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Tender Bender posted:Like, her boss preying on her didn't happen because of the dinner. It was already happening. But we're not supposed to have sympathy because as a Woman she didn't listen to her Man and prevent the problem from happening, the problem being another man acting lovely. Nope. Many people have been sympathetic/empathetic with what actually happened to her. They just don't see it license to be an rear end in a top hat- which she was. This should not be a contentious viewpoint to hold.
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I (19M) just found out that my girlfriend (26F) has been sh*t-talking the ring I made her for her birthday, and is planning on selling itquote:I don’t want this to drag on too long, but I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about a year now, and her birthday is in a few weeks. I made her a ring out of resin (with little flowers in it) quite a while in advance, and she found it while she was going through our drawers. Hm, you seem to be more emotionally mature than your girlfriend. Sell her on ebay.
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There was an update to that post about the woman that cheated on her boyfriend and he became a kind robot:quote:Edit 2: Everything commenters have said is valid and i thank you all for it, basically my question is answered, but just for an update for those following the story, he texted me this: “Hey x, please don’t feel bad or try to show me how sorry you are. I’ve been separating myself from our relationship for months, I do not think (planned LDR details) will work, and I was too scared to bring it up. I’m not angry at you and I won’t be, but that form of us is completely over. Emotionally I haven’t been in the relationship in a while. We have been having problems and I know everybody fucks up (even in ways that are super evil ha ha just joking) and it’s weird to express but I just don’t really care. I’m sure it’ll gently caress me up in a month or something, that seems how these things go, but that’s fine we both have plenty of time in our lives to move on, not a big deal. Please keep me updated on your life if that’s something you’d like to do” basically everybody was right So it seems like they both knew in their hearts the LDR coming up wasn't gonna work out, so her cheating was probably her subconscious trying to rip the band-aid off quickly, although definitely not the best course of action, it's a bit more understandable why it happened.
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Miserable Maid posted:Ok you gotta be trolling now. That's not at all what people are saying, and there's no excuse for the way the boss treated her. Here's clearly a villain preying on people he knows can't fight back. I'm sorry I don't know how else to interpret your dumb bee analogy because in this case "getting stung" isn't going to a bad dinner, it's realizing you're not as valued at work as you thought you were and that your boss wants to gently caress you and you'll probably have to upend your career and may get blacklisted depending on how connected he is, which was going to happen regardless. And yes i feel sympathy for her regardless of how Correct her fiance was about the dinner. I mean Lmao I'm sorry your boss harassed you. I'm sure you're very upset. However please keep in mind you're a stupid rear end in a top hat and the real victim is your fiance, who had to suffer through you being mean to him for a day while he was trying to hector you about how right he was. Tender Bender fucked around with this message at 01:57 on May 2, 2019 |
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Twelve Batmans posted:Lol, anyone who has been paying a shred of attention to the thread Lol if you think anyone is actually reading you idiots relitigating the same tiresome poo poo ad nauseum
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AITA for having loud sex as a means of solving a problem with the neighborsquote:My partner (30M) and I (29M) live in a building with dozens of apartments. As soon as we moved in about a year ago, our next door neighbors immediately started harassing us over every little thing. There's a leak - must be us! Something's wrong with the electrics - must be us! There is a noise - must be us! They have complained about how loud, often and long we take showers, they are bothered by how loud our AC is, they have questioned us about how many people "actually" live in our apartment after we had some friends over and so on.  Whatever it takes to assert your dominance
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WIBTA for giving a gift which will totally overshadow everyone else's gift (including his parents) at a party? Context: my best friend's birthday party is next week (21). Normally me and my friends buy gifts together (always alcohol, I don't live in the US btw), but I want to mix it up now and give something useful for once. I bought a new Macbook for him since he told me once that his current laptop sucks and hates Windows. I didn't think about it at first but now I am very worried that my gift will totally overshadow anyone else's gift. His parents saved up to give him some kind of alarm clock. I think they are pretty proud that they found a good gift for him, but they will 100% feel bad about their gift when I give him an expensive laptop. My friends will also feel bad I think when they give him (in comparison) a cheap gift. I suggested to them that we could buy the laptop together but they don't want to spend that much money and now they are pissed at me that I won't join them. They think I am showing off. Also I am afraid that when I gift this friend his laptop, that at next birthday I give someone else a normal gift that they will think I like him/her less. This is stressing me tf out and I need some input.
