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Smirking_Serpent posted:here's some added context for the vegas bachelorette post: I love a good Schmear campaign. Mmmmm.
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1 everything bachelorette with a schmear please
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Apr 18, 2019 05:22
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Smirking_Serpent posted:be careful what you wish for 
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Apr 18, 2019 05:28
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a schmear campaign on an everything bagel please
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Apr 18, 2019 05:32
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I've (21f) been "dibs'ed"quote:tl;dr: I've been dibs'ed by a friend in my friend group that I have no feelings for whatsoever, and it's affecting a potential relationship with a guy in the friend group I do have feelings for. You should honor the dibs before the universe itself destroys you for your insolence at profaning this sacred fundamental law. You have been warned.
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Apr 18, 2019 05:58
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Xenocides posted:I've (21f) been "dibs'ed" I've heard of treating women like property, but holy poo poo. Kill the dibs-caller.
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Apr 18, 2019 06:01
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therobit posted:I've heard of treating women like property, but holy poo poo. I don’t understand how it came to this. Maybe if she’s the only girl in the whole friend-group and she lucked into the rest all being sucky dudes, maybe. But even then, I want to believe it’d hit a point pretty early on where somebody (or even she herself) would go “OK, enough with the ‘dibs’ poo poo. It was a joke but now you’ve made it weird.”
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AITA for telling roommate his GF and her 2 kids have to leave. Hi reddit, I am a 22 year old male rooming with my 24 year old male friend. His GF is 26 and has two kids who are not his. The kids are 5 and 3. Well the GF got kicked out of her own place and doesn't have a job and can't pay rent to live anywhere. My roommate and I share a 2 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment. The GF and kids came to live here and I was fine with it as I they had just been kicked out and thought she would need a week to get back on her feet. Well 2 weeks later she was still there and I asked my roommate what the plan was as I was starting to get annoyed by the kids. Basically I am still in college and like having friends over but his GF said i'm not allowed to have friends over after 10 and I can't drink or have parties here anymore because it would be a bad example for the kids. My roommate and I both pay half the rent. My roommate says they are going to move in for the rest of the lease which ends in December. He said we could split utilities 5 ways if it made it better. I said this was unacceptable, I didn't agree to live with a family and this is really starting to affect my life. I said even if we split rent 5 ways I wouldn't want to do that. I then said if they're not gone by the end of the week I will go to the property manager and take whatever steps are needed to resolve the issue. AITA?
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AITA for allowing a few of my middle school students to skip a school-wide prayer? I teach at a private school. It's not affiliated with any religion and we allow students of all religions to attend. Once yearly, there is an event at my school when a Christian pastor comes and the middle and high school students stand around the flag pole and pray. I am an atheist, which I don't share with my students despite the fact that many of my co-workers share their faith with our students constantly. I don't think it's my students' business. I am a youngish (30) teacher and the kids really like me. I don't want to push my views on kids who are at such an impressionable age. That's not why I'm a teacher. This includes religion, politics, etc. Every year for the past six years, I have told my classes that this is an optional prayer and my classroom is open to those who don't feel comfortable attending. Every year, I have between 5-10 kids (out of 110ish) stay behind in my room. We don't discuss the event or why they're staying. I have them work on homework or run some errands for me. I stay behind and supervise. The event lasts fifteen minutes and then we move on with our lives. This year, a pain in the rear end that I work with...oops, a co-worker, complained to our headmaster about it. I was told by our administration that these kids must attend and even if they do not want to pray, they can use the time to enjoy a moment of silence. She informed me that this is a "bad precedent" to set for our students. She said that this event is once yearly and these students should be ashamed for wanting to skip it. She also doesn't think it's appropriate for me to skip it. However, on the way out there, I spotted two of my students lagging behind and one was tearing up. I know these kids well- one is Jewish and the other is atheist. They approached me and the Jewish kid said, "Mrs. Pain in the rear end (not exact words) said we still must attend today. Can we please sit in your room?" I told them that the headmaster was really encouraging all to go. The Jewish kid (a sixth grader) was really tearing up at this point. I said, "You know what? This is ridiculous. Go to my room." I then walked the rest of the kids out to the flag pole and then returned to my classroom. A few of my (openly Christian) co-workers seemed surprised by my choice and asked if this was really the hill that I wanted to die on. They told me it's not a big deal to go out there and be respectful during the prayer for fifteen minutes. However, I think I've handled it in a very respectful manner. As a private school, they're allowed to invite whoever they want to pray at our school. However, as a non-religious private school, I think my students should be allowed to skip out on prayer should they choose to do so. So, AITA? EDIT: I do not believe that I'm in danger of losing my job. This happened a few months ago, but I was just discussing it with my husband and it got me thinking about how I plan to handle this next school year.
