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Regarding Mr. Popular Sperm Donor, someone correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought in the past few decades they've started to limit the number of progeny one sperm donor can 'contribute' to, at least in relation to the population size of the area. I remember reading an article a while back of a girl finding out she had ~20 half-siblings in the area, and when she reached out to their families, some of the other parents that had selected sperm donor X twigged out about the total and were up in arms at the sperm bank. Or is it just at the discretion of individual banks to impose a limit?
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Antivehicular posted:The most charitable explanation is that her long illness meant he was grieving her death long before she actually passed, and what he was trying to communicate was that he'd made his peace with losing her well before he actually lost her, but... holy hell, it's loving hard to be charitable here. The quote is just crass as gently caress, even if it's not meant to be. That’s what I was thinking. It comes off cold as gently caress. Obviously dude can do whatever but 3 months really ain’t poo poo for time to recover from all that.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My brother (30s, m) is newly engaged after his wife died and I (20s, f) am having a hard time with his behavior. Honestly, having seen long battles with cancer, at a certain point, especially when it's clear they're not going to make it, they stop being the person they were to you and just become... something else. They still require tons of care, especially of their primary caregivers, and the medications make them start behaving strangely. It's horrible but you get to the point where you want then to go and it feels like that's when you start moving on. I've been through it with grandparents and other family members and I can't imagine going through it with a partner. It may seem a little weird but I feel like I get that guy. Imposing your own stipulations on someone's grieving is kind of hosed up unless their behaviour is really exceptional.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:He's basically destroying his daughter's life
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He's a loving monster, he's Pol Pop
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sebmojo posted:He's a loving monster, he's Pol Pop 
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47 children, hm? Check them for barcodes.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my cousin he is being unreasonable and a dick for not having a microphone at his wedding? Oh gently caress this guy. "Above you"? Kick him right in the dick.
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It routinely amazes me the misers who'll scrimp 20 bucks will still actually have a wedding like that isn't an enormous money pyre for essentially no reason save making your future together that much more stressful
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Ancestor donated land to a college with a stipulation that his descendants can attend for free with proceeds from donation. I love this. It's like these medieval style contracts, where your liege gives you land, only in return for a booger and you ceremoneously hollering at a goat.
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Motherfucker posted:It routinely amazes me the misers who'll scrimp 20 bucks will still actually have a wedding like that isn't an enormous money pyre for essentially no reason save making your future together that much more stressful Misers arent smart, if they were people would actually be jealous of them
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Motherfucker posted:It routinely amazes me the misers who'll scrimp 20 bucks will still actually have a wedding like that isn't an enormous money pyre for essentially no reason save making your future together that much more stressful that was my thought. like, if you're going to be a cheapskate at the expense of everyone else's ability to enjoy the ceremony... why not save them the travel and expense, and just get a courthouse wedding and mail out announcements? e: haha i missed this the first time. he had the big wedding because he's a chud quote:"well I don't have that problem, you all use that as an excuse to not be in the army" Cactus Ghost fucked around with this message at 10:54 on Apr 8, 2019 |
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Power Khan posted:I love this. It's like these medieval style contracts, where your liege gives you land, only in return for a booger and you ceremoneously hollering at a goat. This reminds me of the ancient perpetual bond Yale holds on some dutch municipality. They aren't the original holder but they still get like $20 a year because someone in the 1300s needed a dam built.