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Miserable Maid posted:There was an update to that post about the woman that cheated on her boyfriend and he became a kind robot: It's not quite a completely mutual breakup that Seinfeld was going on about, but it's close enough
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That doesn't matter? Yes, the boss is clearly the bad one here, and talking advantage, but she's still an idiot for going along with the dinner, when basically every other woman invited was smart enough to bail. Yeah, he's still a scum bag regardless, but at least at work she has excuses to get away, at a hotel with just him and one other worker, she's basically trapped. It's like entering the Lions' den, she's handing him even more power over her then usual
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AITA for tipping $20 on a $600 1.5 oz pour of bourbon? I’m sure plenty of you will say I’m a douche or whatever for buying a $600 pour of bourbon. It’s a waste of money and whatnot. That’s fine. I’m really into bourbon. I’m not rich by any means, but I’m definitely not poor. I can afford the $600. This particular bottle is extremely rare. If I want to buy it now on the secondary market it would be $12,000. I’m not spending that. I was at a bar the other day and I couldn’t believe they had it. I was with my wife and was telling her about it. She told me to try a pour of it. The bartender says it’s $600 for 1.5 oz which is pretty on par with what it goes for. I figured it would be about that. I really wanted to see what it tasted like so I said, what the hell and got it. It was good, but not worth $600. Basically paying for supply and demand. It was cool to try. I put it on a separate tab and tabbed that out after getting the pour. I wasn’t going to tip 20% or $120 for the bartender to literally just do what he would have done for any other drink - if that makes sense. I also didn’t want to just give him like $3. So I tipped $20. I figured that was fair for him just opening a bottle and pouring 1.5 oz in a glass and handing it to me. My wife thinks I should have tipped 20% (which we ultimately did as I always do on our normal bill). I told her no and she thinks it was kind of a dick move to not tip 20% of that $600 pour. AITA for not tipping 20% on that? And I’m sure people will say YTA for ordering a $600 pour of bourbon. I’m nice guy with extra funds. Just didn’t really know what to do in a situation like this. And yes, I know if I can afford $600 I can afford a $120 tip. I get that too. That’s not the point.
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What kind of a girl would be upset that someone made her a ring? That's so loving cool! Then again mine is from an antique shop but still. What a bitch.
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Miserable Maid posted:That doesn't matter? Yes, the boss is clearly the bad one here, and talking advantage, but she's still an idiot for going along with the dinner, when basically every other woman invited was smart enough to bail. Yeah, he's still a scum bag regardless, but at least at work she has excuses to get away, at a hotel with just him and one other worker, she's basically trapped. It's like entering the Lions' den, she's handing him even more power over her then usual And yet the reason she's hurting is because her boss is a lecherous creep who's ruining her career, and the person who's supposed to be there for her is primarily concerned with making sure she didn't gently caress and getting to see those perky D's.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for tipping $20 on a $600 1.5 oz pour of bourbon? I already hate you if you're paying $600 for bourbon. So yes.
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I (21F) felt uncomfortable by my boyfriend (21M) of three years behaviour at the library for the university we both attend. I walk up to my boyfriend in the library and start talking about my psych class to my boyfriend, a girl sitting at a table near him hears me and starts staring at me as I talk, because she is also in the class and wanted to hear what I was saying about the upcoming midterm. I looked at her and kinda said "hi" because she was staring. She said "Sorry for staring, I just heard you talking about the midterm". I say "Are you working on the review right now?" And go over to talk to her about it, about 4 feet away from him. After a minute or two he interrupts us and says "Can I have my girlfriend back?" It comes off as kinda demanding, aggressive and controlling. She's confused and seems a bit uncomfortable, like she's not sure if he's serious or not and says "what?". I feel awkward and embarrassed (we're in a quiet library and there's a lot of people studying around us). I try to lighten up the situation and say "oh it's okay," and brush it off. He repeats himself, asking for me back again, and she says "no" to this and tries to laughs it off. At this point I'm convinced she's assuming he's joking and is trying to make it less awkward by saying no and joking back. He persists a bit, I tell him to give us a few minutes. After a minute I go back and talk to him quickly before I leave, because my sister is waiting for me so we can drive home. He texts me right after I leave saying he's mildly upset at that girl for saying no to him and "how loving dare she say I can't have you back". I ask him if he is seriously upset, because I'm not even sure if he's joking or not. He says he's a 2/10 on the upset scale. He says that he doesn't get much time with me and was upset that our conversation was interrupted. I tell him how I felt embarrassed by his actions and that I understood why the girl acted the way she did, and don't feel she was doing anything wrong. He says it upsets him that I called him controlling. (I actually said I felt he probably came off as really controlling to those around us, not that he actually is controlling) He says he's done with the conversation for now, and stops texting back. I think about whether I should say anything back. I say I'm sorry the girl upset him by interrupting and saying no to him, and that I'm sorry he felt upset by me saying he was acting controlling. I tell him I'm not sure if he was intending to end the conversation in a passive aggressive way, but that I hope he feels less upset soon. A bit later I tell him he that I meant to let him know how beautiful he looked smiling in the sunlight at the library. He hasn't texted back. Stuff like this doesn't happen too often, but this isn't the first time that I've felt he's kinda publicly establishing dominance over me and others. He does often end conversations in that way though, and I've told him before that I don't really like it, but I respect that he may need time to calm down before he continues talking. Please give me your perspective on this or some legitimate advice, nothing mean, unnecessary or unhelpful. Tldr: boyfriend embarrasses me in the library by aggressively asking a girl I was speaking to if he could "have me back", then gets mad at the girl for saying no and trying to laugh it off.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for tipping $20 on a $600 1.5 oz pour of bourbon? Pappy claims another clueless victim.
