this as a red flag that she can't trust him to be there when bigger stuff comes down the pike, and dumping him
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Just shave the poor woman's oval office, jeez man.
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Dr. S.O. Feelgood posted:Also, I'm confused about this first sentence. Like, what. Do you think women are all barbie dolls down there? No maneuvering, that's a good one. I just think women have a much more straightforward time of cleaning up their genitals than men do. I don't know the joys of shaving around a man's junk, but it seems a whole lot more complicated.
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OMGVBFLOL posted:he shouldn't feel forced, no, but being willing to walk through some discomfort for the other person's benefit is a normal part of being in a relationship, doubly so for relationships where one or both people are living with disabilities. Sure, and that's ultimately her choice if this is a deal breaker for her, but he's not really a garbage person for not feeling comfortable doing it.
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Dazerbeams posted:I just think women have a much more straightforward time of cleaning up their genitals than men do. I don't know the joys of shaving around a man's junk, but it seems a whole lot more complicated. We get it, you've never seen a vagina before. Can we move on?
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Dazerbeams posted:I just think women have a much more straightforward time of cleaning up their genitals than men do. I don't know the joys of shaving around a man's junk, but it seems a whole lot more complicated. loving  right here, lmao
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:WIBTA For telling a woman she is not perceived as white? Nah dawg, go nuts. Let us know how it goes.
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Apr 3, 2019 18:24
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:WIBTA For telling a woman she is not perceived as white? the obsession americans have with calling spainards and italians not white will never not be funny to me
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Apr 3, 2019 18:28
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Whorelord posted:the obsession americans have with calling spainards and italians not white will never not be funny to me ah yes, all those Americans who were born in and live in Scandinavia
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Dazerbeams posted:I just think women have a much more straightforward time of cleaning up their genitals than men do. I don't know the joys of shaving around a man's junk, but it seems a whole lot more complicated. Ah, good to know that you've never seen a vagina, in addition to denying that blind people having strong sight-related issues in life.
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Dazerbeams posted:Because shaving is more tactile than it is sight reliant. And because there are plenty of people who wear glasses who can't see in the shower and yet manage to do the necessaries without any problem. This woman is using blindness as a crutch and it shouldn't be encouraged. Everyone talking about her just figuring it out because they've shaved in the dark before are still talking with the benefit of having SEEN their genitals. This lady doesn't even know what she is working with. Dazerbeams posted:I just think women have a much more straightforward time of cleaning up their genitals than men do. I don't know the joys of shaving around a man's junk, but it seems a whole lot more complicated. 
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Blade Runner posted:ah yes, all those Americans who were born in and live in Scandinavia Minnesota?
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Well I could flat out state that I'm a woman who can't see jack poo poo in the shower, but that would ruin the illusion wouldn't it? My [21m] chronically ill, seemingly socially isolated cousin [20f] asked me to kiss her. I kinda feel bad for her and wish I could help her in any way. What can I do? quote:First off, I dont want to come off like feeling pity for her, just that she was handed a terrible hand in life and I feel compassion for her suffering.
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Whorelord posted:the obsession americans have with calling spainards and italians not white will never not be funny to me
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Dazerbeams posted:Well I could flat out state that I'm a woman who can't see jack poo poo in the shower, but that would ruin the illusion wouldn't it? oof she found modern porn
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EX-AP (38F) will reveal my (57M) "second family" if I attend my daughter's wedding. Please help!!quote:Throwaway
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OMGVBFLOL posted:she wouldn't be out of line for seeing this as a red flag that she can't trust him
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