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AITA for telling my pregnant wife that there is pretty much not a single circumstance where I would choose saving the baby over saving her? I made the terrible mistake of watching a medical drama with my pregnant wife. We’ve been binging House M.D. and of course there’s a pregnancy complication episode where a dad is asked to choose between the baby and the mother (the mother was going to die either way it was just a little quicker). My wife said that she’d want me to choose the baby if it came to that. I told her there was no loving way I would do that, we could have another baby but I could never have another her. She got all mad and questioned my commitment to being a father and I said I’m committed to being a father but I’m more committed to being a husband. This argument went on forever. I told her that if she was brain dead or was going to die either way I would choose the baby but otherwise it’s her She said basically said what she wants over and over and I said I’m not spending another 50 or years without her. This is all because I love her more than anything else in the world. We’re still in disagreement over this completely hypothetical situation. Before anyone asks: yes it has occurred to me I can just lie because chances are this will never happen but it just feels wrong to lie about it. AITA?
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Right. Ex(22) has called me(22) 70 time in the past hour and is trying to steal my dog. Sorry for the format, I'm on mobile. Also it's a bit of a crazy rant. So I'm kind of at a loss for what to do. My ex and I broke up about two months ago and we really tried to be friends. I moved to another state and he stayed in the house we were sharing (I dont have family there so the move made sense). However he recently started seeing a girl and all though I'm happy for him he talked about her a lot. I wish I could handle being friends with him still but I had to let him know that I couldn't because it was emotionally recking me to have to hear about her. He didnt say much but didnt fight me on it. Today I sent him a message saying that I would be coming to his house in the next month to collect some of my belongings that I had left there. One of those things being my dog that I had intrusted in his care with the stipulation that I would be taking him when I moved into a more stable situation. I'd asked him if he had gotten his heartworm medication (because he's notorious for not doing these things) and he said no. I told him I would be sending him the money to do it as it was the least and the most I can do from another state. He said no and I insisted and sent him the money anyways. That's when all hell broke loose. He's always been a pretty unstable guy and even admitted to possibly being bipolar, but this I could not understand. He called me to tell me I was a "oval office" and a "peice of poo poo" for forcing the money on him. I just said that as he is my dog it's the least I can do. He then told me that he's his dog and that there was no way I'm getting him back. He said a bunch of hateful things and 1, I had somewhere to be in a few minutes and 2,I just didnt want to sit there and listen. He called three times during the course of me being out and I told him if it was important I would call him after. I did. Big mistake. He told me he was going to call the cops if I showed up at his house to get my things and he would involve a lawyer if I tried to take my dog back. When I said that I have records proving he's my dog he said he hated me, called me a oval office some more, said he hope's I get cancer and that I would never see my dog again. I'm not asking about the legalities of the situation because I know this isn't the right forum but how do I proceed. Like I'm he wont stop calling me to say how horrible of a person I am and I wont pick up but I cant block him because I need to contact him when I get my things and more importantly my dog. This is kind of a mess of a post but idk what's going on.
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Tldr of this one "I'm mentally ill and want to pin it on my ex smoking pot" I [31/m] broke up with my GF [29] after she said something condescending (and other reasons), was I wrong here? Her and I are in a long-distance relationship in which we talk everyday and communication is very good. We both have addictions. In terms of our addictions, we both struggle. I recently justified some bad behavior and fell off the wagon. I was forthcoming about it, open about it, admitted it was a mistake. We're usually supportive in these circumstances. If she falls off the wagon, I just try to tell her to stay the course. I never get mad or upset, I just say, 'You can do this.' We seem to both, about equally, fall off and get back on the wagon with about the same frequency (once, twice a month). In this case, her whole demeanor wholesale changed in a matter of 24 hours when I made this mistake (went to a casino because they were offering a free 7 day-cruise to high-tier players like myself, but I broke my promise to never go to a casino for any reason), and after I came home, I talk to her and her 'energy' just seemed off. Way off, in fact. Aloof. And she says to me, "I'm just sorry you failed." In a way I found condescending. Now, is that how you would be supportive? I wouldn't word it like that. And I'm certain that if I said that to her, she'd pick up on it and not like it. Anyway. She says that, and I say I don't like her energy at all, it's negative, and I turn off Skype. It's unlike her not to respond. But she doesn't. She just carries on. Very un-like her. Normally, she's very engaging, and would be concerned if I was upset. I finally come back online, and push her to talk, and she's being really weird. Responding slowly. This is NOT like her! She INSISTS she said NOTHING wrong, it was ALL in