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If youre going to spend 600 usd on 45 ml of alcohol, just move to a county that doesnt have tipping. You can afford it.
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Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for tipping $20 on a $600 1.5 oz pour of bourbon? I'm pretty sure the bartender thought of you as a cheap bastard the minute you sat down.
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for having loud sex as a means of solving a problem with the neighbors This loving owns.
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Resting Lich Face posted:This loving owns.
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My Bi-Polar Jackpot I'm a 24 year old woman. I've lived on my own since I was 19 and had a chaotic upbringing. Since I was a child I've suffered with severe bouts of depression and I have had a few manic episodes when I was younger. I have social anxiety and on my best days, realistic self esteem. I know I'm pretty, but I also recognize my faults. I've been to therapy a few times in high school, but I was never diagnosed with bipolar disorder... It was only suggested that maybe I fit the diagnosis. (I was on Medicaid my entire life until I was 18, if anything went wrong with me that wasn't "medically necessary", it was dismissed and not covered). Two years ago, I befriended a man on Youtube. We enjoyed each other's videos and started an online flirtation. January of this year, he moved from Chicago to Lafayette, LA to be with me. Since then, I have been on cloud nine. For the most part. He's 28. He was diagnosed with bipolar as a pre-teen and hasn't been on medication since he was 16 or so. He is impulsive, a liar, has no long term goals, and has traveled the world because of a settlement he won 8 years ago after a Chicago city bus hit him. He has been with many women and has abandoned almost every serious relationship because he says "it's just me, I get bored." I knew of his tendency towards flight before we became involved. I didn't think anything of it because he could be anywhere in the world and chose to be with me. Our relationship has been very healthy up until October. We share a car, and in October, he dropped me off at work and never picked me up. He left me stranded ten miles away from home. I called a friend to bring me home and was devastated when I walked in. He left his dog, and took everything else. In a panic, I called him. And called him. I messaged the few of his friends I knew of on Facebook to try to figure out what was going through his head. He finally called me back to berate me about contacting his friends. He said I had no right to do so. He said he felt trapped and had to leave. After ten months of dating and living together I finally told him "I love you." An hour later, he called me in tears. He was puking and choking out the words "I have to come back because I need you. I love you. I thought I had to leave because I was trapped and wanted to get out, but I was just making excuses. You take care of me and no one has ever done that for me. I love you. I'm coming home. I want you to slap me when I get through the door." He was all the way in Arkansas. His voice, well, it still haunts me. Ever since he's gotten back, he's had more mood swings. One day he wants to leave, the next he wants to buy a new TV together. When I ask him why he wants to leave, he seems to give me excuse after excuse. I don't like Louisiana. I get bored easily. I want to meet new people. I need to figure my poo poo out. When I ask him why he came back he tells me it's because he couldn't leave me without a car. I am always trying to discern what are just excuses, and when he's being honest. For the most part, I am trying to be patient. Because with the lows, there are also the highs. We have sex. Good sex. We watch movies and laugh and play and oh poo poo it is euphoric. On most days, he seems like there's nowhere else he'd rather be. This past Sunday, he lied to me again. He said he was going to a friend's house, there were only two friend possibilities. I asked both friends if he made it there yet (it was a foggy night) and they both claimed he was there at the same time. I know he was probably doing something he shouldn't do. When he got home that night, I confronted him about it and he turned it around on me. He accused me of snooping on him, because one of his local friends (a girl that I did not know existed) had received an anonymous message that he had a girlfriend. I don't know who it was, but he thinks it was me. This has created tension, and now he is wanting to leave again, I think. This time, he is saying he wants to stay in Lafayette. Give the city a chance. He says he loves me, and I have done nothing wrong. So basically, the only thing he wants to change about his situation is the inclusion of me. I love my boyfriend. Even though he has put me through hell with mood swings, abandonment, and probable infidelity, every time I look at him I feel like I've won the jackpot. I would like to believe that he has been trying to give our relationship an honest chance. That even though he says "I'm not good at commitment" that he's trying. I know I am flawed, that I need stability and that's just not for everyone. But I feel like he is always quitting when things get hard. It seems that on good days, he has not a care in the world and he's happy. But on bad days, he just feels like he needs to escape because it would be that much easier. I need to know Reddit, is there any chance that this might survive? Or is it a one sided battle with me wanting to make it work, and he is just giving up? He says he hates doing this to me. He says he doesn't want to. But he also tells me "I'm sorry. It's just how I am." Is it possible that he is just as scared (of change) as I am (of losing him a.k.a. change in a different context)?