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The harvest today is a bit crazy.....and/or fake. My housemates and I [19-22/F] just discovered that our trans housemate [22/M] has been making “tea” out of our used tampons because he can’t afford hormonal pills. We don’t feel safe and want this person gone. Edit: The title should say that she is 22/MtF. That was a typo and my mistake. — This is the scariest, most disgusting thing I’ve ever been through. I’m a student at a popular, liberal university, living in a house off campus with 5 housemates. I’ve lived here two semesters already and plan on staying until August when I get my own place. A few months ago we took on a new roommate, let’s call her Jessica. Jessica is a transwoman which is fine with everyone there. We all get along and occasionally hang out. Jessica did seem a bit weird sometimes, but we figured she was nice enough and wasn’t hurting anyone so it was all okay. Long story short, I recently let her borrow my hairdryer and she forgot to give it back to me after she left for class. I usually wouldn’t do this, but I was in a hurry and my hair was wet so I decided to go into her room to get my dryer. What I saw was so disturbing. The smell in the room was terrible, like a public bathroom. There were bottles of urine everywhere. But worst of all... there was a ziplock bag with used tampons under her desk. On top of her desk was a plastic cup with one of the used tampons, and water. I ran out and threw up. I didn’t know what to think. I woke up one of my other housemates and told her what was going on. She looked with me and was shocked. We took pictures to show our other roommates. Once everyone knew and Jessica came back we had a house meeting. The 5 of us told her we knew what she was doing and asked her why. She screamed that we shouldn’t have went into her room and that we’re being transphobic. We told her we want her out by the end of the month and that we will refund her entire rent from this month to make up for the short notice. She cried and told us that she can’t afford estrogen and doesn’t have insurance, so people online told her that drinking period blood was a way to “become a woman”. I feel really bad for her, but I can’t do this... none of us can. Are we wrong for telling her she has to go? TL;DR: My housemates and I [19-22/F] just discovered that our trans housemate [22/M] has been making “tea” out of our used tampons because he can’t afford hormonal pills. We don’t feel safe and want this person gone. -------- My (22M) gf(26f) of 5 years killed my pet snake (14 yo) as soon we moved in together UPDATE ON THE BOTTOM UPDATE #2 ON THE BOTTOM So I'm pretty much convinced my gf killed my snake that I had since I was kid. She always had a problem with the snake, she would believe its satanic and bad omen to have a snake in the house. But to me the snake was like family, and is very docile. He has no problems with her dogs, he just be chilling. Even her dog would just chill, not attack my snake. When we were moving she kept telling me to get rid of the snake but I couldnt cuz I really love my snake. Well now I came home and the snake was just gone, no traces of anything just gone and not tp be seen in the house. When I confronted my gf about it she claims she doesnt know anything and claims that it probablt escaped. I find this hard to believe because first off he actually cant escape his enclosure, and I doubt the snake went down a flight of stairs and left through the door. I dont wanna make a big deal out of it but i think its mad hosed up she did this. I wanna confront her about it but I dont wanna seem like Im being petty EDIT: When I brought up the snake missing she just started crying and saying I always do this?? Idek what she even means by this UPDATE: she dmd me this (im out rn) https://imgur.com/a/PSBp9l6 UPDATE 2: I went to the lake to search with my friend i was chilling with, couldn't find the snake, and talk to the gf. Were currently on break but were in the same house... not sure how thats gonna pan out ------------- I (29F) think my husband (32M) wants to have sex with our dog I’m sorry for the clickbait title but it’s honestly what I’m worried about at this point and I’m hoping for some serious advice please. My husband and I have been married for 3 years now, he’s never shown any sign of being interested in beastiality, furry porn or the like. For the first 2 years of our marriage we lived in an apartment where we weren’t allowed pets and never expressed wanting any besides a “oh a dog or a cat might be cool one day.” We moved into a house last year and pretty much as soon as we were settled he consistently brought up wanting to get a dog. I wanted to focus on starting a family first but he brought up the point that taking care of a dog would be a good first step and I agreed with that. Eventually I gave in and 4 months ago we got a 2 year old female German Shepard from the shelter named Molly. Now ever since we got her, every time we have sex, she’s always present in the room. At first I didn’t think much of this until I noticed the bedroom door was always shut. We live alone so this didn’t seem necessary to me, but when I started opening it my husband would always make sure it was closed. I tried closing it a few times and initiating sex with him while Molly wasn’t in the room but every time he would say he needed to pee or needed a glass of water and would leave, then come back with Molly following after him before shutting the door again. I asked him why he kept letting her in our room and he said it’s because he doesn’t like leaving her alone somewhere in the house where she could get hurt. But when I said we leave her alone in the house all day while we’re at work he said that’s different because he doesn’t have a choice then. This seemed strange to me but I decided it was probably just him being protective of his new baby. But things kept escalating to the point where she started jumping on the bed sometimes while we were in the middle of the act and I’d try and shoo her off but my husband would tell me to just let her stay and ignore her. I told him it makes me uncomfortable but he just told me I was overreacting and that he thinks it’s funny because this way he can say he has “2 girls in bed with him”. I put my foot down and said she’s not allowed on the bed at all from now on and this caused a bit of an argument between us where he started asking “if she was a baby would I be saying the same thing?” Obviously if she was a baby I wouldn’t be saying the same thing, all the points of his argument just seemed irrelevant and like he was trying to manipulate me emotionally. Eventually it was settled that she wasn’t allowed on the bed anymore and that was that for awhile. Until a