my head, I made it ALL up. Did I? I didn't think so. Not only was her tone aloof and dismissive, what she said about how I "failed" came off all wrong to me. Then she admits she's smoking pot. She's not supposed to smoke pot. She never does. Ever. She knows how bad it is for her, and she's not supposed to smoke it where she LIVES, either. They even have drug dogs come in and check the place. She could get kicked out. So, that was NEWS to me. That started to explain things, because she acts VERY ODD when she's high. Very aloof. Like another person. Like a person I don't even know. So, I let it go. I say, "Ok you're high." I figure tomorrow she'll be back. Nope. Nothing changed. Aloof again. Not a word from her. I can only assume she was high again. I asked, pushed, she's slow to reply, and finally said, "I was supportive and empathetic, that's how I would want that said to me. I asked people here and they all agreed with me, and you decided to twist my words and there's nothing I can do about that. bye." At this point, I'm really upset, and I ask if she's high again, and I say I'm not going to play these games. She's not talking, not communicating, she's dismissing what I'm saying. (Keep in mind, when she's in her 'normal' state she's very communicative, and if I stop talking to her for any reason she'll blow up my phone with 15 messages.) But now she's in this high state and being weird. I end it. I break up with her. I say I won't tolerate games (and how she's writing and acting felt like 'games' -- not engaging, not communicating, playing 'dumb', 'Oh I was soo sincere in what I said, sorry bye.'). It didn't feel sincere, and just ignoring me and not talking to me didn't feel right at all. Keep in mind, I wasn't 'livid' or so mad I couldn't be spoken to. But I did keep asking why she was acting different. And she writes me, "I was supportive and you twisted it, ok, have a nice life." And that was it. I don't truly know WHAT just happened. I wondered if I was talking to the same person, though. I can't emphasize enough to those reading, it felt like a 'different' person was talking to me. But I'm certain it is the pot, because on a few occasions in the past she had gotten high and she acted like this, and I hated it. And when she's sober, she agrees how bad pot is for her for multiple reasons. So, I sent her a text and just asked her to please stop smoking pot and that it changes who she is, she didn't respond. I hate for it to end like this on such a off-key note, between us. I do understand long-distance is hard. As for advice, I just want to know if I'm 'way off' her in my perception of what she said. I did feel it was condescending, and I was surprised she'd continue to persist that it wasn't. But that's a side issue, because she was acting strange outside of what she said, too. Non-communicative, dismissive, off, aloof, she would get online, play a game, ignore me (she never does that). And then play dumb and act like it's ALL in my head. I felt like... there was no resolve. You cannot be in a relationship with a partner who treats you like this -- who wholesale ignores you, dismisses you, stops dialogue. We don't do that, ever. We talk constantly. This was different. And I think -- I hope -- it was just the pot. Because at some point she'll stop smoking it and hopefully 'come to'. But again, to say, 'I'm sorry you failed' and say it in a tone of, 'Gee whiz, look at you, you failed.' It felt all wrong. But maybe I'm way off and she's right? Even that aside, she literally said nothing to me for two days, basically. Went online, played games, ignored me. She never does that. I mean, I had to take action and end it, do something. It was also confusing, because while I felt like it HAD to be the pot doing this, it's hard to know for sure.
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Apr 4, 2019 09:31
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my pregnant wife that there is pretty much not a single circumstance where I would choose saving the baby over saving her? Thankfully she's never had a full meltdown over it. And yes I know I'm the rear end in a top hat in the situation.
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Apr 4, 2019 10:35
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Darkhold posted:/r/Relationships: Thanos killed half of all online relationships. thanos doesn't actually kill anyone, when he gets all 5 infinity stones he uses space magic and suddenly everyone is in polycule relationships; chaos ensues
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Apr 4, 2019 10:43
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he uses the reality stone to make it so that if you wipe between your rear end cheeks then you become gay
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Apr 4, 2019 10:45
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Save the human that I know intimately well, who I love and plan to spent the rest of my life with or save the parasite that came out of her and hasn't achieved consciousness yet?
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Apr 4, 2019 11:32
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cumshitter posted:Your honor, this is why my wife is 100% responsible for these divorce proceedings. LoL. Regardless, I think this one is fake and was written by a HAES lady. Here's the tell: Smirking_Serpent posted:So what happened next was I had to watch as my girlfriend filled her plate up with all kinds of delicious food. The only place I've seen "delicious food" used like this are in those HAES blog posts from the old 600-lb thread (  ) that Xenocides used to find.
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Apr 4, 2019 12:49
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AITA for calling 911 on a black man?quote:I’m a female college student with two other female roommates, one of whom was away on a trip and the other asleep.