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Apr 18, 2019 06:17
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Smirking_Serpent posted:be careful what you wish for I wish my life went down a divergent path, one where I didn't read this.
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Apr 18, 2019 06:34
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burial posted:I don’t understand how it came to this. Maybe if she’s the only girl in the whole friend-group and she lucked into the rest all being sucky dudes, maybe. I'll cop to being drunk and not reading the story very well and also being too lazy to go look it up for the comments but surely Dungeons and Dragons is involved somehow.
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Apr 18, 2019 06:36
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling roommate his GF and her 2 kids have to leave. Definitely split the rent 5 ways, tell those kids they have to earn their keep
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burial posted:I don’t understand how it came to this. Maybe if she’s the only girl in the whole friend-group and she lucked into the rest all being sucky dudes, maybe.
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I (26f) ended a friendship with a girl (26f) a month ago and now she seems to be coming to a meetup i'm hosting at my house. Hey everyone, so I was friends with this girl, Karissa, for about a year. We just don't click. She was sometimes fun to go out and drink with, but in terms of a deeper connection, it was nonexistent. Anytime we went out though, she would get wasted and try to find guys to talk to, even though she had a BF who she is definitely just keeping as a backup plan in case she doesn't find someone 'better' -- one time she met a guy last St. Patty's Day (2018) at a bar and talked to him all night, despite the fact her BF was there too, and then made plans to go on a date with him. When he stopped texting her, she flipped out and made me read all their texts and anytime I talked to her for the next month, she was overanalyzing why this guy stopped talking to her and even said "ugh I feel like I screwed everything up by telling him I have a BF. I should never have told him." Anyway, I finally just reached a breaking point a month ago and told her we just aren't compatible and I don't want to be friends anymore. She was mad and kept going off on me so I blocked her. I haven't spoken to her since. However, I joined a meetup group and, after she saw I joined, she joined it too. I went to one meetup and she wasn't there luckily. But, I got along with the girls there and we planned the next meetup, a potluck I'm hosting at my house. We set up the event and she immediately RSVP'd that she is coming. I then posted in the event that it is at my house (after she had RSVP'd). I gave it about a week, thinking she'd change her RSVP once she saw I was hosting. She did not. So, I sent her a super nice message saying; "hey, i saw you RSVP'd to the potluck. I'm not sure if you realized, but it is actually at my house. I don't want to leave you out of anything at all, but I think it would be uncomfortable for both of us if you came. Do you mind sitting this one out? Sorry, hope you're doing well." She never responded. It's been a week and it still says she's coming to the meetup at my house. I want to make new friends without any drama. what should I do? Send another message? It's irritating because I'm just trying to start fresh. I was in a D&D group with my friends, and she pretty much pushed herself into it, so I decided I'd just stop going because it would be uncomfortable for everyone, but I wasn't going to try to say she should drop out instead and I haven't said anything bad about her to our mutual friends. I'm literally just leaving her alone. Why can't she do the same and respect my wishes? tl;dr -- I 'broke up' with a friend but now she's apparently coming to a meetup I'm hosting at my house. What should I do?