month or two later when I came home early one day and saw him and Molly in the backyard. He was bent down and it looked as if he was inspecting her genitals. When I opened the back door to ask what he was doing he jumped up as if he had been caught doing something wrong and said he was just trying to untangle a patch of matted fur next to her back leg. When I asked why he jumped he said it was because he wasn’t expecting me home early and I startled him. This seems plausible to me tbh but combined with everything I thought I should mention it. Also I looked later to see if I could find any patches of matted fur but it was all perfectly fine. A few weeks after this we both took Molly to a dog park where another dog began to hump her. I told my husband to stop them but he just laughed and asked what the problem was. I told him I didn’t want to have to deal with a litter of puppies but he still didn’t do anything and just kept watching them so I went and broke them up with the help of the other owner. When I asked my husband why he didn’t help he said that she is actually neutered and should be allowed to have some fun. I took her to the vet the following week to confirm this and he was right. For the past few weeks he’s been talking about us getting another dog but that idea makes me really uncomfortable considering he already gives most of his spare time to Molly as it is. He just seems overly affectionate with her. He cuddles with her more than he does with me and on more than one occasion I’ve overheard him quietly talking to her but he always stops when I come into the room. I don’t see why he would need to stop if he was just saying something normal. I brushed this all off as me being paranoid and overthinking due to my anxiety until a few nights ago he left his laptop logged in. I know this was a violation of trust but I’m glad I did it because I found a folder of furry pornography. I’m not sure if it can be considered beastiality because it was all cartoons and they all had human characteristics but majority of the pictures were clearly depictions of German shepherds. Is this confirmation that he’s interested in sex with animals? None of the pictures had actual humans in them and from what I’ve read being a furry means you’re more interested in being the animal? And what about all the other events leading up to this? The only porn I saw was cartoons but he seems very interested in the real thing as well, or is it possible all the other events are purely coincidental and my mind has just stitched them together? I don’t know if I want to have children with a man that’s interested in these sorts of things. I understand being a furry is a kink but beastiality in my books is a step down from pedophilia. Obviously I need to talk to him about this but I really don’t want to and I have no idea how I would even bring it up to him? Do I admit to snooping on his laptop? Or should I just say I think his relationship with our dog is a bit strange and hope that opens up a dialogue? And my most important question: Am I overreacting or is this a legitimate cause for concern? 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My (F22) Boyfriend (M24) Kinda Looks Like Hitler  quote:My boyfriend hasn't received a haircut for longer than normal. Today he was messing with his hair in front of a mirror and said that when he puts his hair a certain way he looks like Hitler.
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eww what awful taste everyone knows stalin is the real macho man of facism
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NiceGuy posted:eww what awful taste stalin was 5'5 though, no one wants to date a manlet.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My brother (30s, m) is newly engaged after his wife died and I (20s, f) am having a hard time with his behavior. idgi does the goldfish trick not work on wives???
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Whorelord posted:My (F22) Boyfriend (M24) Kinda Looks Like Hitler She may as well start wearing a SS uniform to bed. No other choice in the matter.
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NiceGuy posted:eww what awful taste what do you think fascism is
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Sagebrush posted:Why are the kids legally entitled to his contact information when they turn 18? I'd never really considered it before but that seems...odd. Sperm banks exist entirely so that women can get pregnant without needing to personally know the father; surely that works in reverse, too? What if the donor doesn't want to know anything about any kids he's fathered? What if the kid wants to know who their dad was? It's a balance of the rights of the two. That said, the UK made it a legal right for kids to know who their sperm donor dad was some years back, and big surprise, sperm donation rates fell through the floor.
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Panfilo posted:It doesn't matter anyway, since DNA testing services could find him regardless. No they couldn't? Only if he signed up for a DNA testing service himself. It's not like giving samples is mandatory for everyone on earth.
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feedmegin posted:No they couldn't? Only if he signed up for a DNA testing service himself. It's not like giving samples is mandatory for everyone on earth. All it takes is a random cousin or two signing up for it and they can pinpoint you
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I assumed any medical history would have had to be disclosed when you originally donated the sperm.
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Switchback posted:Manners aren’t universal. They are all arbitrary. When I go back to America, people touch me often, so evidently “no touching” is not such a widespread attitude that it could be considered common courtesy, even though I agree it should be and hate when strangers touch me. I’ve had friends visit me in Asia and end up feeling very lonely because we don’t touch each other here. Especially in the southern US or South America, it’s expected and polite that you touch. It is neither expected or polite in the southern US to, specifically, touch a black woman''s hair. HTH. We're not talking about touching someone on the arm or whatever, this is a different thing.
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Isn’t there another part of this where the women involved get to review people’s profiles before they select a donor? And women have selected his samples that often? Is this guy, like, a 6’1” Rhodes scholar M.D./Ph.D Olympian?
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In 750 years, 5% of the population will be able to trace back to some divorced dude in Iowa City.