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Apr 4, 2019 13:33
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Whorelord posted:AITA for calling 911 on a black man? bullshit
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Apr 4, 2019 13:41
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Harveygod posted:LoL. Everything’s fake, trust nothing, not even your own eyes.
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Apr 4, 2019 13:53
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Darkhold posted:Heh I've done the same to my wife. Pisses her off to no end. I tell her to stop asking hypotheticals if she doesn't want my real answer. I 100% feel the same way but I will never admit it to my wife. But in the real world you'll never be faced with a situation where you have to choose one so it's the dumbest thing to start a fight over.
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Apr 4, 2019 13:59
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People who do the hypotheticals like they're good damned teenagers are the most annoying loving thing
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Apr 4, 2019 14:00
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Most fiction where I see that choice has saving the mother be the hard but right choice while a father who'd demand they prioritise the child is always a horrible villain.
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Apr 4, 2019 14:06
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Blade Runner posted:No it's not If my Italian relatives are any indication, Northern Italians don't even consider Southern Italians to be white.
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Apr 4, 2019 14:11
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AITA for getting angry and yelling at my wife for secretly giving me laxatives? Not the A-hole So I've been on the keto diet for the past couple of months and it has been great. More energy and weight loss. The only downside so far is I have been getting constipated fairly regularly. I told my wife about this a week or so ago and yesterday I had violent diarrhea. I started taking fiber supplements to make me go but I didn't think it would give me violent diarrhea. The kind of diarrhea that you start praying for it to stop. When I finished up after what felt like an eternity I went to check the fiber capsules for any warnings. I went on to see the product on Amazon to see if maybe someone had the same reaction as me but no mentions of diarrhea. I finally told my wife and she started laughing at my frantic story. I started getting pissed asking her why she was laughing and she confessed she might have put too much laxative powder in my protein shake. I got so angry I started yelling at her and she got defensive saying she was just trying to help me. So do you think I'm overreacting?
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Apr 4, 2019 14:25
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MightyJoe36 posted:If my Italian relatives are any indication, Northern Italians don't even consider Southern Italians to be white. I took an Italian history course in college and the professor was an Italian expat. He basically fled his country because he grew up in a small town right smack in the middle of country, so Italians from the North thought he was from the South and treated him like poo poo, and Southern Italians thought he was from the North and treated him like poo poo. My only takeaway from that class is Italy is a lovely country and you don't want to live there.
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Apr 4, 2019 14:27
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Power Khan posted:AITA for getting angry and yelling at my wife for secretly giving me laxatives? You're not wrong to be pissed but Jesus people stop yelling at your spouses, it's just going to make things worse.
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Apr 4, 2019 14:29
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Renegret posted:I took an Italian history course in college and the professor was an Italian expat. italy loving owns but you do not want to live there bologna is really cool though
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Apr 4, 2019 14:33
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Black Dress Mom can gently caress right off and her son could grow that spine he's missing imo
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Apr 4, 2019 14:34
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Whorelord posted:italy loving owns but you do not want to live there I went a long long time ago, and the only thing I remember about bologna was the tour guide telling us not to pronounce it like the lunch meat or we'd probably piss off a local. I was 16, so I didn't listen to her.
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Apr 4, 2019 14:36
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(Final Update) My [22f] boyfriend’s [24m] new tattoo makes me feel like a pedophilequote:Super long post incoming so apologies in advance.
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Apr 4, 2019 14:41
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ad090 posted:(Final Update) My [22f] boyfriend’s [24m] new tattoo makes me feel like a pedophile booooooooooo hissssssssssssssssss Pinecone Sample posted:Booooooooo happy endings for well-adjusted people who communicate well and grow through life experiences BOOOOOOOOOOOOO
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Apr 4, 2019 14:44
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I dunno, the plot twist about the sister and the guy secretly hating the tattoo was pretty good.
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Apr 4, 2019 14:49
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Not sure that having Boo-boo the bunny tattooed on his chest would have been less of a turnoff.
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Apr 4, 2019 14:50
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Renegret posted:You're not wrong to be pissed but Jesus people stop yelling at your spouses, it's just going to make things worse.
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Apr 4, 2019 15:07
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It just goes to show you, never wish death on someone's family, because you may end up having to be nice to them for the rest of your lives.
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Apr 4, 2019 15:08
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Leon Einstein posted:I disagree. If your spouse drugs you and makes you violently ill, yelling isn't the problem. And in her head she was trying to do something nice. Getting yelled at will just make her double down on thinking that she was making the right decision and now they resent eachother because they can't communicate like adults. 90% of the stories in this thread can be resolved with good communication. The last 10% is solved with murder.