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Pick posted:You at 18:
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therobit posted:I'll cop to being drunk and not reading the story very well and also being too lazy to go look it up for the comments but surely Dungeons and Dragons is involved somehow. Palpek posted:People in their early 20s are complete and total morons especially in a group setting. That one takes it to a certain level though. OK, sadly, you’re both probably right. I just don’t want you to be. I’m sure I handled things less than ideally at that age (as I often still do) but it’s just nuts to me that the guy she likes was all “Yeah, I mean, Carl DID have dibs, so if you hadn’t told me you shut him down...”
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My family is extremely overprotective of me [22 F] and won't let me go anywhere alone - even tagging along business trips. Background: I was home schooled and extremely shielded during my childhood. My mom is ill and my siblings have an age gap of 10+ years, so they take on the role of "second parents". I'm also almost deaf, so they worry about me "not being able to hear" if someone "tries to kidnap me" (their words) or something happens. Ever since I graduated highschool I've been trying to reclaim the teenage years I lost due to being homeschooled. I never had friends or left the house. So I'm trying to go out more. Whenever I want to go out, my family flat out refuses or tags along. This is especially awkward during dates and has led to me having to break off relationships. Recently, I started a new job in marketing, which will require a lot of travel. I'm letting my sister (35 F) and her husband (36 M) tag along my first trip to Vegas. However, they're insistent on making plans to come with me to every trip, even to Chicago. We're in SoCal. My family is fairly poor and can't afford this. My company pays my tickets of course - but they want to take time off work and pay extra just to come with me. I told them that once they meet my co-workers, I'm sure they'll feel more secure about letting me go on trips - but they aren't listening and are starting to make plans to come. It's a embarrassing at work. And my family is acting like I'm being the burden for even getting this job because now "they have to come along". I don't know what to do at this point. I understand they're worried due to me being sheltered all my life but this is stressing me out. I finally landed my dream job and they're complaining about it. I pay rent, manage my own bills, and am fairly independent - but they still treat me like a child. It's also frustrating when it impacts relationships. Any advice? TLDR Overbearing family won't let me go on business trips alone, or hardly anywhere alone. I'm 22 and it's ruining my relationships and work. EDIT: Wow! Thanks for all the replies, I've been looking through all of them between my breaks but I'm home now and can respond individually as much as I can EDIT 2: I live with my family still, but pay $600 a month for a shared room with them. We all live together, married sister included. We're Hispanic EDIT 3: I'm going to t talk with them this week and tell them plain and simple they can't come. I'm mostly worried about my sister and dad, but I'll do my best. I'm also going to look into rooms for rent like a majority of the suggestions, my only concern is my Mom, since she's ill I want to stay with her as long as I can before she's gone. I'll update you guys on what my family says, I know it won't be good but it's now or never
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One of my co-workers is almost deaf and has hearing aids, but she does really well with it. If someone is speaking to her while facing her and at a normal volume it's difficult to tell that she has a disability at all. That said, her parents are extremely protective, like to the point of driving a few hours to stay at her house overnight for a doctor's appt the next day (she's 29 and they came with her to talk to the doctor). Her older brother did die young, though, so I guess she's all they have, but still I couldn't do that poo poo. Sort of deaf girl should move the gently caress out and tell her family to loving calm down. Or, comedy option, let them come every loving trip and watch how long it takes for them to realize that they can't randomly take days off and lose income or their jobs just to make sure she doesn't "get kidnapped at loving 22 in a business meeting".
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Spoiler tag for the hidden mystery in this story, see if you can uncover it! AITA for not being able to accept my partner's sexuality? quote:I know how the title of this sounds but please hear me out. Also, this is a throwaway bc I'm pretty sure my partner knows my main account and I don't want her to see this. Nice idea trying to classify wanting to sleep with other people as a type of LGTBQ, literally "my sexual preference is people who aren't you but I don't want to break up, that's the same as being bisexual or gay right?" Also she's probably no longer attracted to him because she's a pedophile QuarkJets fucked around with this message at 11:00 on Apr 18, 2019 |
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Apr 18, 2019 10:56
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I was really hoping "our daughter" meant "her daughter that we call our daughter" but welp
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You just know she’s the village bike for all the teenage lads hanging around the shops.