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TheScott2K posted:what do you think fascism is https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Red_fascism kinda weird to ask me when there's google but whatevs
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PostNouveau posted:In 750 years, 5% of the population will be able to trace back to some divorced dude in Iowa City. Ghengis Khan's going to lose his title as world's most common grandpa.
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He posted a sad update  :quote:UPDATE 3: Didnt sleep all night, went to the lake (15 minute drive), and I found the snake but unfortunatly it looks like it got attacked by another animal as it has huge marks on him and looks impaled. Well with the gf, I am going to break up with her and go no contact but right now I have to find a way to get my name off lease papers and other documents too Abandon your ex at the lake and replace her with a gecko DemoneeHo fucked around with this message at 15:23 on Apr 8, 2019 |
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Pirate Radar posted:Isn’t there another part of this where the women involved get to review people’s profiles before they select a donor? And women have selected his samples that often? Is this guy, like, a 6’1” Rhodes scholar M.D./Ph.D Olympian? iirc yeah people get very Master Race very quickly when given the chance, so much so that sperm banks auto-reject anyone who has red hair, is under 6 feet tall, is black, etc because their stuff is just going to sit on the shelf, never chosen
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Barudak posted:You found the corpse of your giant snake impaled? Is your ex girlfriend a SOLDIER or something? He's actually living in a Cloud/Sephiroth genderbend fanfiction
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Moist von Lipwig posted:Honestly, having seen long battles with cancer, at a certain point, especially when it's clear they're not going to make it, they stop being the person they were to you and just become... something else. They still require tons of care, especially of their primary caregivers, and the medications make them start behaving strangely. It's horrible but you get to the point where you want then to go and it feels like that's when you start moving on. I've been through it with grandparents and other family members and I can't imagine going through it with a partner. It may seem a little weird but I feel like I get that guy. Imposing your own stipulations on someone's grieving is kind of hosed up unless their behaviour is really exceptional. I’d agree with you that it’s his business if it was just him and he didn’t have any kids. It doesn’t say how old they are, but I’m guessing relatively young based on his age. Having your mom die after a long battle with cancer, then your dad immediately gets involved with someone else who intends to be your replacement mom and she also looks exactly like your dead mom has got to be pretty hosed up for them. The OP and other relatives should try to talk to them and see how they feel about the whole thing.
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NiceGuy posted:eww what awful taste 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
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Went axe throwing with the family, husband (36M) threw an axe at a picture of my (32F) face - I am so hurt. Last weekend, my husband and I went axe throwing with some family for a small celebration. I was talking to the owners about some fun concepts and suggested an avenge your ex night would he sort of comical. You pay them to print a picture of your ex and get to throw an axe at it to let off some steam. Again, just an idea. My husband was with me while I was talking to the owners and decides to grab a pen and paper and draw my face and his face. He gives me the picture of his face, takes the picture of mine and set it up to throw an axe at it. Lo and behold, he gets a bullseye. He thinks this is funny, I’m in shock and getting pissed. My family is looking around at him like wtf? I crumbled my piece of paper and walked away. I am so hurt, that is just so disrespectful. My sister tries to console me saying he didn’t have bad intentions (she also doesn’t want to cause a scene). I tell my husband I don’t see the humour in this at all. We’ve been drinking so decide its best not to deal the issue and discuss it later... we haven’t talked about it since. I do want to add some context, while our relationship is ok, it’s not in the best place right now. It’s not like we’re fighting but we are in counselling to resolve some of our issues. There hasn’t been anger and we’ve established communication is part of our problems. We’ve been married just over a year. But throwing an axe to a picture of your partners face? Am I wrong for being really upset and hurt about this? How does one think this is acceptable? TLDR; my husband threw an axe at a picture of my face thinking it was comical and harmless. I’m really hurt but we haven’t talked about it. Are already having martial issues. What does this mean?
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My Lovely Horse posted:Picturing one of those 90s goth claw rings that go over your whole finger. Okay this is a bit back but I really think it should be a rule that if you complain about an ugly ring you have to post it. I'm so loving curious about so many of these rings. And for gently caress's sake people no one gives a poo poo if you have some huge diamond. Like poo poo go to an antique store or something. E and gently caress that woman that killed that poor snake. Chill snakes are great. I was heartbroken when mine died considering I had her a third of my life. People without compassion for critters don't deserve relationships. Scathach fucked around with this message at 17:36 on Apr 8, 2019 |
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Smirking_Serpent posted:Went axe throwing with the family, husband (36M) threw an axe at a picture of my (32F) face - I am so hurt. 
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