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Apr 4, 2019 15:15
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Renegret posted:And in her head she was trying to do something nice. I know GBS gets the rep for hating women, but this thread twists itself in knots to defend women that don't deserve it.
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Apr 4, 2019 15:21
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Oh its dead wife
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Apr 4, 2019 15:25
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Was the laxitive use in van wilder ethical?
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Apr 4, 2019 15:26
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my pregnant wife that there is pretty much not a single circumstance where I would choose saving the baby over saving her? My grandfather had a sister with some sort of nervous system/muscle wasting disease. She got pregnant while she was still healthy, before it really started to affect her, but the pregnancy took a toll on her body. During the delivery, the doctor came out of the room and told her husband that he needed to choose who to save, his wife or the baby. My great aunt's husband replied by taking a gun and telling the doctor he better find a way to save them both (he did). Obviously not something that would go over well today. Grandpa turned 100 this year, so I imagine this took place in the late 1930s/early 1940s.
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ad090 posted:(Final Update) My [22f] boyfriend’s [24m] new tattoo makes me feel like a pedophile She should still sever, because the boyfriend is dumb and vulnerable enough to be manipulated into getting a child's face tattooed on his chest.
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ad090 posted:(Final Update) My [22f] boyfriend’s [24m] new tattoo makes me feel like a pedophile So I missed this when it came around and had to look it up. That's loving hilarious.
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Apr 4, 2019 15:47
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Motronic posted:I'm just checking, but are you ranking which types of personal identity matter more/are more valid as a general rule, or specific to this circumstance? Just to circle back on this, while I think it's hosed up to rank who's personal identity has more of a right to be sensitive to harassment, that is what was in effect happening in this scenario, with someone drawing a line about giving someone poo poo about their thing as opposed to the other. Within that context, you could argue that trans people are facing greater levels of harassment and scrutiny at this moment in time than asain people. You could also argue that Asain people have been treated pretty loving horrible in this country for a long time, to the point that we imprisoned an entire race during world ward 2, probably one of the worst things the U.S. did. But you're not wrong in implying that's it'd dumb to rank them in the first place, which is why I think if you're not willing to have a laugh about your identity being made fun of, you probably should give anyone else poo poo over theirs.
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Apr 4, 2019 15:54
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Batterypowered7 posted:My grandfather had a sister with some sort of nervous system/muscle wasting disease. She got pregnant while she was still healthy, before it really started to affect her, but the pregnancy took a toll on her body. During the delivery, the doctor came out of the room and told her husband that he needed to choose who to save, his wife or the baby. My great aunt's husband replied by taking a gun and telling the doctor he better find a way to save them both (he did). Ah, yes. Guns - the solution to every trolley problem. Edit: sorry, can't not take this shot: Doctors HATE this one trick. Badly Jester fucked around with this message at 15:58 on Apr 4, 2019 |
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Apr 4, 2019 15:54
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Wedding Dress Girl should just show up naked to the next thing
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Apr 4, 2019 15:55
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Dazerbeams posted:She should still sever, because the boyfriend is dumb and vulnerable enough to be manipulated into getting a child's face tattooed on his chest. Eh, people do dumb poo poo when grieving. poo poo, I'd guess tattoos while grieving is a significant portion of the profits of the both the tattoo and tattoo removal industries. Can't say I understand the notion of "getting more tattoos to distract from the creepy one. It's still going to be there. If you really want it gone, save up some dough and get it removed. Or find an artist to cover it up with something better. Edit: They are both in their early 20's too, so yeah they are both dumb as poo poo.
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r/legaladvice My ex deleted my BA thesis and underlying research off my computer. Due date is in 10 days. Do I have any recourse at all? (self.legaladvice) u/Thesis2019 quote:My life is pretty much ruined. I’m supposed to graduate in May and my BA degree requires a year long thesis made from original research. I have spent all year conducting interviews and gathering qualitative data that is impossible to reproduce. Update-I need more help. My ex deleted my BA thesis and it’s due in 7 days u/Thesis2019 quote:I need additional help. Based on the advice from my last thread I took my laptop to the geek squad to recover the files. They said I’d have it back by the end of the week. That would leave me with enough time to finish the last section of my thesis paper.
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ad090 posted:(Final Update) My [22f] boyfriend’s [24m] new tattoo makes me feel like a pedophile Didn't see that plot twist coming. They should cover up the tattoo, but i don't know of what. Give it red eyes and devil horns?
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