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Smirking_Serpent posted:My Bi-Polar Jackpot Ah finally Pick posts a story
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My hot take: "snooping" on a bipolar partner who's abandoned you and their dog and driven a state away on complete impulse is somewhere between "totally understandable" and "a necessary safety precaution" on the moral scale.
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DemoneeHo posted:AITA for having loud sex as a means of solving a problem with the neighbors When you think about it, loud gay sex is the solution to many of life's problems.
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Motronic posted:Bad situation with my Husband (35M) and Cousin (20F) [new] "Is this divorce time?" Really? Like this is a question? This isn't divorce time this is "confirm the life insurance and make him disappear time". e: Shitty10throwaway Score hidden · 5 hours ago Thank you everyone for taking ng time to comment. I'm sorry I can't reply to each one. Today has been crazy. I'm moving back into my parent's house and getting my stuff right now. I have an appointment with a lawyer for next week. Xik fucked around with this message at 02:50 on May 2, 2019 |
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Tender Bender posted:Like, her boss preying on her didn't happen because of the dinner. It was already happening. But we're not supposed to have sympathy because as a Woman she didn't listen to her Man and prevent the problem from happening, the problem being another man acting lovely. She literally uses threatening to break up with him to control him.
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JFairfax posted:Ah finally Pick posts a story quote:He is impulsive, a liar, has no long term goals, and has traveled the world because of a settlement he won 8 years ago after a Chicago city bus hit him. Sure sounds like a keeper. You should break your own soul trying to stay with him. Remember, not only can you fix him, but you have a responsibility to!
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Turtlicious posted:She literally uses threatening to break up with him to control him. This is a hell of an extrapolation to make from that throwaway line, and I would ask why you don't apply that scrutiny to the many examples of the OP being an rear end in a top hat, but I already know the answer.
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Drink tips don’t work like a straight 20% all the time but in this type of situation yes, if you don’t tip at least 20% you’re a massive rear end in a top hat.
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I'm ages behind, but I had to comment on a few before I finish catching up. I will try to get some more content later tonight.Smirking_Serpent posted:AITA for telling my friend's husband about her secret food stash? Hughlander posted:AITA for not wanting my fiancé to go to dinner with her boss?  DemoneeHo posted:My (28 M) girlfriend (29 F) refuses to swear during sex. It's making things... kinda weird. TheManWithNoName posted:In Canada, Fireball comes in bags.  e: oh god I just read the ex-wife photo destruction one. yesssss that's the stuff. DeadMansSuspenders fucked around with this message at 03:47 on May 2, 2019 |
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This one just keeps getting worse and worse as you go. It's like OP is saving the juicy details for the end. Girlfriend of 7 years dirty texting and making out with co worker [new] submitted 45 minutes ago by Redditquestions333 quote:I'll try to make this story as short as possible.
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TheManWithNoName posted:In Canada, Fireball comes in bags. Can you elaborate on this? 'In a bag' like how box wine comes in a bag? Or is it a bag containing those airline size bottles. What's the alcohol content of Fireball anyway? I can't say I've had any since going to college parties.
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DreamingofRoses posted:You have clearly never thought of anything from a non Madonna-like woman’s point of view. As a 90s kid I spent ages trying to figure out what Don’t Cry For Me Argentina would have to do with this situation
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It's a joke, fireball comes in bottles here, and it's like 20%
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It's 33%, but it's Canadian whiskey that tastes like Fireball candies.
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gently caress Your Website posted:Drink tips don’t work like a straight 20% all the time but in this type of situation yes, if you don’t tip at least 20% you’re a massive rear end in a top hat. I'd say at least a 50 spot minimum. Guessing how faux swanky this place was though he probably should never go back.
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