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Apr 18, 2019 11:12
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That's terrible, I feel really sorry for the dude as he's a victim who obviously doesn't realize the extent of the destruction yet and that truck has to still hit him before he even starts solving any of those problems.
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Apr 18, 2019 11:23
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Apr 18, 2019 11:26
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Really hope we get a bachelorette party update after it's occurred You know a 17 person bachelorette party is already gonna be intense I hope they email her afterwards and is like "on second thought don't bother coming to the wedding, later"
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Apr 18, 2019 11:55
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The only thing about that story that occurred is that Las Vegas exists and even about that I'm only 90% certain at best.
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Apr 18, 2019 12:21
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My Lovely Horse posted:The only thing about that story that occurred is that Las Vegas exists and even about that I'm only 90% certain at best. cool, please post more
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Apr 18, 2019 12:22
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Pinecone Sample posted:Hey we haven't talked about how expensive weddings are dumb in a few days ohhh yeahhh that's the good stuff
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Apr 18, 2019 12:35
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Smirking_Serpent posted:EDIT 2: I live with my family still, but pay $600 a month for a shared room with them. We all live together, married sister included. We're Hispanic
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Did she say where? $600 would get you the bottom half of a bunk in the bay area.
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QuarkJets posted:Spoiler tag for the hidden mystery in this story, see if you can uncover it! 
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I want to be free to gently caress any young boy I choose within a 10 mile radius, and you're oppressing me if you say that makes you uncomfortable. Also, I assumed calling dibs on someone just meant claiming interest and intentions to make a move in the near future. Being turned down or failing to make a move at all means dibs is over.
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I feel like the sort of person who would think calling dibs on a person makes any sense is also the sort of person who will never experience requited love.
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Apr 18, 2019 15:22
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling roommate his GF and her 2 kids have to leave. I'm sorry split the utilities 5 ways? With a 5 and 3 year old? Am I reading this right?
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Apr 18, 2019 15:28
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Sjs00 posted:I'm sorry split the utilities 5 ways? With a 5 and 3 year old? Am I reading this right? It's basically just them trying to bribe him into not getting them kicked out because they're extremely violating the lease
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Apr 18, 2019 15:29
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QuarkJets posted:Nice idea trying to classify wanting to sleep with other people as a type of LGTBQ This isn't all that uncommon with poly people.
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Apr 18, 2019 15:30
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Like he offered to pay more for utilities because of their usage. Why are his two options "follow the rules and deal" or "property manager". Can't he take the oft-treaded middle ground of ignoring his roommate's rules and having friends over anyway?
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Dazerbeams posted:Also, I assumed calling dibs on someone just meant claiming interest and intentions to make a move in the near future. Being turned down or failing to make a move at all means dibs is over. What’s ridiculous is (1) that they don’t seem to have recognized this obvious restriction, and (2) that they actually called it, and are continuing to call it, “dibs” like she’s the front passenger seat of mommy’s car. Nothing wrong with asking your friends not to make a move on someone when you’re seriously interested and acting on it. But holy poo poo, it’s not binding and it doesn’t constitute ownership.
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Yeah I was a shithead in my 20's. Happens. These days I'd just drop the group, back then I would have been too anxious to say anything. Those friends are lovely for even thinking that a girl belongs to a guy because he says so. That poor guy with the 5yo kid, drat. His girlfriend is a pedo. Being poly isn't an orientation and she really makes the rest of the bisexual world look lovely with the "Oh but I just HAVE to gently caress both genders at all times!" The idea that all bi people aren't fulfilled with one partner as a rule is so loving stupid and wrong.
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She's not, did you read it? The girlfriend is apparently straight. It's the boyfriend who's bi, and he's monogamous.
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i like nice words